How do you know if you are just HANGING OUT/DATING?

[akthung]

i'll assume that you're giving the physical signs that you like him.

now, with all the physical signs that you've shown,

at hindi siya nagrerespond back, meaning by touch too

and not attempting to kiss you...

then its just hanging out.

or ask him straight, if there's no straight answer from him, no physical responses, etc...

ayun sis, he's just hanging out with you. you see his job may be making him busy, but it also alienates him. so maybe justs wants to be friends.

BUT if you haven't been giving out those signals, then you better start to. if he's naive, make it obvious.

kung wala pa, like what i have just said, say it out loud and clear.

[minikeyklush]

i'll assume that you're giving the physical signs that you like him.

now, with all the physical signs that you've shown,

at hindi siya nagrerespond back, meaning by touch too

and not attempting to kiss you...

then its just hanging out.

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@akthung

so you mean pag hindi touchy feel ang isang guy sayo, more or less hanging out lang talaga un or platonic friendship lang gusto nya? hmmmm

[angelique_1523]

haii naku, i think i'll make him confused..naging sweet lang ako..parang naging distant na naman siya,,.eh hindi ko naman napapansin na sweet na pala ko..hindi naman kasi ako sweet siya lang napansin niya..tsaka affected much  siya sa mga quotes na sinesend ko sakanya..para daw mag bf eh sinend ko naman yun sa lahat eh..yung binabalak naming lakad na pagka tagal tagala that makes him excited sana..mukang hindi pa matutuloy. I'm busy and he's busy too..mukang hindi na talaa meant to be na magkita pa kami..for me he;s special parang gusto ko sabihin na me magagawa ba ko kung hindi ako ganun sayo? at ikaw special ka saken?? it make sense di ba..wala siya paki kunbg gusto ko siya at namimiss ko siya..

I'm looking forward pa naman talaga magkita kami and I pray that when I finally see him bigla nalang mawala lahat ng nararamdaman ko fo him..para tapos na..

he jives with the weather right now..he's cold... hindi muna ko paramdam...

[killbill]

he's just not that into you. basahin mo yun sis. save your time/energy decoding him. there's nothing to decode, wag mo nang i-over analyze yang situation mo

[lady gwenhwyfar]

that's true! if he has not made it clear to you na you're exclusively dating each other then you're probably not. you're just hanging out. if a guy truly likes you, he will seal the deal. he will make you his. period.

to sacred cow: man up and formally ask her out.

[glitchy]

haay nakakarelate naman ako sa posts dito! i was recently on a date with a guy, meron na kami contact  ulit after 2 years. we met in 2008, rineto siya sa akin ng friend ko. after that, we went out to dinner. then another date na nanood kami ng movie then dinner. tapos we went to my friend's birthday party in 2010. after nun i lost my cellphone and nung nakita ko lang sya sa YM last week nagka-contact kami ulit.  so parang once a year kami nagddate. haha!

Why I think we're dating:
- libre niya yung movie and late dinner
- siya nagyaya nung last date namin (sabi niya "want to meet up?")
- after ng movie we could've gone home na pero gusto pa niya mag-late dinner (Italianni's)
- hinatid niya ako sa sakayan ng shuttle
- meron beso at the end
- nagtext siya minsan ng good morning the day after we started texting again
- when I passed my State exams, he sent me flowers
- he asked me out on VDay nung we were still starting to text each other

Why I think we're just hanging out:
- di siya madalas magtext, as in ako parati nauuna
- sinabi niya dati na he's not ready to have a gf (back in 2010, napag-usapan lang while the group drinking beer during the party)
- sinabi nya din na default gift ang flower
- he's based in the province kaya I don't think na meron siya balak na magka-gf na taga-Manila  (pero parati sya dito sa Manila na din, dito kasi main office)
- I don't know din if he has a gf pero sabi niya he doesn't go out when he's there in the province, puro work lang siya
- we don't talk about relationship status, dating, future relationship plans
- di naman niya ako nililigawan, if ever, parang getting-to-know you stage pa lang kami



-- sobrang naiinip na nga ako kasi we've known each other for 4 years, pero not that well... parang di naman niya priority ang relationship. nung last week masaya pa ako e pero ngayon na he's back in the province I don't see this going anywhere. chill na lang ako and I'll see what happens.

he's a great guy.I don't know if I want to continue texting him, yoko naman maghabol.    or modern times na so kebs kung sino nagtetext? ganun ba yun?  any advice, girls?

recently din pala i went to his fb, meron ako nakita pic na meron siya kaakbay na girl pero status nya dun "Single".last year pa yung pic. ano kaya yun? haaaaay...

[promil_kid]

Sis, a man worthy of you will secure you. Meaning, if he intends to pursue you, he WILL TELL YOU point blank. If not, then either he's not mature enough, or he's not serious yet, or to put it simply, he may not be God's best for you.

[minikeyklush]

Sis, a man worthy of you will secure you. Meaning, if he intends to pursue you, he WILL TELL YOU point blank. If not, then either he's not mature enough, or he's not serious yet, or to put it simply, he may not be God's best for you.

sis i agree with this if a man likes/loves you kahit gano pa yan katorpe he'll make it happen just one lesson na talagang napatunayan ko recently. If he's not saying anything and he just giving mixed signals towards you, maybe uncertain pa din talaga sya if he really likes you or not

[glitchy]

thanks sisses promil_kid and minikeyklush! i guess i have to face the fact na we're not dating. we dated. hahaha! or, we went out. siguro dating means na regular seeing each other. nakakaloka na puro texting lang ginagawa namin tapos not that often pa.   ohh well. siguro valentines day blues lang ito

[sakura_bloom]

thanks sisses promil_kid and minikeyklush! i guess i have to face the fact na we're not dating. we dated. hahaha! or, we went out. siguro dating means na regular seeing each other. nakakaloka na puro texting lang ginagawa namin tapos not that often pa.   ohh well. siguro valentines day blues lang ito

^hahaha! Natawa ako dito sa comment sis. We (singles) all suffer from Valentines blues. Let's just be positive and try to not let a single day in the entire year ruin our lives/perspectives on things. I wish you the best of luck sis, may it be on Valentines or not.

[glitchy]

^hehe! thanks sis! pag mid-feb. kasi napapaisip mga singles ng mga status nila sa kanilang lovelife!    haaay, buhay! hanging out pala.

[Girltalker2]

Tanong ko lang why does it matter if you are just hanging out or dating?  Pag hanging out ba ibig sabihin friends lang kayo?  If that is the case, ok lang siguro ito at the start since he would like to get to know you and same in your case, hindi ba? Pag dating naman, hindi ba puede din maging friends or obvious na may intentions or may gusto ang guy sa iyo?  Kaya girls would prefer to "date" guys they like?  Ganun ba?  Ibig sabihin dating involves some level of likeness for each other?

Sometimes you "hangout" nga with your bf, at times, pag wala kang bf you "date" men you want to get to know.

-- sobrang naiinip na nga ako kasi we've known each other for 4 years, pero not that well... parang di naman niya priority ang relationship. nung last week masaya pa ako e pero ngayon na he's back in the province I don't see this going anywhere. chill na lang ako and I'll see what happens.

he's a great guy.I don't know if I want to continue texting him, yoko naman maghabol.    or modern times na so kebs kung sino nagtetext? ganun ba yun?  any advice, girls?

recently din pala i went to his fb, meron ako nakita pic na meron siya kaakbay na girl pero status nya dun "Single".last year pa yung pic. ano kaya yun? haaaaay...

Sis, kumusta na. It's been quite a while since you posted.

This is the problem when you see only one guy. You will have a tendency to fall for him.  Oo, gusto mo sya that's why you see him.  You do not want to see others.  Ang problem eh yung attention mo sa kanya lang naka focus. 

Kung hindi nya priority ang relationship, let it be.  Ganun eh. Maghanap ka nalang ng iba.

About texting, ok lang naman siguro to text para mangumusta. Pero not the type na araw araw.    Siguro once in a while, like how you text your friends (not close friends). 

Totoo, kung crush mo or gusto mo ang isang guy, nakaka paranoid at di mo alam kung may gf na ba especially kung limited sya magshare sa iyo ng info. Oh well, best parin talaga to date other guys. Kasi sa start you might not like to see other guys kasi nga you like this particular guy. But believe me, once you get to know other guys, yung personality ang magugustuhan mo din.  And some of them are nice to hang out with. This way, ma-split ang attention mo at di nalang naka focus to someone who is manhid or who does not seem to deserve it.

[rheinfall18]

i think hanging out with someone is just plainly spending good times with a good friend. no emotional attachment. while dating is you know both na may pupuntahan ang ginagawa nyong knowing each other period. to good one or not. ^^

[Serena.]

There is a big difference between hanging out and dating. Hang out lang can be the two of you with some of your barkada, tapos its not all bout the two of you. Date kasi is yung talagang isset nyo kung saan at kelan. Basta mas pinaghahandaan.


xo

[so_bootylicious]

- he's based in the province kaya I don't think na meron siya balak na magka-gf na taga-Manila  (pero parati sya dito sa Manila na din, dito kasi main office)
- I don't know din if he has a gf pero sabi niya he doesn't go out when he's there in the province, puro work lang siya

-- sobrang naiinip na nga ako kasi we've known each other for 4 years, pero not that well... parang di naman niya priority ang relationship. nung last week masaya pa ako e pero ngayon na he's back in the province I don't see this going anywhere. chill na lang ako and I'll see what happens.

he's a great guy.I don't know if I want to continue texting him, yoko naman maghabol.    or modern times na so kebs kung sino nagtetext? ganun ba yun?  any advice, girls?

recently din pala i went to his fb, meron ako nakita pic na meron siya kaakbay na girl pero status nya dun "Single".last year pa yung pic. ano kaya yun? haaaaay...

So sis kamusta ka na nga? We're in the same situation, sa province din naka-base yung guy that I'm "dating" or "hanging out with," not sure. I just met him recently, like 2 months ago. First time we hang out is with his cousins (2 months ago) then we he came back to manila last week, we met up again twice. One week lang kasi sya dito and ang purpose ng visit niya sa manila is business. The difference between yours and my situation is that he told me na he likes me and di lang daw sya makaporma agad because of what happened last time that we went out with his cousins. I just don't know where this is going. So chill lang.

Never akong nauunang magtext sa kanya except nung kakakilala ko pa lang sa kanila (nakilala ko kasi silang magpipinsan all at once) pero a few times lang, kamustahan ganun.

Not sure din kung may gf sya sa province though he told me na wala siyang gf  pero sino yung kasama nyang girl sa profile pic nya sa facebook?

He seems to be a great guy.  Pero sabi nga ni...

This is the problem when you see only one guy. You will have a tendency to fall for him.  Oo, gusto mo sya that's why you see him.  You do not want to see others.  Ang problem eh yung attention mo sa kanya lang naka focus. 

About texting, ok lang naman siguro to text para mangumusta. Pero not the type na araw araw.    Siguro once in a while, like how you text your friends (not close friends). 

But believe me, once you get to know other guys, yung personality ang magugustuhan mo din.  And some of them are nice to hang out with. This way, ma-split ang attention mo at di nalang naka focus to someone who is manhid or who does not seem to deserve it.

Di ako nakafocus sa kanya lang. Mababaliw ako pag ganun. Been there, done that. I date other men. This promdi guy and me are in the getting-to-know-each-other stage. I just keep myself busy para di ko sya maisip parati. Pero confused parin ako sa status namin. Dating or hanging out?

[phoebe1811]

Based sa mga posts dito im doing both?! For me ok lang to hang out pero pag meron ng something intimate haay dun na nalilito yung isip mo..parang ano ba talaga? No gray answer please nakakapraning hehe in a way na lang. Well enjoy it while it lasts baka me expiration date 

[Kriman]

pakipot effect kasi minsan

[blackgreen]

Based sa mga posts dito parang feeling ko hanging out lang kami. Wala pa naman kasi siya sinasabi na may gusto siya sa akin or something to that effect. Ganito kasi story namin, he's my officemate and was introduced by my friend. Since she introduced us, he started inviting me for coffee after office hours. Then last week he invited me for dinner and to play bowling, so feeling ko hangin out lang, then before kami umuwi nung nag bowling, he invited me for movie after office which nacancel kasi dahil suspended ang office namin so reschedule this weekend naman.

If we're just hanging out, do I need to offer magshare ng expenses? Starting from coffee, siya talaga nagbabayad lahat. First time ko kasi yun ganitong experience, yun ex-bf ko kasi dati nagsstart kami na they have this intention na maging gf ako.

[minikeyklush]

gusto ko ulet makuha ang POV's ng mga Gtalkers here regarding the difference of HANGING OUT and DATING since its been a while na may nagpost/share dito sa thread na to.

So sisses/bros post it away and appreciate your insights/opinion bout this

[sweet.hann]

for me.. HANGING OUT.. with my bestfriend na kahit na lahat ng tao nag-a-assume na may something more than friendship meron samen, kahit na dalawa lang kami, its just hanging out.. bonding.. without any romantic attraction..

not unless, you both agreed na date yun.. ROMANTIC DATING..

kasi ako, nung lumalabas ako with a certain guy na kami lang dalawa, malinaw samin pareho na date yun.. may isa namang instance na "i-date mo naman ako" sabi ko sa isang guyfriend ko.. date yung term na ginamit pero hanging out lang yun.. kasi there's nothing romantic between us naman eh..

yun yung POV ko..