Husband needs space, ano gagawin nyo?

[snowyice]

my hubby never ask for a space ako ang humihingi kasi minsan napipikon na ako sa sobrang gulo at torture dahil feel ko ang hirap hirap sa bahay eh samantalang sanay ako nagwowork at may sariling pera now I need to depend on him.  Kaya I always ask for space na once a week I go out with my friends para ma update naman ako sa kamunduhan at hindi malosyang.   

But if my hubby will ask for a space I will use my intuition for sure malalaman ko yun kung space dahil may iba siya or gusto rin lang ng break. 

[kunek]

Give him all the space he wants. Maybe you need it also. Para di masira ang relasyon.

[electricpink17]

Ako, i\'ll give him space.

I read this from Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus.

\"Another major idea in Gray\'s books are the differences he believes operate in terms of the way the genders react under stress. He believes that many men withdraw until they find a solution to the problem. He refers to this as \"retreating into their cave\". In some cases they may literally retreat, for example, to the garage or spend time with friends. The point of retreating is to take time to determine a solution. In these \"caves\", men (writes Gray) are not necessarily focused on the problem at hand; many times this is a \"time-out\" of sorts to allow them to distance themselves from the problems so their brains can focus on something else. Gray posits that this allows them to revisit the problem later with a fresh perspective.\"

[rara_avis]

When my Husband and I were still dating, pag nag-aaway kami siya lagi ang nanghihingi ng space at ako naman maloka-loka lagi at di nakakatiis. Then there came a time na sobrang napuno na ako at nung nag-away kami eh hindi lang ako nanghingi ng space, nakipag-BREAK na ako. Nung una akala nya just one of my angry outbursts pero pinanindigan ko talaga ng 3 days para magtanda sya.

Guess what happened next? He bought an engagement ring and arranged a surprise lunch meeting with me and his Mom to talk about the wedding na technically hindi ko pa na-OO-ohan. My point is... giving your partner space might be the key to make him realize how lucky he is to have you.  But be wary, sabi nga ng iba dito, baka ang space na hinihingi eh gamitin para sa ibang babae. 

[miss resilient]

TS: naku,,, bakit naman need ng space? ano raw reason? parang eksena yan sa nagalit ang buwan sa haba ng gabi ah?

mahal ka ba talaga ng lalaking yan? bakit ganyan ang mga eksena.

[wahmproject]

Masyado ata akong matampuhin kasi I'll be hurt if my husband says "I need space".  As in I'll ask him, Bakeet!!!  Siguro dahil negative ang connotation sakin ng linyang eto na para bang I did something wrong so he feels "nasasakal".

As in ever since bf/gf kami (more than 8 yrs), we never used this line.  PRobably because we have different sets of friends and we're both busy with work.  Na when we have the free time, parang kulang pa sa amin ang oras na magkasama kami.

Depende sa situation lalo na for married couples.  Hindi naman kasi kelangan na 100% of the husband's free time eh magkasama kayo.  Pag may anak na, it helps if the husband or the wife have their "me" time to get away temporarily from the responsibilities and stress that comes with it.  A few hours (gym, coffee with friends, etc) rather than days.  And honestly ako ang madalas humihingi ng "me" time.  With this, I appreciate what I have and I become a better wife and mother.

[Kady_14]

I'd give it to him but then i'd ask myself "why" and give myself a re-evaluation.

My husband never asked for this, we both give each other spaces, sa aming dalawa mas maluwag ako. I never kontra his alis, lakad with friends. Hindi ako sumasama lalo na if it's lakad ng boys or with people i don't know. Like his work colleagues ma-OP lang ako dun. Sumasama lang ako sa events ng common friends naming mag-asawa.

Anung space ba, like cool off muna? Well if that's the case i'll agree given that he leaves his bank accounts, atms and other stuff with me. lol. Ano sya sinuswerte, eh ang lalakas kumain ng mga anak nya. hahahaha...

[maiandra]

Naalala ko yung movie na Hall Pass. Pag hiningi, ibigay mo! Babalik din yan pag natauhan na. I agree na may benefits ang having space from each other sometimes. Para mahrecharge, refocus, and to miss each other naman. Hello, kung kailangan ng mga lalaki ng space, lalo na ang mga babae!

[Ann_2128]

ako, pagbibigyan ko sya.. dahil ako rin gusto kong humingi ng space... i need time to be alone not for anything...

[imagodei082990]

hmmm ako nga gustong gusto kong huminge ng space ang partner ko .. Gusto ko kase ng space hahaha nabubwisit na kase ako pero parang imposible kase hindi nya maiiwan ang kanyang munting anak baby pa kase at patay na patay sa anak

[imagodei082990]

hmmm ako nga gustong gusto kong huminge ng space ang partner ko .. Gusto ko kase ng space hahaha nabubwisit na kase ako pero parang imposible kase hindi nya maiiwan ang kanyang munting anak baby pa kase at patay na patay sa anak

[glamorosa_09]

If my hubby asked for space, I'll ask him what is it for.

Kung to pursue lang his hobbies or anything, then I will gladly oblige. Husbands and wives need to learn to be both separate and together.

Kung to re-think our relationship, aba, something is wrong. But this doesn't happen naman overnight. It means something is piling up in our relationship that led him in this state. I'll tell him that yes, I'll give him the space to think. I'll ask for how long and that he should promise me that we will talk about it.

Kung favorable yung result, eh di good. If it's not, we'll work it out whatever the problem is. Or I will consider asking him that we go to a marriage counselor.

[mistypink]

dati nadadaanan ko lang itong thread na ito. pero di ko akalain na mangyayare sa akin,, considering na LDR pa kami ni husband
buti pa kayo natatanggap nyo, pero nung si hubby nagsabi nito,, ang hirap mag set ng deadline lalo na pag mahal nyo sya..
hindi ren ganun kadali sa guys ang saguting yung questiong na "why?"
alam nyo naman nature na nila kimkimin ang feelings nila..
rough times talaga sa akin..
kasi husband ko walang sagot, basta hayaan lang daw sya muna..
ang pinaka assurance ko lang uuwi sya ng june, sana by then bumalik sa dati ang lahat..
haaayyy.. super hirap na ako.. parang ako ang nanliligaw sa kanya..
prayers na lang nasasandalan ko..
praying na umaayos na lahat and if not gawin akong matatag...

[Doink!]

Give him space & I-enjoy mo din sya. Mag beauty make-over ka, go to the the gym. Go to a quiet bookstore, buy an interesting read to feed your brains, go for a leisurely walk, yoga & meditate, mani & pedi, treat yourself to a luxurious spa getaway, long driving ka.... Naku! Ako ang na excite for you The hubby have decided to concentrate on himself, you should too.... Focus on you.... Holding pattern lang yan, eventually the truth will reveal why he wanted to give himself space.... Believe that God in his infinite wisdom will only give you what is best for you & hubby....

[imagodei082990]

ako iaasak ko yan ky hubby kase napupuno na ako

[joannie]

When you got married....there's no such thing as space. 
Dapat naisip nya na un before he jump's in to marriage.
Di na to katulad dati na magkahiwalay kyo ng house na you can easily part ways
this time ang daming magagalaw bukod pa sa mag-tsi-tsimis.

SO NO TO SPACE.

[jamila_19]

"space" bakit nasasakal kana ba? asawa na kita at asawa muna ako. ikaw ang nagyayang magpakasal at ngayon sasabihin mo na you need space....  sana naisip mo noon iyan bago ka nagpakasal o nagpasakal sa akin... hehe!

[Girltalker2]

ang mga lalaking nagsasabi ng "they need space" kadalasan eh may third party. they are just in such a mess that they do not know what to do at naduduwag sila to face their obligasyon at gusto nila ulit magbuhay binata without losing their spouse.

they want the best of both worlds.  malamang pinapapili na sya ng kabit nya, either her or leave her.  kaya kelangan nya mag-isip and he does not want to lose the wife and the kabit/third party.

(most likely lang naman, not all the time)

[hyeuna03]

in my opinion, ang mga lalaking nanghihingi ng space ay may ibang babae yan, gusto lang magkaroon ng oras para sa kalokohan nya, na hindi makikilalam ang asawang babae.

in short, gusto lang nya isahan ang asawa nya, kasi habang andyan si misis sa tabi nya, mahihirapan sya gumawa ng excuse para maka alis o makasama ang babae nya!! 

tapos pag hindi nag work out ang relasyon nya sa babae nya, ayan na... babalik na kay misis nya.
pero pag nag work naman, ang mga asawang babae tutuluyan ng iwanan. 

hay naku sobrang kabisado na natin ang mga lalaki!! 
mga bwisettt!

[break_free]

ako siguro baka masampal ko.  kaso hanggang salita lang ako, kaya kelangan prepared ako haha.


ano sila 20 years old? PBB teens? need pa ng space? para may excuse sila sa sarili nila na makapag landi landi...


sabihin ko nalang siguro na 'oh sure, sinabi mo yan ha? be careful what you wish for...' - bibigyan ko talaga siya ng bonggang space. tignan lang natin at baka unexpectedly makahanap ako ng my own kabit too! ahah