is he cheating on me?

[snowflakes]

alam mo sis, kahit di mo hanapin minsan ang evidence kusang darating sa harap mo yan in God's time. nangyare na sakin yan a lot of times. and ngayon na naman ulit.

[yssayjayla]

alam mo sis, kahit di mo hanapin minsan ang evidence kusang darating sa harap mo yan in God's time. nangyare na sakin yan a lot of times. and ngayon na naman ulit.

so true ito sis. it happened to me. one day i just had this itch to open his email, voila! huli!!! yes, God will make a way talaga.

[aquacharly]

Is he cheating on you?
If you define cheating as having the ingredient of f*cking with someone else -- well, yes, he is cheating on you, IMO.

LOL, the stuff men keep  in their wallets!  Kelangan kasi   ever-ready. Like the 1 condom some men keep  in their wallets, lol.

Ano?!  Practical joke ni friend? Peksman!  Lol, mas Peksman yang pakausap nya si friend sa yo at sabihin ni friend:   oo! Peksman! Pinatago   ko lang sa Mr mo. Lol

[alibee]

Dear mga sis,

what happend after niyo na huli niyo siya?

[aquacharly]

^ AFTER nahuli mga hubby with what?  1 night stands?  Malamang, gumagaling sa pagtago for the subsequent 1 night stands.  lol.

AFTER nahuli na may kabit?  Ahhh yan,interesting... usually, hubbies drop the kabits.  IMO,  the hubbies who dump the wife for the kabit constitute the minority.   

Ewan ko, let us hear from the other Sis dito.    What about you, how will you answer your question per your experience or per what you have seen from other's actual experience?

[rae]

Cool. This calls for a separate thread. I wonder what people do, or what happens after. Hindi ko pa naranasan and if I was cheated on, hindi ko nahuli.

[pressany]

^^When I found out, I brought my kids to the mall, stayed until the last full show after I text him, "pag hindi mo tinigil yang kagaguhan mo, hindi mo na makikita ang mga anak ko!" And he knows na kaya kong gawin yun.  Hindi ako wimpy wife. 

He called several times but I only answered after 10++ missed calls.  He cried while asking if we are still in Manila. I did not tell him where we were and that drove him crazy.  He asked for forgiveness. 

[rae]

^ Cool. My partner doesn't seem to be the cheating type. Either that or mahina ang cheating-radar ko.

Anyway, kahit ganun, I always set aside savings for myself, and I make sure na I'm totally not dependent, at least financially. Otherwise, ang hirap magdecide kung anong diskarte sa mga ganyang bagay or kapag na-deads sya.

Tulad ng friend ko, she feels so helpless kasi she's a housewife with no other income stream but the husband's money and the husband is threatening pa na kukuhain nya ang kids and sasama na dun sa kabit.

[pressany]

^sis, ang husband ko super bait nun, as in he prepares my coffee everyday kahit may early morning meeting sya or may client pa, kase hindi ako magbrebreakfast until ipagtimpla nya ko ng coffee.  Senyorita ako talaga and he treats me that way.

BUT even a saintly husband strays and sabi ko nga earlier, kahit dyosa pa ng kagandahan ang asawa, kung gustong magluko ang asawa, magluluko yan. Napatunayan ko talaga ito! 

Rude awakening talaga ang nangyari sakin nung lumandi ang malasanto kong asawa!

[rae]

^That's true. Kaya I make sure I actually can live without him. Parang cliche-ish, pero I think I can live without him, but I choose to.

[Entrepreneur]

keep ur cool, never grovel, have faith sa sarili mo and especially kay God.
seek help, guidance amongst ur family and frens
shower ur kid with love..sa kanya mo buhos lahat ng affection mo..
the best revenge is staying pretty,,,heck, be Gorgeous...be the most gorgeous you...


i should know...we maybe on the same boat( if totoo yung suspicions mo)....

This is great advice Ako, so far, have not had this situation yet but I'm really very instinctive about my hubby's action and "non-action." He's usually really busy with work, pero so that I can just calm myself from thinking he's not doing something wrong, I regularly check his cellphone. Minsan, I saw a text from one of his staff that really bothered me. This girl texted my hubby once and addressed him as "daddy". So I asked him straight, bakit ganun yun magtext. My hubby kasi works in a production co. na sobrang stressful because they have to reach their prod quota and yung staff nya usually are younger, like mga early 20's kaya usually mga maaarte at childish. I understood and believe him, so I accepted his reason but warned him about it. Kumbaga, I'm watching you..

Then last Sat evening, may nbasa ako, Sabi sir ice cream kasi birthday daw nya, then another text na sabi saan ka na, asan na yung ice cream.GRRR... Then I checked my hubby's reply and said na sarado na yung bilihan ng ice cream, pero promise bukas na lang. .Nagpanting talaga tenga ko, and my heart was beating fast, and I wanted to confront him right away kaso sobrang naghihilik talaga sya sa pagod because everyday overtime and stress. So I controlled myself, and waited for the following morning to talk to him..Pero halos di talaga ako makatulog kasi nanggagalaiti ako. This girl is clearly making the moves and my husband is somewhat reciprocating, %$&8 tlaga!

Tapos the following morning when he woke up, wala pang breakfast, tinanung ko na agad. Sabi nya, wala daw yun at magtiwala lang ako. Sabi ko, I really don't care much kung anuman yung tex nung girl kasi puro talaga babae (operators) kasama nya sa work at sanay na sanay na ko and know naman some of them na kaFB ko pa. Ganun din sa kin, kasi puro boys ang kasama ko sa work so alam namin pareho yung nature ng work. Ang nasaktan lang ako dun sa reply nya sa girl na may promise pa s huli, kasi sa akin nga di sya gumaganun. He said na, for the record, hndi nya binilhan at kaya nya lang sinabi yun kasi para sipagin at matapos yung production. He apologized for what he said and said na hindi na ulit mangyayari yun. Other than that text, we're ok and always together.

I said ok  but I still was mad and cried sa bedroom namin (ayoko makita ng son namin kasi magtataka yun). Dun lang ako nag stay at hindi ko pa rin sya kinikibo then he went up and said na magtiwala lang ako, sabi ko you should know your limitations. Kasi binibigyan mo sila ng motibo kapag ganun na kailangan pa nya mambola sa mga tao nya para sumunod s knya. Then I said that he should leave me alone muna. I composed myself and sabi ko sa sarili ko, hindi ako magpapatalo sa ganitong issue. Ang mindset ko ngayon, kung gagawa man sya ng katarantaduhan, pagsisisihan nya ng bonggang bongga, dahil mawawala sa knya ang lahat ng nakakapagpasaya sa knya.

Sorry napahaba sis, pero ang bottomline for me is "prevention is better than cure." We should know how to take care of our husbands and ourselves. Spend quality time and talk about issues that are bothering you agad. Communication is really key to a marriage and any relationship. And lastly, yung faith kay God, wag mawawala. Sobra kapit ko sa Kanya these past few days na magulo rin ang pag-iisip ko.

Ngayon, he just texted me na since natapos na yung prod, we can finally spend fri evening and the whole weekend together. Naiiyak ako kasi tuwang tuwa rin sya.

[manangjuday]

in my case basta kapag kinutuban na ako sa babae almost always mahuhuli ko talaga that somethings going on. kaso ang lalaki mahirap paaminin. and gumagaling sila as time goes by. basta if you feel something is wrong, investigate. mahirap na magkahulugan pa ng  loob. this is one of my regrets before. lakas na ng pakiramdam ko yet hindi ko pa ginawan ng paraan.

[euwie]

i overlooked quite a lot of things that were flashing CHEATING ALERT at me. look at his stuff: cellphone, wallet, receipts, compartments sa auto, bills, etc. nung ldr pa kami, hindi ko narealize na yung pagdadamot ni hubby sa cellphone nya e sign na yun kasi sobrang tiwala ko sa kanya, sukdulan talaga. pati na rin yung condoms na nakikita ko sa room nya, sabi nya sa kuya nya. pati na rin when they're confronted with trust issues, sila pa galit. defense mechanism yun e. kaya be cautious of these little things. hay nabubwisit na naman ako. 

[krienne21]

the more paranoid you get, the closer you are to the truth. sad but sometimes true ito.
Ano na nga pala ang updates?

[n_moviehouse]

two years ago we decided to have a work-up with an RE. Nag hestero something ako and I found out damage ang isa sa tubes ko. The doc said I got it from an STD infection. Yun kang daw ang possible na source kasi ndi naman ako inoperahan sa appendix. I confronted hubby but silence was his answer. ano pa ba magagawa ko. i cried but i dont know parang ala lang. So scientifically naprove ko na he cheated. second, yung phone niya may password, dati may nakita akong condom. I know he cheated on me. But what I dont know is kung he is still cheating on me. Pinapasadyos ko nalang.

[imagodei082990]

baka nga wala syang kabit kundi na hire lang sya ng psp at ng CI sa mahal kita inn.. kung mapera ang hubby mo at kaya nyang magbayad ng 2.5k above bingo!!


psp personal service provider ..

[Girltalker2]

sis n_moviehouse, nabanggit mo 2 years ago, what did you do then? 

ako kasi iyan ang concern ko din. wala ngakong ka muwang muwang, niloloko pako, worse, baka bigyan pako ng sakit. kaya talagang buong buo na loob ko then na hiwalayan sya.  and now, nothing can replace the peace of mind I have.  single? yes.  lonely? no. happy? yes.

[crazycoolchic19]

Mga lalaki pag nahuli sila pinapasa nila sa friend nila or ka officemate nila..
Si hubby 2x na nyang ginawa sakin to, nahulian ko sa text na may tinatawag na honey nasan ka andito nako, f***! Palusot hubby ko ka officmate nya yun nakihiram fone at lowbatt cellphone kaooficemate nya at need nya matetx and call yung gf nya.

Shempre ginawa ko tinext ko yung number na yun sumagot naman na nakikihiram ng fone,ewan ko palusot na lang nila siguro wala ako tiwala kase 2x na nyang ginawa sakin style na yan.