Cheap Men

[junetwentythree]

To be quite frank I think you're asking too much from a guy that you're just dating. He's not at all cheap. You incited all these responses from other posters here without even telling the whole story upfront (that this is in fact your THIRD date). It seems as though you just want people to agree with you that he's cheap... some kind of reassurance to yourself that you're not being trivial for thinking so.

I grew up in the U.S., in the San Francisco Bay Area in fact and if you ask me, I don't think your date was out of line at all. He picked up the tab twice before and had thought that it would perhaps be okay if you picked up the third one. The problem with so many women these days is the whole "I'm a woman, hear me roar" crap then they turn around and depend on a man to woo them by having them pay for meals. MEN OWE WOMEN NOTHING (and vice versa). If you want to date someone, invest. That's the way it goes around these parts.

[shopaholic18]

actually i haven't dated a guy whose like that yet i would want to take tabs dun sa ex ko but then he didn't allow me so bumabawi nalang ako sa gifts. nakakahiya din naman kasi sa guys. pero grabe naman siguro kung cheap na yung term dun agad, isguro kuripot or wala lang talagang pera kaya gusto maghati pero kung papabayarin ka niya for all naku ha.

[aquacharly]

LOL, here I was... thinking all men are cheap.  Kasi hindi ba, all if not most men at some point in their lives .. go for cheap thrills?  as in basta f*ck around, or itch where it itches whenever,wherever, with whoever... hehe

[appleberrycream]

I had a hard time digesting whether all the arguments here about cheap guys are valid. It's really nice to have a guy who can support you all the way but the thing is mahirap talaga ang buhay dito sa pilipinas. Your guy maybe well-off but not all rich guys out there are generous. Mayaman ang parents but not them hehe! My bf and i, we're together for 6 years already and we split the bill everytime we go out. Imagine kung magddate kayo say dinner and movie then coffee afterwards, may kamahalan din. Nahihiya akong sya lang pagastusin then everytime aalis kami laging sya syempre mabigat din sa guy yun. You have to consider, how many days in a week kayong lumalabas? Saan kayo nag mmalling or out of town, san kyo kumakain? Try nyo umupo at magcompute malulula kyo sa gastos. Sakin okay lang mag-share ka pero wag naman yung ikaw na yung gagawing sugar mommy mali naman yun. For me, mali yung lagi kang nililibre ng guy and vice versa. I don't know parang di sya healthy sa relationship. For me sharing with him means i can produce my own money with or without him. Naaawa naman din kase ako sa mga guys na parang gold digger na yung dating ng mga gf nila kase laging si palibre at bilmoko girl. Iba pa rin kase yung dating ng independent, strong, career woman nowadays 

[ana mimi]

Yup, iba pa rin naman kase yung strong and independent woman. Ok naman mag split ng bill kung kayo na, nag problem is kapag nasa DATING stage palang kayo, yung tipong 1st date nyo palang at sya pa yung may gana magyaya.. SUPER T.O

[meandmyhoney]

love this thread.

i think after ligawan stage , pwede na split. kasi now, sharing na kami. kapag ako nag aya sagot ko, ganito lang kc set up namin.

SPA sagot ko
Food sa knya or vice versa. gnyan lang mundo nmin, hehee

[poshgal24]

Im actually surprised na may mga guys pala na idedate ka tapos di pala willing gumastos -- nalaman ko lang to recently dahil yung ibang single friends ko nirereklamo din to. Matagal na kasi akong wala sa dating world dahil long term BF ko asawa ko pero dati naman miski barkada ko na guys nanlilibre talaga at never nila inaallow ang girl na magbayad. Bagong uso na ba ito?

Naaala ko pa yung mga barkada ko miski outing namin sa Palawan, sagot ng guys lahat ng girls miski di nila GF. As in wala kami dapat gawin kundi sumama at manggulo sa beach! Hehe Nung pinipilit namin bayaran yung plane fare man lang sabi nung isang guy friend namin--- "girls will never pay pag kami kasama"

O di ba? Napakagentleman. No wonder una yun nagasawa sa ming lahat hehe 

Yung asawa ko naman nung nanliligaw pa lang sha, sagot nya lagi lahat pag may lakad eh ang dami kong friends so nung naging kami na iniiwasan ko na madalas na magsama ng maraming friends kasi naaawa ako sa kanya dahil di talaga sha pumapayag na pagbayarin mga GFs ko eh shempre ayoko naman ng ganun dahil we have to prepare din for our future di ba. So ayun...

Naku naman, ano bang klaseng mga lalaki yan na di pa man din kayo eh cheapskate na-- pano pa kaya kung kayo na? Para sa ken ha, kung wala kang kakayahan na suyuin at i-treat ang isang girl na parang prinsesa, wag ka na lang manligaw and spare the women all the agony.

[ReservoirDogs]

Hmm, interesting topic.  I don't expect a guy to spend on me each date.  Siguro sa first or second date, sya muna kasi sya nanunuyo, pero after that I'll offer to split the bill na.  Kuripot din kasi ako.  Pero may limit din naman siguro yung pagiging kuripot.  For example, yung ex ko, nasanay kasi na ok lang na hindi sya gumagastos, so ang gift nya sa akin nung birthday ko was a keychain.    Ang sweet di ba, lol.  Kung ao-ano binibili nyang equipment for his drums pero ang nakayang ibigay sa akin was keychain. 

[miss resilient]

...ladies, have you ever dated a man who is cheap?

for me, men who are cheap usually are a big turn off.

like those who expect to split the bill, he pays for one date, you pay for the other...

have you ever dated one of these?  and when dating, should a man expect a lady to pay?

 

if he was a real gentleman, he wouldnt expect a lady to pay.

sana umpisa pa lang nag usap na kayo about it. hindi naman lahat ng guys gentleman. someone asked me to go out for a date and told me that dutch treat daw ang date namin. sabi ko "ay naku hindi ako nakikipag date kung hindi rin lang sagot ng guy yung expenses.."ano bale? except na lang kung friend ko siya na matagal ko nang kilala baka ilibre ko pa siya.

[sonncza]

nakakatawa naman dito,

ex bf ko nung college talagang makapal ang mukha, nakakainis freeloader talaga, nagreunion kameng barkada, sakto sa barkada namen 2 ex ko, nakakainis! nagsplit kame ng bill kasi nagbayad ng toll  yung ex kong isa , then food yung friend kong balikbayan, so alam ko ugali ni ex kong freeloader kaya naniningil ako ng share nila sa lahat, etong si ex freeloader pinakalate magabot ng pera, bill namen tig 200 sa ex galante , 200 din sa friend kong balikbayan, so ako nagabot nako 400. si ex kong galante bigla sinabi wag na daw sya bayadan, so yung tao nagcocollect ng pera may hawak na 400 pesos ko, then naniningil na sya sa buong barkada, tig 200, si ex na freeloader pinakahuli maglalabas ng pera, eh di syempre pagdating sa kanya kumpleto na yung collection kasi nagbayad ako 400, di man sya nagpaka honest para sabihin di pa sya bayad, ang kapal talaga, ako pa nagbayad nung share nya! kainis! to think young professionals na kame ha! mga engr at accountants na mga kasama ko

may karma naman sya! mas malala nung going out kame, sobrang cheap nya! nakakadiri! eto pa, as in never sya nagoffer magbayad! as in never!!!!!!!!!!! bwisit sya! ako nga mom ko housewife lang, ang mommy nya that time nasa states.  nakalaptop sya (imagine laptop nun napakamahal pa ) ako di pa ako nakakahawak ng laptop nung mga panahon na yun, imagine ang fone ko noon 5110, sya yung may games na! ang kapal kapal talaga nung tao na yun! hanggang ngayon di ko maimagine nagging kame!

[pinkk]

My early 20s gave me so much amusing memories of guys I met. Im thinking of putting up a blog, contemplating how to make it subtle in a way that some dudes wont feel offended.

[Marquita]

tawang tawa ako kakabasa ng mga sagot dito.. hahaha
anyway, i have a bf i think it's been 2 years and from the start till present he always foots the bill.

kumbaga ako sagot ko lang pag walang barya or pag tipong magiiwan ng tip or bibili ng somethign extra.

well kas i naman 33 na siya and 21 lang ako. hehe so medyo poorita pa ako. expecially nung wala pa work. haha

[Marquita]

My early 20s gave me so much amusing memories of guys I met. Im thinking of putting up a blog, contemplating how to make it subtle in a way that some dudes wont feel offended.

actually i even thought of writing a book yung mala sophie kinsella
or that book about no boyfriend since birth yung tema ng pagsulat.

haha never namang natapos. but it was all about the guys i met. pretty weird stories.

[meisaia]

walang kaso sakin manlibre kung boyfriend ko na. pero kung hindi pa, excuse me ah. ikaw nagyaya tapos ako gagastos? ayos ka rin ah.

[shopaholic18]

^tama sis, kung sino nag aya siya magbayad. 

[iheartkulot]

whahahahaha! naexperience ko to five years ago. sinet up ako ng friend ko for a coffee date sa friend din nya. so pagdating ko dun, i was expecting he'd pay for my coffee. siguro kasi, sa experience ganun naman lagi. pero ang lolo mo, nauna umorder and didn't even asked kung ano gusto ko. magkasunod kami sa pila ha. siya pa talaga nauna.

nakakaloka lang. never ko na siya nakita after that.

[chicgurl]

good things I have not experienced this yet. I believe first date talaga dapat men ang nagbabayad noh.. neknek nila haha sa mga naging BF ko nung nililigawan pa lang ako never talaga ako naglabas ng pera noh during dates, pero nag ooffer naman ako tapos sila na yung tumatanggi. yung recent ex ko never din ako pinagbabayad nun knowing mas malaki pa sahod ko sa kanya but since ganon nga i often offer to split the bill or ako na sasagot never naman nagkaron ng issue. then when i went for a date this year wala pa naman akong naencounter na cheapo hehe mga galante nga e; meron akong date 1st date namin ang bill was around 27k php! omg nagulat talaga ako.. fancy resto naman kasi talaga nagulat ako sa bill talaga nagalit pa siya kasi nakita ko yung bill. btw he's a kiwi; maski naman yung filipino guy na na date ko galante din di rin ako pinagbabayad. feeling ko pag nasa stage pa lang na they're pursuing you dapat ganon and then pag kayo na you can always share the bill.

[whitelady17]

for me first 2 dates dapat sa guys talaga, kasi dapat naman pinaghandaan nila ang date kasi sila ang nag invite, effort na ng ladies na mag ayos at mag isip ng isusuot diba tapos all of the sudden pati bills. For the succeeding shared bills na. Kami ni bf we love traveling ako maghahanap ng good deals na accommodation, sagot na niya ang airfare then shared sa pocket money and expenses. Pinag uusapan talaga namin ng maige ang diskarte namin in terms of financial matters. Kasi alam ko rin naman kung saan naka allot ang budget ng paycheck niya, kaya monitored rin kami sa expenses namin.

Meron palang one time, classmate ko noong highschool nirereto sa akin ng kapatid ng friend ko, ang mokong mag t text at nagpa pasa load, wa super tablado sa akin 6feet under ang turn off, ayun hindi maka porma sa akin.

[pleasureshop]

cheap... no money at all.. walang job.. tamad

[IronLady]

kung date lang at sya pa ang nag-aya dapat sya magbayad! di pa naman kayo noh. syempre ibang usapan pag bf mo na sya. masyado naman sya comfortable sayo e dating stage pa lang kayo. pero buti na rin yung alam mo na ngayon palang. ako i never dated a guy like that pa naman. but i do offer to pay talaga. why? kasi baka di ko sya magustuhan, ayoko magkautang na loob pa sa kanya pag nalibre nya ko! haha! mejo ma-ego din e noh..