Dating Someone with Commitment.

[qtme27]

What can you say if a Gal or Guy is dating someone with commitment? Like coffee pero kayo lang dalawa no other malice.

[qtme27]

Kayo ba mga sis would you go out for a date na alam nyong may gf sya? even that date is just for friendship or dahil matagal mo ng hindi nakikita yung friend mo.

[coo]

hmm kung no malice naman, i dont think its dating.. unless every now and then you go out for a cup of coffee..  dating someone committed --> you will end up unhappy.. kasi may masasaktan kayo.. 

[coo]

Kayo ba mga sis would you go out for a date na alam nyong may gf sya? even that date is just for friendship or dahil matagal mo ng hindi nakikita yung friend mo.

kung friendship naman.. i dont think its a date e.. pero kung madalas nga.. i would not go out on a date to a guy who is committed.

[shopaholic18]

no, aksaya oras lang yun not unless you have all the luxury of time in the world and date all you want lang hanap mo pero kung naghahanap ka ng serious type of relationship, umpisa palang wala ng patutunguhan yun so why waste time.

[krnmprl]

ayos lang as long as you know how to "manage your expectations" ika nga.

[aquacharly]

What can you say if a Gal or Guy is dating someone with commitment? Like coffee pero kayo lang dalawa no other malice.

No malice.. eh di hindi date.   
What do you mean by "with commitment"?
Married or living in.. so what? I do it all the time, I am married, he may be married or living in, or engaged or whatever -- basta maliwanag sa aming 2 it is for a business purpose.
But of course (but then,  I may have an overdose of delicadeza or am just plain old-fashioned, or talagang have no adulterous motive   lol)   -- I do not meet up in secluded places or kinda inaccessible places like say   Tagaytay as in Sonja's Garden, lol, or the restaurant and/bar at the Discovery Suites on ADB Ave.  Better EDSA Shang... very public places.

[aquacharly]

QTME27 --  whether it is just for coffee, or even a 10-course dinner... whether 2 lang kayo or in a group -- do not lie to yourself.  What is your agenda ba talaga?  I do not believe in the safety of numbers kasi people can play footsies underneath the table or exchange meaningful glances and innuendos in a crowd.   hehe

With or without malice, who can say?  It all depends on what is in your heart; and what is your intent.   lol

Basta, do not put yourself in the line of fire or in danger.   Heartbreaks lang yan all around.
Have him get uncommitted first, before  you  go in pursuit of this guy.  What is wrong with pursuing a guy anyways?  Basta check he has dis-entagled himself first.  Good luck!

[tabbru]

To the TS: Te mere fact that you started this thread, you knew that there is something 'wrong' with "dating" someone with commitment. Too defensive din ang pagmention ng "no malice." Kasi technically, there is nothing wrong with having a cup of coffee with a married guy friend. Ako I do that all the time. Pag ininvite ako ng married guy friend (basta friend ko talaga ha) ko na lumabas, di ko na pinag-iisipan basta available ako. Kasi nga never papasok sa isip ko na date yun, more on catching up lang.

Kung sa simula pa lang, may "sexual tension" na kayo na gusto niyo lang i-conceal sa pagpe-pretend na friendly date lang ang gagawin ninyo, then guard yourself. Kasi in the end, masasaktan ka at makakasakit ka.

[qtme27]

Thanks sissies for your time reading this thread and I appreciate all your comments.

Guys, tama kayo. Why would I waste my time dating someone with commitment. Kahit na for me it's just purely friendship, I don't know if he feels the same way too. Better to go out with someone without "sabit" mahirap na baka yun pag maging cause ng breakup nila.

No malice.. eh di hindi date.   
What do you mean by "with commitment"?

Aquarcharly: I mean the guy has a gf or vice versa.

[showermist]

What can you say if a Gal or Guy is dating someone with commitment? Like coffee pero kayo lang dalawa no other malice.

Then that's not dating.  I do meet up with most of my guy friends, committed or not.  But it's very clear on both side na hindi yun date.  Catching-up lang at business. Hahah

Now, if you seriously mean date--then you have an ulterior motive. May HD ka sa guy friend na ito hehe

[jojo2978]

DATING is a very very very relative term...

[fall2pieces]

hi just want to ask, how to tell a guy you don't want to go out with him because he's already taken? what should I tell him?

[DianeShishio]

hi just want to ask, how to tell a guy you don't want to go out with him because he's already taken? what should I tell him?

Just say NO, AYOKO.

I've always wondered why we go out of our way to think about the feelings of the other party, considering na sila naman ang mali? 

From the way your question was constructed, I assume that you would go out with this guy if he wasn't in a relationship. Tama?

[miss_isla]

If him being committed is an issue, whether it is a date or not, let him know that it makes you feel uncomfortable.

[creativehunk]

just tell him straight no because he is already committed. that simple! you didnt have to explain or elaborate things to him.

[ohcmon]

^^ I think TS is more concerned with what people would say about her than the issue of the guy being committed.

Peace, TS. Whatever floats your boat.

[imalittleteapot]

hi just want to ask, how to tell a guy you don't want to go out with him because he's already taken? what should I tell him?

you like him noh?  kase if not, you won't bother how he will feel if you say no. i feel you, trust me.

how did you know ba na committed na sya? you checked his FB account or is it something like general information na alam na ng lahat? sorry, curious lang ako why you're being bothered on how to tell him no when actually there's no simpler way than tell him "no, kase may gf/asawa ka na" PERIOD. 

[fall2pieces]

I've no problem going out with him if he's single, even just a friendly date, since magka-officemate naman kami dati.  He's taken, he said so and also seen in his FB. I was just trying to be nice but I guess it's wrong to just be talking to him. I feel guilty right now and want him to stop bugging me. I've done the wrong thing of entertaining him in the first place.. I like him as a person, but I really don't know if it's something more...

[sarah29]

Judging from your post, I don't think walang malice sayo yung coffee nyo. I mean, kung wala talaga, hinde mo maiisipan to. Examine yourself. Do you like him or not? Do you see yourself dating this person? If so, distance yourself.