Here's one article for you girls: written by Sabrina Alexis
Everyone has a certain ingrained filter system. This system
is partially due to genetic wiring, but it is largely shaped by
our experiences.
This filter system is often based on our interests, desires,
and our fears. For instance, if you are afraid of rejection, all
you'll pick up on is being rejected. A hundred people can
tell you how great an wonderful you are, but it won't sink in.
All that will stand out to you is the one person who didn't
seem to be interested in you.
If you put ten people in a room and had them listen to a
class and then asked them at the end what the class was
about, you would get ten different answers. The reason is
we hone in on things that appeal to us and serve our
interests in some way. And this varies from one person to
the next.
So how does this effect your relationships?
Well your reality is created in large part by your filter
system. If you believe that men are only going to use you
for sex, you will find a justification for this fear even if it's
far from the case. Once you come to expect the behavior,
you create a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Whether consciously or not, you will start to behave in a
way that encourages men to use you for sex, thus feeding
into your original fear.
If you are afraid your boyfriend will never commit in the
way you want him to, you will ignore all signs of his
commitment and will only focus on the signs that he doesn't
want to commit.
If you believe you're unattractive, you will dismiss everyone
who compliments your appearance and will write it off as
them just being nice. When someone says something that
may imply they don't find you attractive, you'll grab hold of
it and will use it as proof of your original belief.
Here is an interesting experiment to try. Close your eyes
and pick a color. Visualize the color in your mind, picture
items that are that color, see yourself dressed in that color,
think about the emotions that color evokes. Spend about 30
seconds to a minute doing this and then open your eyes,
what's the first thing you saw? I guarantee it will be that
color unless you did this in an all white room.
If we dwell on something, even for under a minute, our mind
becomes programmed to pick it up.
We're all wired to look at the world in subjective ways.
Reality is not objective, it is shaped by both what happens to
us and how we interpret the things that happen to us.
In order to have more success in love and relationships, you
need to adjust your filter system so that you see the good all
around you, you need to be able to appreciate and
acknowledge the goodness that is in you and in your
relationship. If you let your fears run the show, you will set
yourself up for sabotage.
Ayan sana may napick up kayo
Ako kase i believe in law of attraction, whatever we think/feel/see, we invite sa buhay natin.
