Adjustment Period

[m_lim]

everday ang adjustment period.

[Filipinasadhart]

everday ang adjustment period.

tama sis everydaylage may adjustment ....kahit kanino mapa relationship yan o hindi.

[jesrora]

everday ang adjustment period.

very true!

[mrs.S.]

I concur! We never stop adjusting as a couple.. but i noticed lately mas naiintidihsn na ako ni hubby. I guess as long as you mke an effort to get to know your partner things will be ok, but still noy guaranteed na hindi kayo mag aaway. pero yun din ang spice ng marriage, it becomes boring pag masyado nang predictable

[yannuh]

IMO, if you survive the first 2 years, you're good for the long haul.   

You never do stop adjusting, as ARTEGIRL stated. 
There is always a big change or development that will require both of you to fine tune your relationship again, and again, and again.   Not necessarily against each other or at the expense of the other, but more of synergizing yourselves to be a better team.

You will learn:
  That, Patience is a virtue.
  That, being open and having good humor will make adjustments easier.
  To be open to becoming more efficient, and a better person.
  &  To not expect to achieve a make-over of  your husband;  coz he probably married you thinking he was good enough  for you to be happy with him as-is

When stressed out:   breathe deeply, step back,  and do not make decisions based on emotions.

                                                     
                   
       

nice tips sis:)) maaapply ko to sa married life ko hehe

[cheloucustodio]

Nung nag sama na kami sa iisang bahay 1st adjustment na ginawa namin di na kami weekly lumalabas going to bar drinking all night till dawn. Pero since magkasama na kami kuntnto na kami na kami nalang dalawa 'magkasama

[imprincessfiona]

^We have been married for 8 months and 18 days (9th on the 17th). Total adjustment talaga as in kasi hindi ako gumagawa ng household chores nung single pa ako, sya sanay na sanay kasi ex-OFW sya. Sa ngayon wala pa kami sariling bahay kaya nakatira kami sa kanya kanya naming mga parents temporarily. Parang magjowa lang ang peg. Mon-Fri sa parents ko ako nauwi pag friday night sa amin uwi si husband pag Saturday night sabay kami uwi sa parents ni husband til Sunday. Sa kanila na ako manggagaling sa Monday pagpasok ko office kasi naglalaba kami (bondingan namin) ni husband tuwing Sunday. Wala pa masyado adjustment since hindi pa naman kami magkasama talaga sa iisang bahay. Pasundot sundot lang (hahaha). Sana bago mag-end ang taon may sarili na kami place.

[j.adore]

One year married and it's daily for us now.

I asked for help here in GT before about some problems we have a couple of months back. It stemmed from "wala kaming adjustment period" and everything's ok.

Nung lumipat kasi sa new home namin, yun talaga yung walang adjustment. We felt at home. Sure there's a bit of struggle with housework (until now) but on a normal basis naman prior getting married meron din struggle pag house chores hehe.

We continue to nourish our relationship and work on our differences on a regular basis. I always think na never again will I be so confident there's nothing to work on. Fixed na ang adjustment period namin there's always room for improvement

[mommy_kimie]

pa-join 1 year and 1 week pa lang kaming married ni hubby at hanggang ngayon nasa adjustment period pa rin talaga kami lalo na pagdating sa household chores. Pareho kaming bunso ni hubby at parehong di sanay sa gawaing bahay. Akala ko dati magiging madali na lang kasi nung single pa kami, every weekend naman ako nagsstay sa house ni hubby, pinagluluto ko siya, tinutulungan maglinis. Pero talaga namang nag-iiba ang buhay pag mag-asawa na and you start living together lalo na ngayon na may baby na kami. Good thing is tinutulungan ako ng mom ko na mag-alaga kay baby habang nasa work kami ni hubby. Kaya lang ayaw ng mom ko mag-stay sa bahay namin ni hubby, naiinip kasi at syempre mas komportable pa rin siya sa bahay niya kaya ang set up, kapag rest day namin ni hubby, dun naman kami sa mom ko nagsstay.

Tapos syempre kung dati paeasy easy lang, kain ng kain sa labas, laboy ng laboy, ngayon medyo limitado na yung unnecessary expenses kasi we have to save for our son's future.

[simang]

^youngest din kami parehas ni fiance but between the two of us, I feel like mas hirap syang mag-adjust sa akin. Minsan nagsusumbong na sya sa parents ko na ang hirap ko daw gisingin sa umaga hahaha and my mom knows that very well, so matatawa na lang sya. We're both very chill (read: lazy) persons haha so our room can be messy and we won't even care a bit. At this point in our relationship (living together, engaged), I'm kind of proud to say na we never had any major argument when it comes to each other's habits, and also siguro advantage na din na parehas kaming kalmado lang sa buhay na no one nags about the shortcomings of the other.

[three8one]

always make a room for adjustments..

napansin ko yung wife ko, yung mga inaangal ko sa kanya kahit hindi nya sinasabi na magbabago o babaguhin na nya nakikita ko na lang ginagawa na nya. impact sakin ayun nahahawa na din ako sa kanya pag sya naman ang may reklamo sa akin (ugali, asal etc etc) minsan kahit labag sa kalooban ko baguhin o gawin kasi nga hindi naman ako sanay talaga sa gusto nya mangyari nagagawa ko na at ginagawa ko na rin. ang resulta, nalilimitahan yung diskusyon, pagtatalo ng wala naman sense. enjoy lang yung mga changes na ginagawa nyo for the sake of your marriage life kasi kayo rin naman ang magbebenifits nito sa huli..

[moiselle.sarrate]

Adjustment Period -- Isa sa mga kinakatakutan ko sa buhay mag asawa. I have been travelling a lot with my fiance since we got together, lalo na pag summer.. Pero I'm sure na meron pa kaming madidiscover sa isa't isa pag mag asawa na kami (next year).

Chores, Housekeeping -- Pareho kaming tamad.. Pero tamad no the nth power sya. So I can just imagine the messy room, the dishes, the bathroom, etc. I said yes to him considering that, because that was him being the person that I love. And being tamad is totally acceptable being he helps me when I am asking him to help me.

Madami akong natutunan sa thread na ito. Salamat sa inyo. Lalo kong narealize na dapat kong paghandaan ang pagiging misis. Na tama si mama ko na dapat ngayon pa lang, iniinternalize ko na yung pagiging misis.

I just feel lucky though, that the other day, he told me.. "Adjustments, arguments, misunderstandings are all part of a beautiful life together. Yun yung hindi sinasabi sa mga fairy tale na nangyare after 'And they lived happily ever after.'"

[exquisitegem]

We recently got married (2 mos ago) and I'm so looking forward to discover things that I still don't know about him. We've been together for almost 9 years before settling down. We don't fight (totoo to), petty arguments...just sometimes. Malaking factor din siguro that we have a lot of love and respect for each other. And super mabait kasi ni husband. We have a different line of work and everyday we love to update each other on how our days went, tell stories about anything. Parang lagi pa ring nagliligawan ganun.
I know it's still early to tell since we still do not have kids yet. Kasi pag nagkababy na, maiiba na yung priorities. But I know communication and openness will be the key. You just have to have an open mind (and a lot of patience) to understand each other.
Nice to read stories of couple who surmounted a lot of challenges and still not giving up..which is what marriage is all about (through thick and thin).
I wish everyone of us a happy and successful married life.

[Shadow Angel]

Sa relationship namin mag asawa wala ako/kami masyadong adjustment. Pero sa environment dito talaga masasabi ko 360 degree nabago lahat. Kung hindi dahil sa asawa ko hindi ko kaya. Until now nag aadjust pa rin ako.

[simang]

I guess i got really lucky kasi hindi ako nahirapan mag adjust talaga kay husband. Malaking bagay yung maturity ng lalaki i think. Siguro pinakamalaking adjustment namin was when i had a brief post partume episode a few months ago. Si husband ang nahirapan since i became unreasonably sensitive and angry and sad most of the times. Also, before pa kami ikasal, my goal is to keep our relationship simple and lowkey. We brush off the small things. Sabi ko nga, hindi ko naman ikakamatay kung iwan nya socks nya sa floor, and it will only take a few seconds to throw it sa laundry bin, kesa pagawayan pa namin.

[yannuh]

^bwahaha i am super guilty dito sis. sa sobrang OC ko nag aaway kami ni hubbs.pero keri naman na now, namamanage ko na hahaha

sis sana ok ka na now. huggss

[simang]

^haha i guess advantage sa amin na pareho kaming hindi OC (read: makalat lol). thanks sis, i'm doing better, back to normal self na, haha!

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Adjustment Period -- Isa sa mga kinakatakutan ko sa buhay mag asawa. I have been travelling a lot with my fiance since we got together, lalo na pag summer.. Pero I'm sure na meron pa kaming madidiscover sa isa't isa pag mag asawa na kami (next year).

Chores, Housekeeping -- Pareho kaming tamad.. Pero tamad no the nth power sya. So I can just imagine the messy room, the dishes, the bathroom, etc. I said yes to him considering that, because that was him being the person that I love. And being tamad is totally acceptable being he helps me when I am asking him to help me.

Relate ako sayo, sis. We travelled a lot too before we were married, and we lived together din for about half a year bago kami kinasal. And pareho din kaming tamad sa chores. I can't say na living together helped me in preparing for marriage kasi even then wala kaming any major 'adjustment' talaga. Relaxed lang kasi most of the times, even now na may baby na kami. And, talagang nadadaan lahat sa mabuting communication. Everyday we're learning how to live with each other. Kahit kasi gaano ka magprepare sa buhay may asawa, it's a totally different world when you're already there. The best thing to go about it is ask yourself kung anong kaya mong gawin and icompromise for the sake of the marriage, then stick to it. Good luck on your married life sis. I really feel that marriage is a beautiful yet underrated experience.

[Shadow Angel]

^sis simang pareho tayo tamad sa gawain bahay mas career woman ako. Medyo dyan ako nahirapan mag adjust kasi as in wala ako ginagawa sa bahay dati, good things si hubby sanay sa house chores lalo na dati matagal sya solo lang. Medyo natuto na ako. Hindi ako OC pero hindi rin ako sanay ng makalat pero no choice ako kasi hindi rin naman ako masipag sa bahay kaya parang wala rin ako K magreklamo. Relationship or husband and wife hindi kami masyadong nag adjust sa ugali sa isa't isa. Tama ka na mas maganda if matured kayo pareho. Ang so far pinaka mahirap pag nasa ibang bansa ka doon pa lang mahirap na mag adjust. Pasalamat na lang ako na hindi dumagdag si hubby or kami sa adjustment ko. Madalas pagnag iisip ako lagi ko nasasabi masarap ang buhay may asawa or siguro din dahil napagsawaan ko na rin ang buhay single. I never expected na ganito magiging married life ko since dami ko nababasa at naririnig about being married. Meron pa kami kakilala na bagong kasal lang pero ang gulo gulo ng married life nila. Pero siempre may stress din kami minsan like budget and achieving our plans/projects for our family. On the other hand hindi naman namin masyadong pinoproblema dahil pareho kami ng thinking na mas mahirap ang stress kapag ang problema mo family or partner mo. Atleast nakakatulog pa rin kami ng mahimbing sa gabi. Na eenjoy ang kung anong meron kami. Eto natutunan sa akin ni hubby chill lang. Enjoy life.

[simang]

^agree with everything you said, sis Shadow. Siguro may mga adjustments tayong ginagawa for our partners pero kasi kung matured kayo pareho at mas nakakaintindi sa mga bagay bagay, it won't feel like a burden, na para bang pinipilit mo lang tanggapin just because wala ka ng choice kasi mag asawa na kayo. Sa married life aside from communication, malawak ng pang unawa talaga ang kailangan tingin ko. Dalawang magkaibang tao kayo trying to work towards the same goals, kaya kung di kayo magkakaintindihan talagang magsstruggle kayo.

[moiselle.sarrate]

^haha i guess advantage sa amin na pareho kaming hindi OC (read: makalat lol). thanks sis, i'm doing better, back to normal self na, haha!

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Relate ako sayo, sis. We travelled a lot too before we were married, and we lived together din for about half a year bago kami kinasal. And pareho din kaming tamad sa chores. I can't say na living together helped me in preparing for marriage kasi even then wala kaming any major 'adjustment' talaga. Relaxed lang kasi most of the times, even now na may baby na kami. And, talagang nadadaan lahat sa mabuting communication. Everyday we're learning how to live with each other. Kahit kasi gaano ka magprepare sa buhay may asawa, it's a totally different world when you're already there. The best thing to go about it is ask yourself kung anong kaya mong gawin and icompromise for the sake of the marriage, then stick to it. Good luck on your married life sis. I really feel that marriage is a beautiful yet underrated experience.

10 days before wedding, we decided to live together na. Quick preps and adjustment na din.

Were getting the hang of it after 2 days..  may isa lang akong concern..  that natural "amoy lalake" of guys..  gets nyo yun? mabilis mag build up sa kwarto pag sarado windows..  medyo umiinit ulo ko but i dont nag about it and let it pass kasi wala naman sha kasalanan..

what to dooo???