All about SILENT TREATMENT

[hedonista]

thank you so much aquacharly

that is a great advise for the giver of silent treatment. I am always the receiver. If this is the case, is this also applicable for the receiver? Quiet nalang muna rin?

Thank you as always...

after a year I was on silent treatment for 7 days without knowing the reason, he started talking to me again on the 8th day. It was the start of my 2015, I thought i recovered but it triggered a lot of maybe heartache from the past. 7 days that is too long.

[erza0916]

He's at it again. Hay.. Hindi naman ako nagppick ng fights. Since, LDR kami nagkakanda puyat ako sa paghintay sa kanya after work hanggang nakatulog na ako, nagising na lang ako sa PM nya na he went out with his coworkers for a drink. Walang issue sakin, sinabi ko lang "sana nagsabi ka BAGO mo gawin". Nag sorry sya, ok na sana kaso may kasunod pang "lagi naman akong mali eh". Dun ako nainis, sinabi ko wag syang mag sorry kung hindi naman pala sincere at babawiin lang nya. Ayan silent treatment na. Seenzoned pa. Hay

Sobrang nakakabastos yung Silent Treatment. I hate hate hate it!!

[ficklemind]

yung isilent treatment ka ng 1 month. ok ba yun? as in 0 message or call.
it happened 2 years ago. Christmas season yun. we had a fight day before Christmas, hinde ko maremember exactly eh kasi gusto ko talaga kalimutan na yun. Basta sa phone lang kami nag-away. something to do sa pagluwas, or siya ppunta samin then related din sa gimik nila nag mga friends niya, hinde ko na talaga maalala. After ng away namin sa phone. Hindi na kami nagusap. Hindi nya ako binati nung Christmas at New Year kahit sa text lang!
take note ldr kami, umuwi ako Pinas for the holiday break tapos nasayang yung time na sana magkasama kami. grabe lang. Alam ng family ko na may problem kasi samin siya dapat mag Christmas & New Year, sabi ko na lang sa kanila na hinde pinayagan ng family niya na samin magcelebrate, siyempre hinde sila naniwala hinde na lang ako kinulit.

 Umalis ako ng Pinas ng hinde kami ngka-ayos kasi hinde siya nagpakita sakin or nagtext man lang. Emote pa ako sa airport nun kala ko kasi bigla siya dadating (lol parang sa movie lang)
End of January na nung nagparamdam siya. Hinde pa kami kasal nung time na yun.


now sinasilent treatment na naman ako, ilang days na din though wala pa naman 1 week. Bumabalik tuloy yung memory 2 years ago. tsktsk! emotional abuse indeed!

madalas naman ako isilent treatment pero laging may 1 message to check kung nakauwi na ako. It goes on for days din. pero yung ngayon walang message talaga to check kung buhay pa ako just like 2 years ago.

[The Greatest Is LOVE]

karamihan dito mga husband nyo ang silent. in our case just recently i received silent treatment from my wife. ewan ko kung bakit at ano problema namin. ako pa yun medyo may pagakanagger..haha!

mahirap kaya sobra ang silent treatment, nakakapraning! hindi ko alam kung [textspeak!] iniisip nya...
mas gusto ko pa yun nagging type sana para at least nun alam mo nasa isip nya...
haaaayyy. sana waley na mga silent treatment na 'to. hahah

[imprincessfiona]

^bro lambingin mo lang.baka kulang lang sa lambing.keep the fire burning.baka naman after nyo ikasal di na kayo nagdadate.take her to the movies (nuod kayo ng 50 shades of grey hehe).do anything that will make her kilig.

[The Greatest Is LOVE]

^bro lambingin mo lang.baka kulang lang sa lambing.keep the fire burning.baka naman after nyo ikasal di na kayo nagdadate.take her to the movies (nuod kayo ng 50 shades of grey hehe).do anything that will make her kilig.

hahaha! knowat? i asked her to watch 50 Shades nun first day nya, ayaw daw nya, hindi sya familiar sa movie nor the book. ibang movie sabi ko na lang, ayaw nya rin wala din sya sa mood manuod... kaya to my disappointment again, mukmok. hahhaha...

before kasi, sya yun madalas magyaya manuod, ako naman ang umaayaw. hahaha. mukhang nababalik sa akin ang lahat.

[imprincessfiona]

^when you asked her kung ano problema, ano isinasagot nya?

[erza0916]

^^ brooo..anong problema ni misis bakit ganyan sya?huhu ako nasasaktan para sayo eh.. masyado namang cold wala akong kilalang babae na tatanggi sa movie date.. nalaman mo na siguro sa isa kong thread na nagka affair ako, pero natigil yun dahil nageffort syang mapabalik ako sa kanya.. pag nakikita ko asawa kong nageeffort kahit anong galit ko hindi ko sya natitiis. Tanungin mo asawa mo bro.. goodluck

[The Greatest Is LOVE]

^when you asked her kung ano problema, ano isinasagot nya?

yun nga po ang problema ko e. hindi sya nagsasalita. ginagawa nya kong manghuhula..o manhid lang talaga ako? hahah..

[simang]

Hindi sya nagsasalita? Anong pinaguusapan nyo? How is she with her other wife duties?

[The Greatest Is LOVE]

^^ brooo..anong problema ni misis bakit ganyan sya?huhu ako nasasaktan para sayo eh.. masyado namang cold wala akong kilalang babae na tatanggi sa movie date.. nalaman mo na siguro sa isa kong thread na nagka affair ako, pero natigil yun dahil nageffort syang mapabalik ako sa kanya.. pag nakikita ko asawa kong nageeffort kahit anong galit ko hindi ko sya natitiis. Tanungin mo asawa mo bro.. goodluck

try ko mageffort ulit. kaya lang napapagod at medyo naiinis na rin ako pag super effort ako tapos No Reaction lang sya...wala lang. kaya nga dito ko lang dinadaan sa thread posting e. kasi baka magaway lang kami and yun lang iniiwasan ko. pero pag nakikita ko sya naaawa ako sa itsura nya e. parang ang lungkot lungkot. kung aalis ba ako mababawasan ang lungkot nya? kasi baka ako ang isa sa problema nya...?

[The Greatest Is LOVE]

Hindi sya nagsasalita? Anong pinaguusapan nyo? How is she with her other wife duties?

yup. hindi sya magsasalita. change topic na ulit kung may mapagusapan man kami about TV shows, celebrities office work nya, etc. pero on issues bakit tahimik sya, waley, deadma na lang. hindi ko na rin kinukulit kasi magaaway kami for sure. tatahimik na lang din ako.

wife's duties? dahil kasama namin parents nya, uuwi at aalis kami ng bahay meron na kami food, tapos na lahat house chores...pagdating sa gabi na kami na lang dalawa? waley! waley sex! kaya kahit super horny na ako, titiisin ko lang. kinabukasan, pagligi ko pinaparaos ang sarili. hahahah. how pathetic me...

[simang]

^ano bang ginagawa mo differently dati nung bf/gf pa lang kayo and ngayon na mag asawa na kayo? marami kasing factors eh... i know this is not something a guy would do, pero why not write her a letter. remind her of the beautiful things about your relationship. tell her your concerns, but don't let her feel guilty about it. basta be honest lang with how you feel about the situation, and be detailed, but don't blame her. tell her how you feel about what's happening to you two. but don't tell her na she's the one who's making you feel that way. maybe nga hindi clear sa kanya what's going on. isang factor dyan is kasama nyo parents nya, so baka nahihiya sya... things like that. so just tell her how you're feeling.

[rae]

yun nga po ang problema ko e. hindi sya nagsasalita. ginagawa nya kong manghuhula..o manhid lang talaga ako? hahah..

That's not 'fighting fair'. Tell her that. And that it's going on for far too long and nothing can be solved if she stays mum. Parang may passive aggressive behavior sya. She seems to be punishing you by her silence.

Pwedeng may nakita sya na sa perspective nya is kasalanan mo or pagkukulang mo. She doesn't want to talk about it pero she's punishing you. The problem is you don't know what the effing thing you did wrong.

[imprincessfiona]

^mas torture yata sa akin yung ganyan.yung hindi kakausapin pero ramdam mo na sobrang cold ng treatment sayo. kakabaliw yan promise.

[rae]

^ Exactly. If may problem it's not fair to do the 'silent treatment' because you're not giving the other person an opportunity to explain, or at least to do something about the problem. It's a very mean form of punishment because you don't have any idea what you did that you're now being punished for.

Imagine if hindi na din nagsalita yung isang party. It's the beginning of the end, if not already the end.

[The Greatest Is LOVE]

Now she talks, and she needs space daw...

[imprincessfiona]

^now she talks pero pano yung need space?di mo muna kakausapin?baka naman malaking issue sa kanya yung pagtira nyo sa parents mo?napagusapan nyo ba yun before kayo tumira dun?

[The Greatest Is LOVE]

^now she talks pero pano yung need space?di mo muna kakausapin?baka naman malaking issue sa kanya yung pagtira nyo sa parents mo?napagusapan nyo ba yun before kayo tumira dun?

parents nya ang nakatira sa bahay namin..kaya ako ang dapat umalis...issue actually namin is yun 'pride' ko daw. Napuno na sya daw. She cant handle me now...poor me, lonely heart na..

[imprincessfiona]

^what about the pride?baka naman pag nagaaway kayo nuon silent treatment mo sya. Gumaganti lang? May pag-asa pa yan lambingin mo lang at lalambot din ang puso nya for sure.