support group for those sisses na nagmomove on and the likes...? ;)

[AranesBelegeth]

^hi sis 10don, hahaha thanks ah. super natuwa at natawa ako sa post mo. Yep, punta pa rin ako sa country since citizen naman un pinsan ko so madali lang sakin maghanap ng matutuluyan. Tsaka buti nga may tumawag sakin dito na agency para makapagwork ako agad run. So mabubuhay ako kahit wala siya dun. Hehe. Excited na nga ako to meet new people. Kahit maliit lang un mundo na ginagalawan namin. Keber! Magpapaganda ako ng todo para mahiya siya na iniwan niya ko! Hahaha!

Madalas iniisip ko na lang: His lost, not mine. He gave up on someone who's not willing to give up on him and his life dramas.

Tuloy pa rin ang awit ng buhay ko nagbago man ang hugis ng puso niya hehe...

Yes sis tuloy tuloy lang pero minsan ang hirap din pag gising sa umaga mamimiss ko un messages niya. Ang hirap din magpanggap pero masasanay din tayo at makakalimot din in time.

[simplecathy143]

Finally got the courage to let him go.. Haaaay, masakit at mahirap pero kailangan na kasi masaya na siya ngayon time na din siguro para ako naman maging masaya..

Mahirap kasi his family hoping na maging ok pa din kami

[AranesBelegeth]

^hi sis. isa din sa mahirap ilet go un family ng ex natin diba? Makakamove on din tayo and prayers na sana tayo naman ang sumaya ng higit pa sa happiness natin non.

Somehow, this breakup makes me excited for what's coming next. Although, i terribly miss him pa rin. But in God's time, we can forget. Kahit na napaka vivid pa rin ng memories na iniwan nila, we can make new bright memories with our family and friends. Someday, magiging vague din lahat ng iniwan nila kasi mas vivid na yun sa taong para sa atin talaga. Ang sarap lang isipin nun. Kahit na sa totoo lang di ko na maimagine un sarili ko with somebody else. Haha! Napakaironic lang.

[simplecathy143]

Grabe iba kasi yung feeling pag super lapit ka sa family, yung parang sakanila wedding bells na lang hinihintay. Then nung nalaman nila na wala todo support sila na magiging okay din yan.. nakakamiss yung bonding with them.. mapapaisip na lang ako minsan kung ganon din kaya sakin yung fam ng magiging next someone ko.. haay, goodluck satin sis

[AranesBelegeth]

Share kolang mga sis:

http://thesinglewoman.net/

I've been reading this blog before I met my ex and now I am reading it again. Very empowering din kasi.

[SkippyCat]

I hope someone here can help me. I just finally broke up with my boyfriend of 2 years. I'm saying finally because maraming times na kami nag break and get back together. Kaya kami nagbreak kasi hindi niya kaya mag-aral at ayaw naman niya mag trabaho. We met nung college palang kami, Senior ako, siya Junior. He's two years younger than me and right away obvious na immature pa siya from the way he communicates with his friends and his hobbies, etc. Nagkaroon kami ng crush sa isa't isa and naging kami before "Getting to know each other". Ang bilis, eh. Feeling ko kasi nuon na sobrang gwapo niya at swerte kong napansin niya ako. Humble siya at simple, mas well off ang family namin kesa sakanila. We'd always hang out and the more I got to know him, lalo ko napansin na wala kaming in common - when it comes to personality. I had to adjust talaga kasi di ako sanay sa sense of humor niya, the way he interacts, his lifestyle, his wants, needs, and moods, etc. Siya ang first true love ko and first real relationship ko so bigay lang ako ng bigay and we fell in love with each other ng bonggang bongga. Kaso, nung time na yon, di na siya pumapasok, promise siya ng promise sakin na magbabago na sya. Semester after semester, di parin siya pumapasok. Papasok siya ng 1 to 2 months and then that's it - back to DoTA with friends. Di ko sinumbat masyado kasi sa DoTA rin naman kami nagkita. Kaso nairita na talaga ako nung grumaduate na ako at nag start mag trabaho. Naging medyo bitter ako kasi parang ang presko niya towards our future so dun na nag start mga break break namin. Hahabulin niya ako and babalik ako sakanya eventually - or - mamimiss ko siya bigla at makikipagkita at ok na kami agad. Wala eh, nasanay na kami sobra sa isa't isa. Siya ang naging kakampi ko - naging escape ko from the stress sa work and family. Pero, puro away parin kami kasi iba talaga pagiisip namin at personality namin. Last March, nagbreak kami finally - nag patong patong na lahat ng disappointments (sumpungin siya, no aral, no apply for work, tingin sa ibang babae both IRL and online). I tried to be strong, mga 3 weeks yata na di ako nagparamdam, and I spent time with a different guy. All of a sudden, namiss ko si ex and iniwan ko si new guy para habulin si ex. Grabe mukha akong t**** non pero luckily namiss din yata niya ako at after talking at hugging naging kami ulit. Fast forward to two weeks, bumalik nanaman yung spite ko for him at yung galit ko and resentment kasi wala parin siyang pagbabago. ANG TAMAD! pero mahal ko siya at siya lang kailangan ko. Naglalaban utak at puso ko di ko alam gagawin ko. Nagbreak kami for the last time. As usual, after a while, I tried to contact him but it turns out - may girlfriend na sya! Yung ex-best friend niya na pinagselosan ko nuon na hindi niya pinansin mula ng naging kami! Gulat ako and lahat ng friends ko kasi mula nuon sinasabi pa sakin nung guy na ayaw nya sa girl at pangit yung girl kasi, objectively speaking, di talaga kagandahan si girl. Ang sakit na pinagpalit niya ako para don. Nakakainis ng sobra na binlock ko siya, yung girl, yung tropa niya, pati buong angkan niya sa sobrang galit. Before that, nagusap pa kami, and sabi niya na gusto niya si girl kasi simple, nagkakaintindihan sila, at tinanggap siya ni girl. Ang sakit talaga kasi siya first love ko. Help sorry sa long read. 

[momentum]

^sis isa lang masasabi ko: Hindi siya kawalan

He is a good riddance sa buhay mo. Be happy at yung girl na yun took away your "trash" kumbaga.. Trash coz he is not worth it. Mahirap to accept now but in time tatawanan mo nalang lahat ito at pagsisisihan mo bakit you wasted tears and time for this guy, but it is a good lesson that you will hopefully learn from and not repeat.

Just look forward and don't look back. What do you expect from a guy like him to do? Ganun talaga sis eh kasi wala siyang focus nor plans in life. Be happy sis and concentrate in being the best person you can be. Love yourself and be strong.. Know your worth and next time kilalanin mo muna ang guy ng maige bago you dive into a relationship with him.. Have standards and non-negotiables sa isang partner. Focus ka muna sa work and self improvement, give yourself time to enjoy being single.

God bless smile..

[simang]

@skippycat not for me to judge but you have so many complains about this guy. TAMAD in all caps says that you don't like his values. I understand that you're hurt but shouldn't you be more hopeful that since you're no longer together, the chances of finding a man that's not tamad, who doesn't play so much dota, will be better? You might have loved him yes but you can't accept him wholly -- so it's better that you broke up. Better for you -- you can find another man. Better for him -- he can be less pressured into actually being someone else.

Just move on and focus on your life. You will be fine. Tatawanan mo lang yan pagdating ng panahon.

The most important thing in a relationship for me is having someone who gets you. Kakaibang happiness and satisfaction if your partner genuinely gets you -- your weird habits, your good and bad side. Obviously you don't get him kase you always wanted him to do stuff that obviously he doesn't enjoy.

I'm assuming you're young so just go and enjoy your life. You'll be fine.

[pumpkin13]

I never expected that I would be posting on this thread soon. I want to believe that I am now in the moving on phase. I've been crying for more than a week now over a love that's lost, over betrayal and unexpected turn of event. I didn't see the end coming. Last week was still perfect, or so I thought. Monday last week, I found that we were having problems. It would have been better if I knew that we had a problem to resolve. But I was put in the shadow and I was happy. I thought we were still happy. I was let go in an instant, and I still can't believe it. The entire week passed by with me crying all the time, couldn't sleep, couldn't eat, kept on thinking what went wrong, how come the one person whom I trusted and entrusted my life with was letting me go and found a new happiness elsewhere. It is so devastating. I am so torn. 

[estelle21]

Four months na pero still di pa rin ako nakaka move on.

Ilang days ago lang nagalit na naman sya kasi nilapitan ko sya. Galit na galit sya kasi natadtad ko sya ng texts for three consecutive days. mga 50 texts a day.

Stop na ulet ako sa kakatext. nag stop na ako kulitin sya e pero nung na achieve ko naman yung "forgiveness" sa mga nagawa nya sa akin, naaalal ko kung gano sya kabuti sakin. na mas marami talaga yung mabuting nabigay at nadulot nya sa akin kesa sa masasama. Kaya i tried saying sorry. sabi ko finally na realize ko na. pero wala e. galit.

sana di ko na lang sya kinulit ng kinulit after break up baka kahit papano tinatrato nya pa rin akong friend. he was still very kind  months after we break up, pero nasagad ko sya. grabe yung galit nya.

i love him very much and i don't think magmamahal pa ko ng tulad sa kanya. he is my dream guy. i;ve been waiting for someone like him all my life. mahirap humanap ng tulad nya, yung status, intelligence, calm, attittude, values, goals. saktong sakto sya. pero  i took him for granted and now i no longer have him.

what's even worse than losing my boyfriend is losing my bestfriend. i really, really miss hanging out with him. we can talk about work, studies, anything under the sun. we can even drink beer together. bestfriend talaga

sobrang dami nanghihinayang sa relationship namin. kahit parents ko. wala na raw ako mahahanp na ganun kabait. pero nasagad ko nga. i cant even go near him. pinagsisishan ko nasagad ko sya...

btw, yung age nya he's mid-late 30s na ako naman early 20. fear ko mag-asawa na lang bigla since settled na sya sa buhay. stable na kumbaga. natatakot ako palitan nya ko. pero we were acquiantances before being bf-gf. at sa tagal ko sya kilala at tagal sya kilala ng friends nya, ako lang yung nakilala sa circles nya.

i'm still hoping that we'll get back together. wala namang cheating na naganap kasi. he just got fed up because of my jealousy. he also hated our frequent and intense arguments. he also hates it if oi over analyze or over think things. he told me i have changed a lot. i became self centered and uncaring. he also dislikes that im a text gnat. i do not nag kasi or talak kaya sa text lang ako. i do not even raise my voice when we argue.

knowing him, he is a very open person. dati naalala ko nag book kmi ng trip somwhere in visayas. sabi ko, pano kung break na tayo nito? sabi nya "malay mo dahil sa trip, magkabalikan tayo."

another example that he is open to change is that he told me "uy si ganto hindi na sya masyadong praning at commanding blah blah."

and as ive said we move in the same circleS. plus sa buong buhay nya, 2 pa lang kami napakilala nya sa pamilya nya despite having many flings (i told you i knew him  before  pa) and that's why i know that he is also suffering still maski sabihin nyang wala na syang paki sa akin.

[simang]

i love him very much and i don't think magmamahal pa ko ng tulad sa kanya. he is my dream guy. i;ve been waiting for someone like him all my life. mahirap humanap ng tulad nya, yung status, intelligence, calm, attittude, values, goals. saktong sakto sya. pero  i took him for granted and now i no longer have him.

what's even worse than losing my boyfriend is losing my bestfriend. i really, really miss hanging out with him. we can talk about work, studies, anything under the sun. we can even drink beer together. bestfriend talaga

I tell you sis, it's all in your head. Feeling mo hindi ka na magmamahak ng iba katulad ng sa kanya? I don't believe you. Once you found a guy who gets you, you'll understand that you don't have to go through all these pain and bitterness. By then, you can make him your bestfriend, too. What I am saying is that for sure, he's not the last man on earth. Just expand your circle and may makikilala ka pa dyan.

btw, yung age nya he's mid-late 30s na ako naman early 20. fear ko mag-asawa na lang bigla since settled na sya sa buhay. stable na kumbaga. natatakot ako palitan nya ko. pero we were acquiantances before being bf-gf. at sa tagal ko sya kilala at tagal sya kilala ng friends nya, ako lang yung nakilala sa circles nya.

I was with a guy who's 9 yrs older than me, we were together for 7 yrs. Nagbreak kami i was 23. In my head, I was thinking otherwise -- na baka hindi na sya makahanap ng magiging asawa because he's older. At least for me, I was still very young and I have all the opportunities in the world para gawin ang gusto ko, or makameet ng potential partner.

I guess in some way, I saw him as my dream guy too. He was the perfect boyfriend on paper -- sobrang bait, hardworking, established, matalino, very dignified, lahat na. Sya yung lalaking pinapakilala talaga sa magulang. We didn't even have sex kase he values me daw, imagine that for 7 years. Pero dumating sa point na hey, even if I was scared to let him go, I had to cause I was being held back by him. Hindi ako naggogrow within the relationship kase he has all control over me. I had to leave and yes it was hard, but it was the best decision I've ever made in my life. I found myself without him. I experienced things outside of the relationship. Most importantly, I met a man when I was genuinely happy and whole as a person -- that man may not be as intelligent as my ex, hindi kasing pera nya, but he gets me. He gets me everytime and the most important thing is he lets me be myself, he allows me to grow, he allows me to have a life outside of us.

So even if you say na hindi ka na makakahanap ng kagaya nya, I assure you pagtatawanan mo lang yan once you found the person who will never leave you.

And, perception is reality. So whatever's in your head --- that he's the right man for you, that you can't go on with life without him --- then that's what you'll believe in. So it always starts with a conscious choice to be happy and move on. Choose to move on everyday, and you'll get there.

[estelle21]

^sis simang, ako isip ko anytime pwede na mag-asawa si ex. kasi stable na nga. saka andami kayang young girls attracted to older men. hehe.

pero gulat ako ha. 7 years! so mga 16-23 y/o ka nung naging kayo. eh yun pa naman yung time na marami ka dapat makikilala, matututunan, makakasalamuha, maeexperience. bilib ako sa ex mo kasi di ka nya niyaya mag-sex ha! ilang taon na kayo ng bf/hubby mo sis ngayon?

well sana nga talaga makahanap pa ko ng hihigit kay ex. dream guy ko sya. we do the same things nga pala pero he's older. as in same neighborhood, same career, same workplace, same school.

sa ngayon sobrang pain na rin natanggap ko. ni wala ako balak lapitan sya. enough na yung panunuyo ko.

[simang]

^yep i was 16 then. Yun yung time sa sobrang crush ko sya (25 sya nun) tapos naging kami. Imagine kung gaano ka dreamy yun for a 16 year old kid, diba. Pero yun nga, di ko naman pinagsisihan kase sobrang dami kong natutunan sa kanya. Well, minsan, yun na lang talaga ang role nila sa buhay natin, to teach us how to be better, and that's it. Hindi kelangan kayo ang magkatuluyan. Nagawa na nya yung role nya sa buhay ko so hanggang dun na lang. Two years through singlehood, I met my current man. The relationship is young, less than 2 years, and we're getting married next year.

Kaya ka nahihirapan mag let go, dahil nasa parehas kayo na circle. Siguro in that same circle, he's the best, but I am sure, you will find a better one out of that -- someone who never ever leave you. Someone who will be willing to be with you and will not push you away.

[estelle21]

^di naman sya best sis. pero he is doing fine. hirap mag desrcibe sobra mafifigure out na kame haha! kahit sa age nya na yun he had a lot of firsts with me. dun ako proud at minsan nasasabi ko na mahihirapan sya humanap ng tatapat dun sa mga napagsamahan namin. unless na nasa same field/circles yung girl. binuhos ko creativity ko sa relasyon.

sis, tama ba intindi ko na yung bf mo ngayon is your second bf pa lang?

congrats! kung kinaya mo yung 7 years na relasyon na nawala, kakayanin ko rin to. kaibahan lang ikaw kumalas. dito sya yung sumuko sa relasyon ;( pakilala mo na lang kaya sakin si ex mo ahahaha

[Girltalker2]

Ako naka move on ako with friends, tapos new friends and hobbies; at sa dami din ng pinagkaka abalahan ko.  Basta life goes on. Before you know it, nakakainis na sya, hindi na nakakamiss.

[pretty_B]

pasali sa thread na ito. i need support sisters.

[killbill]

Ako din pasali. Hirap mag move on ano?

[freelancer_babe]

Kung may trabaho lang na ang experience na kailangan is vast experience sa pagiging broken-hearted, malamang pasok na pasok ako ito at makakapag demand pa ako ng malaking sahod. I have more than a decade experience dealing with my broken heart.

Don't worry mga sis. I have healed and moved on from each.

[pretty_B]

^ grabe sis, ang tatag mo kung ganun. no offense, pero hindi ka ba napapagod? ako kasi, this is my first bf (though may mga naka-MU ako before na seryosohan at label lang ang kulang) and mejo ayaw ko na magbf ulit!

[freelancer_babe]

^ Ang totoo sis? Napagod din ako sa kaka-relasyon tapos mauuwi rin sa hindi maganda. Kaya sa ngayon ang tagal ko na ring walang relasyon.

Di pa rin ako ready magkaroon ng bagong pag-ibig. Hehe. Enjoy pa ako being really truly single muna and exploring things na hindi ko magawa noong may relasyon pa ako.

Open pa naman ako sa possibility na makita ko ang right one (lalo pa at nagiging pihikan at mapili pa ako). Pero narealize ko na rin, ok din pala kahit hindi ko na rin makita. Siguro ganito nga ata pag umabot na sa age na ito, nagmamature na rin ang outlook ko sa ganito.

Right now super pahinga mode ako sa mga relasyon. Ibang things na ang inaasikaso ko. Mahirap nang macompromise pa ang success ko sa ibang areas ng buhay (tulad ng career) dahil lang sa bumagsak ako sa lovelife ko.

"Time heals all wounds."