Wedding without otd/coordinator :)

[aicute12]

Mauuna ba ko kesa sau sis smile? Wala rim ako coord. Stand alone ako e. Magkkwento nalang ako dito hahaha. I have 40-50guests lang naman din.

[smile22]

sis aicute christmas ka sa cale, right? jan15 ako. ang pinoproblema ko ngayon is sino yung magpplay ng sounds sa church, mag bubukas ng pinto, tatawag sakin kung papasok na ba ko sa church, mag aayos ng pagkasunud sunod ng entourage. haha may nakalimutan pa ba ko?

[imprincessfiona]

sis aicute christmas ka sa cale, right? jan15 ako. ang pinoproblema ko ngayon is sino yung magpplay ng sounds sa church, mag bubukas ng pinto, tatawag sakin kung papasok na ba ko sa church, mag aayos ng pagkasunud sunod ng entourage. haha may nakalimutan pa ba ko?

regarding sa pagkakasunod sunod ng ento, ang alam ko iyong mga manang sa church ang magaayos nun.pero i have here the list kung pano iyong pagkakasunod-sunod.

best man
groom with parents
principal sponsors
secondary sponsors
ring bearer
coin bearer
bible bearer
flower girls
bridesmaid & groomsman
maid of honor
bride with parents

Pa-check na lamang po kung may baligtad pero yan ay base sa research ko sa google. Iyong sa recession I think may sinusunod din na rule ayon sa pagkakasunod-sunod. Happy preps mga sis!

[jaywee03]

Mauuna ba ko kesa sau sis smile? Wala rim ako coord. Stand alone ako e. Magkkwento nalang ako dito hahaha. I have 40-50guests lang naman din.

ok lang yan. ako yung kinasal ako wala din akong coordinator. but i have trusted friends & relatives who helped me out. inassign ko sila ng kanya-kanyang tasks

[aicute12]

mga sis i super need your help talaga.

I know i posted this sa tagaytay wedding pero baka may masabi pa kayo.

1. Ano ba ang offerings sa church? At ano ba ang dapat na dalhin ko?
2. Ano ba ang candle na inooffer at candle na sisindihan ng candle sponsor, magkaiba ba yun?
3. Ang readings ba e iba iba dapat ang magbabasa?
4. Ano pa ba ang mga dapat dalhin?

Sorry hirap magayos mag isa., hehee

[smile22]

^bump. kailangan ko din malaman yan sis aicute12. wala ko idea.

[barbillie]

mga sis i super need your help talaga.

I know i posted this sa tagaytay wedding pero baka may masabi pa kayo.

1. Ano ba ang offerings sa church? At ano ba ang dapat na dalhin ko?
2. Ano ba ang candle na inooffer at candle na sisindihan ng candle sponsor, magkaiba ba yun?
3. Ang readings ba e iba iba dapat ang magbabasa?
4. Ano pa ba ang mga dapat dalhin?

Sorry hirap magayos mag isa., hehee

Hi sis aicute12!

1. Where are you getting married? You can ask the parish office kung ano-anong offerings ang tinatanggap nila. When we inquired in Our Lady of Lourdes Tagaytay, dun sa binigay nilang information sheet, nandun na yung mga offerings na kelangan namin.
2. A candle set consists of: 1 unity candle, 2 couple candles, 2 secondary candles and 2 offertory candles. Yung offertory candles usually naka-glass at lighted na during offering.
3. Pwede naman kahit hindi iba-iba. Pwede ding galing lang sa entourage mo para makatipid ka sa i-invite mo na guests. Sa case kasi namin, ang inassign namin na readers eh yung mga hindi namin nakuhang abay. For example, yung ibang cousins ni groom or ibang close friends ko na hindi na namin kayang isama as part of entourage eh ginawa na lang naming reader para di naman magtampo, may participation pa din.
4. Ang hirap sagutin ng ano ang kelangan dalhin, kasi depende pa rin yan sa kulang mo. I suggest gawa ka ng checklist para ma-monitor kung ano pa yung mga kelangan mo. Usually on the day, maliliit na bagay yung nakakalimutan, like pens para sa registration and guest book, food ng crew and family during preps etc.

[maukris]

For me OTD coord is important. Para di kana stress sis during the wedding day.
Pass all your stress na to the coord.

Execution kasi sila of the details you have prepared eh.
 

[aicute12]

sis barb, sis ano ba ang couple candles at secondary candles?

[barbillie]

sis barb, sis ano ba ang couple candles at secondary candles?

sis aicute12, during the candle ceremony, the candle sponsors proceed to the altar where they light the "secondary" candles placed at each side of the couple. This represents the two lives and two spirits who will be joined together.

Nearing the end of the ceremony, the priest will signal the couple so that the Bride and Groom come up and approach these candles. They each take smaller candles (couple's candles) and use it to light the unity candle. This represents that their lives go together kindled as one.

We get to keep the Unity Candle. Others say that they should light it on each wedding anniversary, as a reminder of this first day when they gave their promise to each other. 

[aicute12]

Ay wala pala kamo unity candle. Ang need pang pala namin is candle na sisindihan ng secondary sponsor. And yun yung nasa glass tama?

[smile22]

sis aicute will you have a choir sa church? or recorded songs for the liturgy/mass?

[ecidnac20]

Thanks sa lahat lahat ng mga advises.....sobrang hirap lalo sa akin na overseas bride ako.....so bale dito ko ginagawa sa us lahat by myself......then ipapadala ko for my july wedding.....goodluck sa ating lahat na WONDERWOMAN BRIDES....

[ficklemind]

^ kaya naman sa planning stage, pero sa on the day, mahirap talaga. Stress aabutin ng bride.
Assign someone (family or close friend) to do this for you, hinde naman kelangan na  professional sila, basta yung organized, hinde mahiyain, madiskarte at willing talaga.
Siguro kaw dapat  mismo magpprovide ng tasks & duties nila, mga reminders ganun. Hanap ka na lang ng mga guidelines & details na galing sa mga coordinators mismo, baka may magshare sayo dito then idiscuss mo pano gusto mong flow or if you have additional favors/preferences.
Maganda sis yung kukunin mo is hinde kasali sa entourage, church ceremony or reception program,  dapat yung makakafocus sa pagcocoordinate.
I don't think kakayanin to ng isang tao lang.
A close friend of mine  got married abroad wala din coordinator, part ako ng entourage and sa totoo lang prior to the wedding ako ang kinakabahan for her, the bride. Sabi ko nga sige tutulong na lang ako pagdating ko sa simbahan.
I was happy to see na may group of people coordinating things, mga churchmates pala ni bride, volunteers.  Si bride nasa loob lang ng bridal car.  It was a very simple wedding, same location ang church at reception, maayos naman kinalabasan, walang demanding guests or anything, well I think everyone was very understanding naman sa situation, wala kami sa Pinas, walang mga coordinators, immediate family lang ng both parties, puro friends na yung guests.

[marywater]

Actually there are a lot of details in a wedding. Kayang-kaya talaga kung hands-on ka in doing all the preps, pero on the day of the wedding itself, dyan ako medyo nag-alangan.

It's true when one of the brides here mentioned that it's in the number of details, not the number of guests that one should base on in getting an OTD coordinator.

Originally hindi ako kukuha for OTD, but there was just too many small details from the program, the logistics, up to the list of songs in both the ceremony and reception. Feeling ko meron at meron talaga akong makakalimutan kahit na gaano ako ka-OC.

If ever decided na di kayo kukuha for OTD, make sure to have a few trusted people handle all these details.

[janey_jane]

This is also my dilemma, if need ba ng coordinator or not. Reading all the replies here is so helpful

[winkar22]

^ Definitely agree with what they said!

I recently attended a wedding na yung sister nya yung nag-act as coordinator. Hindi part ng entourage yung sister nya, task nya talaga ang mag-act as coordinator. As a guest, may mga nakita akong aberya pero very small lang naman and naiintindihan ko. Pero I talked to my friend after the wedding and kahit sya sabi nya ang daming mga small details on the day itself na hindi nya inexpect and kahit sister nya hindi din aware don. In the end, parang ang dami pa din nyang inasikaso on that day. Mind you he's the groom (sagot nya kasi lahat so sya talaga nagasikaso).

I understand about budget issues. I would suggest na kung may friend ka na recently kinasal (na hands-on nung wedding nya), baka willing sya mag-OTD coordinator on your big day. Especially kung simple wedding, tingin ko kaya naman. Pero kung medyo madami kang suppliers or iba-iba sila, I would strongly suggest to get a professional OTD coord. Kailangan mo lang din suriin mabuti ang kukuning OTD. For me talaga, OTD coordinator (pro or friend/relative) can make or break your big day.

[winkar22]

^ as others previously said, sa planning stage kayang kaya talaga. On the day itself, hindi mo maiiwasan na may biglaang mga issue. That's where OTD coordinators come in handy. Make sure to advise your friend that she needs to manage if ever an issue pops up. So far, yan yung feedback sakin ng mga friends ko na hindi kumuha ng coord.

Skeptical din ako at first kumuha ng OTD since ang mahal nga. Pero nung nakita ko yung importance nila, I said to myself na kailangan talaga. Ayoko ng may inaasikaso pako on my big day (plus madali ako ma-stress). I want to be chill lang. Haha!

[kaythrielle]

I attended a wedding na may coordinator. Pero andaming problema pa rin. Kahit sa mismong wedding, stressed out ang bride because of so many issues (hindi macontact ibang supplier, need to buy ng shawl, walang posporo etc)

Kami naman walang coordinator. At kasi nung time na yun hindi pa uso yang mga ganyan. At super hands on groom si hubby. Hands on na ako, Mas pa sya. And on the day itself hindi ako na-stress. My bridesmaids helped assist guests to their tables during the reception. Yun lang ata maisip ko. The rest everything fell in place smoothly.

I think, whether may otd/coordinator or not, kung hindi talaga well-prepared at organized lahat ng kailangan, talagang may magiging problema.

Kung everything is well-thought of at naayos na beforehand, dun magdedepende how smooth the wedding is going to be. Regardless talaga of having a otd/coordinator.

[iamroshhh]

Challenging myself here. Di rin ako kuha ng coordinator for my wedding (JAN 2018) kasi maliit lang budget namin and gusto namin simple lang. With the time naman, I can arrange everything and gusto ko rin kasi na ako mismo magaayos ng wedding ko.

But OTD siguro, I'll get someone (my sister or fiance's cousin to organize).

And... kailan ba usually ginagawa ang rehearsals? 1-2 weeks before or days lang?

Thanks!