mga sis need ko po advice niyoi am now exclusively dating this guy for more than two months though we've been talking constantly 2 months before being exclusive. i met him thru an online forum similar to girltalk. at first i considered him as my kuya then eventually nadevelop na ako sa kanya. we were just chatting then, not everyday since he was studying for his exams.
turned out we just live in the same village and even went to the same highschool. he's four years older than i. so nagmeet kami and eversince then we've been going out constantly and talking everyday. everything is so fine. he's really nice and really gentlemanly. he makes me laugh. he makes me forget about my family problems. for me, we clicked really well.
then one night (mga two weeks ago) i made, what i perceive as, a mistake. i asked him if he loves me already as i am starting to have deeper feelings for him. i almost love him. and he told me he still doesn't. then we were able to talk about it more and he told me "i'm sorry". then i said to him his saying that made it worse. it feels like he tried but couldn't. then he told me about this girl he also met in this same forum, naging sila for a year, they really kicked it off well. then one day natrigger yung congenital heart problem ni girl. it was a minor thing and she managed to recover. what triggered it? there was this another (online) girl claiming na may relationship sila ni guy and that when the guy left her nagsuicide siya. so parang nadepress si ex and all. and but managed to recover pero after some time it worsened until she died. he never got the chance to meet her. purely online sila.
btw he showed me his last picture of her, in which he deleted in front of me.
so my guy was so devastated. it was very traumatic and sobrang in love siya sa girl. and si girl kasi is pinapakasal sa magulang niya sa taong di siya mahal. but ayun she chose to be with my guy and their relationship survived.
fast forward to me, i've been nagging him if may future ba kami, i'm saying we're doomed, i kept saying na sana mag level up na kami. then just recently he told me na hanggang dito na lang daw siya. na he cant make the next step. he really wants me, gustong gusto na niya na maging kami na but ayun nga, gusto niya mahal na niya ako before maging kami. kuntento na daw siya sa buhay niya before he met me. na he was happy with what he had with dead ex and okay na siya dun. told me na they've talked about houses and kids and weddings daw dati. i asked him if mahal pa rin niya si ex and he said yes. i asked him what about having kids, a wife, a house. okay na daw siya sa meron siya ngayon. masaya na daw siya. sabi ko i thought ayaw niya ako mawala, (nagtry kami magcool off pero di rin natuloy and he cried a lot nun) then sabi niya yes, he'll be sad but he'll be able to stand up to that din daw. gusto daw niya yung talagang as in kailangan niya ako and para naman daw hindi. he's so hang up with his ex.
then at the end of it all i managed to ask him to give us a another chance. he's not optimistic about it. he gave me na daw all he can give. he's happy with me daw pero he cant really make the next step.
so now idk, should i just leave him? i told him i want to help him heal. i want to be the one for him. and i really want to see how it will turn out. us. if in time he'll be able to love me(of which he told me he doesn't it's just a matter of time). ayoko mag-regret ng what ifs. the girl is dead. he'll need to move on. it's been two years since nawala siya, in which my guy is pessismitic about ever moving on. haaay. sisses how will i convince him to take a chance on us? to move on from the girl?
please help po. di ko na alam gagawin ko.
i really love him.
