Any good men around?

[simang]

^^and lucky are those who find their prince charmings husband materials as well

The problem in finding a good man is that some women are too cynical to actually find the good in a man. Madalas, hindi naman good man ang hinahanap eh. Madalas naghahanap ang mga babae ng mali. Eto na si good man sa harap nya, pero aantayin mo pang magkamali or may gawing mali yung tao. Blame our irrational hunches.

Remember girls, we see what we want to see. Try finding a man and seeing the good in him. You'll realize there are a lot of good men around.

[sacred cow]

how timely, may pinost yung friend kong babae na nasa late 30's sa fb

http://thoughtcatalog.com/kate-bailey/2014/02/the-14-differences-between-the-boys-you-date-and-the-men-you-marry/

[x-y]

simang, totoo yan. Ganyan din ako. Sa sobrang trauma ko sa past rel ko, konting mali lang nang namimeet kong guy, natturn off na ako. It also came to a point na iniisip ko kelangan better than my ex yun magiging bf ko which is an advantage for me but then it also turned out to be unfair for the guy who's being himself and being nice pero di ko naaappreciate. E alam ko namang walang pupuntahan kung ang hanap ko e perpektong lalake kase wala ngang ganun...

sacredcow, I believe in the saying, "Blessed are those who wait..."

[sugardrop]

This - 10. Whether or not they receive your family’s complete approval, the man you marry is respectful even if they’re hesitant, the boy you date is disrespectful right back.

When he met my mom for the first time, he told me "I don't care if your mom approves of me, I like her a lot." And even gave her flowers on vday.

@simang, I think as a girl gets older, she becomes a woman and realizes the differences between Prince Charming and a husband material. Parang boys vs. men, nagiging women na most of the girls. All due to experiences.

[simplepink]

how timely, may pinost yung friend kong babae na nasa late 30's sa fb

http://thoughtcatalog.com/kate-bailey/2014/02/the-14-differences-between-the-boys-you-date-and-the-men-you-marry/

thanks for sharing this. 

[SouthernBelle]

my thoughts right now

[tamera_lorraine]

mahirap na yatang mahanap ang mga kagaya nila..


or maybe bulag or hindi ko palang talaga siya nakikilala

[mrvhince]

Paano nyo ba masasabi na good men? Ano ba criteria nyo sa paghahanap ng good men? Being a guytalker here masasabi bang good ako kasi i have a regular job, walang bisyo, financially stable, a bread winner, hindi babaero hahahaha (nasa inyo kung maniniwala kayo.) hmmm di ko lang alam kung pasok ang qualification ko sa pagiging good guy. 

[t_r_i_s_h]

^ good for you!

The problem with us girls is that we keep saying that we want a "good man" but we stick to the bad ones. We already know that they're not good for us but we stick around... But yeah, they do exist 

[simang]

Last night I had dinner with a girl friend who believes that there's no good men around. She has been a mistress in the past, her ex was the worst guy (he hits her, cheats on her, etc), and her current partner is consistently flirting around with other girls. Sabi nya, there's no good men around, and she has seen all types of men. She doesn't believe that my relationship is real, antayin ko lang daw and I'll see what she means.

I did not try to force her to believe that my boyfriend is a good man. Naniniwala kase ako na whatever is in our heads, whatever we believe, that's our reality. So kahit pa gaano kaganda ang mundo sa labas, if we are tainted, and we choose to refuse to see the good, we won't see it. This friend chose to see the bad side in everything, and I chose to see otherwise. I have a good man with me because I looked for a good man, and I chose to see the good in my man.

I even asked her why is she sticking up with her current partner, even if she is very much aware that he flirts and plays around, sabi nya lang, she loves him and choose to accept him despite that.

So I have to agree with sis @trish, girls choose to stick with the bad ones even if fully aware sila of that. I think for one -- it's the lack of confidence that they will find another, that they will find a better man.

I guess it's not really an issue of not finding a good man. It's about deciding to stick with the bad ones, just because our self worth is so low we believe that this bad man is worth all the hassle and heartaches.

[sacred cow]

^ yup, perception is reality

[t_r_i_s_h]

@simang tama lang ginawa mo sis, kasi kahit ibaliktad mo sa harap nya yung mundo she will not believe you, they're the type of girls who doesn't wanna think outside the box.

BTT: I think that we've all met a good man, though some would not have been in a relationship with one. another misconception is that we think na porket ex natin hindi na sya "good man"

[sugardrop]

@simang, I think your friends needs to heal and love herself before she can see the good in other men. A broken person will find it hard to see the good in other people. And her current partner isn't helping so it's adding to her brokenness.

[momentum]

I guess it's not really an issue of not finding a good man. It's about deciding to stick with the bad ones, just because our self worth is so low we believe that this bad man is worth all the hassle and heartaches.

sapul!!

[girlalou]

I chatted with a nice guy meaning may work, i like him physically, & i find him smart. Okay na sana on those aspects but he has a gf and fun lang ang hanap nia na hindi ko kayang ibigay. 

[simang]

@simang, I think your friends needs to heal and love herself before she can see the good in other men. A broken person will find it hard to see the good in other people. And her current partner isn't helping so it's adding to her brokenness.

Yan lagi ko sinasabi sa kanya, pero it becomes a cycle eh, ayaw nya even to try being single muna. She needs to be with a guy to feel complete which should not be the case. Sobrang paulit ulit. Kaya minsan I just let her be, and pag nasaktan sya i'm the first person to tell her "i told you so". Hahaha that's how good of a friend i am lol

nasa outlook din siguro. if a girl looks for a good man, dapat she exudes the aura of being a good woman as well. law of attraction, IMO.

[chichi143]

wow sis. ang tiyaga mo sa friend mo. i have a friend who is exactly on the same boat.
ako siguro, nagsawa na rin? not that i don't want to be her friend anymore, but she is exhausting talaga. I refrain from talking to her now because she just comes to me to vent out, tell her problems about the guy, tell me na hihiwalayan na niya and that she wants to go out with me to rekindle our friendship , only to find out na sila na ulit nong guy tapos i will be cancelled out.

ganiyan din ang set-up niya. she's obsessed with the guy i believe.
she don't want to get out of the relationship because she thinks no one would love her again. Which is not true. And very wrong. A very destructive mindset i may say.
I tried telling her all this, pero wala talaga. And i gave up on her already.

If i have the chance, I would tell every woman in the world that they should not be treating themselves like that. There's more, we can do more, women are very powerful in my opinion and stronger than men in more aspects of life.

[simang]

^aww sis ganyang ganyan! recently lang when she texted me she wanted to meet me (she's from a nearby province so whenever she's in Manila we make it a point that we meet) she told me may kasama daw syang guy. the last time we talked about her lovelife, break sila ng bf nya so i was expecting this guy she's with is someone new, but lo and behold nung nagkita, he's the same guy na halos isumpa nya. and yes they're back together

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BTT: whatever you think, you attract. yun talaga POV ko dyan haha

[chichi143]

true! ganon din yung kaibigan ko. magulat nalang ako sila na pala ulit.
di ko nga alam if maawa ako or magagalit.

i just let her do what she wants. basta ang iniisip ko nalang, i've done my part.


hayyys.

So true. Totoo talaga ang law of attraction.
What you want to have, you have to be.

[ann08]

^ good for you!

The problem with us girls is that we keep saying that we want a "good man" but we stick to the bad ones. We already know that they're not good for us but we stick around... But yeah, they do exist 

I just remember a movie line with this, his question was Why do nice people choose the wrong people to date?   Becayse we accept the love we think we deserve.