kabit, kabit at puro na lang kabit (thread 2)

[brandi]

^i so agree 

echuserang feelingera 

alam mo sis i_v_y, halatang insekurada ang cheap na yan. masakit oo pero hindi siya yung tipong dapat na pagaksayahan mo ng pagod. isa siyang mababang uri ng hayop peace! 

[i_v_y]

^^ korek sis.

[heavensent]

^sunugin ng buhay yang babaeng yan, nasobrahan sa kapal ng mukha..

[brandi]

Oo nga haha. kung ako yung pagpapalit sa ganyang klaseng babae isipin ko talaga may deprensiya yung guy pero kung sa isang MAS may class,breeding,maganda ang papalit sakin,iisipin kong baka nasakin ang deprensiya or mainsecure ako. hindi sa nagbubuhat ng banko pero di ba hahanap na lang din naman ng ibang nilalang sana yung pataas naman ang level o kalidad   hindi yung itsura pa lang alam mo ng parausan.

[i_v_y]

ewan ko ba sa babaeng yan, sobrang kapal ng mukha. nagpopost pa na insecure daw ako at pathetic. hay gustong gusto ko talagang patulan pero wag na lang.

anyway, today i made a decision. a decision to end my suffering. i realized na ako din gumagawa sa sarili ko neto. i believe in marriage and I believe God has a purpose for this. I love my husband and I want this marriage to work. I am giving this another chance. Kaninang madaling araw nag usap kami, nadama ko naman ang sincerity nia. Sana lang daw bigyan ko sia ng maliit na tiwala. Dun daw kami magsimula. Simulan ko din daw sa pagtulog ulet sa kwarto namen. Alam nia daw that he cant just take away the pain he caused but we will get through it.

I realized that at this point I cant really trust him then I just have to trust God that no matter what happens, He will never forsake me. Kaya ngayon, kapag naiisip ko yung babaeng yung at yung mga posibleng ginawa pa nila to hurt me, kinokontra ko talaga. Kasi sa umpisa pa lang ng pag iisip ko, bumibilis yung tibok ng puso ko sa galit tapos kokontrahin ko, ayun back to normal ang bp. So ako lang talaga makakatulong sa sarili ko.

I have started the Secrets of a Fascinating Wife course through the ebook. Basahin nio sis, ang ganda. Nasa kabilang thread yung link.

[ullala]

Reading this thread kinda gave me a jolt, salamat mga sis. Isip isip mode ako muna.

[maiandra]

I commend you sis ivy. Just keep up your decision and talagang mahirap pero mafefeel din ng hubby mo yung effort mo. And vengeance is the Lord's, he will fight for you.

[darna88]

mas masakit ba malaman na ang kabit  ng mister nyo is ex-gf nya na married na din?. may fren kasi ako ganun situation. ano mafefeel nyo?

[Dhee-Dhee]

^kung ako, pag uuntugin ko sila!  mag ex pala sila, sana sila nalang noon pa para hindi na sila nakasakit ng iba. isusumbong ko yung ex sa asawa nya. sisiguraduhin kong magsisisi sila sa ginawa nila.

[FayeP]

sis darna88, eh parang pinaglumaan na brief nya yun tapos susuutin nya ulit??? hehe

mga sis, napost ko na to sa ibang thread dito sa GT nakalimutan ko lang kun saan...my dad left us for his kabit a long time ago, I was only 6 years old then, my sister is 4, then our youngest is 2.  So my mom was left on her own at the age of 33.

my dad "married" my stepmom sa QC hall, mga late 90's na, pero un parents ko married sa church nun pang 1982. 

ang classic dito, un stepmom ko ang mas feeling legal wife, kasi maski sa functions ng family eh andun cya...at ilang beses nya pa inaway mom ko pag nag-uusap mom at dad ko about sa sustento...officemates un dad ko at stepmom ko sa St. Peter Life Plans sa QC din... sabi ng dad ko sa ate nya (tita ko cyempre), the reason why they got married daw is to show the parents of my stepmom na kasal sila, parang document lang...

matandang dalaga kasi si stepmom, nagsama sila ng dad ko mga 30's na cya eh so gusto ng parents nya makasal cya...so bigamy si father....ang t@nga lang kasi un QC hall pala di nag aask ng CENOMAR kasi nakapag file ng marriage license si father at stepmom eh...

ilang beses na sinabihan ni stepmom na losyang daw kasi si mother kaya iniwan ni tatay...


eh mas ok na losyang kesa kabit...ang maganda pa dito, alam naman sa company na may asawa si tatay pero nun naging sila sa office way back in the 90's eh ok lang sa lahat....

bongga lang.

[FayeP]

lagi ako nagbabasa basa dun sa unang thread eh...di lang ako nagpopost kasi naasar talaga ako pag kabit ang usapan, we grew up without a dad kasi my dad has no backbone at all...

when my stepmom asked him na sa province na lang ni stepmom sila (zamboanga) sila tumira para makaiwas sa responsibilities ni dad samin, eh walang gatol cya pumayag....ang Bobo ng tatay ko grabe...

[FayeP]

dun sa dati ko call center, isang TM na guy at isang agent na girl ang lantaran ang relasyon..as in madaming nakakakita na sa may fire exit eh "naglalambingan" sila....

un wife ni TM, eh nalaman cyempre un affair na ilang months na din naman, as in untouchable talaga si kabitch dahil nga jowa ng TM...the wife went straight to our HR, then nagkaron ng eskandalo....they asked the girl to resign...

[rianne_mallows]

^like ko talaga yang mga ganyang company.. may pakialam sa morality.. sadly, pakonti na ng pakonti yung mga ganyan.

[i_v_y]

mga sis update lang. i finally left our home nung Thursday ng madaling araw. Nasabi ko last post ko na I have decided to move on at ayusin na lang namen. Pero nung Wed night, MIA na naman si hubby. Basta in short, wala akong nakikitang effort sa kanya na igain back ang trust ko. 4am na umuwi ng walang paalam at hindi nasagot sa call. Praning din ako kasi yung off ng kabit nia eh Tuesday at Wednesday. Pagdating ni hubby sa bahay, nakahakot na lahat sa oto yung gamit ko. Parang tameme nga sia wala sian reaction kungdi umiyak. Ni hindi man lang ako pinigilan eh.

Leaving does not mean giving up. I want us to both understand and find the purpose of what has been happening. I realized din that I lost focus in God. Naging focus ko asawa ko. I remembered that anything that will come in between me and the Lord, He will take it away for He is a jealous God. Isa sa mga fear ko kung baket hindi ko maiwan magaling kong asawa ay paano kung magpatuloy sila ng kabit nia, pano kung mabuntis, paano kung mag live in...puro what if and i didnt know paano ko ihahandle yun kaya ayoko iwan sia. The problem with me was I did not trust the Lord that He has better plans for me. Naniniwala ako na if ever dumating na yung na mgaing totoo yung fears ko, tinanggal na ni Lord yung fear na yun. Malay ko di ba, wala pala akong maramdaman. When this realization came to me, nagkaroon na ako ng lakas ng loob to leave him so that he will learn. That he can't just take me for granted, that he cant just hurt me the way he did over and over again, and that  I cant let anyone hurt me that way he did.

So for now, balik focus kay Lord and beauty ko. Emotionally battered na nga ako, so kelangan spiritually strong ako. Unahin ko muna si Lord and everything will follow according to His plans.

Share ko lang pala what i believe. I believe there are marriages that are not according to God's design, or God's will. Kasi pinilit lang naten, we did not pray and asked God kung yung ba ang taong dapat naten pakasalan. God always wants the best for us. Ako masasabi ko that marrying my husband was just my decision. Wala si God sa decision making ko noon. I didnt even ask or prayed kung sia na nga. Kaya eto. Since andito na ako and God does not want divorce (unless there is adultery involved), I am still praying na maayos ang marriage ko.

Mga sis, you are in my prayers.

[rianne_mallows]

^i admire your strength sis.. you are so right... leaving doesnt mean giving up.. it means you leave the rest to God. i hope you heal emotionally.. i still hope that you hubby will turn a new leaf... hugs and all the best for you sis..

[heavensent]

^^hi sis, i think that you made the right decision, it will also give him some time to realize what he did, and if things won't work then maybe it's just not really meant to be.. God has better plans for you, stay strong and we're here for you.. Hugs

[i_v_y]

thanks mga sis. 

sobrang sarap ng support group dito.

[mikaela325]

^natouched ako sa post mo sis. It takes a lot of courage and faith to be able to do that. If it's God's will, you'll still end up w/ each other.

I agree w/ you in praying for the right person. Bec it happened to me. Everything just fell into the right places.

[kikay9599]

^^sis, I admire you for being so strong despite this difficult phase. May God continue to guide you, I'm sure He'll lead you to the right path.

[jenybasti]

mga sis update lang. i finally left our home nung Thursday ng madaling araw. Nasabi ko last post ko na I have decided to move on at ayusin na lang namen. Pero nung Wed night, MIA na naman si hubby. Basta in short, wala akong nakikitang effort sa kanya na igain back ang trust ko. 4am na umuwi ng walang paalam at hindi nasagot sa call. Praning din ako kasi yung off ng kabit nia eh Tuesday at Wednesday. Pagdating ni hubby sa bahay, nakahakot na lahat sa oto yung gamit ko. Parang tameme nga sia wala sian reaction kungdi umiyak. Ni hindi man lang ako pinigilan eh.

Leaving does not mean giving up. I want us to both understand and find the purpose of what has been happening. I realized din that I lost focus in God. Naging focus ko asawa ko. I remembered that anything that will come in between me and the Lord, He will take it away for He is a jealous God. Isa sa mga fear ko kung baket hindi ko maiwan magaling kong asawa ay paano kung magpatuloy sila ng kabit nia, pano kung mabuntis, paano kung mag live in...puro what if and i didnt know paano ko ihahandle yun kaya ayoko iwan sia. The problem with me was I did not trust the Lord that He has better plans for me. Naniniwala ako na if ever dumating na yung na mgaing totoo yung fears ko, tinanggal na ni Lord yung fear na yun. Malay ko di ba, wala pala akong maramdaman. When this realization came to me, nagkaroon na ako ng lakas ng loob to leave him so that he will learn. That he can't just take me for granted, that he cant just hurt me the way he did over and over again, and that  I cant let anyone hurt me that way he did.

So for now, balik focus kay Lord and beauty ko. Emotionally battered na nga ako, so kelangan spiritually strong ako. Unahin ko muna si Lord and everything will follow according to His plans.

Share ko lang pala what i believe. I believe there are marriages that are not according to God's design, or God's will. Kasi pinilit lang naten, we did not pray and asked God kung yung ba ang taong dapat naten pakasalan. God always wants the best for us. Ako masasabi ko that marrying my husband was just my decision. Wala si God sa decision making ko noon. I didnt even ask or prayed kung sia na nga. Kaya eto. Since andito na ako and God does not want divorce (unless there is adultery involved), I am still praying na maayos ang marriage ko.

Mga sis, you are in my prayers.

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