Bakit karamihan ng lalake ganto?

[iwannabeasupermodel]

hmm. ganito din ako. di naman kami pero marami nag-aassume na may something between us. 

that thing is, gwapo kasi si guy. meztiso. maganda katawan. malakas dating. mayaman. so kala ng iba sold na sold naman ako. hayy.

[Girltalker2]

nature nyo lang ba o ano ba gusto nyo patunayan o mangyari?

Scenario:
This guy and girl are office mates. Guy is married. Girl is single. They are team mates, ok. But some guys who want to court the girl said to the married guy "Kala ko kase kayo, pare". So ibig sabihin they are doing things na sweety sweety to one another kaya napagkakamalan silang sila?

My question is, why are guys like this? Kahit married o commited na, WALA sakanila yung nangyayari na yun with the said office mate. Kung wala, bakit napagkakamalan? Hindi ba pwede dumistansya?

It takes two to tango.  Kung hinahayaan ng babae na ganun ganunin sya ng guy. Eh syempre si lalaki, sabi nga ni romanticure, sige lang, kung makarami ba, why not.

Honestly, I see a lot of Filipinas din kasi na inaakbay akbayan pero friends lang sila ng guy. Ok lang naman reaction nila. And for the guys, syempre kung maka score, sino ba h-hindi.

this is my predicament right now. my live in partner got involve with someone and that someone knows that we are living together at the heights pa mga sis this girl tries to get pregnant with my partner.. kapal as in.. ilang beses ko ng inaway ang girl and si partner and yet etong girl won't give up. he chased my partner pa. she is the one who is exerting too much effort napakaclingy pa nya. kaya nag aaway kami eh. hay sumasakit ulo ko ngayon. don't know what to do..

sis soulace, sorry to hear about your predicament.  but this is my take on your case - that girl is simply won't be motivated to chase your partner if your partner is saying no. Nagkaharap harap na ba kayong 3, at sinabi ng partner mo straight into her face na ayaw nya sa kanya and if she can stop chasing at wala syang mapapala?  Trying to get pregnant does not mean only one person is chasing - it meant, 2 people having sex, especially for the guy, willingly.

[Girltalker2]

Ako naman ang hindi ko maintindihan is why officemates sometimes persistently tukso or set up a married man with another officemate. Parang, the wives/husbands are not here, so we can do whatever we want! Has happened to me several times. It's so awkward.

Ito ang hindi ko ma-take sa culture natin.  Bastusan eh.  Having mistresses or flings even when a guy  is married is an accepted gesture.  May kantyawan, ni hindi na nila ni-respeto ang wife.  At the same time, yung lalaki naman, hindi naman nag-r-react negatively. So smile smile lang.

Some just have to belong - ayaw magcause ng issue.  Or puedeng sabihin - ang arte arte mo naman, para biro lang.  Wala ka talagang pakawala kasi iisipin napaka KJ mo.  Para sakin, eh sa hindi ako comfortable eh.  Kung single si guy at single ako, sige.  Pero if not, naman, we are all adults here para magbigay lang naman ng respect sa kapwa natin. Hindi ganyan na bastusan na sige nalang kung sino ang i-pair kanino.

This is the answer kay TS - bakit ang karamihan ng lalaki ay ganito?  There you go! You got the answer!  Aside from walang palag si babae at hinahayaan manyansing ang lalaki, ang dami din kunsintidor at cheerers on the background. Saan ka pa?  O di sige na. 

[Girltalker2]

Well love and romance is always a "best seller". Kaya hindi nawawala sa mga sine yan hindi ba? Human nature na siguro yan lalo na sa mga pinoys. Sa ibang bansa kasi if people sense that two people have an attraction going on between them. They give space for them. Aside from that some people find being publicly linked to someone as insulting.

Space!  you got it.  May respect kung baga.  Sa Pinas, wala. Kantyawan agad. 

YES, it is VERY insulting!  You said it right Akthung!  Kung ikaw yung lalaki, anong isip nila sa iyo? Babaero?  (siguro may mga sakit sakit pa yuck!)  Kung ikaw naman yung babae, anong isip nila sa iyo?  Cheap?  Kung ikaw yung wife, anong isip nila sa iyo?  Niloloko loko lang ng asawa. 

I am not in Pinas currently. And guess what, people here think lowly of Pinoys and Pinays.  Sabi nila Pinays are cheap daw kasi nga naman, kahit married na lahat sila (their families are back home in the Philippines), sige ang akbayan as hawakan ng braso.  Pinoys naman are tagged as maraming gfs kahit may asawa na.

[Girltalker2]

its easy to say "i dont care what others would say, i know the truth"

but sometimes we have to care. for the guy, dapat more careful sa kilos, that is if he cares enough for the girl, wag nyang hayaan magkaron ng reputation yung girl na kabit or 3rd party.

why would the guy care?  eh hindi naman nya kaano ano yung babae. ego-booster pa nga kamo, sa isang typical Pinoy eh. So bakit hindi?

[iwannabeasupermodel]

my take about this, sana man lang if walang malisya and di totoo then sana the girl involved will try to pacify the wife di ba. kesa naman hinahayaan na lang niya yun. so may tsismis, etc. if di totoo dapat kausapin niya si wife ng maayos at sabihin na di totoo. instead of acting mayabang and all the s***. nangyayari kasi to sa amin ngayon, with my mom and dad. dahil ayaw makipag-usap ng girl, para tuloy ang fishy, parang may mali talaga silang ginagawa. hayy.

[Girltalker2]

sis, what do you mean with your mom and dad?  nangyayari iyan sa dad mo na tinutukso sa office with a single girl? 

the only thing to do kasi, as the wife, is NR.  kahit mahirap, NR lang. that's the only way to maintain your poise. pag hindi totoo kasi, it is the husband's responsibility to make sure the wife will not feel insecure.  walang obligasyon yung babae sa wife - que totoo man o hindi yung relasyon with the guy. malandi lang siguro talaga yung babae, kaya kilig na kilig pag kinakantyawan with a married guy. therefore, hindi kelangan patulan ng wife yung babae.  yung asawa nya ang puntiryahin nya.

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[iwannabeasupermodel]

yun nga sis eh. that's what i kept telling my dad. kahit hindi totoo yun, may kasalanan siya because he didn't do anything to stop/negate the jealousy. hay. ang hirap magcaught between dito. nakakalito.

so wala palang obligasyon yun babae to pacify my mom? kasi kung makasagot daw eh ang yabang. parang - in my mom's point of view - may karapatan/malakas daw ang loob sumagot, like she thinks my dad will back her up anyway. parang ganun. like one time, nagkasagutan - sigawan sila sa phone, full on sigaw back din daw tong si babae. then my mom is saying wala daw karapatan dahil siya naman ang may asawa tapos ang sabi naman ng sis ko walang karapatan dahil nurse lang si babae eh doctor din daw mommy ko.

kasi kung ako ah, di pa naman ganito kamajor yung naexperience ko, i'll do something para ipacify at iassure si wife/gf na wala naman. or yung ginawa ko dati na i stayed away and only text yung mga importante lang na bagay, wala munang friends-friends. ganun.


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[Girltalker2]

^ nakakainis naman iyan.

sa pov ng girl, pag ako yung girl, depende kasi sis. kung wala akong kaalam alam and then suddenly someone calls me at pinagsasabihan ako, maiinis talaga ako. especially if I am innocent.

pag ako naman ang mom mo, mahirap talaga magpigil. but as a rule of thumb, she really has to keep her cool. magpaganda ka ng bongga.

ang dad mo ang may kasalanan. dapat sya umiwas sa girl. show wala mapapala yung girl at married na sya with kids. I super agree with you sis, bilang guy, you should do everything to re-assure your wife/gf. 

[iwannabeasupermodel]

^kaya nga sis eh. pero alam namin alam ni girl kasi close nga sila ni daddy, so for sure sinasbihan siya ni daddy, at kinakausap na kaya siya nung ibang nurse, na parang sobrang close sila ni daddy. pero go on as usual tong si girl.

[avd]

Pag me ganung mga sitwasyon na nangyayari sa hubby o bf niyo, keep calm , with poise and class padin
Minsan mga guys nakokonsensya din
sa mga ladies naman na nasa bingit ng pagiging 3rd party, kung maganda ka and with nice attitude, madami pang iba dyan
maraming options, and being in a relationship with a taken guy (married or with gf), is like a dive without parachute...

[Girltalker2]

Pag me ganung mga sitwasyon na nangyayari sa hubby o bf niyo, keep calm , with poise and class padin
Minsan mga guys nakokonsensya din

Agree ako sa part na dapat poised ka parin. Hindi dapat nanunugod or pumunta sa office or tinatawgan ang babae. deadma dapat (mahirap man gawin).  I guarantee you, hindi nyo pagsisisihan.

However, I do not agree na mag aantay lang tayo makonsyensya ang lalaki.  Dyan kelangan ng approach na kelangan sya gumawa ng move, if possible without nagging. yes, awayin mo kung kinakailangan, pero hindi sigawan. away na silent treatment. Lalo ka pa magpaganda. Kung hindi sya tumino, make him feel that you can easily walk out and replace him.

[~aShLiE~]

I experienced this, although guy isn't married but may girlfriend naman. Friends kasi kami, barkada ganun, and yeah, napagkakamalan na kami most of the time. Siguro comfy kami masyado with each other and super close pero wala namang malisya talaga. Never nagka-issue although may selos moment sa gf nya and yung iba parang nakikisawsaw pa na "uy may something sila."

So hindi lahat ng close eh may nangyayaring kabalastugan, I just want to defend the other side na they could be really friends lang talaga. There's comfy friendly and comfy flirty so it's hard din to generalize. Pero nakow, marami nga rin namang mapagsamantala ngayon so beware. Just know the whole story first.

[ragnar_danneskjold]

My question is, why are guys like this? Kahit married o commited na, WALA sakanila yung nangyayari na yun with the said office mate. Kung wala, bakit napagkakamalan? Hindi ba pwede dumistansya?

Studies say that men and women cannot just be friends. Ok, in the eyes of women, pwede maging friends. But men? This article doesn't think so -->>>http://verilymag.com/magazine/can-men-women-just-be-friends/ 

[Ichiro]

^ nice article and I agree. thanks for sharing.

seriously... pag may mga ganyang mga lalaki... kayo ng mga babae ang umiwas... wag kayong magpaka naive na FRIENDSHIP lang ang habol sa inyo... you can have friends while having a boundary for your personal space... kung iisipin ng iba na KJ kayo... e ano naman... they will eventually see you more respectable sooner or later.

[~aShLiE~]

I agree, the girl really has to distance herself if the guy is somewhat bordering flirty na.

[tough_guy]

sa totoo lang, sabihin na natin nature naming mga lalaki yun ganun sa office or somewhere sa work place natin, hindi nawawala ang mga ganyang lalaki lalo na pag malayo ang mga asawa nito sa trabaho niya.. but not all men are like this, you can distinguish casual flirting from deeper feelings kahit pa may asawa yan kung hindi mawawala ang lumalandi (sorry for the term) sa kanya maglalaro at maglalaro yan. ang pagiging sweet ng lalaki sa mga kasamahan niyang girls sa office madalas nami misinterpreted natin, as men are much more visually stimulated in general than women, so even when committed or married men, we men can get distracted.