Closure ng relationship?

[aepreal]

Hello po mga sissies and bros,
ask ko lang po gaano ka importante sa inyo ang closure ng isang relationship?
And matuturing ba na formal closure/break-up yung kadalasang nangyayari ngayon, which is through TEXT lang?

Thankies!

[cottoncandy27]

yap naman.it does matter...tulad ko untill now im waiting for his text to tell me that we are over na..kasi ang hirap umasa and ang hirap kasi he keeps me hanging and sttock in this relationship na hindi ko alam kung kami pa ba...sana kasi cinasabi nya para alam ko if i have to move on na ba

[chicafabulosa]

so that there will be no more WHAT IFS in your life. you can move on and won't be stuck on a state of wondering what went wrong. it will help you motivate to change whatever mistakes committed during your relationships to your future relations. MISTAKES ARE MEANT TO TEACH YOU A LESSON AND NOT FOR REPEATING. In every relationships, closure is really important. no matter how bad your relationship went, it would be definitely be a MUST.

[thestargazer]

30% may what ifs pa ko kay ex pero centered kay love child. not entirely sakin. Parang siguro kung hindi sya natakot sa nanay nya baka buo kami at may daddy si little girl. But that was before I had my fiance, kase i was single for five years after ex, imagine parang wala na talagang pag-asa ako.hahaha.
Pero ngayon, things are doing well with my fiance and with my life. Accepted nya anak ko at sya na rin kinikilalang daddy, so no worries.

Sa usapang closure, nag break kami, oo - pero parang walang closure talaga eh. I don't know, but I don't care anymore.

[aerish_anne]

closure for me is when i finally decide and realized i have to love myself more..

[miss_shey]

yes it is important. you're still lucky if he at least texted you its really over. my ex-bf for almost 7 yrs didn't give me that. will not wait for it either...       

[ciacia18]

Ikaw lang makakapagbigay ng closure sa sarili mo.

[baliwsayo]

^I agree.. ikaw na magclose.

[JINJIN:*]

i just had my closure lastnight. I was heartbreaking!

Yes, importante ang closure para sa iniwan at sa mga nang-iiwan.

Para sa nang-iwan, dapat magkaroon kayo ng lakas ng luob na maging honest sa partner nyo para tapusin na ang lahat. Respeto nalang sana ang ibigay nyo sa kanya. Im sure you dont like to hurt people, pero either way naman eh masasaktan sila. They deserve to know the truth, so at least have the courage to break the news and to let her move-on. Kase nga either way me masasaktan ka.

Sa mga iniwan..closure is very much needed, isara na dapat ang mga librong naka bukas pa. Masakit sa simula and who knows hangang kelan ka masasaktan..months, years? But if you have closure, you can cry hard today and wake up tomorrow saying "its a brand new day, a time to move on". Kung ano man ang dahilan ng break up, you deserve to know.

God will always be with us in these times so pray hard and accept the truth..then move on.

[prettychestnut]

My ex bf of more than 5 yrs hava called it quits nung first week of february.
kagabi nag usap kami, sabi nya maguusap kami in right time para maayos din ang paghihiwalay namin.

Take note, kung paano kayo niligawan ng lalake, personal yun hindi po ba, dapat personal din sya makipagbreak para patas.

masakit pag iniwang nakahang ka lang. It takes time talga and darating ang tamang time apra magkausap kayo ng maayos, yung wala ng galit o sama ng loob.

SAbi ng ex ko, mas mabuti mag move on muna kami bago kami magusap ng masinsinan.

Para sa akin, mas better na may closure, para sa respect na rin sa mga magiging new bf/gf.

[Paperless]

Dapat talaga if makikipagbreak, personal... imagine na lang yung feeling mo if nakipagbreak sa iyo tru text lang... nasaktan ka na, nabastos ka pa ng bonggang bongga... kaso ako, I prefer talaga na huwag na lang makipagkita kapag nakikipagbreak. Ang dami kasing questions... bakit nagkaganon bakit nagkaganito paano nangyari ito... when in fact, matagal ko na iyong sinasabi at matagal ng issue na kapag inoopen mo naman sa kanila, hindi naman binibigyang pansin. Tru text lang kasi gusto ko kapag nakapagdesisyon na ako, final na. Lalo kasi umiinit ang ulo kapag sinabi na "ok, this time hindi na ako ganito at ganon... gagawin ko na... ano bang gusto mo... etc etc." So bakit ngayon lang, bakit hindi noon na paulit ulit na ako with matching iyak iyak pa? Di bale na lang... thanks but no thanks.

Depende din siguro sa guy. Meron kasi na hindi mo alam paano siya magrereact sa ganong situation. Kapag alanganin talaga, tinetext ko lang.. takot ako.. 

[najine]

For me, its important. For you to say na officially its over na and yet di rin sya ok kasi its giving you hope na pwede pang ayusin.

[janbea]

yap naman.it does matter...tulad ko untill now im waiting for his text to tell me that we are over na..kasi ang hirap umasa and ang hirap kasi he keeps me hanging and sttock in this relationship na hindi ko alam kung kami pa ba...sana kasi cinasabi nya para alam ko if i have to move on na ba

I STRONGLY  AGREE with you friend we are in the same boat. sawangsawa na ako.

[Priceless]

I still think closure is overrated. It's not going to change the past, nor will it change the future. I think closure is just a word for summarizing all the "questions" you have about the relationship (eg. the what went wrong, why, when, can i save it) etc. But sometimes, you just don't have answers to any of these questions. Should it stop you from moving on? No. Should you wait for questions to be answered to move on? No.

I think you just have to be honest with yourself. Your self-dignity and respect is no way defined by the relationship, nor should it depend on another person. I think I would personally feel that I let myself down if I keep my hopes up dahil hindi pa naman nagkaroon ng closure.

[KaraVT]

"Closure" is a new-fangled thing.  A relationship ends, period -- with or without clear goodbyes.  Some people just  cannot find the courage in their hearts to be the one to end it all.  On  the other hand, some can be so dense or stubborn as to not accept the relationship has died. 

[bear_touch]

Dapat naman talaga na mayroong magandang or maayos na closure ang relationship. I mean respetohan na lang sa isa't isa. Nung nagkakaligawan pa lang, nandyang manlibre si guy, andyang kiligin kayo pareho. Tapos ngayong nagkaka problema na ay kanya-kanyang lakaran na lang?


...pangit naman tignan

[pinkbubbles17]

Yeah sis its very important to have a closure with your partner..but for me its informal to text him/her that its over. . .blah blah blah..you should talk in person..clear things about your problems..etc.. so the two of you will have a peace of mind..its really hard when someone keeps you hanging and waiting for nothing..

[crazycoolchic19]

in my own experience..kinausap ko sya  sa mangyayari.,..baka dumating na yung time na yun na we have to end the relationship after a week i just texted him its all over.di na ko nagparamdam ever.sya lang nangungulit sa text. deadma lang, for me importante ang closure para di magmukang t**** sa ere yung isa.

[ettevyvi]

When i was younger, I thought closures are needed. And when I say closure, yun yung mga pag-uusap naming dalawa. But eff closure. Ikaw lang makakapagbigay ng closure sa sarili mo. Ano yun, hanggang nasa deathbed ka magaantay ka ng closure? Forever mong idedepend ang closure para maka move on ka? No way.

[sakura_bloom]

When i was younger, I thought closures are needed. And when I say closure, yun yung mga pag-uusap naming dalawa. But eff closure. Ikaw lang makakapagbigay ng closure sa sarili mo. Ano yun, hanggang nasa deathbed ka magaantay ka ng closure? Forever mong idedepend ang closure para maka move on ka? No way.

^agree. Sometimes closure can be overrated. Alam mo na naman na tapos na. Minsan takot ka lang na tanggapin na wala na talaga, kaya gusto mo ng closure. Para may hope ka pa. Na pwede mo pang ipanglaban. Pero wala na kayo. Alam mo yun.