reasons why men look for other women and how can we prevent them from doing so

[hyder0926]

^ very well said sis aquacharly..  men really get inventive when it comes to giving out reasons for this.. but women are smarter than men. oh well but some women choose to be not so smart..

[jesrora]

In a relationship, why does one stray and betray the other?

Could be curiousity (knowledge is power hahaha...), fear of the unknown (praningers na jojombagin ka ng jowa mo kaya bago ka majombag eh mangjojombag ka nlang ng iba para hindi masakit.. bad cheetah!), ego booster (pag madaming nahuhumaling sayo lalaki ang ulo mo... hindi sa baba ah!), challenge (para sa mga competitive persons masmahirap masmasarap! kapag may tiyaga, masarap ang nilaga! ooh lala..).

I believe that there are two kinds cheaters in the game of cheating:

Cheaters by choice, cheaters by chance.

The cheaters by choice kind and madalas na panangga ng mga lalaking hindi mapigilan ang sarili nila. Ika nga human nature, polygamous daw sila. Wala ka nang magagawa sa mga taong ganito. Babae man or lalaki. Run dear! Run! Or if you tend to look at the brighter side, try convincing them to undergo therapy. =p

Cheaters by chance... ahhh.. yun pagnagkaroon ng pagkakataon at yung temptation ay "qualified" (no-preservatives added daw! ... walang matinong lalaki sa malanding babae...) sa taong tinetempt, cheating becomes the option because as some people say "sayang" ang chance to taste another kind of meal.

Eto sagot na to nakuha ko sa bestfriend kong lalaki at sa asawa ko nung nahuli ko silang nangbababae... pareho silang babaero bago makasal.

Kung araw-araw nga naman na beefsteak ang inihahain mo dagdagan mo pa ng pagputak kahit paborito ng partner mo ang beefsteak dadating din ang panahon na magsasawa sya sa beefsteak at maghahanap ng adobo.

[glamorosa_09]

Hmmm basta ako I believe, pag walang history of cheating at matino ang lalaki bago mo pinakasalan at nagloko na lang after years of marriage, nasa babae na yun...

A wife unconsciously drives away her husband by trying to change him through nagging, criticizing, disapproving of him, citing other men as a shining example etc. The husband will become susceptible of having an affair to another woman who accepts him at his face value, appreciates and admires him of his true worth which the wife has failed to do.

Sabi nga, if love is the greatest need of the wife in a marriage then ang sa husband naman ay admiration and appreciation of his wife.

[fegloria1954]

First things first, I would rather not just focus on "men" as the cheaters and on "women" as the cheated.  Let's face it, there are women who have cheated too.

And so I will instead use the words "betraying spouse" and "betrayed spouse."


This is what I have learned:

The betraying spouse does it because he (or she) decided he (or she) should do it, in pursuit of happiness, that he (or she) did not think he could obtain within his marriage.  It has been in his nature even before he married the spouse he has betrayed.

No matter who he (or she) marries, there will come a point when he (or she) will feel a void in his (or her) life and, he (or she) will look for the solution elsewhere - not within his (or her) marriage.  Then he (or she) will betray his (or her) spouse.

Let us stop blaming the betrayed spouse.

Bottomline, the betraying spouse MADE THE DECISION TO BETRAY.

Betrayed spouses, the sooner you understand this, the sooner you will save yourself from blaming yourself, going through all that introspection as to where you went wrong, what were your sins of omission and sins of commission, etc. etc. because once you are in that spiral of checking on yourself and blaming yourself, the resentment and the anger will keep on building up, and the more difficult it will be for you to decide to stay within your marriage, to consider forgiving and to try to work it all out.

When the betrayal has been done and at least one of the spouses ends up feeling hurt, we will indeed want to prove who was wrong and who was right - who wins and who loses.

But there is another way.  No, not "Win-Win" - it is "Win-Learn."

Mommy Fe

[PINKAHOLIC]

First thing dapat maging supportive ka kay hubby,
maging malambing,
caring and loving..
Shempre don't forget na magpaganda ,
magpabango,
magpasexy,
di lang para kay hub kundi self-satisfaction na rin sa looks mo..
Maging good mom ka din, ipakita mo na the best mom ka sa mga anak nyo para makita ni hub ni ideal wife ka talaga.
Less talk- yan ang mahirap tanggalin ng mga girls, aminado rin ako ng konti hehe, wag maging bungangera,
wag dada ng dada,
wag mashadong maging nagger kay hubby kasi natutulig din sila minsan at nagsasawa in short maging mahinhin tayo- sa pagkilos and the way we talk.
Most especially dapat c God ang nasa center ng pagsasama ng mag asawa.
Always pray na naway patatagin Nya ang inyong pamilya,
yan ang tunay na sikreto para di sha maghanap ng iba.

Pero kung sabihing happy family naman kayo,
very supportive ka naman and loving wife?
Maganda , sexy?
How come naghanap pa sha ng ibang putahe?

Eto rason,
unang una , kulang ang pagmamahal nya sayo dahil kung sobrang pag ibig ang namamagitan sa inyong dalawa, di nya magagawa un.

Ikalawa, malandi si girl. Yes malandi.
Kasi ang lalaki pag nasa harap na ang putahe di na makakapag isip ng tama yan,
maniwala kayo.
Ganyan sila mas mahina at mas marupok pagdating sa temptation,
ika nga e,
''MAY TIWALA AKO SA ASAWA KO PERO SA BABAENG UN WALA''

Ikatlo, mahaba ang hair ng hubby nyo, feeling nya macho sha, astig at ''IN'' kapag maraming nahuhumaling sakanya kumbaga ang saya sa EGO,
Kahit walang love na involve e sige pa rin kasi masarap ang bawal,
exciting ang magtago,
exciting ang maraming babae-PARA SKNILA.

At last, talagang ganun na sha by nature,
ugali na talaga ng kanunu-nunuan nya un.

So kung wala kang tiwala sa asawa mo, ngayon pa lang unahan mo na sha,
sabihin mo ''ORAS NA MALAMAN KO NA DI LANG AKO ANG BABAING INUUWIAN MO SASABOG ANG BUMBUNAN MO SA ULO (sa baba).
Mainam ng alam nya na palaban ka in case na magloko sha,
para di na nya subukan diba.
Haay sana wag nyo akong awayin, POV ko lang po hehe.

[princess_neko]

your so right sis hahaha natawa naman ako sa pasasabugin ang bumbunan hehe.. kakatakot pumasok sa married life haayy..

[comp_nurse]

this is what i learned naman sa mga matatagal ng mag asawa, an older friend gives me this piece of advice

be a wife all the time especially when he needs you most but be a prostitute in bed. kasi mostly daw ng lalaki naghahanap ng iba pag di na satisfied sa sex life nilang magasawa, ika nga nila nagsisimula ng maghanap ng ibang putahe.

[fegloria1954]

Ako, iba ang natutunan ko:

Problems do not always start in the bedroom but they usually end up there.

[ichelie]

Men and Women are cut to have different psychologican and emotional needs.  Pag hindi nakuha ng men kay wife ang needs nila, they look for it elsewhere or get it from somewhere else. 

Top need ng Men is Sex, an Attractive Spouse, Domestic Support, Admiration and Recreational Companion. 

Top need ng women is Affection, Conversation, Financial stability, Family Commitment, Honesty and Openness.

That's why many problems arise cause men and women are cut different.

^^same as BE A MISTRESS to your husband!  If we fulfill their needs, then they would give ours. 

Another insight why men cheat is that WOMEN tends to get absorbed by MOTHERHOOD and HOME duties, they forgot to be wives!

That's the thoughts of a notable marriage, parenting and relationship expert - Maribel Dionisio.

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[PINKAHOLIC]

@ sis princess_neko ,tama ka,
 mahirap na nakakatakot..

Dapat todo effort ka talaga sa lahat ng aspect para manatili na ikaw lang ang ''PRINCESS'' ng asawa mo.

[neszreyes]

^haha sis ayoko ng "PRINCESS" kasi kabit ng asawa ko yun ang name.. I'm the Queen.. 

[glamorosa_09]

^ahahaha!

tama ang wife dapat ang QUEEN!

[PINKAHOLIC]

^^ naku sorry sis di ko yan sinadya ha hehe..

O sha sige QUEEN na!

QUEEN!!!!

[PINKAHOLIC]

Ah kaya pala PRINCESS yung pinost ko kasi sinagot ko lang si princess_neko kaya un yung term na ginamit ko =D

[princess_neko]

^ ahihi sis neszreyes peace tayo ha..  queen_neko na nga lang me hehe.. anyway takot pa me talaga mag-asawa di ko ata kakayanin pag nagloko magiging hubby ko, gf bf pa nga lang parang di ko kakayanin what if pag asawa mu na.. nakakatrauma kahit di ko pa nararanasan napapalibutan kasi me ng mga broken relationships and marriage nadin, from my friends, oficemates to relatives, kahit ako im from a broken family din haiist.. pro happy naman me sa relationship ko now im doing anything i can para maging healthy relationship namin pero di padin nawawala takot ko syempre daming temptations sa paligid hehe..

[bravo86]

"reasons why men look for other women and how can we prevent them from doing so"

reasons? infinite! lots and lots of it. different styles, different strokes.
at ganun din karami ang kaakibat na kasinunggalingan a guy would concoct in planning it, in making it happen, and covering-up his mess.

how to prevent it?
no way! i don't think you could prevent us in doing so but you could start by not making yourself as "one of the reasons"

alam nyo mga sissies, kahit na itali nyo pa ng kadena ang mga lalaki sa buhay nyo at ikulong sa bartolina, kung sadyang magloko ang mga yon, gagawa at gagawa ng paraan yon para maisahan ka.
(gusto nyo ng sampol?)

yes, you can't do anything to prevent guys from cheating
better GIVE them REASONS why they should not cheat on you
(huh? parang 'yon na hindi yon' ano?)

now, what if your guy has cheated on you na?
(panindigan ko ang position ko sa ibang posts sa ibang threads)
kung mag BF-GF pa lang kayo, sisantihin nyo na kaagad. walang tanung-tanong... if you want to take him back and give him a chance... bahala ka sa life mo! sugal na pinasok mo. bandang huli, tabla-talo ka lang dyan.

kung MAG-ASAWA, please give him "A CHANCE"... but gumawa ka agad ng plans A-Z sakaling magloko uli.


baliktarin ko lang...

kung GUSTO (magloko), maraming paraan (kasinunggalingan)
kung AYAW, maraming I-DAHILAN




 

[trisha]

I agree! Men are carnivorous in nature. The more na pigilan mo, the more na magloko kahit perfect at miss universe ka pa! May kasabihan yan sila na what you don't know won't hurt you. I'm convinced that 99% of men cheated on their wives/gf

[Mr.Punch]

I agree! Men are carnivorous in nature. The more na pigilan mo, the more na magloko kahit perfect at miss universe ka pa! May kasabihan yan sila na what you don't know won't hurt you. I'm convinced that 99% of men cheated on their wives/gf

I think you mean "polygamous".

[trisha]

I was really referring to women's flesh. I just used carnivorous as metaphor 

[bravo86]

^flesh as in "meat"? as in "karne"?... hindi "mani" ha?