How to handle infedility of your partner?

[Indulgence12]

@Indulgence12 kinakabahan nga ako now eh.ang tagal ng outing nila.4 days!at gustong gusto nya sumama ha.dati one day lang to mawala ayaw na.sana walang ginagawang kalokohan.  pag mahuli ko lang to talga baka lumabas pagka amazona ko.

ika nga sis, prevention is better than cure..

[simple_girl]

kakainis talaga mga kabit na yan mga kakapal ng mukha...sana maghanap sila yung di pa committed...nung mag bf-gf pa kami now husband ko nagka issue din siya na may ka affair na office mate niya...talagang deny talaga hubby ko even yung girl sabi wala daw sarap niyang sabunutan nung time na yun sinira niya yung trust ko...we got married we love each other so much pero yung trust ko nabahiran na...hes trying to win my trust back pero iba pag nasira na...

korek sis, ganyan ang situation ko ngayon. di nya mabitiwan ang girl kasi may nangyari sa kanila. wag lang sana may mabuo kundi yari sila sa kin. pupuntahan ko yung hr office nila.

[charlie]

I just want to share what I'm going through right now..I opened my bf's facebook account and I saw that my bf had a flirty chat with his officemate. Naglast til madaling araw un chat nila. Two days sila magkachat nun and I can really tell that they were flirting with each other. The next day, I merely asked my bf what time sya nagsleep and he replied 10PM. I was able to read the chat and I know that he is not telling the truth. So i just replied, "sigurado ka?" I was at his fb page that time and bigla nalogout. When i tried to log in again, the password had been changed already. This blew my mind kc if wala sya ginagawang masama, bakit ganun reaction nya. And besides even if ichange nya password nya, nakita ko na messages nila nun girl.

Sobrang nag away kme and madami din ako nasabi na masasakit sa kanya. Pero afterwards, I told him I'm sorry and I didnt mean all the words na nasabi ko. Then the next day, he texted me telling me na wala lang daw un. That he will do everything to prove to me na mahal nya ko. He also mentioned that wala sya balak sa girl and bored lang daw sya that time.

Then I decided to forgive him kahit masakit. Kc I believe in us and besides, willing naman sya to prove to me na ako ang mahal nya. So i told him that we should start again. Then biglang he changed. Sabi nya, he needs time kc magiging unfair daw sya saken if magiging kme ulit. [textspeak!] nya he needed time to sort out his feelings. Naguguluhan ako kc if totoong wala lang un girl, why is it so difficult to move on?

Then sabi nya ayaw daw nya muna ng commitment. Na he admitted na like daw nya un girl pero ako daw mahal nya. Pero he also said na nagenjoy daw sya kausap un girl and hindi daw nya alam if kaya nya pigilan.

An sakit lang na after nya magbitiw ng promises saken and I forgave him, biglang ganito ulit. Sya pa un mag ask ng time off from me. Hindi ko na alam anong gagawin ko

[smoothie]

Be thankful sis that you are not married to him. Good riddance to him.

[jan888]

^^agree with sis smoothie..  good riddance talaga  .. makipag break-up ka na..he's not that into you anymore..you have to accept that..  let him go and if he realizes it's you he wants then it's your call..

[simple_girl]

For me sis, at least bf stage pa lang kayo, eh pinakita na nya ang tunay nyang ugali. Mahirap kasi kapag pinatagal yan at kung kasal kayo. Meron pang mas worth na guy for you. Enjoy mo nalang ang being single...darating din yun in God's time.

[zee87]

nagpaalam si jowa na kukunin yung pinagawa niyang car. Sabi niya, nuod lang daw siya ng movie para makaiwas siya sa traffic pauwi. When i check online, di naman showing yung movie na yun dun sa mall na pinuntahan nya! ngayon pa lang.. naiinis na talaga ko. 

[Prunella]

        Mga sis if you found out that your partner is already lying & having an intimate affair with someone else, how would you approach him as well as his " KABIT"...?

I honestly wouldn't know how to handle it. I really hope my husband stays faithful because I can never tell how I would react should he stray.

[simple_girl]

mga sis, ask ko lang ... how will you handle a situation kung kayo married at wala pang anak tapos nalaman mo may ka affair yung partner mo for 3 months tapos may nangyari sa kanila? ang masama may nabuo sa kanila.

[abel823]

simple_girl..

kung nabuntis nyanyun kabit... wag ka bibitaw agad sa asawa mo kasi kasal kayo... masyado mo lang padadaliin ang sitwasyon ng kabit kung bumitaw ka sa asawa mo.

Let your husband choose... kung mahal nya yun girl let go ka... if hindi naman naaksidente lang kayo pa din.
isa lang pwede hindi dalawa... pili lang sya... with regards to the baby .. pag usapan nyo na lang.
super sakit yan na mag kaanak sya sa ibang girl na wala kayo anak... basta isipin mo palaban yun girl kaya dapat palaban ka din.

[janeblaze,project]

I agree with sis  fight for your right and ikaw ang asawa sis !

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[mamichula]

^ im not sure. I think things are going to be different when the bany comes.I just hope If eer it happens i'll have enough strength to leave.

[simple_girl]

I agree with sis  fight for your right and ikaw ang asawa sis !

Thanks sis  janeblaze,project, abel823

Later, kami mag-uusap ng husband ko. Sana maging maayos, di ko lang alam kung ano mangyayari.
I know God is working for us to reconcile and through prayers of our loveones.
I lift up to you Lord.

[billyrose_31]

How did I handle infedility???
This happened a couple of months before our wedding date. Nagtataka ako pag pumupunta sya sa house kasi usually iwan lang nya sa table yung cp nya. Then napansin ko lagi na nya dala even sa cr, napansin ko medyo matagal sya and tagos yung ilaw ng cp sa shorts nya so I hinted lang na ginagamit while nasa cr.
I managed to get his cp and yun nga nalaman ko niyaya nya mag motel yung girl. Dati na nya kakilala kasi textmate nya before. I called off the wedding and super apologize yung parents nya. I texted the girl saying we were engaged na and to my dismay, ako pa inaway! I was expecting an apology sana pero ayun sya pa galit. So nagalit na talaga ako dun sa girl.
I took hold of his cp and texted the girl pretending I'm the guy. I explained kunyari magkaaway kami ng gf etc. Naniwala naman ang bruha. Still pretending Im the guy, I texted her na magdate kami in an expensive resto my treat. To cut the long story short. I made her order very expensive steak, wine, etc. Made sure na nakakain sya and nakainom kahit konti para di pwede isoli, Then I cut the communication.
I was nearby lang and I was watching her from across the street. Tarantang taranta yung girl kasi nga di na nya macontact fiance ko. Wala yata sya dalang money coz she stayed for around 6 more hours then I think relative nya yung pumunta to pay for the bill. Around 15k yun based on my computation
But I swear I'm never gonna do it again. Parang nakakaawa kasi itsura nung girl.

LOL! natawa naman ako dito sis. mind if I butt in?

Sorry to read na you learned this before your wedding but Im glad na you learned it also before the wedding. ang gulo no.  hehe.  At least before ka pa matali sa kanya you discovered his infidelity kasi pag kasal na kayo mahirap ng makipaghiwalay.

[billyrose_31]

hello mga sisses,

I would like to give my opinion on this. I know everybody has its own perception when it comes to this kind of dilemma.  I too is a victim of an infidel husband.  Currently speaking I have filed a criminal case against him which is RA 9262.  I will not go into details of the case here kasi baka di kayanin ng space  .

Anyways, I have always regard myself as a very trustful person.  Kaya ng malaman ko na kaliwa't kanan my GF si hubby, duon nagstart ang kawalan ko ng tiwala sa kanya.

When I learned that my EX was having an affair, I did not ask him all the questions in the world. Why? At the start of our relationship I have given him my rules. One of them was about cheating. I said to him if ever I caught him having a fling or getting mushy to any other woman but me he will never see me or his children (but of course he can still see his children if he asked, I’m not that mean you know). He will never have to choose between us. I will give him his freedom and let him be.

One mistake is enough but to repeat it with yet another woman was something. It seems that he is not satisfied or is still looking for something even he doesn’t know. And I don’t want to live with that kind of person.

For me, loving someone means accepting the person including all of their shortcomings. Whatever inconsistencies you have he should be the one to fill it up to make you complete and you to him. It is the law of love. You are destined because you compensate each other.  If the one you love is cheating on you then it means he is looking for something that you don’t possess. And it will continue and repeat itself over and over because we are not 100% perfect. Everyone has its faults. That is your man’s main responsibility, to complete you, to fill the gap in you, to solve the missing piece in you.

So for those who were left behind, who think they are not worthy enough for their loved one, you might rethink again.

Because maybe it’s not YOU who‘s not worth it but HIM.

Ito lang ang lagi kong sinasagot pag may nagtatanong on what did I do about his infidelity.  Of course aside sa criminal case na kinaso ko 

[simple_girl]

hi sis,

sa situation ko till now ang lagi nyang sinasabi sa akin ng husband ko gusto daw nyang magsolo. ask ko naman, ano ang ibig mong sabihin? ang sagot nya sa kin 'hiwalay' daw. ang sabi ko sa knya yung gusto mong mangyari para lang sa sarili mo, ako may buhay din na dapat ipagpatuloy. ang sabi ko pa isoli mo ako sa parents ko hindi ako kagaya ng babae na napulot mo at easy to get. magfile ng annulment kailangan simulan na nya... ngayon di pa rin nya masabi sa parents ko, naninimbang pa raw sya ngayon kung babalik sya o hindi. sa totoo lang ayoko humantong sa demandahan o pagfile. hanggat puedeng ayusin, magkaintindihan, umiral ang pag-ibig, kapatawaran at wag uulitin walang magiging problema. basta tanggapin namin si Christ sa puso at isipan namin walang impossible sa kanya.

[Leven]

IMO, pag ayaw na ng guy wala na talaga yan, unlike sa atin mga girls, nakukuha tayo minsan sa mga kasweetan...at mas maganda yung pinaparamdam mo sa kanya na kailangan niyang mamili hindi yung ok lang kung dalawa kayo kasi mas lalong masasanay at mas lalong madevelop pa sila...at least kung pinapapili mo siya agad at iwan mo siya makakapag isip siya kung ano ang nawala sa kanya at kung kaya ba niya. Feeling ko kasi mas effective sa guys yung action kaysa puro lang tayo salita...

[maiandra]

^ Sis simplegirl, baka pede naman bago magpapelan at magfile ng kung ano ano, itry nyo muna yung trial separation. Live separately and see how it works. Baka nabigla lang yung hubby mo.

Nabobother ako pag "demanda" or "korte" na agad ang iniisip. Diba pwedeng usap muna? Haist.

[i_v_y]

How to handle??

RA 9262. Psychological abuse by means of marital infidelity...

[simple_girl]

^ Sis simplegirl, baka pede naman bago magpapelan at magfile ng kung ano ano, itry nyo muna yung trial separation. Live separately and see how it works. Baka nabigla lang yung hubby mo.

Nabobother ako pag "demanda" or "korte" na agad ang iniisip. Diba pwedeng usap muna? Haist.

Hi sis, actually ang setup namin ngayon nasa mga side ng mga parents namin at wala pa kaming anak. Magulong kausap ang asawa ko at na impluwensyahan sya ng kaklase nya dahil ganon ang ginawa nun kaya na nakuha ng idea. Mukhang tumtakas sya sa responsibilidad dahil di nya alam kung kya nga ba nyang magdala ng pamilya. Binigyan din pa rin namin syang panahon kaya dalangin pa rin ang ginagwa ko.  Ayoko rin humatong sa demandahan pero kung kailangan gagawin natin sa legal.