His other woman texted me... and the rest is history!

[buchi]

It was instincts.. i knew something was up because he always hides his phone, no sent or text messages received, no call logs too... never ko na nga binuklat yun eh for 2 years and 10 months...
but honestly, i knew i would not have found out if this woman did not sent me the text message my bf sent her to warn her not to contact him because he's going to be with me.  haaayyy

i trusted him... we spent the whole day today... this woman even called my bf. i put her on speaker phone.. she does not to say anything... my bf told her its over between them.. at least that is because i am there listening... she even said why can't you tell her(referring to me) what they talk about... =(

i have not hurt him physically... i would have wanted to slap him... i wanted to literally punch him in the nose... but no didnt happen.

I took all the pictures of us in his car. I tore it. I took our front gate key from him.

He begged, cried, and did all the drama... I guess its over... 'Di ko alam gagawin ko sa kanya... sa amin(kung meron pang kami)
All I know is that i am sad... i am hurt... kasi i felt ginago talaga ako... =( after all the things i did for him, after all the things na ginawa ko to help him... nakuha niya pa akong ganitohin.. di ko maisip kung ano pagkukulang ko...

mga sis... i've nobody to tell hanggang ngayon yoko parin sumama tingin sa kanya ng mga kaibigan ko... ng family ko.... kaya kayo naisip kong pagsabihan....  =(

[juwie]

  na-sad ako sis.. Bakit may mga ganitong lalake.  one thing is for sure: your trust for him is broken and it would be hard to gain back.

[chelvin26]

i experienced that before sis.. masakit talaga yan.. my story was like this, my bf's friendster suddenly nag iba,, seems that may iba na siya girl, then he kept on denying hanggang sa itext na ako ng girl, tawagan, etc, na ako daw yung kabit,, nanggugulo, desperada, knowing na ako yung original, i have that instinct too, and naalala ko yung ginawa ng bf mo na sagutin yung fone and sabihin na tapos na lahat.. pero parang napakaunclear ng message.. ayun. after one year of cheating niya nalaman ko din..

you know what i did.. i let him choose, kasi despite ng lahat ng ginawa niya, i love him so much pa din. pero he chose the girl. sakit diba? hehe.. i just said to myself, that's life.. 3 years of relationship was already done.. then ayun, break na kami. i had my new bf.. then after two months andiyan na naman siya.. i accepted him again, seeing him seems that my heart was melting.. i also felt that before.. sobrang depressed.. asking myself why did he do it,, ano pagkukulang ko, ano nagawa ko masama sa kanya.. pero sis.. its just a test in your relationship.. kung kayo talaga,, kayo talaga.. ngayon kami pa din.. we are now 5 years and 8 months.. sobrang dami na namin napagdaanan..

pero that trial will test your personality, it will help you to become stronger and tougher!
kaya mo yan sis. its ok to cry or mourn, its normal..kahit na against all odds na kami dati..dahil ayaw na sa kanya ng kaibigan ko, parents, family.. pero he prove me na he is worth it balikan..

sabi kasi niya. dumarating daw talaga sa guy yan.. knowing na he is committed na, its a man's POV..
his friend din kasi., super babaero... he has this 6 year girlfriend.. at the same time.. 2 year gf.. den meron pang 1 year.. tas meron pang fling. bongga diba.., nature ng lalaki yun eh..

kaya mu yan.. kung ano sinasabi ng puso mo. sundin mo.. God bless:)

[sweety_paige]

Lucky you kasi bf mo palang, I mean hindi ka pa nakatali, you can still leave him.

Thank God dahil pinakita na niya sayo kung ano talaga ang bf mo.

Just tell everyone na break na kayo, you don't need to explain a thing to someone, you don't owe them any.

[gurlzat03]

^ I agree with you sis, you don't need to explain to everybody what had happened. kung mapilit pa din sila, just tell them that "some things are really not meant to be".. good luck sis! mahirap talaga, pero you have to do it...

[iam_miel]

Mine naman is quite different coz I was the one who texted the girl na feeling ko ay prospect ni bf (ex na ngayon)..He gave me permission to open his fb nung kami pa kaya one day when I checked his fb, nakita ko na he added this girl na not really pretty but long-haired, matured & maputi..She kinda looks like his ex kaya naisip ko baka ganun talaga mga tipo nya..Naisip ko na baka sya yung kapalit ko dahil walang mutual friends sa side ko, sa former classmates nya pati na din sa work..Kaya I got her mobile # from her profile kahit ibang network, borrowed my dad's phone & texted her..I only asked how she knew my ex & found out that they work together, she's the new trainee my ex was talking about..After that I asked the girl kung ok lang na wag na i-mention kay ex na nagtext ako, pumayag naman sya..I also said sabihin nya na lang sa akin kung masyadong nagpapaka-close sa kanya si ex..I got pissed off coz my ex confronted me later that night na may nag-message daw sa trainee nya at tinatakot daw kung hindi lalayo sa kanya..At first I didnt tell him na nagtext ako coz sabi ni ex "nag-message" so I assumed sa FB yun & hindi naman ako nanakot (ang nice ko nga sa text eh)..Pero binanggit ko din kay ex afterwards BUT what actually hurt me was that he believed her more that I could do such a thing! Samantalang hindi niya naman ganun kakilala yung girl na yun..Super nasaktan talaga ako coz alam nya na for 15 months I never lied to him tapos dahil lang sa babaeng yun masisira yung iningatan kong trust..I told him nga na kung yung sinungaling na girl na yun man ang ipapalit nya sa akin good luck sa kanila..That girl just added fuel to the fire & I would have confronted her kung wala lang akong pinag-aralan..tsk tsk magsama sila, liar & another liar..(hehe bitterness po ba?)

[babyjapnurse01]

On a lighter note, good thing it happened ng mag-boyfriend pa lang kayo, it would be much much painful kapag mag-asawa na kayo and saka mo malaman na he has cheating tendencies pala.

Take the experience as a cue for you to move on, maybe its God's way of telling you na you are not with the right person. This experience will definitely help you grow and Im sure your next relationship will be a lot better.

God bless you sis buchi, i hope you are feeling better now as I write this.

[buchi]

oo nga mga sis.. he still bugs me.. he wants to be in my life still.. ang sakit sakit eh. i havent told my family, but yes my friends know.. they are ok naman at they still leave the decision to me.

pero may times im feeling good na kaya ko.
pero may times gaya ngayon naiiyak ako kasi nasasaktan ako. naaalala ko [textspeak!] ginawa niya sa akin

sabi ng nakausap ko nature na daw ng guy un. if babae na ang lumalapit it makes them feel good about themselves kaya di nila un tinatanggihan...

pero mahina siya... so everytime ganun nalang mangyayari...

[babyjapnurse01]

^ hay bear in mind na if he did it once, he can always do it again. he can change, pero subject padin sa sarili nyang determination yun and hindi mo agad masasabi if he changed indeed or mas naging magaling lang yan magtago in the future. take it easy sis, baby steps lang until you can walk away na alone.

you dont need someone like him sis, wag mo hayaang mag-stay ka lang with him because of awa because he's still running after you, natural yan eh, maghahabol talaga yan because he needs to redeem himself, pero para sakin, wag mo na i-take back yan, walang kwenta e.

[mommycute46]

Anong nature ng lalaki yan, impossible namang wala ginawa bf mo tapos lalapit ang babae? Haler baka naman nagpakita din ng motive ang lalaki kaya pumatol si babae. Madalas itong rason ng mga lalaking bolero but come to think of it, unless na pokpok yan na naghahanap ng customer kasi dun nga naman siya kumikita at kung hindi niya gawin yon hindi siya kakain, May babae bang naglalakad lang ng lalaki kinakalabit na maski stranger?

hay anyway, to TS, assess yourself kung kaya mong kalimutan ang ginawa sa 'yo ng bf mo and if you could still love him kahit gawin niya ulit before you give him another chance. Remember, forgive and forget is a myth. Maaring napatawad mo na siya, pero mana2tili pa ring nakatatak sa isip mo na minsan na siyang nagloko and you will be paranoid someday especially if you can see similar things just like before. The brain is powerful ika nga, hindi mo basta basta makakalimutan ang mga masasakit na nangyari na.

[baliwsayo]

Ang sakit nga niyan. Hindi yan normal sis (kasi normally maingat mga lalake.. hindi nagpapahuli! haha!) Engot niya kamo. Ako dati ng mahuli ko partner ko, sabi ko lang next time kasi be more careful at wag engot. Lahat naman tayo nagkakamali.. kung ang kriminal nga binibigyan pa ng pagkakataon. Kung mahal mo pa, bayaan mo na lang na mag-effort siya para matuto siya (na next time wag na siya magpapahuli haha) Kidding aside, let him prove to you na ikaw talaga ang mahal niya. Teka lang, di kaya mas malaki mawawala sa kanya if in case maghiwalay kayo kaya siya nagmamakaawa sa yo? Pag-isipan mo din yun side na yun ha. Baka parang hayden kho lang siya.. alam mo na. 

[whitelady17]

hi sis Butchi, how are you na?

[buchi]

haha naku di ko ma imagine na mag ala hayden kho siya. yung babae tawag ng tawag parin.. nabasa ko pa ang text ng babae, magkita daw sila at hindi na kami guguluhing dalawa. over na sa pagmamakaawa ng babae, as in mega drama pa na basa na siya ng ulan, etc. napaka pathetic.. sorry babae din ako pero kahit mahal ko hindi ako magpapakababa ng ganon sa isang lalaking manloloko gaya ng bf kong to. sabi ko pag nagpakita siya dun make sure wag magpakita na sa akin ever kasi baka mahampas ko na siya ng bag ko. ;P

im better mga sis. mega broadcast na ako na im freeee... kaya asar na asar sya siguro kasi ayaw niyang malaman ng mga tao na nag cheat siya sa akin... 9di ko naman pinagkalat un... im acting as if he still exists though i erased his pics sa profile ko, and removed him as my bf sa fb ko...
he still is pursuing me, he even gave me yung sim card niya. nagbago na ng number... super duper na nagpu-pursue ngayon and he's going to prove na matino siyang tao naa naside track lang, parang ganon. sabi pa niya he'd die daw if he loses me.. sabi ko eh start deteriorating now kasi ikaw naman may gawa niyan sa sarili mo...
i told him its not going to be easy for him.. for making me feel so stupid, dumb and walang kwenta all at the same time nung nabuking siya. i told him you know you'll pay for this.. big time.
un lang and... i told my friends who he often asks help from to surprise me... na wag na siyang kakausapin.
siguro ngayon... hayaan ko nalang siya... baka kung marealize niya nakakapagod na akong suyuin magsawa nalang, or what.. i don't know. masakit pa ngayon kasi.. he knows me well.. takot siya kasi he feels i've gone cold. as in frozen pa nga siguro eh.  and sa lahat ng napagdaan ko sa buhay (family included) alam niya i'd come out of this better...
haay ganun pala yun noh. grabe.. its just now that i've felt something like this... hirap makalimutan.. but slowly nababawasan naman over time... With God's help... =) salamat sa inyo mga sisses...

*naisip ko lang tuloy baka [textspeak!] girl gtalker din hahaha hello sayo!!! 

[kathon]

Joining..

Sis buchi, you go girl! right attitude yan. magsasawa din yan, just go on with your life.. Enjoy and live your life to the fullest.

[kaiz]

Sis buchi, saludo ako sa attitude mo. Matapang ka and matalino! Haha. Paminsan lang kasi ako makabasa dito sa gt ng kwentong talagang nanindigan/nagdecide ang girl na wag na magpaloko again and magpaka martyr. Go girl!

[sweet.trish]

buti nga sa ex mo sis buchi

narealize ko sa tin na ding mga girls yun eh kung pano tayo i-ti-treat ng guys. hay naku bakit ba ayaw nilang makuntento sa isa.

[poetrytoprose]

sis buchi I applaud you.

Never take back a loser.

[justin3]

i was in this thread awhile ago
http://www.femalenetwork.com/girltalk/index.php/topic,250635.0.html

parang may trend ata dito sa GT ah, o di kaya sadyang naglipana ang mga manloloko ngayon?
ang tagal pa naman ng Halloween para maglabasan ang mga demonyo ah.

read the posts of our sister there sis, you may get some words of advice.

[buchi]

thank you sa inyong lahat! =)
Im really trying my best hay, sakit sa ulo but i am sure this too shall pass.
narealize ko mas masakit sa dibdib yung ganung may iniisip ka about something. Kung hindi ko kayang magpatawad at makalimot ng buo, huwag nalang kasi mahirap naman yung forever ko siyang nireresbakan sa nakaraan...

[soulace]

I am facing the same thing mga sis... ang hirap talaga.. the worst part is magka officemate sila ng babae nya at lage sila magkausap sa messenger at chikka. mag 2 months na sila ng babae nya mga sis i thought tinigilan nya na. nanghingi kasi sya ng last chance eh the last time na nag away kami about sa pakikipagfling nya sa girl na yun it was the worst fight we had pinapili ko sya he choose me and now i found out sumisige pa din sila . at ang masaklap pa mga sis alam ng girl about me and super ingat nilang dalawa. not [textspeak!]/call rule sila pag nasa house si bf. i am about to give up mga sis but I am 5months pregnant. gusto ko ng ayusin buhay ko at ng baby ko mahal ko sya pero nakakapagod na din ang ganito.