What would you prefer, a comfortable life with an unfaithful spouse or...

[mikey_mouse_219]

i prefer the struggling life with a faithful husband. we can always work together to better our lives naman eh. pero all the money in the world can't buy the peace of mind you need to get a good night's sleep.

oo pwede mo libangin ang sarili mo sa pera. you can travel places, buy expensive things like jewelries or bags and clothes, but in the end those things aren't what you need to make you truly happy. not unless na lang na materialistic ka. or kung hindi mo naman mahal yung asawa mo when you got married, pwede yung ganitong set-up.

still, case to case basis padin ang preference naten mga babae sa given situations.

[girl24]

100% sure that i'd rather have a faithful husband, i married below my social status. i was determined to live within what he can provide for me. i never complained, i settled, i adapted. my friends were surprised with the change, but they thought that as long as i am happy, it is all the matters... and that was what mattered to me, a complete happy family. then the truth found its way to me. after all the sacrifices i made, it was not enough. ever since my life was never the same, i could never be at peace. i always worry, i'm always on the guard.   

[ratacutie]

faithful husband and struggling. I dont think I can "assuage" any hurt, praning mindset, sleepless nights, crying bouts, etc. with all the trips and jewelry I can buy with this supposed rich philanderer husband.  But in reality, if this was ever a real choice for me, kaya ko naman buhayin sarili ko. Why should his money matter?

[mayosg]

Sis! simple lang yan...WE WOMEN are far more practical than men;) kaya natin mabuhay na magisa, we can establish our own status and career without them...pag nagkasakit na ang mga lalakeng ganyan dahil sa dame ng mga babae na nakasalamuha nila...mind you, babalik yan na lumuluhod sayo...i've seen it to some of my relatives and friends...mga babaero nung kabataan nila, now, that they're getting older hirap makahanap ng source of income, tapos malalaman nila na maganda ang estado ng buhay ng mga misis nila before...ayun! bongang bongga ang pagsisi...paanu ba naman, marealize nila na mamatay sila na walang aaruga at magmamalasakit sa kanila...tsk...tsk:P buti nga!

[passionfruity]

^ merun naikwento mom ko na parang cousin o distant relative na lolo ko, nung kabataan daw nya eh madami syang lupain pero nagloko at sumama sa ibang babae iniwan ang tunay nyang pamilya..so yung other woman ang nagpasasa sa kanyang yaman pero nung naubos nat nagksakit sya eh iniwan din sya..but the worst thing was di na yta sya tinanggap ng tunay na pamilya nya kaya namatay syang mag isa sa isang kubo.kawawa nangyari sa kanya pero para sakin na nakaranas na din ng kasinungalingan at panloloko from husband masasabi kong tama lang sa kanya yun...yeah im harsh..

[jared]

a COMFORTABLE yet struggling lifestyle and BEST OF ALL shared with a truthful and loving husband!

[mitchymumay]

Ideally or almost everyone choose love even struggles in daily life, easy said and ideally everyone dreams of love.

But when one becomes 35 and up or so its gonna be the other way around. Its the brain who rules than the heart. Ive seen like 4 friends already and age ranges are there, all the luxury in the world is given to compensate for the pagkukulang. Sa kabilang bakod naman philosophy is that, pinupuno nang pagmamahal ang di kayang isustento o ibigay (dapat lang!)

[mitchymumay]

But yeah we woman can always live on our own and still succeed

[izabelle]

ang hirap kasi sa buhay magagawan ng paraan yan para umasenso ka.. pero ang babaero? nako, eh mahirap yan. kasi hindi mo macontrol ang iniisip or pwedeng gawin ng asawa mo.. isip at pagkatao nya yun e.

[harlet]

mas ok na ko sa comfortable life with unfaithful spouse.....marami sa pinoy ang wala na ngang pera nambababae pa....

[our_precious_gift]

Hi mga sis first time ko pumasok sa ganitong thread ilang daysa na kase kong di makatulog ng maaayos na feeling ko hubby ko may other woman. Hubby ko si overseas worker actually kadadating lang 2weeks ago. ON his second day kase di ko alam kung nananaginip lang ako may narinig akon kausap siya sa phone meydo nagising lang ako para bang naalimpungatan sa boses sabay hinto naman siya kase nagising daughter ko umubo. Di ko alam kung praning lang ba ako pero after non talagang iba ang kutob ko. Tiningnan ko cellphone niya wala kong nakitang last dial no. nung check ko din load niya dun ako nashock ilang lang tinatatwagan niya ubos agad ang load niya.

Tsaka since kase dumating pakiramdam ko nagbago siya ibang-iba siya sakin. This is the first time na nafeel ko tong ganito. To make short kwento before kase siya umalis last may nagkabig problem kase as in nagkaayos lang kami the night na aalis niya. Tapos last 2days ago lang may nakita ako chat na download sa laptop niya nung tinanong ko kung ano yon biglang sabi wala daw yon. Nung check ko mga chatrooms na halos filipino din ang sumasali. Naiisip ko baka nito lang siya may ginagawa na ganon since nitong alis lang naman niya siya nagkachance na may access ng internet yung byahe nila. Need advice mga sis sumasakit na ulo ko kakaisip diko na alam gagawin ko. SObra tiwala ko sa hubby ko kaya diko lubos maiisip na magagawa niya to. Though hindi pa naman ako 100% sure pero yung kutob ko kase talagang iba 

[mitchymumay]

hugs for you sis precious gift.

are you sure the previous issue niyo totally solve na ba. it could possibly nagtatampo kasi si hubby mo.
try talking to him and the spark and so called excitement when he got back ba ay nadouble?

normally kasi when overseas partner pagkauwi ni partner we tend to "want" na tayo and ilalambing and/or pananabikan ni partner, when it should be the other way around (IMO sa mga naoobserve ko ha). kasi sila malayo sila ang malungkot and wala sa comfort place nila.
:-)

[snowflakes]

i prefer to have a struggling life with a faithful husband. sino ba naman ang babaeng gustong may kahati sha? in my situation money talaga ang root ng pambababae ng isang lalake. i dont need material things.

[rianne_mallows]

i prefer a struggling life with a faithful husband kasi i married the man i love..

pero if i didnt marry because of love syempre dun na ako sa comfortable life ano naman na kung mambabae siya eh hindi naman kayo inlove diba? walang hurt at hindi nakakapraning kasi pera pera na lang naman... saklap naman na hindi mo na mahal tapos sukdulan pa paghihirap ninyo financially

[angelita]

You can't buy love, peace of mind and happiness that keeps you sane so I'd go with the faithful one...

[blushberry]

I'm not yet married but I would choose to struggle so long as my husband is loyal to me.  I do have a successful career, so I'm confident that I can help financially.  I prefer love above all else.

[sarsingkit]

comfortable life with an unfaithful husband. but then i cannot say na hindi ko sya iiwan. we have conjugal property, half of the assets and money are mine, if i'm harsh enough i can sue him for adultery, i might even have greater compesation. once i have the money, pwede na ako mag-eat-pray-love and i can have my peace of mind again. i love my husband, i really do and i trust him so much but it is plans that give me peace of mind not his fidelity.  what if naging unfaithful si hubby,anong gagawin ko. what if iwan nya ako bigla, anong gagawin ko? nag-iisip na ako ng plans so im one step ahead from devastation.   

[k_heart]

Meron akong kakilala, last quarter of 2011 lang sila kinasal. Tapos by December 2011, dun nalaman, scammer pala yung lalaki kaya ubod ng yaman. Nasa custody na ng police.

[blushberry]

^ Chinese ba yan?  Too bad for the wife, bakit kaya hindi niya nalaman yun from the start. 

[brendzy]

ideally, everybody wants to have both...just like me.
I guess it will work both kung start pa lang ng relationship, you will have this certain communication with hubby.
I came from struggling family, and pinangarap ko din na mayaman mapangasawa ko. Same thing with hubby, but eventually, things change. I agree with the other sissies that, we, women can live independently to support our needs and wants. I can say now na ok kami ni hubby, we both work. We can buy our needs and wants and living a good life. di ba mas masarap if you both reach yung certain status na kayong dalawa yung magkasama? i don't know pero kasi i am hopelessly romantic