Marriage problems/issues/ complaints etc. pasok dito...

[kaythrielle]

http://sixseeds.patheos.com/davewillis/seven-subtle-ways-couples-drift-apart/

Stumbled upon this link and it's a good read. Just wanna share it and in case you don't want to click the link, this is what it says...

7 Subtle Ways Couple Drift Apart

1. TOUCHING each other LESS often and not prioritizing sexual intimacy and/or physical affection.

2. Focusing on SCREENS instead of focusing on each other.

3. MAKING ASSUMPTIONS instead of truly communicating.

4. Facing struggles individually instead of tackling them together as a team.

5. Trying to fix each other instead of trying to understand each other.

6. Focusing on your spouse?s flaws instead of his/her strengths.

7. Comparing the current difficulties in your marriage with a false fantasy of how ?good? life could be if you were single or with someone else.

[adel24]

Question? How do you know if may ibang napupusuan ang mister nyo? Di naman affair pero baka crush or something? Thanks sa sasagot.

[Shadow Angel]

^paanong crush? Selosa ka ba? Kung napapatingin lang sa sexy ag maganda for me no issue kasi ako ang madalas tumitingin tinuturo ko pa kay hubby. Pero kung crush na kakilala mismon at hindi random girls iba usapan na un. Although di ko pa narasanan ang ganyan kay hubby pero dahil marami akong kakilala na babaero ang masasabi ko lang basta may mabago sa gawi ng mister may something yan. Lalo na sa porma.

[batangpasaway]

Bro drinveilside kamusta? Grabe nagbackread talaga ko. Affected ako sa story nyo. Watch mo yung "Fireproof" na movie. Sobrang makakarelate ka dito bro at baka makakuha ka ng idea. May 40 day challenge yun. Sana masave nyo pa yung marriage nyo... And please wag ka magsuicide. May mga anak pa kayo at pamilya na nagmamahal sayo. Pray with faith. It works. Tsaka hanggat maaari yung problema nyong magasawa di makarating sa relatives and close friends nyo kase if ever maayos nyo problema nyo yun na magiging tingin ng tao sa wife mo. Better seek advice sa church leaders or marriage counselor. God bless bro

[cupcakejane]

http://sixseeds.patheos.com/davewillis/seven-subtle-ways-couples-drift-apart/

Stumbled upon this link and it's a good read. Just wanna share it and in case you don't want to click the link, this is what it says...

7 Subtle Ways Couple Drift Apart

1. TOUCHING each other LESS often and not prioritizing sexual intimacy and/or physical affection.

2. Focusing on SCREENS instead of focusing on each other.

3. MAKING ASSUMPTIONS instead of truly communicating.

4. Facing struggles individually instead of tackling them together as a team.

5. Trying to fix each other instead of trying to understand each other.

6. Focusing on your spouse?s flaws instead of his/her strengths.

7. Comparing the current difficulties in your marriage with a false fantasy of how ?good? life could be if you were single or with someone else.

True on all points   I should have seen my marriage's demise early on.

[AnneMP]

i was trying to make ligaw ulit but she doesnt want any of it right now.

my parents will be leaving next year sa US my mom told me about it yesterday, i wanted to tell my mom about my problem but i didnt ayaw ko din magpunta ng US without my wife and kids but my mom asked me if I want to go there with them kahit daw bakasyon na kasi mag reretire na papa ko sabi ko mom i have to look after my family.

sobrang nakaka depress lang talaga can someone give me a light.

I think marriage is really a lot of work.  Kelangan talaga natin suyuin ang partner natin once in a while.  I tell my husband if I feel neglected.  And I say sorry to my husband if I feel I'm kind of neglecting him (especially the sexy time thing for which I'm really having less and less interest - baka kasi sa old age?)

Re: Bakasyon with parents and leaving her behind, I don't think it's the right time unless it's just a week or less.  There are some people kasi na out of sight, out of mind.  So just keep on being there for her.  But this doesn't mean you have to neglect your parents.  We shouldn't make that compromise. 

And yes, communicate your frustrations to her.  She might be clueless of what's going on.  And after that, she has to do something about it.  If she didn't care at all, she won't really make an effort.   

[swtgrl_bee]

Yung inlaws ko nahihirapan ako, yung husband ko kasi hindi naman ito nagsasabi kong may problema kami. Akala ata ng inlaws ko ang samahan namin ng asawa ko rainbows and butterflies. Lalo na sa financial, kung makahirit eh ganun ganun nalang. Hindi naman kasi kami nagpopost kung may problema kami (too immature) Hindi din naman siya nagsasabi. Madami din kaming pinagdadaanan. Ewan ko kung dapat sabihin ko ba yun sa kanila? lol parang hindi naman ata. Gusto ko lang maging sensitive enough sila na hindi naman perfect relationship ko sa kapatid nila.

[shinies]

Yung inlaws ko nahihirapan ako, yung husband ko kasi hindi naman ito nagsasabi kong may problema kami. Akala ata ng inlaws ko ang samahan namin ng asawa ko rainbows and butterflies. Lalo na sa financial, kung makahirit eh ganun ganun nalang. Hindi naman kasi kami nagpopost kung may problema kami (too immature) Hindi din naman siya nagsasabi. Madami din kaming pinagdadaanan. Ewan ko kung dapat sabihin ko ba yun sa kanila? lol parang hindi naman ata. Gusto ko lang maging sensitive enough sila na hindi naman perfect relationship ko sa kapatid nila.

Sinasabi ang problemang mag-asawa sa ibang tao (magulang, kapatid, etc.) kung malala na ang sitwasyon AT makakatulong sila.

Pag dating sa pera, kailangan lang may limitasyon.
Nanghihingi ba sila ng kung ano sa inyo? Pinagbibigyan niyo ba? Baket??

Saka no to posting your dirty laundry talaga sa social media!

Pero sis, open communication naman kayo ni mister? Pinakaimportante yung pinaguusapan niyo mga problema niyo kasi kayong 2 lang naman din ang sasandalan niyo.

Ano ba ginagawa nila dahil di nila alam problema niyo (bukod dun sa hingi ng kung ano)? Lumalala ba yung problema dahil dun? Maibsan ba kung sasabihin niyo sa kanila?

[swtgrl_bee]

^Kami sis ni husband open communication kami. Hindi lang kami open sa mga inlaws ko.  Pero kapag napuno na ako, baka ipasabi ko na. Kaya ko pa naman ngayon. Ang gusto ko lang respeto lang talaga let's say hindi makapag-share sa kung anik anik na gastos kasi may kailangan kaming bayadan. Hindi yung kapag nag-ask sila instant lahat.  Buti nga andiyan Nanay ko sa kanya nalang ako nagsasabi at buti nalang hindi siya biased very objective lagi ang opinyon niya.

At buti nalang meron mga forum na ganito.  Instead of ranting it in your social media. 

[bratty]

Hindi marunong mag-set ng boundaries sa mga officemates!

[naizlabonita]

Yung partner ko walang goal at hinde marunung mag ipon. He is telling me na mahirap daw pinapagawa ko which is mag ipon kasi siya daw lahat gastos sa bahay. Hello, nagbabayad naman ako ng kuryente and water, I also have my fair share sa Pamalengke so I do not think na siya lahat sa bahay.. saka to think.. di naman 10k below and sweldo nya.. yung mga minimum pay nga na 12k nakakapag ipon kahit piso a day it is already savings diba.. so anong mahirap dun. hays.

[mysterioza_me]

^I agree with you na maski pa-piso-piso na tabi kapag dumami malaki na din and pwede ng pang-start up ng savings sa bank. Anak ko nga nakakaipon galing sa baon niya sa school. Kulang lang sa determination ang partner mo sis. Kung mahilig siya magbasa try mo siya bilhan ng books regarding financial literacy. Personally sa akin napakaimportante na financially literate ang bf ko.

[shinies]

try mo siya bilhan ng books regarding financial literacy.

Chinkee Tan books mukhang ok tailored pang Pinoy.

Hindi marunong mag-set ng boundaries sa mga officemates!

Madaming ganyan.. Pero ang kagandahan eh madami ding references online na pwede ibigay sa mga mister para magets nila bakit kailangan ang boundaries.

let's say hindi makapag-share sa kung anik anik na gastos kasi may kailangan kaming bayadan. Hindi yung kapag nag-ask sila instant lahat. 

Di ba pwede sabihin sa kanila parang "out of budget na, sa susunod na buwan pwede na"

Buti nga andiyan Nanay ko sa kanya nalang ako nagsasabi at buti nalang hindi siya biased very objective lagi ang opinyon niya.

Sis pati ba mga personal na problema niyo ni mister?

[AprilGal26]

This isn't a marriage problem. Pero this has to do with my relationship with my boyfriend right now. He's married, and separated but not legally. They first decided to separate ways before ako pumasok sa picture. May other issues sila before, kaya naghiwalay. Sobrang ok naman lahat nung una. I have met na rin pala the family of the guy. 2 years na silang separated bago naging kami. After like 6 mos of being together, the wife became fully aware of our relationship and hindi sya naging pleasant sakin. Like inaaway nya si guy minsan sa text na kasama na naman ako and such (may selos factor pa din on her part I guess).
Now, magbibirthday yung 5 yr old daughter nila and the wife booked a flight for the 3 of them sa hongkong for 7 days. Bale sinabihan na lang sya na, "blahblah (name of the daughter), told me na she wants to go to Disneyland HK, so I booked a flight for us 3 on (ganitong date)"
Ayoko namang maging selfish cause that's for the daughter. But of course, I'll be very honest, nakaka-paranoid mag-isip. 

[kvandenhaak]

^She just doesn't want him to be happy with someone else. Merong ganon di ba? I will feel uncomfortable as well. Yes, they are legally a family but they are not together anymore. I mean, I am also separated and now finalizing my divorce but I won't go as far as planning a trip for the three of us out of the country dahil birthday ng anak ko especially kung meron ng involved na iba. I mean, what's the point? What does it prove? The child already knows that we're not together. Ano yun, parang pakitang tao? We are talking only when it comes to our son, and that's it. Wala ng kung [textspeak!]-ano pang drama. 

Now, the guy I am seeing is not married but has a very young daughter with another Pinay and she's not over him yet. So, we're just keeping it mum. He is definitely over her so I am fine. She will find out about us later and hopefully, she already moved on with someone at that time.

[mysterioza_me]

^^Magbooked ka na lang din sama ka sa kanila. Pasyal sila sa umaga then kayo naman ni bf sa hapon or gabi.

[Shadow Angel]

Bakit kailangan mag decide ang ex without consent ng bf mo? Take note na hindi na sila at may current flame na un ex husband nya. Either nang iinis si ex or sadyang may plano na iba.

[AprilGal26]

^^di ba??? kahit ako imbyernang imbyerna. Hindi lang ako makapag-inarte kasi "that's for the daughter". And I am afraid din na baka biglang may masabi pa yung ibang tao and yung wife na as if I don't care about the daughter's requests and such. Worst, baka masabihan pa ko na kahit anong gawin or pagbaliktad naliktarin mo pa yung mundo, e they are still married and I am just like a kabit na baka umabot pa sa legal action. hay

[mysterioza_me]

Kung ako yan sasama talaga ako haha. Pang-asar din.

[Shadow Angel]

^oo tama ka dyan ako rin. Minsan masarap dib patulan Ang ganyan kung gusto nya ng asaran bigay mo. Para alam nya kung sya lulugar next time.