Wedding without otd/coordinator :)

[mawchan]

hello my dear sisses! i created this topic for those brides/grooms to be na hands-on to their wedding details without the help of any coordinators.. we're on a tight budget that's why we cannot afford to get one,  good thing my friends are willing to help on our event!!!:D

kindly help me also mga sis! anyone po can send me your checklist, things to do during hotel preps, church, and reception, etc!

thanks!happy preps to all!

[chelle_peachy0524]

so far sis am hands on sa wedding prep kasi nga super tight ang budget!

[katrinac]

sis, we're on the same boat wala din ako OTD, and lahat ng pagplan, sakin din nanggaling. pag book din sa  mga suppliers, ako narin gumawa. hehe. busy din kasi si h2b eh. pero good thing, nung emcee ko, sabi nya bibigyan nalang daw nya ako ng female receptionist, para mag asikaso sa wedding day ko. hihi. i believe kahit wala naman otd or wedding coordinator, kaya eh, basta may mga friends ka na willing tumulong talaga on your wedding day
i have my checklist here na nadownload ko , and from magazines. dami sa internet sis!

[carmichael18]

hands on bride - present!!! 

nakakaloka lang minsan, kasi lahat sayo na rin inasa.. wala ng gustong kumilos...

[chelle_peachy0524]

kahit masakit sa ulo ang pagiging hands on ok lang rin kasi you really learn how to maximize everything...

sis carmichael- trabaho mo raw kasi yun kaya sa iyo iniaasa lahat joke! 

[carmichael18]

^ onga sis.. karirin ko daw pati kasal ko.. hehe...

[mistiqshannen]

Share ko lang some on the day task para you can assign them to your friends..

Days before the wedding. ideal a week before or earlier
1. All souvenirs must be packed na. If me label na for the names of the guest do it earlier matrabaho kasi ito
2. prepare na the layout for sitting arrangement ng mga VIP nyo if me place cards kayo print it na din.
3. prepare the guest sitting arrangements also. if nasa 300 and up ang guest at walang OTD mas OK na wala
nalang sitting arrangement. Though you have to put extra table and add extra head for food kasi possible me
bitbit talaga and you can never say wala ka sa list hindi ka pwede pumasok..
4. Yun mga gowns dapat nadistribute na sa mga entourage.
5. naplantsa na din the night before. Please if sariling plantsa ang gown ng abay do not direct plantsa the gown haha what a term
dapat me paper ka dun mo lapat ang platsa and low heat lang lalo if di expert.
6. Mga DIYs dapat bago pa mag one week before ayos na. wag mo ipagkasya sa 1 week lahat ng mga gagawin mangangarag ka.
7. Finalize yun program sa emcee. Wala na dagdag dagdag mas hassle kasi yun.
8. Two days before the wedding punta na sa parlor. pa ayos na ng hair, manicure, pedicure. Spa.
9. Buy your honeymoon attire na. If mag beach kayo for honeymoon buy swim attire na ahead.
10. Contact all you suppliers to confirm yun arrival time nila nang walang nalalate.
get the cp number ng driver ng bridal car. confirm mga freebies ng supplier baka kasi makalimutan or magbawian.
all freebies must be written sa contract kahit addendum nalang kasi madalas nagdedeny na ang supplier na walang
napag usapan.
11. Day before or earlier if me mga AVP ka or CD na iplay itest na sa venue if meron sila projector and
white screen minsan kasi yun gagamitin laptop  hindi compatible sa equipment nila and also if me dvd player
iplay nalang dun.
12. Yun mga pwedeng iturn over na sa venue or caterer na mga gamit dalhin na like mga wines, chips for pica pica.
If me florist ka and gusto mo me mga candles ka at ikaw magprovide turn over mo na days before para sila na bahala.
even kissing bells bigay mo na sa florist mo sila naman mag aayos ng table e.
13. Lahat ng symbols at mga gagamitin sa church ipack na sa isang lagayan. Hiwalay sa lagayan ng para sa reception naman.
14..Mga emergency kit mo lagay mo sa isang pouch bag. Yun mga gowns, jewelry, shoes ayusin na days before.
and make a checklist ng mga dadalhin nang walang naiiwan.
15. gawa ka ng onj the day time sched.
time to wake up, take a bath and eat breakfast
time to start the make up for the moms and entourage
time to start your make up
time to start the lunch
time to start the pictorial of
   accessories for both groom and bride's room
   pictorial time for the bride undress pa (gown)-
   pictorial time for the groom undress pa (suit)
   pictorial time for bride naka gown na so is the groom
   pictorial time for the bride/groom with family
   pictorial time for the bride/groom with entourage
   time to go down sa lobby. -dapat BF goes down the lobby 15 mins earlier the bride. nang di kayo magkakitaan.
   time to have pictorial sa lobby while waiting umalis. 15 mins lang to..
leaving time sa hotel to church- dapat mga min 30 mins bago mag ceremony alis na si bride if malapit lang naman ang church
and consider traffic. BF leaves 45 mins before kasi sya mag aaccept ng mga guest sa church.   
Ceremony time usually 1 hr
pictorial time sa church usually 30 mins
pictorial time nyo as newly weds max 30 mins alis na.. bawal magtagal gutom na mga guest nyo.
retouch time mas 15 mins lang
then ready na for the reception.
16. higit sa lahat magmeeting kasama yun mga tao nakaassign to do some task on the wedding day.
17. make sure also mga readers and offerors informed sila nang di nagugulat na mag offer pala sila.
at para naka well dressed sila. bawal ang tube and sleeveless na dress.

prep room:
Assign someone to do the following
1. order food for your lunch.
2. call supplier like photo and video, florist for the entourage flowers to be brought sa hotel, hair and make up
if on the way na ba sila. Call them them mga 30 mins before the said call time just to make sure they arrive on time.
3. Ayusin mo din yun mga symbols for pictorial. make sure you bring souvenirs and invitation for pictorial.
4. ayusin ang gown sa body form make sure nasa hotel na yun body form bago dumating sa photo/video
5. make sure yun  schedule nyo nasusunod ha..
6. someone to assist you sa pagbihis ng gown.
7. call the driver if nasan na sya for bridal car. inform him na 15 mins bago umalis nasa looby na yun car.
8. make sure also if me sasakyan si groom na maghahatid sa kanya sa church e macoordinate.
pati mga sasakyan ng entourage at parents and relatives. if me nihire kayo sasakyan. someone must be
assigned here.

Church:
One hr to 30 mins bago ang ceremony..dapat me tao na sa church kahit 2 lang.
1. dala na nila yun mga accesories. pati offers. Ilalagay nila yun mga offer sa offertory table.
2. iturn over yun candles na gagamitin sa church
3. ilagay ang mga missalettes
4. icheck if meron ba mag aasist ng entourage sa upuan. if wala kayo gagawa nun.
5. antayin ang mga abay at PS para ibigay ang mga flowers.
6. gather the offerors to inform them when to stand and line up
7. look for the readers and inform them saan sila uupo.
8. magmake sure na coordinated yun bridal march at entourage march sa choir.

10-15 mins before start me magline up na ng entourage. if me church coordinator someone has to
give them the invitation where nakasulat names ng entourage and PS and they must be aware sino ang wala
at proxy.

pag andyan na si father.. start na.. dapat din alam na ni choir start na. at alam din ng entourage start na..

dapat din nabigay na sa line up palang yun mga bible, pillows, arrahae, cords, matches, veil sa entourage.

me tao dapat magclose ng door if me close door ka. at sila mag open..
 someone also has to inform the parents of the bride if meet halfway meaning as they walk sa middle ng aisle na stop sila
to wait for the bride.

the offerors dapat knows as in knows nila na pag prayers of the faithful na start na sila tumayo
para magline up sa likod at hawakan na mga offers nila. Me iba kasi HINDI ALAM AS IN! pwede nga sabihin
catholic po ba kayo at di nyo alam mag offer na hehe..

Towards the end ng ceremony..
1. Si commentator mo sya din dapat at informed sya na sya magtatawag ng pictorial sequence. at bilisan nya kamo
kasi limited time.
2. someone will gather the guest sa labas to wait for the newlyweds to go out. for the petal release.
me magdidistribute ng petals sa guest and someone will pop the poppers.

to be continued....

[mistiqshannen]

reception

While at the start of the wedding ceremony at the church someone must be at the reception na.
or even mga one hr before the reception starts to do the following..
1. If meron ka lalagay na mga anik anik like menue cards, program cards, thank you cards sa tables.
2. Yun souvenirs mo.. dapat nasa reception na if for display muna.
3. ayusin na yun registration table iready na guestbook for signing.
4. To make sure OK na lahat at narelay na sa head waiters, band/string, sound system yun program sequence. Need nila ng tag isang copy.
5. Yun mga CD for playing narelay na ke sound system when at ano iplay an song for certain activity.
6. Dapat alam din ni emcee yun mga songs na gusto nyo.
7. inform din ang head waiters if when sila mag pop ng poppers.
8. if me wines kayo na dala inform sila head waiter kailan iseserve.
9. upon guest arrival, make sure dalawa nasa registration if me sitting arrangement.
10. someone also will ask the waiter to provide food sa couple pag dating nila while nagreretouch sila.
11. someone will have the guestbook signed
12. someone will distribute the souvenir
13. someone will cue the entourage and couple to prepare for their entrance.
14. someone will secure yun mga gamit like yun mga ginamit sa church, mga ginamit sa reception.
15. all prizes sa games if meron endorse na sa emcee.
16. someone will inform the caterer when to pack the left over food.

yun mga concerns like kailan maplay yun AVP, onsite video si video/photo na bahala dyan.
si emcee naman magdadala ng program..

[lenierose928]

okay tong topic na to mga sis. ako din sobrang hands on sa wedding preps

[TwinkleDream]

Sisses, pwede pa-share, if meron kayo, mga to do task months before the wedding. Nagaayos kasi ako ng calendar namin..Naloloka na ako..

Thank you so much in advance!

[hakunamatata]

joining...hands on bride here.

kami lang talaga ni h2b ang nag-aasikaso ng lahat, tight budget din kasi e. kaya natin ito mga sis.

anyways for the checklist, naghanap lang ako sa net and dito sa forums tapos customize ko nalang sa talagang kailangan namin ok naman siya so far.

[TwinkleDream]

Sis hakunamatata, pwede makahingi ako ng copy ng checklist?

[hakunamatata]

i got this from a website and ito na din yung sinusunod ko, if you want to add pa its up to you.

here's a list for everybody's consumption...

12 Months to go
- Select a date
- Set the budget, and consult families for this
- Select principal sponsors, wedding entourage and liturgical members
- Start working on your guest list
- Start attending the two – day marriage seminar (a church requirement) * I replaced it with attending bridal fairs and scouting for venues and churches since we can not attend the seminar not unless we are done with the requirements.

10 Months to go
- Finalize the wedding date
- Reserve the church / ceremony venue and the reception site
- Hire a wedding coordinator / planner if desired (I deleted this one)
- Start canvassing designers for your bridal gown and entourage gowns
- Start looking around for your invitation design and misalette
- Finalize your wedding entourage

6 months to go
- Start meeting your designer to finalize designs and to schedule measurements and fittings for you and your entourage
- Decide on your color motif
- Decide what the groom will wear (barong or suit) and start meeting prospective tailors.
- Select your officiating priest
- Start interviewing prospective suppliers like invitation makers, florists, photographers, videographers, musicians, choir, soloist, caterers, wedding cake, make – up artist and bridal cars
- Have your invitation and thank you cards printed

5 months to go
- Decide on and finalize contracts / agreements with all suppliers needed
- Finalize your guest list, including full names, addresses and contact numbers of each guest
- Finalize fitting schedules for you and your entourage, and they should start fitting their gowns
- Work on your misalette contents and consult a priest
- Start looking for your wedding ring design and purchase your ring, and don’t forget your arrhae
- Discuss details of menu with your caterer and set a food tasting date
- Choose souvenirs and gifts for your entourage

4 months to go
- Consult a travel agent for your honeymoon plans
- Purchase your souvenirs and your gifts for the entourage. (If you are wrapping the gifts and or the souvenirs, start working on this)
- Invitations should be delivered by this time. Have them written by a calligrapher
- Finalize your church and reception songs with your musicians and/or choir or soloist
- Have your misalette printed for the first proof
(* addition: have your documents ready for submission to the church. NSO, Baptismal, Confirmation certificates and CENOMAR)

3 months to go
- Have the misalette printed for the final printing
- Start working on your church requirements
- Have your trial make – up
- Finalize design details with your florist / decorator for the church and reception
- Finalize your menu, beverage and other details with your caterer
- Finalize your honeymoon details and itinerary with your travel agent
(* addition: I add attending a 2-day pre-cana seminar.)

Two weeks to go
- Notify your caterer of your final number of guests
- Start working on your presidential table and reserved tables (if you have any)
- Deliver all entourage’s gowns
- Pick – up the groom’s outfit
- Break in your bridal shoes

One week to go
- Despedida de Soltera
- Buy all last minute items that you need like stockings, robe, etc.
- Confirm your bridal car pick – up and your room reservation
- Turn over any last minute details to a responsible representative – your sibling, aunt or best friend – who can make decisions and follow-ups for you. Give her/him copies of all your supplier agreements and to-do lists so that you can relax and be confident that all will go as planned.

One day before the wedding
- Go to a spa and have a good massage
- Have your manicure and pedicure
- If you will be dressing up at a hotel, check in and bring proper pre – packed luggage
- Relax!

[hakunamatata]

here's another for your to dos:

Wedding Checklist

- Church Requirements
- Wedding Venue & Reception
- Hotel Accommodations
- Wedding Gown / Shoes
- Barong Tagalog / Shoes
- Invitation
- Photographer & Video
- Choir
- Emcee
- Color Theme & Motif
- Entourage Dress
- Florist
- Wedding Rings
- Marriage License
- Make up Artist & Hairstylist
- Bridal Car
- Honeymoon Arrangements

Offertory Accessories

- Candles & Matches
- Flowers
- Fruits
- Wine
- Chalice
- Ceremonial Accessories
- Wedding Ring
- Ring Pillow
- Flower Girl Baskets
- Misalette (if only required)
- Bride’s Bouquet
- Veil w/safety pins
- Candles & Matches
- Bible
- Unity Candle
- Cord
- Arrhae
- Garter

Other Accessories

- Guest Book & Pens
- Signature Frames
- Copy of Wedding Invitation
- Sample Souvenir

* i omitted some na nga lang kasi hindi ko naman sila kailangan talaga, yan lang yung mga essentials.

[TwinkleDream]

Thank you so much sis hakunamatata! Sobrang BIG HELP ito sa aming mga brides to be..

Happy preps sa ating lahat..

[moonchild117]

very nice posts from mistiqshannen and hakunamatata. kami rin, we didn't hire otd kasi tight budget din, pero tumulong ang ate and pinsan ko to keep everything smooth sailing as much as possible.

on my part, aside from contacting the suppliers prior to the big day, nagbigay ako ng checklist sa ate and pinsan ko. lahat dinetalye ko: procession sa simbahan, order ng pagkuha ng pics (sinama ko sa missalette para basahin na lang ng lector na friend ko after the ceremony), yung outline ng reception program, cds na ipapatugtog sa bawat part ng reception, kelan ibibigay ang souvenirs, etc.

most of the things in my checklist nabanggit na dito. sa mga wedding magazines like wedding essentials (if i'm not mistaken) meron silang ganito. really helps those na hindi kukuha ng coordinator.

[mawchan]

hello ladies! very informative post nyo sis mistiqshannen and sis hakunamatata! thanks a lot..
and so nice to hear na marami-rami tayong hands-on brides!

planning stage and booking suppliers mas hands-on talaga ako, lately marami na kaming naging misunderstanding ni h2b!hay! pero so far so good pa rin, kailangan kasi mutual on both sides yung decision..  yun nga lang kahit gano ka hands-on tayo mga sis di naman lahat ng tasks magagawa naten lalo na pag wedding day itself na mismo., (baka maging bridezilla tayo) unless nga mag hire coordinators kung afford or kung may reliable friends naman willing to help, with these info and simple task na pwede nila gawin, less worries na.. 

any ideas pa po na you can share or add please do post here! its really a big help! 
 

[chelle_peachy0524]

thanks sis mistiqshannen and hakunamatata...
pero sa akin di nag aapply ang checklist ni sis hakunamatata kasi naman konti na lang yung time eh so i guess need ko talaga mag squeeze in ng time...

[kiz_me1109]

When we went to the bridal fair last Saturday meron nag offer ng 5k promo nila.

But we are still thinking if kukuha kami. 100 pax lang naman kasi ang guests namin and most are family members and very close friends.

feeling ko kasi kaya naman i distribute sa realatives and close friends yung mga tasks. hehe

And 5k is 5k. Super tight budget kami e. hehe

[carmichael18]

^ korek ka jan sis.. 5k is 5k..

I've handled several weddings, coz as you guys know, coordinator din ako... but I've never been stressed like this.. totoo yung sinasabi nila na iba talaga pag kasal mo na.. ^_^ aligaga to the max.. haha!!!