Love Problem/Issue? Post it here - free advice ♥ (19th Chapter)

[ysa.belle]

hi mamisweet!

galing ng banat ni evilmama!

[piggy619]

yun oh, emama strikes again 

[ettevyvi]

Sorry guys, ngayon lang ako nakapaginternet eh.

@sis ysa.belle - well, he didn't. sabi nung nakausap ko from his family, he broke up with the other girl na din to be fair daw. perhaps she knows about me and i dont know anything about her pero mas mabuti na yun. quiet na lang ako, even sa fb wala kang makikitang kahit ano. im moving on na din, i just don't want to know anything about him anymore at this point. ni hindi ko na chinecheck yung facebook nya and the girl. naka unfriend si ex sa akin e. tsaka, alam ko namang masasaktan lang ako e. besides, he never cared anyway, so mas mabuti na wala na din akong pakialam.


@sis evilwoman - i know. gusto ko yung quote na evolution ha. too bad he's really going backwards at ako lang ang nagtyaga na imove sya forward towards achieving any goal for himself. thanks for the advices sisses. i hope this will be over soon.

mahirap hirap na medyo matagal yung pagiinvest ko ng oras at panahon sa kanya eh.

[chofontanilla]

Parang ok dito ah. Para makahingi din ng advices kapag nagaway kami ng partner ko. Patambay ha.

[hotchokey]

Hi mga sis wala ako maka usap kaya dito ko na lang i-share and pasensiya na kung napaka haba.. ganito kasi nag post ako sa fb ko since masunurin akong gf (sabi kasi ni biyfie wag ko siyang kakausapin at susulatan o pm sa fb)

Should i wait for you to cool down?or should i just give up? All i want for this relationship is to be legal, is there something wrong na magpakilala ka? I always try to please you in every way i can.. but it seem/s that you don't/can't see it and appreciate it..
 
You want me to be matured and i want you to meet my families is that too much to ask or am i being stupid to ask that?
 
I never regret the day that we promise that whatever the challenges that will come nothing will change..nothing will change and you will never leave me.


tapos eto naman po ang sabi/ comment niya sa fb ko

To be legal? To meet ur family? Remember the time ur mom found out about us? Remember how she tried to take u away from me? She even tried to hire a driver just to guard u so that u cant see me? U have a short memory, and i dont, i still remember that day when she rediculed me without even knowing me. Even u dont told me the exact words that she said i know that i cant accept that. But theres 1 word that she said that fired me up and inspired me, when she told u that im not stable enough to support u...hey and look at me now making more money that i used to...do my family ever said a single bad word to u? No! Did they accept u even if they havent seen or met u? Yes! Coz they respect my decisions and they have the respect for others....even if they met me what made u think that everything will be ok, that they will gave u ur freedom, that they will give me respect, respect that so important for me! Im not the answer to your problem, its in you... Your the only person who can help you! Enough of those advises that they gave u! They really dont know ur problem! They dont know how its like with ur situation... U should stand on ur own and tell everyone that im making my own decision and im doin what i want to do! And tell that in their face and just do what u want!!! What u think is good for u!!! What u think that will make u happy and proud!!!decide for ur self!!! Thats how mature people do!
And for our relationship well i already told you even before that fashion show of yours that im loosing my patience that you have to make a move before its too late... And what i got is u being so busy with ur so called job...i already want to settle down but i dont want to bring ur problems in my house... U been such a loving gf and i thank u for that, again if ur having second thoughts about this relationship well u free to decide whats good for you, if choose to Follow ur family and not your heart , i will respect that... Coz i have my life in my own hands and whatever decision i will made is just my own will... And im always like this... For now my only advice to u is made the right decision that will be good for u and ur future, take the right path that will benifit u, not by others, ang love urself... Take care... Im not saying goodbye but im not promising nothing. Im not giving false hopes this relationship is for yours only to decide..........


ayan mga sis..ang haba.. wala ako makausap eh kaya dito.. iyak iyak na naman ako..

[sweetsorrow]

^sis ilang taon ka na ba? Bakit ganon nalang ang ayaw ng family mo sa BF mo? Ano ba side ng family mo? From what i read kasi, may problema kayo sa pagiging ''legal''. Mukhang kaya ka naman ipaglaban ng BF mo. Ikaw lang yata ang may takot na ipaglaban mo siya. Gaano na ba kayo katagal?

Sa totoo lang ha, ayaw ng guys ng problema o any complications, 'yun ang nagcacause para lumayo sila o bitawan ang relationship na meron sila kahit gaano pa ito kasaya.

[hotchokey]

^sis ilang taon ka na ba? Bakit ganon nalang ang ayaw ng family mo sa BF mo? Ano ba side ng family mo? From what i read kasi, may problema kayo sa pagiging ''legal''. Mukhang kaya ka naman ipaglaban ng BF mo. Ikaw lang yata ang may takot na ipaglaban mo siya. Gaano na ba kayo katagal?

Sa totoo lang ha, ayaw ng guys ng problema o any complications, 'yun ang nagcacause para lumayo sila o bitawan ang relationship na meron sila kahit gaano pa ito kasaya.

Pinaglalaban ko naman siya sis eh, sinuway ko na nga mga rules ng magulang ko, and am looking for a new job right now, am already 26 and i know i already have the rights to do what i want and am doing it now...

actually ang mom ko lang talaga ang problem, the rest of my family my dad, bros and other relatives okey naman o pabor naman sila sa kanya para sa akin and pinaiintindi ko naman kay mom ko na andyan na lang siya for parental advice..

mag 1 year and 5mons, yun na nga naiisip ko na bibitaw siya..

[FOURever]

^sis, kausapin mo ng masinsinan bf mo. Sabihin mo na kakausapin mo ng maayos mom mo (kung kaya mo) para alam nya na pinagtatanggol mo naman kayo. Then kausapin mo mom mo.. Paliwanag mo lahat.. Mahirap yan.. Feel ko ganyan din feeling ng bf mo kasi 26 ka na tapos may ganyan pa kayong prob. Pwede na nga kayo magpakasal without their approval or anything. Pero hindi naman yun ang advice ko -to get married. Haha for me lang, you are old enough. You can talk to your mom sincerely, kung ayaw nya, bigyan mo ng space yung dalawang panig pero make her feel na you are a grown up na and you know what you are doing and what you love. That way, i hope she will realize na he's ok naman for you..

[CHLayson]

issue ko sa bf ko, kapag nagdududa ako, wala siyang pake saken, kasi daw walang kwenta daw.
[textspeak!] ang dapat kung gawin??

[soulace]

ako naman meron syang account sa ym na di nya sinabi skin. at nakikipagchat sya kung kanikanino and who knows he might be dating or seb them.pag may naligaw lang na single [textspeak!] sa fon nya its over.

[sum.mer]

^nangyari na rin yan sakin sis, and what i did is i confronted him and i broke up with him. nag-plead naman etc etc, i took him back pero syempre mahirap na yan maalis sa isip..

[metasassy]

Similar kami ng problem ni sis hotchokey, although mas complicated lang yung sa akin ng slight haha. More complicated because 1) Im almost 5 months along and 2) the guy who got me pregnant is a separated man with 1 kid (not yet legally but ongoing na ang annulment process).

I knew that it's not going to be easy. Umpisa pa lang against na ang nanay ko sa kanya. But still, nakipagrelasyon pa din ako with this guy.

You see, I despite his major flaw, there's something I saw in him that made me realize that this is the guy I want to spend the rest of my life with. This is the kind of guy that I want to be the father my future children. I know this one flaw will be erased as soon as his annulment is granted.

But my mom doesn't care about my feelings. She demands that I stop seeing my bf. Sya na daw ang bahala sa lahat ng expenses from now until I give birth up to raising my baby.

I know I've hurt her a lot, but still, very supportive pa din sya sa akin and I'm very thankful to her for that. Kaya lang, I hate that she's very controlling. I know she's only looking out after my welfare but I'm not a child anymore! At my age (I'm 32), I think naman I have the RIGHT to decide for myself. And I hate that she doesn't realize this. Nasasaktan na din ang pride ko. To think I'm 32 na, heto't buntis pa tapos nakasandal pa din sa kanya.

My bf says its about time I stand up to her. I've tried talking to her a lot of times but she wouldn't listen! Minsan naiisip ko what if I just run away? Pero di ko maatim isipin pano kung may mangyaring masama sa kanya (she has a heart condition).

Hay ang hirap! Naii-stress ako with the situation. Ayoko naman i-cut ang ties ko with my family, but they have to understand that I also need the father of my unborn child. Hay, what to do?

[ysa.belle]

^youre lucky coz your mom is ready to support you and your baby. overprotective lang siya sayo kase mahal ka niya. and kahit seParaTed na si bf mo sa wife niya e di pa rin siya anulled.

try to understand nalang your mom more. tell your bf na pagpasensyahan narin si mom mo tapos talk to your mom re: your bf and what you feel. communicate with her.

[evilwoman]

My bf says its about time I stand up to her. I've tried talking to her a lot of times but she wouldn't listen! Minsan naiisip ko what if I just run away? Pero di ko maatim isipin pano kung may mangyaring masama sa kanya (she has a heart condition).

hmmm.. 32 ka na kamo and nakasandal sa nanay mo? ano ginagawa ng bf mo? mas dapat yata sya ang maunang magstand up para sa yo. harsh na kung harsh pero unahin mo sigurong maging independent bago sumuway kay inay. 

[Mrs.T]

Haay, need advices mga sissies..

Recently lang kasi out of no where bigla ko na lang naisip na buksan yung email ni bf the nagulat ako na may mga dumating na email sa kanya confirmation galing sa site na Filipino Friendfinder (di pa nababasa), nacurious ako so tinignan ko yung link then nakita ko na site pala yun ng naghahanap ng lovelife. Sobrang inis ko i texted him about dun di pa naman natatapos yung trust issue namin kasi lately parang masyado akong paranoid lalo na't magkalayo na kami. Then ayon nag away kami about dun sabi niya nagdadownload lang daw sila ng movie ng kapatid niya ng biglang lumabas yun so nagsign up daw sila then after di na nila maaccess dahil my bayad na daw. Nagalit din siya sakin kasi nga ayoko maniwala so ayon sabi niya kung wala daw akong tiwala maghiwalay na lang kami dahil sa sobrang inis ko umoo na lang ako.. haaaay.. I know may kasalanan din ako kasi ininvade ko yung privacy niya pero hindi ko inamin sakanya na thru email ko nabasa basta sinabi ko nakita ko lang.. Ano bang dapat kong gawin.?? 

[Mrs.T]

haaiiiiiii... naguguluhan na talaga ako ngayooooon 

[Cessiechu]

Hello sis Mrs T If this guy really loves you, di siya mag ooffer or di nya ibubungad agad ang hiwalayan. Di pa nga kayo nakakapag usap ng maayos ganun agad? Grabe naman. Naiintindihan kita, kasi ganyan ako sa bf ko. As in hawak ko lahat ng passwords nya sa email, fb and minsan ako pa gumagawa ng accounts nya. Pero it depends kasi, if he's the type of guy na msyadong vina-value ang privacy, magagalit nga siya. Try to talk to him in person mas maganda yun para magka intindihan kayo. And sa part mo naman sis, dapat di ka muna agad nagalit. Sana nag tanong ka muna sa kanya ng maayos kasi pag sinimulan mo sa init ng ulo syempre, maiinis din yung tao.

[Mrs.T]

Thanks sa reply sis Cessiechu actually naayos naman namin yung isyu na yun.. at my another isyu na kami ngayon.. Narealize ko na ako yung may problema.. hindi ako marunong magtiwala, i always doubt.. haaaay 

[Cessiechu]

Aww. Naku sis you have to trust him. Is there any instance before na sumira ng trust mo sknya kaya hirap kana magtiwala ulit? Alam mo naman mga lalaki sis, the more na hinde ka nagtitiwala the more na triggered sila gumawa ng ayaw naten kasi baka isipin nya, pinaghihinalaan mo sya kahit walang ginagawa, eh di gawen nlng nya ganun din naman. ^_^ try mo mag trust ule sis, mahal mo naman yung tao e. It will be worth it. ^_^

[Rieann Cassie]

Hi po,newbie here.