^ Kung mag bf palang kayo and you do not feel like being with him for the rest of your life, then better not continue the relationship otherwise nagsasayang lang kayo ng oras ng isa't isa. Better be honest about it nang hindi na sya umasa.
Though I have not been in your shoes, it is just fair to break it off with your bf personally. If not possible, at least through phone.
^^ May mga pagkakataon talaga na mali ang timing. Kahit pa mahal ninyo ang isa't isa, if one person cannot wait, the other person has to still pursue some things, you just have to let go.
Other situations where you need to call it off kahit mahal ninyo ang isa't isa if you know that you cannot make the relationship work in the future. Example, if one is a devout Catholic, while the other is a Muslim and both families cannot accept if the other person did not convert.
sis IronLady, compromises can be made for simple things. But there are just things na non-negotiable for one party, but unfortunately, na discover lang nya late in the relationship when both are too much emotionally involved na. In this case, one better cut the ties kasi alam mo sometime in the future, the relationship will not work talaga.
Agree din ako sa sinabi mo, it is important to know what you want and do not want. Bago ka magbf, or before you get into a serious relationship, you should know what type of person you would want to spend your life with - maliban sa mahal ninyo ang isa't isa. Para kung hindi akma yung guy sa hinahanap mo, early on, hindi mo hahayaan na mahulog ang loob mo sa kanya. So you won't be in this dilemma na mahal ninyo ang isa't isa pero kelangan ninyo maghiwalay.
Another example, is kunwari gusto ng family niya magmigrate to another country. Ikaw naman hindi puede kasi ikaw ang kelangan magpatakbo ng family business ninyo sa Pinas. So san kayo hahanapin kung ipagpatuloy ninyo ang relationship ninyo if both cannot give in?
^^^ sis angeleigh, para sakin, instead of saying "sometimes Love is never enough", I would say LOVE is not enough in sustaining all marriages/relationships, maraming pang ibang ingredients to make it work and to make it lasting.
yan din ang situation ko nun. just came in from a 5year relationship. i had this problem with my then boyfriend na parang siya yung tipong happy go lucky na may trabaho pero parang wala namang dreams to succeed sa buhay. tipong ako pa ang maghahanap ng job opportunities sa kanya...etc.. e career woman pa naman ako. hanggang sa napagod nakong maging nanay sa kanya..at naisip ko eto ba ang lalakeng gusto ko para sa mga anak ko? and so i broke up with him...but then after nun..na realize ko na mahal na mahal ko pala siya. until nakipag balikan ako sa kanya and ayaw na niya. kasi daw lagi ko nalang daw siyang nakikitaan ng mali.
@ simplybeautiful, I hope you are ok now, after a year.
This is what I am saying, kahit mahal mo ang isang tao, somehow you have to use your mind. Iyan nga ba ang gusto mo maging ama ng mga anak mo? Eh alam mo you are a career person, pero yung guy happy go lucky. Kung ifastforward mo ano puede mangyari sa inyo in case nagkatuluyan kayo, tingin ko mahihirapan din kayo isustain ang relationship. Yung isa happy go lucky pero ayaw na pinupuna sya. You naman gusto mo may ambition at may direction. So hindi uubra ang pagsasama ninyo, in the long run and if I am to predict the marriage, baka magkahiwalay pa kayo after several years.
Sometimes it is the compatibility/incompatibility between the 2 that can make or break the relationship.
Tandaan nyo - the hurt of a broken heart will be there for a while, but not a lifetime. But once you marry the wrong person, minsan lifetime ang impact nito sayo. Kaya marry the right guy for you. Marry wisely.
Sorry mga sis, mahaba na, pero one more comment....
Pag-isipan mo kung kaya mo ba na wala sya, kase dba ba you'll never know his/her importance unless mawala sya sayo. So advice lang, pag-isipan mo hinde lang overnight pero pag-isipan mo nang matagalan.
Hindi nakakamatay ang pagiging broken hearted, especially kung alam mo hindi sya para sayo kasi mas may higit pa sa kanya na ma-m-meet ka. Sometimes iniisip natin mahirap makahanap ng loyal these days, since loyal ang bf mo, ok na sya pakasalan. Sya nalang. Or mahirap makahanap ng financially stable these days, kaya sya nalang ang maging hubby.
You have to look through more than that. Total package na alam mong mag-g-grow kayo together at ma-n-nurture ang relationship ninyo, nang tumanda kayo nang mag-asawa parin at higit sa lahat, masaya parin.
