reasons why men look for other women and how can we prevent them from doing so

[DxC]

..just a thought on this.. a gurl is also looking for satisfaction including sex.. same with respect.. = D mga mga tao lang talaga atang wlang satisfaction... = (

[blushydamsel]

well have marriage counseling at Love Insitute  (theloveinstitute.com) soon.  Just have to set the schedule with Ms. Maribel Dionisio.  That would be the fitting 8 year anniversary gift namin sa isat isa.  More lasting.

hello sis!
interested ako umattend jan. para sa amin ng hubby-to-be ko. we're getting married on November.
are there discussions for engaged couples? kung wala pwede ba kami dun sa pang-married? tutal ikakasal na din kami. hehe gusto ko lang sana ma-enrich yung relationship namin. i love my fiance so much and i think having, loving and serving him as my husband is my life's vocation.

[blushydamsel]

^ i grew up from a God centered family. Unfortunately, si hubby medyo malayo kay God. I don't know hwo to start, but if i asked him to go to church with us, ewan k kung sasama lang siya dahil magagalit ako pag hindi. or gusto niya talaga, mag kaaway kami ni hubby ngayon, and his FB status says something like, umiiyak din daw ang lalaki, tapos a person commented on his status, saying, pare may prob ka? kausapin mo lang siya makikinig yun, then he replied, sino? then the person said, si jesus, try mo lang, it will make you feel better, then he replied, LOL! goodluck. i felt bad, wala na siyang connection between God. I need him to be back in God's loving arms.

sis, try to be mooooore patient and loving to your hubby. kasi ikaw lang makakapagbalik sa hubby mo kay Lord. may nabasa nga ako eh parang, "if you want someone to come closer to God, you have to show your kindness, so that His kingdom will be known through you"
be patient sis, God sees him. Don't cease in praying for him too.

[boaVista]

hay while reading this naisip ko yong 1st year of marriage namin. akala ko noon everything's perfect, na he's emotionally ready na, akala ko rin i married a perfect man. pero all of that was AKALA lang pala. i did everything. kahit hindi maganda ang ugali ng family nya di ko pinapansin, pinagluluto, pinapaliguan, trying to look good palagi as in yong whole self ko ni commit ko talaga sa marriage kaya i never expect na may magagawa pang hindi maganda ang hubby ko para saktan ako at naniwala ako sa sinabi nyang "ayaw  kong nakikita na nasasaktan ka at umiiyak kaya hindi nya kita kayang lokohin"

during the first few months of marriage ok naman ang lahat BUT one night i had a dream na ang scenario was bumaba daw kami ng taxi hawak ko ang fone nya biglang may nag text na girl  "i miss you. joy" at sa dream na yon im asking him "who's joy?" then he told me di niya kilala maybe wrong number.

pagkagising ko hindi ako mapakali hinalungkat ko yong sim card then insert to my phone ayun may text nga " i was trying to call you but didnt answer your godemn phone i miss you, joy" pak! (im so lucky talaga kasi God is with me all the time)

ayun ka chat pala ng ugok.nagtatawagan pala sila at nag te text at may plano ng magkita sa HK.(napakasakit  na habang ako dito nagsasacrifice si hubby andun busy sa pakikipag landian sa chat at nag uubos ng load sa b*****h na yon)

kaya yung mga rason ng iba na kasalanan ng wife why men cheat or v.v, HINDI palaging ganun. we cant prevent that kase its their choice. dahil ang pagkukulang ng partner pwedeng pag usapan, pwedeng maayos at hindi ang panloloko sa asawa ang gawing sagot. hindi porket sexy, mayaman, matalino, sikat ang asawa eh hindi magloloko ang partner. dahil nasa utak na ng isang tao yan minsan nasa environment din and minsan sa upbringing.

RE: reasons why men look for other women and how can we prevent them from doing so:after 10yrs of being together i still dont know

[mamabear16]

tingin ko ang isa sa reason ay

-kapag galit sayo ang asawa mo (na cocompare ka niya sa ibang girl at nagkakaroon siya ng thinking na what if mag ibang babae nalang ako?)

-kapag nagsasawa na siya sayo..

-kapag nagandahan siya pero it doesn't mean above na sayo yung girl na yun

[thistimearound]

I wont say that I am a perfect wife cause im not. Pero alam kong binigay ko lahat sa asawa ko. But still, nagcheat parin siya. Yes, it takes two to tango.. but naniniwala parin ako na kung may problema or kulang sa isang relationship,  dapat open sila sa isat isa so they can make things better at hindi humanap ng solution or di hanapin sa ibang tao ang pagkukulang ng isang asawa nya.
As for me, when my husband cheated on me, I asked him why he did it. And he said that theres nothing wrong with me. That ive been almost perfect wife for him. But nung time daw na yun, nademonyo sya.. cheap thrills and curiosity. Kaya naniniwala ako na no matter how perfect you are, nasa lalaki yun. Ako, Im maintaining a specific weight, I can say I look young for my age, I am always there for him, I am a career woman.. lahat ng gusto nya, binibigay ko naman... pero natukso parin siya. Tama rin na kelangan, may pagmamahal siya kay God para magkaron ng fear to do evil things

[coquettish16]

If it's a shortcoming on our side, I can say na kapag masyadong nagger si wife, and yung matamlay na ang sex life pati kapag wala na respect, dun na pwede magcheat mga hubbies.

Pero tama si sis thistimearound, there are instances na super perfect na si wife yet, nagloloko pa rin si hubby. And nasa kanila na yung mali pag ganun. You know men. Biological creatures and hunters sila by nature kaya they always look for their potential preys.

[maiandra]

Men (or women) cheat because they choose to do so. They simply take for granted what they have and want what they cannot have. It's human nature.

[Girltalker2]

Ang reason why men look for other women and cheat? Because they're assholes. Ganun lang kasimple ang sagot.

Madali lang naman kausap ang mundo.  Sabihin mo lang na ayaw mo, di huwag. Hindi yung maghahanap ka pa ng ibang babae, tapos patago tago din na parang duwag.  Anong klaseng lalaki iyan?  Kadire especially kung ang daming babaeng kasiping, pihadong ang daming sakit narin ang nakuha nyan.

[eleine26]

why men look for other women?

-gusto ng ibang ka-sex, at

-may pagkakataon.

[simang]

I don't believe that men who look for other sexual partners are nothing but assholes. From what I learned, guys dont equate sex with love and commitment. Men are physiologically inclined to release, not because they're aholes and they're rude and they're bastos but because their bodies are designed that way.

In a mature relationship i guess aside from putting all the blame on the cheating husband, try to assess yourself din.

For me, being a submissive, loyal, all-attention giving wife does not equate to a perfect wife. Madalas marries women tend to focus their energy on building the household, and minsan nakakaligtaan yung roles nya as a partner. Sabi nga sa nabasa ko the best way to keep the marriage strong is to go back to your first 90 days as a couple and relive that. Be that fun amazing girl he fell in love with. Alam ko when you're married nagshishift talaga ang priorities mo but that's the challenge of it. You be a homemaker and still be fun and light and happy.

Syempre keeping the marriage strong is a team effort. You have to be on the same page with your partner.

[eleine26]

I'm just curious: if men who cheat are aholes, what do you call women who do the same?

uhmm, sL*t? 

@eleine26-- If I still remember my criminal law lesson correctly, tatlong bagay daw ang kailanganan para mangyari ang isang krimen: Motive, Opportunity and Means.

so means ang kulang sa sinabi ko? hehe.

I won't be hypocrite here para sabihin na lalake lang naman ang ganyan. kahit babae ginagawa yan.
kanya-kanya lang ng diskarte.


@simang:

sabi nga di ba dapat you're like a prosti pagdating sa bed. dapat may excitement. kumbaga sa ulam, dapat may variety, kakasawa naman kung araw-araw adobo. may umay factor na nun.

and wag masyado boring at maging kampante pag married na. 

[ms.southbound]

act like a mistress!

I got the same advice. Sabi sakin be both wife and lover. Yan naman number 1 reason why men cheat.

[appleberrycream]

Ang solusyon dyan wag masyadong maging mabait kay hubby hehe! I know many women, almost perfect pero niloloko pa rin ng mga asawa nila and I wonder why?

Isang reason ang nakita ko: Walang Takot.

Kampante sila masyado, alam na mapapatawad sila agad sa kasalanan nila.

Hindi ko naman sinasabi na dapat under de saya si Mister pero iba kase yung lalakeng takot gawin yung magloko kase may respeto sa relasyon nyo at alam nya mangyayari pag ginawa nya yun.
The trick is to know the right balance. Wag maging stagnant relationship nyo at importante rin talaga na maganda ka pa rin at sexy as you aged. Syempre ipagdadasal nyo parehas relationship nyo na ilayo kayo parehas sa tukso 

[bebepink]

I got the same advice. Sabi sakin be both wife and lover. Yan naman number 1 reason why men cheat.

hehe...panu ba maging mistress? hehe

well, imho...guys who are habitual/serial philanderer by nature cannot prevent from doing such.  ang changes o prevention should come within themselves..in their own will.  kahit man na may takot sa asawa o gf basta may pumapayag na pumatol na mga pakawala o sabik na babae, matutukso pa din.  i guess dapat may takot sa Dios para makaiwas sa tukso. 

[eleine26]

i guess dapat may takot sa Dios para makaiwas sa tukso.

pero sabi nga nila, nabibili na konsensya ngayon. 

[comp_nurse]

Always reserve something for yourself. Aside from acting like a mistress in bed iyan ang isa sa inadvice saken. Kailangan may pa mysterious effext kanpa din para may thrill iyong pagsasama niyo. Let him play a guessing game hindi iyong masyado ka laging predictable. That leaves him clueless. Cause men loves chalenges. It keeps the flame in a relationship. Kaya nga sila naghahanap ng iba kasi nabobored na sila sa partner nila. Yun bang routine na lang lahat. Feeling nila kasi nakakasawa ka na dahil wala ng bago sayo. Hindi naman lagi sila dapat ang maplease eh. Sometimes you have to do things that can make you happy as long as harmless naman. Para alam din nila na kaya mo kahit wala sila. That gives the man something to think of bago sila gumawa ng kalokohan. Kahit dominante ang mga lalaki, gusto pa din nila sa babaeng in control. Yan ang isang bagay na gusto ng lalaki. Di mo kailangang gawin silang under para paraan lang yan.

[czel10]

hi po mga sis siguro sa frustration ko na makahanap ng kausap at advised nahanap ko itong site na ito.. hirap din kasi pag buntis ka at nasa house ka lang... paulit ulit ko ngang tinatanong yung sarili ko kung bakit kailangan pang mgahanap ng iba ni bf/ husband kahit na lam mong ginagawa mo naman lahat para sa kanya... at this point i can say na almost perfect gf/wifey naman ako (because i found out na may kaflirt siya and before pa lumala ito i beg him to stop, to make a story short were moving on now and try to start all over again) then nung nag didinner kami kagabi kasi sobrang pagod ako di ako nakapag luto at nakatulog ako.. then he woke me up to eat... actually di talaga siya marunong magluto pero alam niya yung gusto kong luto sa egg.. then while were eating sabi niya perfect daw ako kasi halos lahat alam ko at kaya ko gawin at siya parang pakiramdam niya kulang daw yung binibigay niyan sa kin.. then i realized na pwede rin pa lang maging dahilan ang pagkawala ng self confident ng guy na feeling niya mas magaling si misis sa kanya thats why they are looking for someone na mas less yung knowledge kesa kay misis just to feel good? tama ba ko on my opinion? today we always talk about God kasi kahapon maganda yung sermon ni pastor about connecting to God it is thae same as you connected to each other (buhay mag asawa) pag walang connection kay God both of you will be, out of coverage area, cannot be rich ( as in yayaman), try again late... wow kabisado ko pa... kahit inaantok na ko sa gabi natatkot kong mag escape ng prayers... better ng ma late ng sleep to pray kesa naman mawala ng opportunity na marinig ni Lord yung prayers mo... yesterday was also our monthsary and i am thinking  what to buy for him... i wanted to go to st. paul today to look for some item na pwede kong ibigay sa kanya, like bracelet or books that he can carry para ipaalala lagi sa kanya na nasa tabi niya lagi ang Diyos, ako at ang baby namin so kahit papano malalayo siya sa tukso and he will not feel alone (tama po ba yun) ...naisip ko kasi siguro pag nasa work yug mga asawa natin they feel puro work na lang diba the reason why they attempt to find a companion so they can make themselves busyaside from working... am i right po???