Marriage problems/issues/ complaints etc. pasok dito...

[kvandenhaak]

Hindi ko keri yung "malandi na sya before so dapat tanggapin mo na malandi sya"...LOL!

Anyway, you want to fix the marriage, that is good. But you have to accept the fact that in this situation, the battle is only yours. You can do it, and it's really worth the try. But just accept the fact that it's going to be difficult because she's not willing and to me it seems like she is provoking you almost to quit. If you are willing to save the marriage whatever it takes, then do whatever is necessary to save it. It will just be difficult. I hope things go well in the end though.

[cosmochick]

Bro, I think I went through that phase your wife is going through right now. Difference lang is we don't have a kid.

Pag nawalan ng gana meaning may iba. She can't leave you siguro because she might be dependent on you financially and as you've said may asawa yung other guy so she doesn't feel secured that the other guy will choose her over his family. They may not even have a serious relationship siguro flirt flirt lang. bottomline is, your wife is losing interest on you because there's someone else na nagpapakilig sa kanya amd she's having fun with her friends.

Ligawan mo ulit your wife. Give it your all. If things don't change and She's still asking you for some space, Give it to her. Ask her to leave the house. Hayaan mo sya magsawa sa online friends nya. Make her appreciate your absence.

Her online friends will not be there for her 24/7. There will come a time, believe me, she will realize what she Is giving up for momentary happiness with people she doesn't even know personally or with friends who also have lives of their own.

As for you, when you give her space, focus on your kids and be a better man. Go out , have fun.
Pag nakita nya that you are doing good without her, theres a great chance she will run after you.

It happened to us until I realized that I can never trade my husband , our marriage, over some kilig kilig and some ME time  and over friends who don't really care for you , they just want some tsismis or some happenings kasi they're also bored with their miserable life.

If these friends are real friends, they will be the first ones to tell her to fix her marriage and sadly I think kinukunsinti pa nila.

Goddluck bro!

[luckysiete]

I have been in a 16-year relationship and 2 kids. And based on my insight your wife is in the stage of sawa na and pagod na. Maybe because she didn't enjoy her single life due to early marriage. And at the same time she was being negleted and unappreciated by you. Halo-halo na kung baga. Ang babae makakapag tiis hangga't kaya. (umabot nga kayo ng 16 years eh.) But once nanawa at napagod na, pasensyahan na lang.

But do not worry, there's still hope. Give her the freedom she wants, but not skies the limit. She needs some day off. Yes, your family needs her but she needs her self too.  Ligawan mo siya. Let her feel appreciated and love. Give her chocolates, flowers, lumabas kayong dalawa lang, manood ng sine. Do not give up. Fight for your wife (from the guy she's flirting with). This is the time your wife needs you. She may be weak now but eventually she will come back to her senses. Most importantly, pray for your wife, pray for your family.

[drinveilside]

thank you so much for your replies honestly my kids are the only reason why i still want to pursue this nakakapagod din pala nakakasama din ng loob.

yesterday we were at my mom's place bday kasi ng mom ko, pag dating palang nakasimangot na wife ko seems like she didnt want to be there i asked her masakit lang daw ulo nya. then sabi ko connect ka sa wifi , we had lunch and we moved to my sisters house katabing bahay lang

nag wifi na ayun almost 5 hours kausap yung online friends nya her mood got better and she started laughing dahil sa online friends nya.

nung time na umalis sya 3 weeks ago nagtext lang ako kasi umiiyak anak namin tapos sabi nya istorbo daw ako

pero now she is with me kasi bored na kaya ayun nag online nalang at kinausap mga friends nya i didnt complain

tapos saturday was supposed to be our sexy time she said no kasi may zumba sya ng sunday morning, sabi nya sakin sunday nalang kami mag sexy time.

sunday night came nakapag pramis na sya  mag oonline daw sya sa game ng 12 am dumating kami ng bahay mga 8:40pm ... nag online aad sya then our kids natulog mga bandang 9:30 .

i tried to cuddle her sabi nya wag ko daw syang kulitin tapos since busy sya i just pretend that i was sleeping tapos nung 12:30 na she laughed so hard dahil sa isang friend nya while playing so kunyari nagising ako tapos i just watched her  tapos sabi nya antok na daw sya after nung game ng mga 1am nagmadali sya matulog sabi ko how about me sabi nya next time nalang.

i want to talk to her and tell her i know i neglected you in the past but now you are the one neglecting me, i am not saying this because nagpapaawa ako sa kanya pero gusto ko sana sabihin if napatawad nya ako sa kasalanan ko noon, sana naman bigyan nya naman ako ng fighting chance i am not saying na iwanan nya friends nya pero right now i honestly feel she doesnt like the attention i was giving ...

i was trying to make ligaw ulit but she doesnt want any of it right now.

my parents will be leaving next year sa US my mom told me about it yesterday, i wanted to tell my mom about my problem but i didnt ayaw ko din magpunta ng US without my wife and kids but my mom asked me if I want to go there with them kahit daw bakasyon na kasi mag reretire na papa ko sabi ko mom i have to look after my family.

sobrang nakaka depress lang talaga can someone give me a light.

ive been praying to good nagbabasa na nga ako ng bible ngayon eh

[fastlove]

hanap ka  ng babae mo.. mas maganda pa  sa asawa mo ..

[luckysiete]

Kung ginawa ko yan sa husband ko malamang nang gagalaiti na yun sa galet. Feeling ko yung wife mo nananadya na lang. Kasi alam niya susuyuin mo siya. Mabait ka ata masyado. Sorry sa word pero parang kinakayan-kayanan ka na lang ng asawa mo. Dahil ba hindi ka nagagalet sa kanya?

Why don't you talk to her friends/close friends or kahit sinong malapit sa kanya. Paki kausap kamo yung wife mo about sa situation niyo baka sakaling maliwanagan siya. 

[shinies]

Nananadya si misis.. Matagal siyang nagdusa noon kaya ngayon ikaw naman magdusa.. Immature man eh wala ka magagawa yan ang asawa mo..

Yung totoo bro, ang mga problema na reklamo ni misis noon, naayos na ba? O inaayos pa lang at pumapalya pa din (di naman kasi pwedeng overnight di ba)?

Wag mo isali ang ibang tao sa problema niyo.. Dito ka na lang bro tutal di naman namin kayo kilala Di kasi dapat sinasali iba sa problemang mag-asawa (di naman kayo abuse level).
At wag ka na mag-isip ng suicide kuya huhu... Kung di man para sa sarili mo, isipin mo mga anak mo. Wala naman silang kasalanan dito bakit kailangan mawalan sila ng ama

Gaya ng sinabi nila - GIVE IT YOUR ALL
Kahit maubos ka pa, yung alam mo sa puso mo eh talagang ginawa mo na ang lahat. Kahit ano pa ang reasksyon niya o gaano ka pinababayaan, wag kang tumigil magpursige na maging mabuting asawa (gaya nung ayaw ng sexy time, try and try until you succeed kumbaga ng hindi siya inaaway basta maglambing o manukso ka pa din sa kanya).
Bakit? Kasi andiyan ka na sa road to recovery eh di lubusin mo na. Yung walang masasabi sayo na ginawa mo talaga ang dapat mong gawin. Mahirap? Oo naman pero parte yan ng buhay magasawa.. Kahit gaano kasakit kailangan tiisin mo.

Si misis naman, hindi mo yan makontrol. Nasa kanya kung pipiliin niya yang online life niya o ang pamilya niya. SANA magising na siya sa katotohanan at makita niya mga effort mo (kaya nga sinasabi give your all).
Kung hindi man, maging ready ka na lang bro at tanggapin mo kung ano ang kinahinatnan ng mga problema niyo nung nakaraan.. Minsan may mga asawa talaga na sumuko na eh KUNG dun man kayo mapunta, alam mo ginawa mo ang lahat at si misis talaga bumitaw.

Kausapin mo ulit asawa mo. Sabihin mo gagawin mo lahat ng makakaya mo kasi ganun ang pag-aasawa. Walang sukuan! At hingin mo sa kanya na wag din siya sumuko at magtulungan kayo na maayos ang buhay niyo di lang para sa inyong 2 kundi para sa buong pamilya niyo.

my mom asked me if I want to go there with them kahit daw bakasyon na kasi mag reretire na papa ko sabi ko mom i have to look after my family.

Tingin ko kailangan mo din ito. Sandali lang naman ang bakasyon di ba?
Una, kayang ibigay ng magulang mo yung pagmamahal na hindi binibigay sayo ng asawa mo.
Pangalawa, kung matanda na sila, isipin mo din onti na lang oras na makasama sila (pasensya na kung morbid pero mga magulang at matatanda kasi sa amin mahilig humirit na mawawala na sila kaya lagi kami nagsasama).

[drinveilside]

thank you so much for all of your advice i just cant believe that after almost 16 years she will say that she is trying her best to stay with me.

i saw her screenshot again to the guy and its still on going at this point i would be moving on with and just endure the pain knowing all i need is to pretend as if nothing happened and win her back.

I am so tired and restless that i feel like i only got an ounce of life to hold onto.

i have been praying to god to ease the pain and also remind my wife that she married a guy that isnt perfect but has loved her that i always put her happiness first before mine..

until then

[naizlabonita]

thank you so much for all of your advice i just cant believe that after almost 16 years she will say that she is trying her best to stay with me.

i saw her screenshot again to the guy and its still on going at this point i would be moving on with and just endure the pain knowing all i need is to pretend as if nothing happened and win her back.

I am so tired and restless that i feel like i only got an ounce of life to hold onto.

i have been praying to god to ease the pain and also remind my wife that she married a guy that isnt perfect but has loved her that i always put her happiness first before mine..

until then

Well seems you have made your decision to pursue her. Good luck bro, I hope she'll realize how important your family is.

[Shadow Angel]

Ako may ganyan din ko sa mga naging ex ko na tipong nagsawa at napagod na dahil sa mga unresolve issues kahit ano pa gawin ng guy balewala na sa akin. Ang ending iniwan ko talaga kahit anong suyo pero dahil bf/gf pa lang madali sa akin. Now na may asawa na ako sinasabihan ko asawa ko ng ugali na wag isasagad ang limit ko. Mukhang nasa limit na talaga ang wife mo un tipong ibinigay na nya lahat kaya wala ng natira para isave pa kung ano feelings pa ang meron sya para sayo kaya lang sya nasayo pa dahil sa mga anak nyo. Now ang magagawa mo na lang kausapin sya kung ano ba talaga ang plano nyo sa married life nyo? for now masaya ang wife mo sa new found freedom and happiness nya which is un makipagchat friends man or kaflirt. Siguro naiisip nya sa 16 years now lang ulit nya nakita sarili nya na nagagawa ang gusto. Masakit pero wala ka magagawa if ganyan na ang wife mo sayo.

[yourboyToy]

Pre, pagbigyan niyo isa't isa.

Subukan mong hayaan siya sa gusto niya. Baka nga naman phase lang yan. Dapat nga lang ready ka talaga sa desisyon niya.

Para sayo naman..subukan mo lang din pagbigyan ang sarili mo sa mga gusto mo. Have fun, relax. Kahit lumandi ka rin ng kaunti kung kinakailangan. Baka pareho kayong nabu-burn out.

Ang hindi lang katanggap-tanggap para sa akin ay yung pareho niyong pababayaan ang anak niyo.

[AprilGal26]

Hi GTalkers! 
i just have a question, pero this is for my friend. Kanina lang ka-chat ko sya.
So she's married and has a 3-year old son. Hindi sila ganun ka-well off ni hubby nya. Tipong sumasakto lang yung na-e-earn nila for their needs. Given that situation, they have no choice but to rent out an apartment wherein kasama family ni hubby nya plus her sister (my friend's sister). Through that, masmakakatipid nga naman sila. The dilemma now is, as per my friend, parang wala na daw syang nafi-feel na excitement and madalas syang masungit and parang stressed? Feeling nya the reason is because sooobrang bihira nilang mag-do ni hubby, kasi nga maraming tao sa apartment. Lately, after a month, tsaka lang daw ulit sila nag-do, kasi natsempo lang na walang tao sa house. Now, she don't know what to do
Madalas nga daw super quickie na lang sila sa banyo kung sobrang gusto talaga. Pero there were times na kahit gusto nila and nagkayayaan na sila, they have to wait for the family members pa na makatulog, until ang ending hindi na matutuloy and ma-di-disappoint na lang si friend ko

Ano kayang advice for that kind of situation?

[khaleesiCersei]

Try nila mag date ng hubby niya sa hotel or motels para my privacy

[prettygretchen]

I've been in your friend's shoes for 2years. My husband and I were living with my mom, dad & sis ko. I have a boy as well. So making love was kinda an issue for my husband kasi nag squirk at ang ingay pa ng kama. Minsan hindi na siya makapag antay quickie quickie lang tapos siya satisfied ako hindi. May time na yun anak ko nahuli pa kami hahaha! kinuha yun phone ko tapos inilawan pa kami ang ingay ko kasi lol! tiis tiis saka ayun dumadayo pa kami sa bahay nila at sa old room niya para makapuslit. after 2yeara bumukod na kami sa apartment ayun gusto yun first 2 months namin almost every other day every 3days nag do kami nun solo na namin. hahaha

iba parin [textspeak!] pag solo mo ang bahay.

[kvandenhaak]

Ang hirap siguro nung merong kasama na makakarinig sa bahay? Kasi ako kahit me sariling kwarto ang anak ko, hinahabilin ko sa byenan or sa ex ko if I  have company. Eh ako pa naman, sobrang vocal. Hindi naman loud, just vocal. But looking at it on a different view, exciting din yung tetyempo ka para makapag-do...lol! Mag-motel naman kayo paminsan minsan pare me privacy.

[lonely_dad]

^natawa ako dun sa inilawan ng phone 

[Shadow Angel]

Ang hirap naman na need pa magtiming dahil mag ibang tao. Mas ok talaga pg sarili nyo ang bahay. Ang hirap din nun nasa akto na kayo tapos bigla iiyak si baby bigla wala ang momentum hay buhay.

[mysterioza_me]

Ang solusyon sa prob ni Aprilgal is bumukod sila. Hindi matatapos issue nila kung di sila bubukod. Ang hirap pa naman na gustong-gusto mo na pero maghihintay ka pa. Wala na, baba na ang "L" mo bago pa mangyari ang gusto mo, nakakabiset pa naman yang ganyan.

[lonely_dad]

Try nila mag date ng hubby niya sa hotel or motels para my privacy

+1000000

[cupcakejane]

drinveilside ano ba yung sinasabi mong naging fault mo in the past?  If infidelity kasi yan na hindi mabilang, mahirap talaga tanggapin yan.  Hindi ko na din mapatawad asawa ko and wala na ko balak.  I was slightly chubby when i caught him cheating and now i lost a lot of weight.  I think I somehow got his attention but i don't want anything to do with him and re live the hurt again.