Bakit karamihan ng lalake ganto?

[1choi_ko9]

nature nyo lang ba o ano ba gusto nyo patunayan o mangyari?

Scenario:
This guy and girl are office mates. Guy is married. Girl is single. They are team mates, ok. But some guys who want to court the girl said to the married guy "Kala ko kase kayo, pare". So ibig sabihin they are doing things na sweety sweety to one another kaya napagkakamalan silang sila?

My question is, why are guys like this? Kahit married o commited na, WALA sakanila yung nangyayari na yun with the said office mate. Kung wala, bakit napagkakamalan? Hindi ba pwede dumistansya?

[17arci]

Napagkakamalan dahil sa malisyosong isip ng mga tao.

[razor007]

lets use this as an analogy.

Male dogs have a way to mark their territory so other male dogs know when not to cross the boundaries.  If a certain Female dog doesn't like to be marked as his mate, she will avoid and ignore that male dog.

So to put it bluntly, the girl should have avoided any insinuations of flirtation or acts like "being too nice" of that married guy so she won't be marked as "his".

[1choi_ko9]

why be too friendly to other women? Too friendly that can make the other women think this guy likes them.

[akthung]

sis, you are over thinking imho.

Mahirap kasi sa culture natin, there's this element of pakiramdaman.

No man is an Island. Nobody can really "live" on his own. hahanap ng hahanap lagi iyan ng pagdidikitan. di ba? It's like being in a new school. Soon you'd like to stick with someone.

but just because you stick with someone, doesn't mean that there's something happening between you and him/her.

im sure sis that in your work place, you gravitate towards certain people and they are your friends.

but the thing is, dun sa mga office mates ninyo, nag tanong ba sila kung sila nga? nag tanong ba sila sa babae? nagkamali lang siguro sila ng assume. alam mo naman basta may na kitang "comfortability" between two people, madaling mag conclude.

I for one was close with a classmate. we never dated. nor even uber comfortable pag makipag biruan. but just because people would always see us being together. initially napagkamalan na kami. BUT they did ask me. and i said no. and i told them that the reason why we go to grad school and home together is we eventually found out that we live a few hundred meters apart.

tsaka bakit naman kailangan dumistansya kung wala namang reason. kung totoong friends lang sila? di ba? as long as both parties are aware of their boundaries. wala naman dapat siguro ikatakot.

but if they are overly touchy, then it may mean something. although there are guys who are "touchers" in a way but not in a romantic manner.

Now, if the girl falls for someone and eventually magkabf, then for sure mag iiba ng konti ang relationship nila nung officemate ninyong guy. kasi priority naman ang bf di ba?

come one TS! one common thing na naririnig ko sa babae eh gusto nila magka lalake na BFF.

what if BFF nga?

[hisana]

Ako naman ang hindi ko maintindihan is why officemates sometimes persistently tukso or set up a married man with another officemate. Parang, the wives/husbands are not here, so we can do whatever we want! Has happened to me several times. It's so awkward.

[akthung]

Well love and romance is always a "best seller". Kaya hindi nawawala sa mga sine yan hindi ba? Human nature na siguro yan lalo na sa mga pinoys. Sa ibang bansa kasi if people sense that two people have an attraction going on between them. They give space for them. Aside from that some people find being publicly linked to someone as insulting.

[charlenecipres]

ganyan lang talaga ibang lalake sis kapag bored sila o nag chicheat pag may chance. Pero hindi naman lahat

[sweet.trish]

its easy to say "i dont care what others would say, i know the truth"

but sometimes we have to care. for the guy, dapat more careful sa kilos, that is if he cares enough for the girl, wag nyang hayaan magkaron ng reputation yung girl na kabit or 3rd party.

for the girl naman, medyo distansya din, baka may magreport dun sa wife ng married guy eh magkagulo pa.

things could be less complicated and could be more cute and fun if both parties are single.

but then may ibang taong kelangang i-consider.

hindi naman siguro magrereact ng ganun yung tao sa paligid kung wala silang napapansin.
naku... reminds me of perception management.

[1choi_ko9]

^exactly my sentiments.

Pwede naman dumistansya both parties especially kung alam naman na married na yung isa. Bakit hindi maging friendly sa walang asawa o bf/gf? Bakit madalas kung sino me sabit dun gusto dumikit ng dumikit? Madumi isip ng iba yan ang kadalasan sinasabi, well ang point ko naman kung ayaw mapag isipan ng madumi dahil wala ginagawa masama then dont make yourself too attached to this person na committed na! Its fine na mag friends, its fine na make "friends", but why need to be too comfortable with a committed person if they are attached na? Yun lang naman yun e...kaya na labelan either boys or girls na kabit kase they act too friendly...too friendly na nagiging comfortable na sila sa isa't isa at in the end mas gusto pa nila kasama yung new found "friend" kesa sa bf/gf o asawa nila...kase they are too "comfortable"!

[akthung]

Ikaw ba yan sis? Kung hindi, huwag mo na problemahin. LoL hayaan mo sila. Kung oo, dumistansya ka na. LOL

[1choi_ko9]

well, ako si wife... hahahaha

[spartan]

Meron lang talaga certain percentage of guys na kups at walang class

a gentleman and really good guy will not do this.

[sweet.trish]

sa call center ba work hubby mo, sis  1choi_ko9?

common naman kasi sa call center yung sobrang close ang opposite sex. ayun lang, iwas ng konti sa mga taong may asawa. we cant control how other people think, so might as well be extra careful sa mga kilos para hindi mapag isipan ng masama.

[pinkberries]

^ i remember one of my friends said this - "di baleng maging simpleng empleyado lang asawa ko sa cityhall, wag lang syang mag-call center, maraming tukso diyan eh."   

[sweet.trish]

^korek sis. iba kasi ang bonding eh. even after work hours magkakasama pa din sa inuman, lunch out, etc! dun nagkakadevelopan ang mga tao hehe.

sis 1choi_ko9, anong balita? hehe

[1choi_ko9]

^nope hindi po sya sa call center work. THank God! Pero yun lang loob ng office nagwowork may ganyan na... haaay

[soulace]

this is my predicament right now. my live in partner got involve with someone and that someone knows that we are living together at the heights pa mga sis this girl tries to get pregnant with my partner.. kapal as in.. ilang beses ko ng inaway ang girl and si partner and yet etong girl won't give up. he chased my partner pa. she is the one who is exerting too much effort napakaclingy pa nya. kaya nag aaway kami eh. hay sumasakit ulo ko ngayon. don't know what to do..

[missy16]

sis soulace this someone ba na tinutukoy mo eh officement din ng partner mo?!aung sinasagot ni girl pag inaaway mo?!

[romanticure]

nature nyo lang ba o ano ba gusto nyo patunayan o mangyari?

Scenario:
This guy and girl are office mates. Guy is married. Girl is single. They are team mates, ok. But some guys who want to court the girl said to the married guy "Kala ko kase kayo, pare". So ibig sabihin they are doing things na sweety sweety to one another kaya napagkakamalan silang sila?

My question is, why are guys like this? Kahit married o commited na, WALA sakanila yung nangyayari na yun with the said office mate. Kung wala, bakit napagkakamalan? Hindi ba pwede dumistansya?

1. gusto nila makarami.
2. di sinasadyang mapalapit sa puso ni babae, ang bagal kasi ng ibang single suitor.
3. If married ang guy or girl, kayo na umiwas maski married din kayo. Maganda talaga kayo sa paningin namin.