If for some this is not a big deal, I don't understand why is this for me, if there's a pill I could take to renew my mind not to desire it. In short , this result to me - not do not like seeing wedding pics or wedding news I am feeling a deep and unexplained sadness like I want to passed out sometimes and find myself crying out of depression. Does anyone experience this?
I think sis, this is a "want" on your part, and not a need. Pero naiintindihan ko, and I partly agree with you, 99% of the women out there dreams of walking down the aisle made up and all.
When you got married, did you not think that it was important to you? Kasi for me, it was a consideration. While my BF then proposed to me 3x, nung unang 2x eh di papasa kasi wala pa kaming ipon. Kasi I knew I wanted a wedding. I knew kung hindi kami ikasal sa church, baka hindi nanga ever makakasal sa church.
Pero sis, bottomline is ang mahalaga ang pagsasama ninyo. Mas mahalaga ito kesa sa wedding. Kung masaya ka na ngayon sa hubby mo, do not ever let this feeling get into the way. Ikaw gumawa ng paraan. Hindi naman purkit wedding eh yung lalaki lahat gagastos. Puede mo rin naman pag ipunan. Tsaka ano ba gusto mong wedding, maraming tao din nakapaligid sa inyo? Kasi sometimes there are just other things you can do to compensate for this. For example, you can go to a resort at dun kayo mag organize ng wedding. Resorts do offer this (Phuket, Bali, Elnido, Krabi, etc). As in kayo kayo lang. Mga resort attendants ang witness ninyo. Tapos direcho honeymoon if you like
Kapag kasama kids, puedeng family bonding. I frequent resorts kasi, nakikita ko iyan sa mga di pa nakasal sa church or sometimes may iba addict lang sa wedding hehe. I met a couple na ugali daw nila magpakasal sa bawat country they have been to haha. Kasi they really enjoy the resort, the company, the romance, kaya lagi sila nagpapakasal.
Noong araw, may RTW for wedding gowns, I used to go there nung nag iisip palang ako ng style ng gown ko for my wedding. Hala, half day to 1 whole day ata ako dun since I tried as many gowns as I can. I am not sure kung meron pa ngayon nito, I supposed meron pa? Another idea, puede din naman kayo mag photo op ni hubby. Plan it for your wedding anniv. Hair and make up ka, magrent kayo ng gowns then magpapicture to sawa sa studio.
Napangakuan ni hubby ng plans nya twice but forgets it, now it's not his priority or "Im not his priority" but our kids expensive education and buying a new expensive car. His hard working and family man (this should be another topic like tampo k hubby noh hehe).
Oh well. Guess what. Ako bongga ang church wedding. Pero hindi naman naglast ang marriage. So balewala din naman. I would rather not have a church wedding but a happy marriage. alam mo yun, sometimes we have a tendency to look for something na wala.
Naalala ko din hubby ko nagpromise sakin ng diamond ring na napako sa wala. Kasi our wedding ring studded na sya so we thought yun na muna. Sabi ko kahit wala naman engagement ring, ok na sakin yung studded as engagement ring, kahit hindi na yung solitaire. Sabi nya, he wants daw to buy me one. Hanggang sa kinasal na kami and all, nag antay lang ako, pero wala. So ang ginawa ko, I eventually saved and bought myself one. hehe Kung ayaw nya, huwag pilitin. Pero with my solitaire now, I am glad I bought one. Kasi our marriage ended din naman. So kung sakali binili nyako, then kelangan ko pa isoli sa kanya haha.
married for 4 years now, civil wedding lang din..why? my hubby wanted us to get married asap right after our exam (5 months bf-gf pa lang kami that time), so we didn't have time to prepare for a church wedding, AND, dahil kaka-take pa lang namin ng exam at jobless pa, wala pa kami budget for that gusto namin magpakasal para madala nya ako dito sa cebu, sabi namin, to follow na lang church wedding namin..pero nag-iiba nga ang priorities pag may kids na..he's been working for 4 years now, at inuna namin na makapag-ipon for our own house and lot..modesty aside, kahit ongoing ang construction ng house ngayon, kung gugustuhin namin, pwede na kami magpa-church wedding dahil keri na ng budget pero ewan ko ba, parang mas gusto kong gastusan na lang ang 2 kids namin..siguro, sa 10th year na lang namin
Sis, ganyan na ganyan din kami dati. fresh out from college, gusto na magpakasal ng hubby ko. and I said NO. Kasi nga importante ang wedding for me. Kaso at the end of the day, kahit pa walang church wedding, ang importante ang pagsasama ninyo. And sometimes nasa sa iyo narin siguro.
For me naman now, since me and my ex separated ways, hindi nako nangangarap magchurch wedding. Feeling ko been there, done that. If ever I plan to settle down again, hindi na importante ang church wedding, mas importante talaga ang pagsasama namin.
ajcruz I think it is normal to feel that way. Parang debut lang yan na you want it because you are valuing yourself as a woman with pride
Iba sis, at least IMO. Iba ang debut. Debut 50% of women can live without. A wedding? 99% cannot live without.
Dati na namin napagplanuhan na Church kami na parang civil then ang gastos sa honeymoon. But of course due to budget wala nang honeymoon.
This is the one I regretted. We did not have a honeymoon kasi sabi nga namin malaki na nagastos namin sa church wedding. Pero if I am to do it over again. I'd rather have a honeymoon kesa sa church wedding. Taon taon na honeymoon is much much better than a one time church wedding.
For now magulo lang talaga isip ko if I want this or not anymore. Sometimes gusto ko pa pero after 10 years pero at times parang ayoko na nga not because of the budget pero I hate the fact na ginagawang bragging purposes ang kasal tapos nagiging issue pa. Gusto ko pa nga minsan kapag nag church wedding ako as in Church lang pero walang reception Kasi as if naman yung iba yung kasal mo mismo ang inaabangan nila pero siempre reception lang rin habol nila.
Ito sinasabi ko. Once na ikasal ka, ano ba gusto mo, makasuot lang ng gown and pics di ba? hindi na yung handa di ba? Kaya ko nasuggest kay sis ajcruz na baka mas mainam iplan nalang nila ang pictorial and all, without the reception.
