How do you know if you are just HANGING OUT/DATING?

[shopaholic18]

^goodluck to the both of us. if its meant to be then so be it. basta alalay lang kasi mahirap maging brokenhearted.

[angelique_1523]

hahah sis alam mo sis shoppaholic18 ganyan din kami nag start sa forum ko pa nga siya na meet he message me and then yun sa fb na nagkakitaan ng pics after 2months of texting and chatting..nagkita na kami then nasundan pa..ambilis ko din naging comfortable sakanya..una ko palang nakita kahit sa pic tapos tinatawagan din naman niya ako ..haha kaya nung nagkitakami ako pa na messed up kasi nahihiya talaga ko..tapos nagkaron na kami ng mga nicknames sa isat isa..dear, sweethear,sweetie,menick din ako na para sakanyal ang ahaha..masaya naman kami magkatxt magkachat..hanngang sa ayan kasalanan ko kai na aatched ako..dali niyakasi pakisamahan haha..tsaka yungrespect, comfortability, nakuhako naman.kasalanan ko lang ako nagpabago sa lahat..and now i can't move on ...mag 2mos na kami di nguusap, nagttxt ..i even asked him to have a closure haha..para kasing naging kami..pero hindi..ang gara!! actually kinclose ko na sa fb chat pero parang need ko pa siya makita! kaya i'm still thinking..gusto din naman niyamagkita kaso he didn't initiate kasi sa respeto niya saken..sa closure nayun walana ko ineexpect..wala na! bahala na..parang considered as last date na din yun.d ako pumayag na maging friends pakami kasi saken i never treated him that way..   hindi talaga sakenmadalimaka move-on ee..damay damay pa siya haha!! hindi ako naghahabol kapal niya! gusto kolang panagutan sinabi ko na closure..lame excuse niyayungpag alisko eh matagal pa naman yun eh..tsaka dkami compatible. talaga bang hindipwede maging masaya ang hindi compatible?? na handle ko naman siya at ganun din siya saken. I asked him din naman nung nagfirst date kami..[textspeak!] ba ginawa namin?? ang sabi niya date yun..sana sinabi  niya friendly date ..kaso date lang magkaiba yun!

well...lesson learned naman kaso i started to hate this jerk! pero istill want to see him..ang gara!hindi ko alam bakit ang strong ng emotion ko forthis jerk..sabi nga nila love is unexplainable..love na ba talaga toh? haha

Was this all hanging out?? or dating?? anyone please explain..

[shopaholic18]

^sis you try not to fall so hard, but then di ganun kadali yun but then that's the only way to do that. mahirap kasi ma fall if you're not sure about that persons feelings kaya i told him na we should meet first before moving on to the next level, ok na kami sa ganito, mutual feelings and the exclusivity of our relationship hanggang dun nalang muna kaya ko.

[angelique_1523]

^ gusto ko pa siya makita sis kaso ang nasabi ko na sakanya im moving on and ayaw ko na siya makita... nahihirapan ako kasi tumagal ng 5mos na wala lang...haiz..ang sakitttt!!!!!!!!!!! gusto ko na nga siya delete sa fb and ym..nakakairitang makita lang pero di ko naman magawa

parang i need to see himfor the last time pa me closure pa kasi kami....after siguro nun magiging ok na lahat ..

lesson learned na sis..nextime d na magiging ganito..I will pray harder kasi ang sakit talaga !

[shopaholic18]

^sis think of it this way, things didn't work out for the two of you just because you two aren't meant to be, kaya nga take it easy, who knows if na let go mo na siya mameet mo na talaga yung right person for you, take chances and explore, he's not the only guy naman siguro, you just have to accept the fact muna, tendency kasi nating mga girls madali ma fall eh, yun ang mahirap but having exeperienced breakups and all we become more mature and wiser the second time around, have faith sis, everything happens for a reason and you should never close your doors to love.

[trisha]

same here, kung twice na kami nag watch ng sine at nag hoding hands, kami na? confused din ako, hehe, yung love you nya kase sa letter and text lang e, di ko maintindihan

[pistachio nuts]

hmm.. interesting.. been there, and i popped the question..
he's enjoying it, but he can't commit himself for some reason.
-mahirap pag nag-fall ka.

[iam_ria]

OT--

sis angelique_1523, taga GT ba yan?

[yancy]

hayy i'm on the same situation, also waiting for the million dollar question. i'm happy with the kilig he's giving me, but i'm keeping my expectations low & discreet. if he really likes me, i'm sure he knows exactly what to do. 4 now we are enjoy our time together, anyway siya nman ang laging taya at nag aadjust ng time pra sa akin so the benefit is all mine.. i'm taking advantage of the situation, not the other way around.. simply because i'm the GIRL 

[angelique_1523]

Mga sis ako din its kinda complicated haha..i dnt know and i can't feel it..mahilig siya mag joke and actually bumalik ako sakanya kasi bsta me mali din ako..so far its getting better pero ganun pa din cia hindi pa din nia ako naaalala palagi..sa pagttx ako nauuna pero ang way ko ngsesend ako ng quote to evryone especially to him. sabi ko ga sa friends ko isa lang gusto ko itxt pero damay kaung lht sa phonebook ko hhaha kasi in that way ngrereply cia or ayun dun ngsstart..Right now im happy na maayos na kami..tumatawag din cia pero ngpapaalam muna kung pede,,ang weird lang..i eve cracked a joke na my heart went to his..then where is his heart? siguro ganto nalang muna since i cannot commit yet pa din and ayun gusto ko man mg stick to one sa kanya lang. hindi na din kasi para din d ako ma aatached muli na nsaktan ako hehe..he's working na kasi an im still a student hehe..he knows my plan and part of it is leaving the counrty for abroad opportunities kaya siguro he's not certain or even make a move. parang katulad ni The is TS maybe he is really nice lang [textspeak!]...ako mabait na ko..haha..i learned a lot and chang for the better.if i miss him i tell hime i miss you...and gagayahin nia miss din kita haha..yung like ko [textspeak!] kasi sakanya is mabaabw lang naman i just like hes company [textspeak!].. hes srtaight to the point din pero ayoko mg ask at baka d ko mgustuhan sagot hahaha..tsaka na..bsta enjoy lang muna..appreciate and never expect kahit mahirap gawin..

folowing na npag uusapan, at gingawa

- hanging out
- he likes to ask more abut me..as in samin dalawa lang umiikot usapan haha
- he always tease me...aayy grabehh mga tanong niya asar ee...
- sabay kami matulog usapan [textspeak!] un..pero hindi [textspeak!] tabi
- he ask me if i ant to hug him haha..
-me pag ka naughty din siya...keri lang..
- he respects me..yan ang pinaka nakuha ko..
- he [textspeak!] me, call me and chat
- soon, we will go to a gimik together with my friends..sana matuloy haha! I invited him and he accept the invitation parang mas excited pa siya saken hahahah

to TS, tama ang mga suggestion and advuces ng mga sisses gustohin mo man mg stick sa kanya, wag kasi d pa siya sigurado sato so iakw din..go with the flow lang..and be yourself tignan mo konti konti mag oopen up yan haha

[angelique_1523]

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sis angelique_1523, taga GT ba yan?

grabehh sis nkwento ko na pla siya dito wahaha...huh? tga GT na lalake?? nope po ee..haha

yung before dito sa reply ko the same guy pa din pero mas natutunan ko mag go with the flow na lang muna..since i cant commit pa nga..and im open sa iba..walang talab naman sakanya kahit malaman niya me kadate ko or wala..manunukso pa nga yihee me ka date. ganun siya..hehe! bsta masaya ko kasi ok na kami..i don't need to know my stand..alam ko lalabas din yan in the right time and infact he's really nice kaya i can't lose that kind of person with a great humor pa naman gusto ko haha! )

[kutingkulilit]

advice ko lang sa mga girls na nasa ganitong situation, never assume. you can observe, pero never ever assume. kahit ano pang red flag signs ang makita nyo from a person, hanggat wala shang sinasabi  kung ano ba talaga ang totoong intentions nya, avoid creating scenarios and stuff in your head. kasi once na nabuild mo na sa isip mo na it's like this and that, pag hindi pala. ouch.

i'm saying enjoy lang the moment. get close enough to have fun, but don't get attached too easily enough to get hurt. know the person well, build a friendship as a foundation. i know hindi madali (been there, done that) pero mind over matter lang talaga.

as for the thread starter, the only way to know lang talaga is to ask him. ikaw na ang makakaalam ng tamang approach, paminsan kasi depende sa tao yan. you've known him naman na for quite a while, lam mo na siguro pano sha tatanungin in a way na it won't scare him away. yan lang makakapag-end ng dilemma mo. 6 mos mejo matagal na din ha.

good luck sis 

[angelique_1523]

^ sis tama ka dyang hanngat walang sinasabi..haha! ganun nga ginagawa ko keen observer kasi ako so silent lang ako pero madami na ko nun napapansin haha! sabi nga niya before mind game girl daw ako...hehe..i change for the better to build a foundation with him. wala na din naman siguro regrets kasi wala naman nawawala saken ee..ngbbgay naman siya ng time saken so quits lang kami di ba. yun nga lang kahit gusto kong di ako stick to one sakanya haha..parang ganun di ko napapnsin na yung ibang lumalapit saken hehe..

never assume
never expect
just go with the flow and never ever attached yourself..
lesson learned na ko..
happy happy lang

[kutingkulilit]

^usual yan sa mga girls, once na may nagustuhan na, hard for us to keep our options open. eh dapat hindi ganun di ba? hehe... hangga't hindi pa attached, or wala pang talks of exclusivity, dapat naeenjoy parin natin ang company ng mga boylet ahehe pero well. 

[angelique_1523]

^ babae lang kasi ako...hehe usually naman ganun mga girls ee...so kahit papano normal ako wahahah! haii naku basta ang saya saya ko lang...

He is my inspiration yet we don't have relation he just makes me happy and I make him laugh hahaha..natatawa saken yun ee.. We get along naman..iniiwasan ko nang mag clash kami ulit, mag isip ng nega sa kanya kahit sa kanya nega palagi agad ee..ma joke nga kasi..i learned a lot..[textspeak!] preparatory na to para pag real deal na dba hehe..

[shelby]

A man who treats you specially nice compared to others means he is very interested in you.  Reasons he might not want to move to the next level is because 1) He likes where he is now and is afraid to compromise it. 2) He is a closet gay. 3) He is waiting for you to make the move. 4) He is a masochist and likes the emotional pain of having you and not having you at the same time.

It is very rare for a man to have a very close female friend without any sexual relationship involve unless she is his mother.  IMHO.

[abuanddiego]

It is very rare for a man to have a very close female friend without any sexual relationship involve unless she is his mother.  IMHO.

Hmmmmm...is this really true? What if a man acts so nicely and really sweet, spends most of his free time with you, always say he misses you, and gets really interested and reacts negatively with the guys you talk about, but tells that he is only after friendship and nothing else when you ask about your place in his life, can we just consider that as a jerk?

[shelby]

Hmmmmm...is this really true? What if a man acts so nicely and really sweet, spends most of his free time with you, always say he misses you, and gets really interested and reacts negatively with the guys you talk about, but tells that he is only after friendship and nothing else when you ask about your place in his life, can we just consider that as a jerk?

Well having him around is not going to help you get the attention of other men.  Try to distance yourself from him and see if he changes his mind about wanting to just be friends.  It seems unfair that he is keeping you away from finding someone who can give more than that.

[angelique_1523]

maybe after we see each other again dun na malaaman haha..!! Appreciate nalang muna hat we have sharing diba..as long as walang nawawala naman. haii naku hahayaan nalang munang ganito [textspeak!] naman mag next level ng hindi pa dapat. alam kong alam niya ang gagawin nasabi na din niya saken yun na if ever me magugustuhan siya sasabihin niya talaga haha...tuturuan ko muna siyang gustohin ako wahahaah!!

Grabe wala lang talagang time ako ee. tsaka mahira pa saken..tsaka na talaga pag tapos na ko He is worth keeping naman s ok lang..foundation muna ng friendship haha

[abuanddiego]

shelby... Hmmmmm I'm not seeking for any man's attention naman, all I want is honesty and not mind games. We did distance ourselves from one another, but due to some reasons, we would end up talking again. I said I would go when he told me that he thinks of me only as a friend, but he asked me to stay, but I've always said I can't and it's best if I just go. At first he would do stuffs to make me stay, he would always say he won't let me go coz I'm so special and I'm the best girl, that made me stay coz I thought he was sincere, but when I asked again about what he thinks of me, he would always say that he only wants me as a friend. It's been so long since we're going through that cycle, but I just cant give all my heart to someone who doesn't feel the same way, fortunately, that guy is out from my life now