Marriage problems/issues/ complaints etc. pasok dito...

[Shadow Angel]

^^Kaya mas gusto ko maghiwalay na lang once na nagcheat ang asawa ko alam ko sa sarili kahit ilang panahon pa ang lumipas hindi ko makakalimutan at hindi ko gugustuhin na lalong maging miserable ang buhay namin 2. Katulad nyan sabi mo pinatawad ka na nya pero ano kayo ngayon?

[Girltalker2]

@drinveilside
Something is off with your wife. Kahit ano pa man iyan, lalaki, katamaran, zumba, on-line games, she is not living a life of a wife/mom such that she feels the need to care  for her Husband and kids.

Either she is too young and didn?t mature when you got married, or iba ba ang educational attainment nyo or Di kayo same wavelength ever since or something else.

Para sakin kung pati mga bata, wala nang amor sa kanya, then what are you waiting for. Go to the US, but with your kids. Kasi di mo puede iwan mga bata sa kanya, napaka irresponsible.

[nerddict]

Is your wife too young when you got married? Or unprepared emotionally, spiritually, mentally, and physically?

[mysterioza_me]

but to call her nanlalake it hurts daw kasi its not the truth...

Masakit nga daw ang katotohanan. Truth hurts you know.

There is something off with your wife, walang matinong asawa na laging may sleepover with friends. Nakakaduda yan. Saka kung di naman na kayo nabubuhay harmoniously like a real husband and wife there?s no reason na magsama kayo. Or maybe need ninyo lang ng space at magpalamig muna kayo para marealize ninyo ang worth ng bawat isa. Magtrial separation muna kayo, if mas masaya kayo na separated kayo ituloy ninyo na.

[nerddict]

agree. baka better for the both of you na hindi magkasama. baka less toxic ka. and you might be happy.

[drinveilside]

Masakit nga daw ang katotohanan. Truth hurts you know.

There is something off with your wife, walang matinong asawa na laging may sleepover with friends. Nakakaduda yan. Saka kung di naman na kayo nabubuhay harmoniously like a real husband and wife there?s no reason na magsama kayo. Or maybe need ninyo lang ng space at magpalamig muna kayo para marealize ninyo ang worth ng bawat isa. Magtrial separation muna kayo, if mas masaya kayo na separated kayo ituloy ninyo na.

just the thought of that makes me shiver and cry  because it hurts me  but that might be whats best for her

[kvandenhaak]

^Eh kaso what choice do you have right now? Either that or suffer and get stressed every single day. If you really want something to change, then you gotta do something. Otherwise, suffer.

[mysterioza_me]

^True sis. Wala ng ibang option na natitira, either hiwalay muna or magtiis nalang.

^^Dont worry bro, im sure you?ll get by. Sa umpisa lang naman yan masakit at nakakaiyak pero later on masasabi mo nalang ?good riddance?.

[nerddict]

You need to be strong for the kids. Kaya mo yan. Pray lang lagi. Things will turn out okay.

[Girltalker2]

just the thought of that makes me shiver and cry  because it hurts me  but that might be whats best for her

What do u mean what?s best for her?

It?s for your own good, for your sanity. Kasi Kung maaga ka mawala sa mundong ito, pano mga Bata? Who will take care of them? They need you that?s why you have to look after your well being din

[drinveilside]

she always tell me that the reason why she isnt working because that is how i earn her respect to me ..

she told me that even if i leave them shed be able to provide better because she has a lot of friends that would help her.. thats what she said

[kvandenhaak]

^Parang kung na lang magpakamatay ka just to earn back her respect. She's using the past to manipulate you. Are you okay with that.

But I really want to know her side of the story.

[kaythrielle]

Yup, me too. Her side from her point of view, not from the husband?s mouth, ika nga. There?s always two sides to every story. Para magganyan ng sobra ang babae, she must have been hurt reeeally bad.

Pero i guess it doesn?t matter, just like what other sisses said, either leave her or accept the situation.

[drinveilside]

^Parang kung na lang magpakamatay ka just to earn back her respect. She's using the past to manipulate you. Are you okay with that.

But I really want to know her side of the story.

i know there is always another side of the story, i told you guys every time i question her about her online flirting she said that she has done nothing wrong and that when i cheated on her she didnt tell anyone about it. the reason why she is upset because when she left the house last year to go to her friends for girl talk / online game. thats how i found out about the conversation.

She kept screenshots of saying i love you to the guy and then even going for a joke that can i kiss u the said huh she responded kiss kita sa ano ...

she also said arent you gonna miss me the day before she left .

it all started with a recyclebin that she wasnt able to clean. i dont know how i found out about it but before i always delete whats there , 2 days before she left i saw the recycle bin with trash its full of screenshot so i restored it all,

thats how i saw her flirtations with the guy who is abroad filthy rich but has a family and 2 kids as well.

so i installed a key logger with matching keystroke and screenshot that runs on the background. i disabled our anti virus. something that i never thought i would do

so going back to the day that she left last year with her friends. when i saw the chat and screenshots it seems as if my body fell to the ground, i was shivering with pain , my kids were downstairs. i checked on the guy's page in fb and his wife's fb i took screenshots of it. i didnt do anything else .the mistake that i did when she called after 7 hours of misery thinking if i should end my life.



i tried be calm, she asked for the kids, after she talked to all 3, i asked them to go down, then i told her that there is a girl that pmed me it's the wife of the guy she was flirting with but that was all made up.

she then informed all her online friends and she thought that it was the gay friend who likes the guy who informed the wife to pm me. I pmed the guy all i told him was i know you have family and i also have family and i want to keep it that way. he didnt reply instead he informed the council group of their friends about what i said.

they all got mad at me because they said they I jeopardized their plan apparently all the chats and screenshot that she and that guy has are all for show to keep the gay away .

however she deleted all convo in fb from that guy, luckily for me my keylogger showed the screenshot of her facebook chat.


she told me there is nothing and explained that is the last thing she would do however she would always mention that in the past she did nothing to me and endure the pain.

i am just lucky that we dont have webcam but the fact that she stays up until 4 or 5am to talk to the guy because he is saudi based has left me wondering if she is really telling the truth or i was able to put an end to it becauseher mom told her not to do anything to ruin our family.

during those times that she was having the convo with the guy apparently it started 2016 of august and i found out about it april 2017 during this span she would always feel irritated and would always find a way not to have sex. since i work during night our me time is only 1 a week.

during this time we even argue that as for her being married is not about sex that she can live without it. there was even an argument that if ireally want to have sex just pay ...

just to set the record there were times that i waited for a month just to have sex during that span... i didnt have the convo from 2016 to 2017 only for 3 days and the screenshot that she kept.

but now since last october 2017 she has given her self to me once a week unless she has a period
so as to her side she has admitted that she is stubborn that i married a girl who doesnt like cooking at all, and she told me that whatever it is that i am doing its still not enough for the sins i committed.


I will be celebrating my birthday this march i plan to take her out and talk things over just the 2 of us.

at this point i will be clear about what i would do if she doesnt stop spending most of her time talking to her friends every single day.

i dont want you guys to believe that i am a hero thats not how i see myself right now if anything i dont even know my worth

[mysterioza_me]

^Akala ko ba di siya nanlalalake? LoL. If galit pa siya because of your previous sin bakit nakikisama pa siya? Dahilan na lang niya yan para ijustify kalokohan niya. Kung bago lang yang kasalanan na nagawa mo maintindihan ko pa misis mo pero 8yrs na bro. Kung sa panahon na yan di pa din niya tanggap ang ginawa mo dapat humiwalay na siya at magmove on. Daming babae na naloko ng bf at mister dito sa GT, yung iba tinanggap ang mister uli ng walang kondisyon, yung iba tuluyan ng nagmove on kasi di talaga matanggap naging kalokohan ni mister. Yung iba nakisama pa din maski nahirapan sila matanggap sa umpisa ang nangyari pero winorkout nila PAREHO. Mahirap lumaban mag-isa.

[Mrsjareyes]

siguro dapat mong gawin, mag step by step ka in a good way tapos if mag fail doon ka mag decide kung ano maganda para saiyo. mag risk ka and it takes time para malaman yung truth at right decision

kausapin mo siya, yung kayong dalawa lang, ayain mo mag movie marathon sa house niyo muna. and then ask her, anong problema, what went wrong etc. from the start to present. anong kasalanan mo at ano mali niya without galit.

ask her if mag start over kayo, papayag ba siya? if you love her, ligawan mo ulit. kahit na alam mo na may iba. ang babae pag pinakasalan nyan ang lalake, siya ang greatest love so, babalik at babalik sayo as long as youll never give up


if sinabi nya yes, syempre write down everything that you have to get rid and new wants.


magset kayo ng vacay or goals! travel

if sinabi niyang hindi, its a sign! time to let go. kaya mo ba?

if sinabi niyang yes pero hindi nag bago, let go! kaya mo rin ba?


nobodys perfect pero, walang mawawala if ttry mo yung method na ganyan. magrisk lang talaga kasi para sayo din. lahat ng ginawa niya kahit kahapon lang, palagpasin mo. focus ka doon sa method. baka mag work at at least peace of mind na!

[problematicskin]

Once kase nagcheat na ang partner, iwanan na agad. No more second chance. Wag idahilan ang pagkakaroon ng anak. Sa tingin niyo ba hindi naaapektuhan ang mga kids sa mga nangyayari sa parents nila? Na kahit magkasama nga miserable namn pareho? Nasesense nila yan at nagkakaroon ng negative effect psychologically when they get older. Yung mga rason na ayaw lumaki sa broken family blah blah blah, sus luma na yan. It's not fair on the kids.

[blacksilk]

hello newbie here. haven't had the time to backread. but any advice on how to bring back the spice sa sex life for married people? its been more than six months since we had sex.

[Queserasera]

Mama's Boy o Spoiled Husband nakakaasar sarap hiwalayan .

[patriciaheart]

Mama's Boy o Spoiled Husband nakakaasar sarap hiwalayan .

yeas! ang DAMING red flags -- sobra as in pero since hinde ako quitter---nga nga nalang now...*sigh* I've accepted the fact na hinde kami compatible, may ambisyon ako at mataas pride ko umasa sa iba, mga lalakeng ganyan sanay na may ssaklolo sakanila nakaka turn off!