What would you prefer, a comfortable life with an unfaithful spouse or...

[passionfruity]

a struggling lifestyle but shared with a truthful and loving husband?

Yan ang tanong sakin ng friend ko just few days ago. Yun yung time na inatake ng tsunami ang 8 year married life ko.  Parang no brainer na tanung kung iisipin pero di ako nakapagbigay ng consistent na sagot sa friend ko that time. First answer ko was mabuti ng magdildil kami ng asin at least sigurado akong ako lang at mga anak ko ang nasa puso nya.
Sagot ng friend ko. but at least di ka pinababayaan ng husband mo.. he always provide all your needs and even your wants. at pag may pera ka madali mo madivert sarili mo from getting depressed. pwede ka magliwaliw, maglakwatsa o kahit [textspeak!] kasi di mo iisipin ang pera.

Nag isip naman ako ngayun..oo nga ano my point din. pero di parin ako totally convinced.. dapat faithful husband at comfortable life padin kung pwede naman ibigay pareho ni Lord diba.?

But to all GTs here kun papiliin kayo ng isa lang sa dalawang options above ano gugustuhin nyo?

[babyjapnurse01]

      Dun na ko sa struggling lifestyle but with a faithful husband, I would also wish na the husband knows kung pano makadiskarte para umasenso din kami in the future... And besides mas madali naman gawan ng paraan yung "struggling" lifestyle, pwede naman kami magwork parehas para mabuhay ng maayos.

      Di naman kasi nabibili ng pera ang peace of mind, maganda nga bahay mo, nasusunod nga luho mo, lagi ka naman nagwoworry sino kasama ng asawa mo, talo ka pa din.. Buti kung for fun lang and walang emotions involved, edi pwede mo na pagtiyagaan yung "maginhawang" buhay with a rich guy.

     Bitter statement yang 2nd paragraph ko haha! That was our exact experience with my biological father, back in the 80s, malakas kumita dad ko sa business, around 20-30k per day, halos every week bago ang sasakyan, and everything i wanted nabibili, but may downside ang lahat, he has vices -- alak, babae and sugal. There were times na he wouldnt go home for a week, di nalang dinadrag ni mom yung sarili nya sa pagka-depress, hinayaan lang nya tatay ko to do what he wants, in the first place kahit naman maglupasay nanay ko wala din siya magagawa kung ganun talaga si papa. Ang habang cycle nyan, from the time na nag-live in sila (about 2 years before mom got preggy of me), til I was 5years old. When I turned 5, naghiwalay sila, mom has 0 savings in the bank, as in none talaga, the only way we survived was thru my maternal lola and my uncles who were working abroad noon. Ayun, haba na masyado ng na-share ko haha! Thats the reason why mas type kong mag-struggle nalang, kesa nakahiga ka nga sa pera, puro naman din sakit ng ulo dahil sa partner mo.

[mooncake and leaves]

I think people who are mabisyo, mababae/malalaki, etc. are prone to lose their money din. Magastos din yun ah. And people who can't take care of their personal affairs are more likely to spiral out of control tapos affected lahat, even finances.

So I'd rather struggle. Our family struggled but we have the best parents. Basta madiskarte at masikap, you'll find a way to survive.

[Tigershark09]

I think there still come a time that you will leave your husband even if you have all the money and luxury you need. Coz that will not make you truly happy. It will only make you feel weak and incapable. Huwag mong lokohin ang sarili mo, dun ka sa kung ano man ang magpapasaya sa yo.

Pero kung hindi pa ready ang friend mo na umalis, siguro the smartest thing to do is save money while she's with her philandering husband. Kunin ang pera ni Mister, ipunin at itago para pag nakaipon ka na ng enough strength na lumayas, me pera ka! di va!

[charmedwitch776]

naku i prefer a faithful husband kasi pag un guy me money kahit na good provider eh maloloka ka naman sa mga kabit nya. pano naman ang mga bata diba?
pero siguro mas maganda you have enough lang tapos faithful si hubby panalo na un for me. kahit alang masyado na luxury basta me kakainin everyday at panggastos everyday tama na.

just to add up...dati i have i bf na may kaya pero grabe nabaliw naman ako sa kaliwa't kanan na babae nya as in hindi ko alam kung ako ba original or ako yun kabit sa mga girls nya dahil me pangsupport naman sya samin. panlibre anytime he wants to treat me. naku sunod sa luho pero baliw naman ako sa mga nangaaway at nademoralize din ako.
tapos nagkaron ako ng next bf pinili ko un ndi mayaman kasi blacklisted na skin un mayayaman guy naku problemado naman ako kasi ako me pera kaya ako lagi nanlilibre. yup faithful sya pero feeling ko naman binibili ko un time nya for me. tapos dumating un time na nagaaway na kami kasi naiisip nya under sya dahil ako un pera so end up loka din ang lola mo dahil hindi ko alam kung san lulugar sa kanya.
so ngayon si hubby tama lang ang timpla sa buhay...not so rich pero hindi naman pulubi. me work lang enough para buhayin kami ng anak ko. happy naman kami. walang super luxury pero hindi naman kami nawawalan for our needs

[coo]

Faithful Husband..  100% sure ako n comfortable ang buhay ko with faithful husband --> kasi unang una wala ako problema sa kanya.. iba naman kasi yung NEEDS lang sa WANTS.. so, kung lahat ng needs ko nasa akin naman.. i guess im living comfortably and kaya ko naman bigay sa sarili ko ang comfortable life.. it still depends on me.. having an unfaithful husband is uncomfortable na.. 

[kaiz]

Share ko laNg story ng friend ko, sa side nga lang to ng anak ha:

When we were still in hig school, super yaman sila. Construction business ng family nila. Pero mom niya may lalake, dad naman nila may babae din. I think madalas niya marinig na mag away parents niya kasi one time, bigla na lang niya sinabi saakin na "sana naging mahirap na lang kami. ok lang, at least masaya kami and walang away."

Nung graduating naman na kami and bumagsak negosyo nila, as in bagsak talaga like nawala na bahay nila, then naghiwalay na din parents niya, eto naman sabi niya saakin "kelangan mayayaman maasawa naming magsisters! kahit di namin masyadong mahal basta mayaman"

[passionfruity]

minsan mahirap din mamili coz we dont know what would the circumstances bring  us just like with the story of kaiz.. but yes mas masarap matulog kung alam mo na ang katabi mo ay asawa mo,  tao at di ahas na lagi mo pangangambahan kelan ka gustong sakmalin.,

[smoothie]

now that it has happened to me mas gusto ko mag struggle at least i have peace of mind. i know na ako lang uuwian at sa akin lang talaga ang hubby ko.

[showermist]

i would choose the struggling life. at least may peace of mind ako. in the past years, this is my big realization--ang kung gaano kaimportante ito.

yung pera, nagagawan ng paraan.  magtrabaho, magsikap umasenso.

kumportable ka nga sa mga bagay na nabibili ng pera, tatanda ka naman ng husto sa stress. araw araw ba naman ang kalbaryo mo, ewan ko lang.

[red_one]

i prefer struglling life. kasi feeling ko pag mayaman mas malaki talaga yung tendency na mag-cheat, kasi marami pera. my panggastos. like going to bar tapos magtable ng girl, or mambabae talaga.syempre yung my mga pera lang nakakagawa nun. pero if wala pera yung hubby, i don't think magkakaron sya ng lakas ng loob ng pumasok sa mga ganun.
pero nakakasad kasi meron parin ibang guy na wala namang pera pero dami ng kabit. at lalo namang di gwapo. ang dami ko napapanood sa tv na ganun. nakakainis.

[prettykhae]

i prefer to have a struggling life with a faithful partner than the other way around... magiging hell lang buhay ko pag ganun na may pera nga, kaso yung asawa naman unfaithful.. ala rin. kumbaga, alang perang katapat ang kasiyahan pag may partner kang faithful.

[feisty_angel4]

Struggling nlang kesa psychological pain of having an unfaithful husband!  
At least magkasama kayo at nagtutulungan.

[aquacharly]

PASSIONFRUITY..  how can you say choice 1 vs choice 2 when it is  never that clear cut naman.
                           It does not follow that como hindi mapera si husband eh faithful yan.
                           Fidelity is not based on how thick or thin the bank accounts are.

So, ano ba sagot ko? 1st part of the sagot:  como cynical me does not believe there is a man who lives in this day and age who is 100% or sige, 90% faithful --  eh di part 2 of my answer will be:  como they all f*ck around  sooner or later, and break your heart... better to suffer in comfort!  Mabuti nang broken-hearted donya or prinsesa quesa broken-hearted lavandera di ba?  lol

BUT my real answer is:  Self Empowerment.  Nothing beats an answer like that.
Whatever curved balls Life throws at you, you will never be a Loser if you are self-empowered.
Kahit na ba ilang heartbreaks magpaka martyr ka to take...  kahit na you go almost over the brink and entertain murderous thoughts... you will never cross the line to hopelessness and desperate moves and never end up a Loser... kasi there will always be your OWN funds and assets to boink! you back to sanity and to knowing the lyrics to the songs:  Free Again! and  It's Raining Men Hallelujah talaga!

[chrlxmyot]

^ako at this point of my life, i would prefer an unfaithful husband but living comfortably...(haha! bitter ba?) ok, sino ba namang babae ang hindi nangangarap na magkaroon ng faithful and loving na husband? lahat naman tayo di ba? pero paano kung may mga anak kayo na bubuhayin? gugustuhin mo din ba na magstruggle sila sa hirap? okay, magtutulungan magwork, but let 's face the fact na napakahirap maghanap ng work..and i agree with sis aqua na di porket, di mapera ang guy eh faithful.."boys will always be boys!".. it feels great to have a peace of mind knowing that you have a faithful husband but eventually, when you get tired of your life struggling and your children are suffering, would you still be happy/ would you still say, ok lang atleast may peace of mind ako! come on, be practical! these days, wala ng nabubuhay sa pagmamahal...accept the fact that "money makes the world go round, sweetheart". (sorry po, just being practical)

kung yung mga not so good looking guys nga may guts mambabae eh! hahaha...pano kung baliktad? makakita yung guy ng maperang babae at sa sobrang struggle sa buhay nila eh maisipan ni guy pumatol para makaraos family nya?

on the other hand, kung mapera naman si hubby kaya lang unfaithful, para sa akin, pwede na din basta di kami pababayaan ng mga anak nya...i know a man na ganito(a relative of mine) sobrang yaman niya BUT babaero siya! BUT he make sure na walang maibubutas sa kanya ang family niya other than pagiging babaero..a very supportive and responsible dad..kaya lang yung wife niya not so wise kasi hindi siya nagse-save ng money of her own..at yun naman gagawin ko kung ganyan ang husband ko...after all, kesa iba lang makinabang ng pera niya, i'll make huthot na din for me and our kids, save it for our future...

[passionfruity]

@ aquacharly this was asked to me by a friend na siguro dahil sa nakikita nyang pag aalburuto ko yun ang tinira nya sakin thinking it could give me some peace, na maisip ko oo nga naman e di kung di madisiplina e d gamitin ang pera nya to lift up my injured soul..
kasi kumbaga parang she just want me to see na "youre not that kawawa naman talga eh" di naman daw kami pinababayaan ng hubby pagdating sa financial. which is true.. but of course no wives would prefer such life na busog nga sa materyal hungkag naman inside..no true happiness a money can buy.


And of course you were right di talaga basis ang pera o kawalan ng funds to ensure the fidelity of a man. dahil alam ko dami din hubby wala na nga work ubod pa ng babaero, sa misis pa nanghihingi pangtustus sa mga bisyo nya..hay naman..


And self empowerment.. yes thats what Im aiming right now..since I decided to become a full time wife/mom naging dependent na talaga ako ky hubby that for years I just settled with contentment kasi di ko naisip noon na dadating samin ang fidelity trial..akala ko kasi anghel napangasawa ko..hay ...but now thanks to God, he awakened me from my deep illusion.

i'll make huthot na din for me and our kids, save it for our future...

My friends told me also na yun nga huthutan ko daw.. so i guess mukhang ok nga yung advice na LOL...

[17arci]

How can you be comfortable if you have an unfaithful spouse?

[kurengkeng]

di ko yata kayang makisama sa isang unfaithful husband.

first, may pinag -aralan ako, i can earn money for myself and my kids. di ko aaksayahin ang panahon ko sa mayamang manloloko. kanya na ang yaman nya.

[simplyme28]

ako i will go for a struggling lifestyle but having a faithful and loving husband.. hindi naman sa lahat ng oras eh struggling kau d ba? syempre may plano din kau both for your future lalo na sa kids nyo.. so aanhin mo angyaman ng asawa mo kung ang dami nyo namang nakikihati sa atensyon nya..

[Britney]

Actually parehong stressful at pareho kang mag-struggle. Depende na lang kung ano ang maaatim mo.
Ako, dun na lang ako sa faithful husband, basta masaya kami kahit mahirap lang kami. Hahanap na lang ako ng paraan na kumita ng maraming pera...