May sense ba magbreak up kahit mahal nyo isat isa?

[harlequeeen]

Hmmm nahiya ako bigla na magkwento :> Haha!

But basically the situation is, we're okay, we're stable. We're 5 years almost. It's just that sometimes... you feel like you wanna focus on yourself or on something? It doesn't mean that nothing's happen, that you've reach stability that you're just gonna wait long until the end, that you get married?

Have you ever experienced anything like this? What are reasons to break up with the person you love, na wala namang mali, na di kayo magkagalit?

[k_heart]

Bored na ba kayo sis sa isa't isa?

[ecnarfoj]

Siyempre minsan gusto mo ng alone time pero not to the extent na makikipag-break ka.

Naghahanap ka ba ng reason para makipag-break kaso walang naman mali?
I don't think kailangan hanapan ng mali.

Siguro if you want to just focus on yourself, just don't say that you still love him.
Kasi kung love mo pa siya, hindi ka naman mag-iisip makipag-break eh.

Bored nga lang siguro. Baka parang stagnant yung relationship ninyo.

[harlequeeen]

Hmm. Maybe I'm just confused.
I'm not bored and I do love him, but maybe it's not enough? The fact that I can just let him go, may I don't love him enough? Or kampante lang ako?

I talked to him about this actually. Hindi siya agree and he doesn't wanna let me go. But surprisinly he understands my point of view, even if I can't understand it myself. Sabi niya ganyan daw talaga ang mga girls. I'm 21 btw, hes 22.

I guess the age din is a factor. The fact like we're so young.. but then I already feel like we're married based on the course of the relationship! It's not a bad relationship, but I feel like I don't wanna be married yet, or feel like I'm married! Crazyyy.

[rianne_mallows]

^you know what i think? you want to have a good time... explore..  be with other people... other men..
you want to know how is it to be loved by someone else... youre together 5 years? and youre only 21?
you feel like you've entered a serious relationship to soon...
kaya ngayon, gusto mo maganda kaso hindi na pwede.. may boyfie ka na..

i will not say dont leave him... i wont say stay with him either..
but i would strongly suggest that you think... think... think.. and think... kung ano ba gusto mo..

[mooncake and leaves]

based on what you've shared here, you don't really strike me as someone who's really in love. maybe you care for your bf. maybe he's safe. maybe you feel like if you don't stay with him, your 5-year investment on this relationship will go to waste. but none of these are good enough reasons to be with someone. i think the moment you start looking for reasons to break up with someone, the relationship is already over.

but i could be wrong so mull it over. maybe you guys are just going through a rough patch.

[HoldingOn]

Hmmm nahiya ako bigla na magkwento :> Haha!

But basically the situation is, we're okay, we're stable. We're 5 years almost. It's just that sometimes... you feel like you wanna focus on yourself or on something? It doesn't mean that nothing's happen, that you've reach stability that you're just gonna wait long until the end, that you get married?

Have you ever experienced anything like this? What are reasons to break up with the person you love, na wala namang mali, na di kayo magkagalit?

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails. (1 Corinthians 13:1-13)

Now sis, if I may just ask you: Do you really love him?

[bear_touch]

Sana may pagkakataon kayong gumawa ng rule (kung pwede lang) I mean pwede tayong mag break pero sana wala munang mag bbf or mag ggf. Parang cool off stay lang muna yung tipong baka kailangan lang muna ng pahinga in a sense para ma-realize natin yung mistakes ng bawat isa?

[klengmorales]

For me may sense makipagbreak kahit mahal niyo ang isa't isa. pero ang cool off is like being not in a relationship at way makahanap ng iba. para in case na hindi magwork yung bago may babalikan. kaasar ano?

Minsan kasi nakikipagbreak tayo pag nararamandaman natin na hindi na talaga nagwowork ang relationship, yung tipo bang kailangan ng distance.

I'm a victim of this topic. mahal namin ang isa't isa pero may mga bagay na hindi nya matanggap sa akin kaya naghanap ng iba. pero sya tinanggap ko. sakit talaga sa ulo at puso ang mga lalaki. hayz. sana hindi na lang kami nagkakilala

[shopaholic18]

it depends, been in this situation, i want to explore and tama naging stagnant yung relationship and at the same time he had to be the breadwinner of their family, he let me go, but still kept in touch until now, he has a new gf but he doesn't love her, prolly too early to tell, coming from a 5 yr relationship, the last time we talked, he said kaya he's still talking to me to make sure i'm doing well, since i initiated the breakup and i have a new boyfriend now, but i can say that what we had was something special and we may not admit it, we still have some kind of feelings for each other and we both believe that if we really are meant to be together, we'll still be together in the end...kala ko dati sa movies lang, possible din pala in person, you don't want to breakup but you had to...

[Priceless]

Yes. It makes sense. Although it might not make a whole lot of sense to him, to your family or friends, but if it makes sense to you, then that's the only criteria you need.

I was in this situation before, but instead of (wo)manning up, and breaking it off with him, I let it go on, as in wala lang, parang just go with the flow, kami, pero I wasn't really "into" the relationship because I was busy focusing on life outside the relationship. It became so much easier because I traveled a lot and worked abroad most of the time anyway - so the distance was great!

On the other hand, the longer we were in the relationship, the more that emotional investment he had. So in the end, when I finally had the guts to end it, it hurt him so much that I don't think he was able to recover for a long time. And I felt guilty about that. But I'd rather be in a relationship where I'm in it 100%, physically, emotionally, mentally, spiritually, financially, psychologically - lahat lahat. Otherwise kung less than that, it's unfair and I'm not doing him or the relationship any justice.

[biberli]

I just did. though I'm not really sure why. no third party though. i think he's gay. JOke!

but yes, it is possible to let go of someone you really love.

[bear_touch]

Siguro ang tamang keyword dito ay "Hangga't mapag uusapan at maso solusyonan ang problema ay pag usapan na"

[Paperless]

I have a similar experience.. I was with my ex for more than 7 years.. really thought na kami na talaga.. very normal ang relationship naman, wala naman kami halos pinag-aawayan, and sobrang okay kami. Until ma-feel ko na tama na siguro iyon.. I've given him so much time and enough na iyon. I still love him when I left him. Sabi niya siguro daw hindi ko siya mahal kaya ko nagawa iyon. Hindi ko na lang sinagot. Kasi sa totoo lang, at the back of my mind... matagal ko ng tinatanong kung talaga bang mahal niya ako dahil hindi ko maramdaman.

[najine]

what if Love is not enough anymore? pano kung mas lamang na yung sakit? I wanna post a topic sana but I still cant..
how can you say na enough is enough?

[aquacharly]

MAY SENSE BA  mag break up kahit mahal nyo isa 't isa?
Oh yes, when 1 of you doesn't love the other enough.
Or, when 1 of you has outgrown/outpaced the other 1.
Or, you no longer want the sme things;  or no longer have the same goals/objectives.

 

[justin3]

May sense ba magbreak up kahit mahal nyo isat isa?

YES! if and only if...
   -  you are both married to someone else
   -  you are of the same sex
   -  you are a Democrat, he's a Republican
   -  you are a nun, he's a priest
   -  you are a herbivore, he's a cannibal
   -  you are an OC, he's a compulsive hoarder
   -  you are a health buff, he has Hepa-B
   -  you are 82, he is 22
   -  you are a Jew, he's an Arab

   
isip pa ko... kayo, may may maidagdag kayo mga sis.

[aquacharly]

^. If you're surnamed Kho & Belo?  Lol

If you're close relatives?   

[janbea]

Hmmm nahiya ako bigla na magkwento :> Haha!

But basically the situation is, we're okay, we're stable. We're 5 years almost. It's just that sometimes... you feel like you wanna focus on yourself or on something? It doesn't mean that nothing's happen, that you've reach stability that you're just gonna wait long until the end.

Have you ever experienced anything like this? What are reasons to break up with the person you love, na wala namang mali, na di kayo magkagalit?

exactly the same . am planning  the breakup but dont know how to say coz i always think  the 7yrs relation  he did everything for me. Anytime i called or text  whatever i want  he is there rytaway .BUT  am already bored and no longer happy with his company . I just stop texting him and no replies to his gudnyt text ignore them  when asked  just answered already asleep dont notice it lowbat dont receive. am i fair with  him  if ever push   and go forit.  I  just dont have the nerve to say  personnally.

[baliwsayo]

Basia, isdatchu? Paano na si Popoy? Hehe.

Seriously, eto tanda ko pa lagi sinasabi ni ex sa akin noon.. "love is not enough" daw.. so there. Eventually I've realized na tama naman siya. Madami pa kasi ibang factors to stay together eh. Isa na yung dapat masaya ka pa. Kasi kung boredom na napifeel mo, you're also being unfair to him. Let him go para siya rin makita niya na yung right girl for him.