Dating Someone with Commitment.

[simang]

The fact that you're asking this question means that you're doing with it malice.

[sugardrop]

If there's really no malice, you wouldn't even have thought about it in the first place.

[imalittleteapot]

I've no problem going out with him if he's single, even just a friendly date, since magka-officemate naman kami dati.  He's taken, he said so and also seen in his FB. I was just trying to be nice but I guess it's wrong to just be talking to him. I feel guilty right now and want him to stop bugging me. I've done the wrong thing of entertaining him in the first place.. I like him as a person, but I really don't know if it's something more...

is he asking you out as in kayong dalawa lang? maraming beses na ako nagfall sa bitag ng mga lalaking ganyan na lets-go-out-walang-malice chuchu hahaha ang mga tawag dyan ay pa-fall. sorry ang bitter ko ba?

[fall2pieces]

is he asking you out as in kayong dalawa lang? maraming beses na ako nagfall sa bitag ng mga lalaking ganyan na lets-go-out-walang-malice chuchu hahaha ang mga tawag dyan ay pa-fall. sorry ang bitter ko ba?

yup sis.. hindi ko na sya pinapansin sa fb.. sana tumigil na rin. may gf din ba yung nagyaya sayo?

[imalittleteapot]

merong may gf merong may asawa (sabi naman sayo maraming beses na ko nabiktima!) hahahaha. gusto ko sila that time, during the dating part or landian pero mas nakokonsensya ako and decided to do the right thing. kahit umabot pa sa si lalaki ay umiiyak, sabi ko 'ano to nagbebreak tayo?ang sabi ko lang stop na tayo maging close', wag magpapadala sa iyak!hahaha ramdam mo naman kung mutual ang flirting 

pero isa lang naman ang proud ako, sa lahat ng nangyari. never na ako yung unang nanlandi, sila lalapit then malalaman ko na committed sila.

[sexykha]

when you say dating kasi it's like the guy is courting the girl for a far more intimate relationship.
so "dating someone with commitmet" is a mutual decision by both - even if you are both committed (bf/gf or married) or one part is committed and the other one is single.

i've done this - and its not good though. i just realized in the end that i don't want this to happen to me in the future (if i'l be in a relationship). i do believe in karma kasi hehe

the funny part is - i have this super crush kaso married na s'ya, still thinking if i'l accept the date that he offer

[imalittleteapot]

^

same here sis!haha napapa-dasal talaga ako kapag niyayaya nya ko! Lord, lead me not into temptation..kung wala lang talagang sabit, perfect na sya hahahaha

[justin3]

mag 2 years nang nakabaon ang thread na to ah, nahukay pa ni fall2pieces 

tama yang ginawa mo. simply say NO. kung hindi nagsasawa at araw-araw nagyayaya, eh di araw-araw mo rin tanggihan.
san ka nagui-guilty? sa pagtanggi sa kanya?... o dahil walang alam ang ka-relasyon nya?
limit your communication with him, dapat work-related lang lahat. if you have to unfriend/block him sa FB, gawin mo... FB na naman. grrrrr!


yung inumpisahan ni TS dito na "date lang, walang malisya". ang masasabi ko lang... www.chariiiiiiiiing.com.ph   

baka sa yo oo, walang malisya, eh sa kanya?
tandaan nyo gurls, men cheat pag may OPPORTUNITY.

at san ba usually nag uumpisa yan?
Level 1 - pakape-kape.
Level 2 - papasyal-pasyal kasama na ang HHWW
Level 3 - nood ng sine sabay akbay-akbay, yakap-yakap
Level 4 - boring ang sine... tara na sa mot-mot 

so, anong walang malisya? my ash!
ano ba? hindi nyo ba dinaanan nung hayskul o nung kaleyds kayo?  helloooooow!

[fall2pieces]

I was looking for a thread about this situation kasi haha.. I felt guilty because his gf doesn't know yung ginagawa nya. ayun tumigil na din sya,
True sis, charing lang yung walang malisya na yan.. lol

[plumpolka]

I was looking for a thread about this situation kasi haha.. I felt guilty because his gf doesn't know yung ginagawa nya. ayun tumigil na din sya,
True sis, charing lang yung walang malisya na yan.. lol

same tayo sis! pero ako ang nagpumilit na magstop na. may feelings na din kasi ako sa kanya e. noon parang pinapa-fall lang nya ako (kahit may gf siya ha) and never naman ako nagsabi ng feelings ko sa kanya. kumbaga sa kanya parang one sided lang kahit hindi naman.


tigil-tigilan na yan kasi kung gusto ka talaga nung guy, iiwanan muna nya ang gf nya bago siya mag move sayo. walang future sa pagddate ng mga committed na guys coz in the end sa gf parin nila sila uuwi

[sexykha]

@sisimalittleteapot - so agree, lead us not into temptation.. ang hina ko pa naman dyan
let's just hope na there's still someone who is not committed, inaantay lang nya tayo LOL

[qtme27]

Hello mga sisiies,

It's been a long time since I created this thread and up to now still alive and kicking. =)

First, the no malice thing im talking about was for the guy side kasi ako I used to go out with my friends na puro lalaki or mix na for  friends lang talaga, minsan iniisip nila na tomboy ako pero haller no way! hehe

Kaya ko nasabi na may malisya siya kasi na ffeel mo na may ibang intention siya at sinabi niya mismo na he likes me, pero right after na sinabi niya iniwasan ko na siya kasi I know na mali yun and the KARMA is just around the corner. Sa sobrang hitech na ngayon Digital na ang Karma! hehe

[prettyellowish]

What can you say if a Gal or Guy is dating someone with commitment? Like coffee pero kayo lang dalawa no other malice.

Dito sa office sobrang daming ganyan. Di naman ako masyado nakikielam sa mga mala telenovelang buhay nila pero naaawa ako, sobrang naaawa ako lalo na sa mga misis na walang malay sa ginagawa ng mga asawa nila dito sa office. Sad but true

[vermich]

Andun din yan sa girl/ guy na flini flirt nung may commitment na. Kasi if the advances are entertained, that mean go signal yun to be able to flirt. Para namang hindi nyo nagawa yan nung college or higschool sa may crushes nyo!? Kung ramdam nyo na ang flirting ni committed person, why flirt back?

Nakakaawa yung gf/ wifey/ hubby nilang walang alam sa nangyayari. Maghanap kayo ng hindi committed para mabawasan ang mga kuma kabitch..

[MsAphrodite]

we all know that the world isn't perfect and that situations like this happen. but if we could only prevent ourselves from doing so, we're also preventing a relationship to be broken, as well as our hearts I have done this not just once, during highschool and college, i tried flirting with someone committed, my first attempt succeeded coz we ended up together but not for so long, maybe for just a month. my second attempt was during college, i didn't succeeded and the worst part is that I was left hanging. It was a painful but a good feeling, because at last I was freed from an act that is wrong. So ayun.. hehe.

[Girltalker2]

My question is ganyan ba talaga karaming malalanding lalaki sa mundo? 

Committed na and yet sige pa ang flirting sa iba?
Or nag-aassume lang ang babae na nilalandian sya pero hindi naman?

I don't know. Pero malinaw lang naman di ba?  If you are committed, huwag na maghanap ng iba.  Pag committed na ang lumapit sayo, maybe flattering for some, pero alam mong binibilog lang ang ulo mo, so why waste time?

[vermich]

I don't know. Pero malinaw lang naman di ba?  If you are committed, huwag na maghanap ng iba.  Pag committed na ang lumapit sayo, maybe flattering for some, pero alam mong binibilog lang ang ulo mo, so why waste time?

assurance daw yun sa mga flirt na okay pa sila sa opposite sex.. di ba kaya nga may crush? Pero at least yun admiration from afar, they dont act on their feelings, paghanga nga eh. Kaya nga for me nasa nilalandi yun, kung mapapalandi ba o hindi. of course morality dictates hindi dapat, dyan nagsisimula ang nagiging kabit at kumakabit.

Ang lovestory nga daw pang dalawang tao lang hindi tatlo o apat kayo. Ano yun salo- salo?

[Miss.Pancake]

Nag umpisa kami sa kape kape. Tapos nun nagtagal lunch lunch na hanggang sa pahatid hatid sa pag uwi o sabay uuwi tapos ayun. boom! naging kami.

Tama ang mga friends ko, the moment he started dapat talaga pinigilan ko na. Ngayon mahirap na bumitaw.

[wildorchid]

This is not to judge, just put yourself in the shoes of THE girlfriend / wife / fiance. Kumbaga sa kalsada, kung sino ang bumangga, sya magbabayad. Ke may intent man o wala. Ibig sabihin, di nirespeto yung distansya kaya sumabit. Hehe so ayun, distansya ang moral lesson.

And to begin with, why ask if the setup isnt a big deal? Okay yan sis, nababother ka kahit papano. Maybe or may be not, something feels wrong.

[Miss.Pancake]

Well once ko palang naman ginawa sis. Not really me i must say.

Well charge it to experience. Andun lang yun thrill and excitement pero overall, hindi ako naging masaya to date someone married.