Will you keep loving someone who will never be yours?

[FayeP]

no, life is too short para gawin ko to...madaming love na darating...mas bongga kesa sa nawala....

[sweetjaja16]

No, I've been in that situation and thank God for making me realize that there's someone out there like my hubby that I can call mine, someone who will love me wholeheartedly and never hurt me physically/emotionally.

[Queen Chokolah]

For me, love is not something I can control. So siguro, if I fall in love with someone who will never be mine, maybe. If it's love. I might keep on loving him.

But trying to be with him or trying to make it work is a different story. If it's more torture than pleasure, then no.

[guia01]

No.  Pero mahirap kapag nasa ganung situation ka na kasi kapag in love ka, you tend to act stupidly.  Siguro pakatanga lang ako ng 1 month, then stop na hehe 

[iwannabeasupermodel]

^^ yes exactly sis. i have been there and done that. very painful. but yeah i loved the dude and kahit ano pang sabihin ng ibang tao na i was being stupid and that there are a thousand fishes in the sea, i still kept on loving the person. it's true love, very stupid, very blind, very unconditional, martyr to the end love. kaya din siguro i kept on loving him is because he's one of the few things na i really really really really really wanted and wished for with all my heart but i never had. as in i prayed every night then, and i dont really pray.

naalala ko dati i saw a post of my friend in fb, something like "i keep praying to God to give me you but my prayers changed, evolved, i now pray to God to give you everything your heart desires". lol naiiyak ako nun everytime i think of this. hahahaha. but yeah like all things, it passed.

[fredprinz]

I did, for several months. Then I realized na nasasayang yung panahon ko, so I decided to see other women; sayang ang opportunity to find the one kung yung minamahal mo naman eh hindi kayang i-reciprocate ang nararamdaman mo.

[guia01]

Sis iwannabeasupermodel hahaha! ganyan din kasi ako noon.  sabi ko sa sarili ko, lulubusin ko na yung pagpapakatanga ko at least wala akong regrets na "I could have done this or that".  All my friends are telling me rin na wag kong paabutin sa point na wala na akong pride dahil sa paghahabol ko sa isang guy pero wala akong pake.  Tuloy pa rin ako sa pagpapakatanga kasi I thought I was doing the right thing at kapag nakita ng guy na mahal ko talaga sya, baka magbago isip nya.  Buti na lang natanggal na yung helmet ko and I knwo better now.  Natatawa na lang ako pag naalala ko yung pinaggagawa ko before.

[iwannabeasupermodel]

^ omg pareho tayo sis! I thought that my love will be stronger than whatever was preventing us from being together happily. Hahaha! Oh well ang hard headed ko kasi nun and ang sinasabi ko na lang sa friends ko hard headed girls learn the hard way. Oh well i did learn haha!

It's so easy kasi to advise this and that when you're not in that person's shoes or when you dont understand how they are feeling. Thankfully i have an amazing girl friend who stood by me. I remember having to emergency pull her away from her studies kasi i need to vent out and she always say yes. I owe that friend a freaking galaxy and so much more. So importante talaga na may support system sa ganitong situation.

[onefineapril]

NO.  What for di ba?

[guia01]

^ omg pareho tayo sis! I thought that my love will be stronger than whatever was preventing us from being together happily. Hahaha! Oh well ang hard headed ko kasi nun and ang sinasabi ko na lang sa friends ko hard headed girls learn the hard way. Oh well i did learn haha!

It's so easy kasi to advise this and that when you're not in that person's shoes or when you dont understand how they are feeling. Thankfully i have an amazing girl friend who stood by me. I remember having to emergency pull her away from her studies kasi i need to vent out and she always say yes. I owe that friend a freaking galaxy and so much more. So importante talaga na may support system sa ganitong situation.

Naku sis, ganyang-ganyan ang kwento ko.  Since I'm the US, may friend ako na everyday ko talagang tinatawagan sa Skype para lang i-peptalk ako.  After 3 months, nakarecover ako completely.  If it wasn't for her, I'll probably be in a mental institution now hahaha!

[IamColleen]

Hindi siguro. Sayang ang panahon, imbes na inistress ko ang sarili ko sa tao na yun(if ever meron), e magpapakasaya na lang ako sa ibang bagay. Sabi nga e live your life to the fulliest. So how can I kung mag-istick ako na mahalin ang taong di naman magiging akin.

[fastlove]

Yes. 

[shayne_12]

happening to me right now.

[iwannabeasupermodel]

Naku sis, ganyang-ganyan ang kwento ko.  Since I'm the US, may friend ako na everyday ko talagang tinatawagan sa Skype para lang i-peptalk ako.  After 3 months, nakarecover ako completely.  If it wasn't for her, I'll probably be in a mental institution now hahaha!

Lesson learned: umiwas nang asap sa mga taong will never be ours hahaha! Love should make you feel good.

[Filipinasadhart]

Lesson learned: umiwas nang asap sa mga taong will never be ours hahaha! Love should make you feel good.

Nice

[fionaapple]

this happened to me. i was sooo in love with this guy before. we became friends and after that, we were in a limbo for many years. he told me he "likes" me. and i was sooo stupid to fall for that. like lang? haha, the things we do for love. has anyone of you read the book and/or watched the movie "one day"? my story was almost the same as that, except, he hasn't gotten married yet. and i will be getting married ahead of him.

when we were still in that limbo, i asked him about what i am in his life. he answered that he is not yet ready to commit at the time because yada yada yada. a lot of excuses to keep me hanging on. i actually held on to the idea that one day, he will finally see me as a girl that he can love and commit to. i disregarded the red flags, the signs that all point to one conclusion that he is really not that into me. i kept feeling bad about myself. i felt ugly, unloved, unimportant and unremarkable.

til one day, i realized that i need to be strong for myself. i have to love myself more to stop this guy from hurting me even more. i became like a junkie being weaned from crack. i cried buckets of tears for this guy. (he doesn't know that part though). back then, i wanted him so bad and i loved him so much. yet, he was that one guy who will never see me as more than a pastime, more than a girl who can keep him company, more than a friend.

when i felt that i have moved on, i told him how i felt for the past years that we have been "friends." i told him that i loved him for many years but i had to forget about it to stop being miserable. that i had to end that feeling because i realized that i have to quit being miserable to help myself reach my dream.

he said he did not know that i felt that way about him. then he asked me, "ganun pa rin ba ang nararamdaman mo?" and i answered: "i guess, it doesn't matter anymore."

[f878]

i've done this.
eventually natanggal din yung "keep" part at kailangan ng grumaduate papunta sa "stop."
but we did it para lang masabi namin sa isa't-isa na,
"at the very least, even for a short amount of time,
you were mine and i was yours."
sabe nga ni pareng tennyson,
" 'tis better to have loved and lost.. than never to have loved at all. "

[Queen Chokolah]

"at the very least, even for a short amount of time,
you were mine and i was yours."

" 'tis better to have loved and lost.. than never to have loved at all. "

I like these.

[ilovejdy]

I can relate to this thread

[~yufa~]

If I have a choice, my answer is No. But given that I am in that situation right now, wala akong magawa eh. It's like I was already into deep when I finally admitted myself that I really love this person. If only I saw it coming I should have distanced myself already. IF ONLY FEELINGS HAVE AN ON/OFF BUTTON...sigh.

This person is actually my friend who is just too good to be true for me. Hindi siya yung tao na gugustuhin mong mawala sa buhay mo. Triny ko na siyang hanapan ng kamalian para man lang kahit papaano baka maturn off ako para mabawasan ang feelings ko pero instead, the more akong nahuhugot patungo sa kanya. Ang saya ko sobra pag kasama siya na to the point na pag uuwi ako sa bahay, naiiyak ako sa thought na bakit hanggang dun lang kami. Nahihirapan na akong magpretend na OK lang ang lahat.