After discovering that he cheated, how did u move on? ok pa kayo or hindi na?

[eimerej5]

i confirmed my hubby's illicit affair 5 months after ko sya pinalayas. pinalayas ko sya the night i saw him with another girl kaso lang hindi ako sure kung sila ba talaga at that time kasi the girl he was with was the girlfriend of his bestfriend. pero 1 week before that night, hindi na sya umuuwi sa oras sa amin. he comes home at 3am, 5am and well rested na. then leaves for work at 9am. whenever i text him i love him, he doesnt reply anymore kaya i decided it was unhealthy for me and my then 2 1/2 yr old daughter that he treat us that way kasi naiinis ako sa kanya and affected din si daughter kasi nga moody na ako. when i packed his stuff and sent them to his mom's house, 2 days after, he packed again and left without telling his family where he was staying. then sa ka tangahan niya, 5 months after kinuha yung car na ginagamit ko at pinalitan nya with the car he was using. then na iwan nya receipt inside with his current address. even at that time, wala talaga akong alam whether he was staying with another girl na or on his own na. as God's way of letting me know the truth, ayun, nagpasama mom in law ko para kumustahin anak nya since only son sya, and favorite pa ng mom nya. when we got his place, yung kabit ang sumalubong. hindi pa namin inakala na sya na pala ang kabit kasi staff house daw yun ng company where he is working. todo lie ni girl na wala daw si hubby dun that time, umalis daw etc. pero nakita ko cellphone sa sala so i said "ma, hindi yan umalis. basahin nalang natin phone nya baka mai malaman pa tayo". at dun namin nalaman na yung kausapa na pala namin ang kabit nya. umakyat na yung girl sa room at tinawag si hubby. hindi naman ako nag wild nor caused any scene there. nag usap kami tatlo ni hubby and his mom sa dining table nila. iyak ng iyak mom nya habang ako naka upo lang. feeling ko naman kasi, si hubby pa rin ang lugi kung tutuusin kasi i have our adorable daughter with me who keeps me happy and knowing ive done nothing wrong, i sleep well at night. after we left his house, i didn't even text him or what. sya ang nag communicate and all pero i kept my cool. just 3 months ago, he started saying he's sorry and all. pero hindi pa rin ako nagpa dala sa emotions ko. after all i've been through, hindi yata ganun ka dali yun lahat. i just told him, if you're really sorry, you'd leave that girl and come home to your mom's place. to think, wala akong trabaho kasi ayaw nya ako ipa work. sya lang taga provide sa amin. pero when he left, i immediately got a job para lang meron kami pang everyday ni baby na pang gastos. then eventually i put up my own eatery with my friend which kept me busy and my sanity intact. i focused all my attention to my daughter and business while trying to figure out what to do for our future. until now, hindi pa rin nya iniiwan kabit nya and he tries to communicate once in awhile pero ignore ko na talaga kasi wala naman siyang mabuting nadudulot sa amin. puro lang disappointments. to think ok na sana kami 3 sa new zealand nung 2009 pero hindi nya nagustuhan dun kaya we decided to come home and i gave up evrything there. pero now, i'm working on my papers again para makabalik hopefully next year with my daughter. mahirap isipin ang magiging set up namin 2 dun pero im sure makakaya ko if it's the only way na magkaka peace of mind ako. hindi na ako nagpa support sa daughter namin para hindi na rin cya mag visit sa kanya and hindi ako mag hope na magka balikan. kung sino pang kabit, siya pang malakas ang loob mangaway sa amin mag ina... i don't want to stoop down sa level nilang dalawa kaya hindi ko pinapatulan. i just want to rise from all these and live peacefully with my daughter. through prayers talaga, nabibigyan ako ng lakaw ng loob. excited nga ako mag christmas kami lang 2 ng anak ko. and i can't imagine life with ex-hubby now because of all the pain, betrayal and deceit he has done. i still love him naman kasi happy din memories namin sa 10 yrs kaming mag asawa pero love is simply not enough for me to take him back. i don't want to relive each day the pain he caused if i would take him back kaya i'd rather be without him and be happy.

Its good to know sis that you made it thru all the pain.. Im happy to know that you are now starting a new life with your kids. Having a positive attitude and determination to live your life the way you want it is really big help. Goodluck to you... god bless!

[chimera29]

haist mga sisses lets all pray na malampasan natin to. Hinde madali but in Gods time hopefully mawala na ang pain sa mga puso natin, .mabalik na tiwala sa sarili natin at tumino na mga asawa natin.

[neraks]

haist mga sisses lets all pray na malampasan natin to. Hinde madali but in Gods time hopefully mawala na ang pain sa mga puso natin, .mabalik na tiwala sa sarili natin at tumino na mga asawa natin.

Amen to that sis!

[smoothie]

^amen three!

[feisty_angel4]

i confirmed my hubby's illicit affair 5 months after ko sya pinalayas. pinalayas ko sya the night i saw him with another girl kaso lang hindi ako sure kung sila ba talaga at that time kasi the girl he was with was the girlfriend of his bestfriend. pero 1 week before that night, hindi na sya umuuwi sa oras sa amin. he comes home at 3am, 5am and well rested na. then leaves for work at 9am. whenever i text him i love him, he doesnt reply anymore kaya i decided it was unhealthy for me and my then 2 1/2 yr old daughter that he treat us that way kasi naiinis ako sa kanya and affected din si daughter kasi nga moody na ako. when i packed his stuff and sent them to his mom's house, 2 days after, he packed again and left without telling his family where he was staying. then sa ka tangahan niya, 5 months after kinuha yung car na ginagamit ko at pinalitan nya with the car he was using. then na iwan nya receipt inside with his current address. even at that time, wala talaga akong alam whether he was staying with another girl na or on his own na. as God's way of letting me know the truth, ayun, nagpasama mom in law ko para kumustahin anak nya since only son sya, and favorite pa ng mom nya. when we got his place, yung kabit ang sumalubong. hindi pa namin inakala na sya na pala ang kabit kasi staff house daw yun ng company where he is working. todo lie ni girl na wala daw si hubby dun that time, umalis daw etc. pero nakita ko cellphone sa sala so i said "ma, hindi yan umalis. basahin nalang natin phone nya baka mai malaman pa tayo". at dun namin nalaman na yung kausapa na pala namin ang kabit nya. umakyat na yung girl sa room at tinawag si hubby. hindi naman ako nag wild nor caused any scene there. nag usap kami tatlo ni hubby and his mom sa dining table nila. iyak ng iyak mom nya habang ako naka upo lang. feeling ko naman kasi, si hubby pa rin ang lugi kung tutuusin kasi i have our adorable daughter with me who keeps me happy and knowing ive done nothing wrong, i sleep well at night. after we left his house, i didn't even text him or what. sya ang nag communicate and all pero i kept my cool. just 3 months ago, he started saying he's sorry and all. pero hindi pa rin ako nagpa dala sa emotions ko. after all i've been through, hindi yata ganun ka dali yun lahat. i just told him, if you're really sorry, you'd leave that girl and come home to your mom's place. to think, wala akong trabaho kasi ayaw nya ako ipa work. sya lang taga provide sa amin. pero when he left, i immediately got a job para lang meron kami pang everyday ni baby na pang gastos. then eventually i put up my own eatery with my friend which kept me busy and my sanity intact. i focused all my attention to my daughter and business while trying to figure out what to do for our future. until now, hindi pa rin nya iniiwan kabit nya and he tries to communicate once in awhile pero ignore ko na talaga kasi wala naman siyang mabuting nadudulot sa amin. puro lang disappointments. to think ok na sana kami 3 sa new zealand nung 2009 pero hindi nya nagustuhan dun kaya we decided to come home and i gave up evrything there. pero now, i'm working on my papers again para makabalik hopefully next year with my daughter. mahirap isipin ang magiging set up namin 2 dun pero im sure makakaya ko if it's the only way na magkaka peace of mind ako. hindi na ako nagpa support sa daughter namin para hindi na rin cya mag visit sa kanya and hindi ako mag hope na magka balikan. kung sino pang kabit, siya pang malakas ang loob mangaway sa amin mag ina... i don't want to stoop down sa level nilang dalawa kaya hindi ko pinapatulan. i just want to rise from all these and live peacefully with my daughter. through prayers talaga, nabibigyan ako ng lakaw ng loob. excited nga ako mag christmas kami lang 2 ng anak ko. and i can't imagine life with ex-hubby now because of all the pain, betrayal and deceit he has done. i still love him naman kasi happy din memories namin sa 10 yrs kaming mag asawa pero love is simply not enough for me to take him back. i don't want to relive each day the pain he caused if i would take him back kaya i'd rather be without him and be happy.

You are surely are a STRONG woman, Sis! Kudos to you and I hope you find someone better than your husband. God bless.

[shinta]

i haven't really moved on. although we look like we're back to normal, pero deep inside i know i'm still bits and pieces. at di ko din alam kung okay pa kami. i'm just waiting na makapanganak ako, then maybe after that, i can think clearly na. kung magiging ok pa ba kami o hindi na.

[december]

baka gusto nyo mga sis manuon ng The 700 Club mamaya 11pm sa gma qtv, ganda ng topic "THOU SHALL NOT KABIT".  cant wait to watch this episode with my husband tonight.  actually nung mon & tue may topic din sila about infedility. 

tulad mo din sis shinta di pa rin talaga ako maka-moved on kahit kung titingnan kami sa panglabas parang ok talaga kasi bumalik na ang dating sweetness ng husband ko sa akin, minsan ng OA na.  pinatawad ko na sya,ganun naman lagi ginagawa ko pero ang hirap-hirap makalimot and worse is everytime naiisip ko ang sakit pa rin.  malaking tulong sa akin ang prayers talaga at laging panunuod ng 700 club everynight.   ganun din husband ko naging prayerful na din sya.

[eimerej5]

We have been thru lots of pain and anger because of what our partners did. Some of us had moved on but still feel the pain along the way.

Its not easy but when our partners are trying so hard and giving much effort to get our trust again, to show us how sorry they are and making the relationship work i think things will work out fine.

The bad thing is if you are the only one who is trying and giving effort for the relationship to work.

[gab54]

mahirap talaga mga sis, pero dito mo magagamit ang time heals all wounds... it takes time to heal, pero everyday it gets better, lalo na if nag eeffort both parties. one day u will look back & be thankful nalagpasan na ninyo ang pagsubok, wound will be healed although i leaves a scar.

[soulace]

mahirap i overcome to mga sis.. traumatic... di nabubura agad.. lalo na pag nagmoment kayong 2 naiisip mo how did he touch the other woman.. pag wala sya sa bahay you'll think na magkasama sila. pag sinabing overtime naku po napaparanoid na ako at pag late umuwi from work iba na naiisip ko.  I am just floating right now. mahal ko sya and everyday ko pinaparamdam sa kanya yun. sya din naman di ko nahalatang nagloloko na pala. he never made me feel any less.. pero ipinaglaban ko sya.. I will not give him to that other woman ng ganun2 na lang. pero I made a promise to myself that this will be the last time na lolokohin nya ako.. as of now I am busy na magpaganda.. at magmukhang appetizing lalo sa kanya.. para di na lumingon pa sa iba.. pero yun naging babae nya di naman maganda. she's darker, bilog ang mukha, may anak na, bagsak ang katawan. kaya naiinis ako bakit yung ganung tipo pa ang dapat namin pag awayan eh. I dont know what he sees in that girl at nirisk nya na mawala kaming mag ina..

[eimerej5]

Ang hirap talaga sis soulace... ang galing nga ng ginawa mo, doing everything and showing him how much you love your husband... talagang may lalaking d natin malaman kung bakit nila nagagawa ang ganun...

[euwie]

ako na yata may pinakamalalang case dito ng hindi maka move on. over 2 years na since nalaman kong nagcheat sa kin asawa ko, bakit hanggang ngayon ganon pa rin feelings ko nung una ko yun nalaman, mas malala pa yata? kanina nag alsa balutan ako pero bumalik rin ako kasi wala akong matutuluyan. meron man, ayokong ma track ako ng asawa ko kasi susunduin nya lang ako. dapat kong pagplanuhang maige ang pag alis ko. hopeless case na ako ano? kelangan na talaga maghiwalay feeling ko.... ano ba pwede ko sabihin sa kanya para maconvince ko syang umuwi na lang sa pinas? tutal sya may future sya dun, ako e andito na talaga abroad ang buhay ko. hay hirap.... sana talaga may time machine

[shinta]

i haven't really moved on. although we look like we're back to normal, pero deep inside i know i'm still bits and pieces. at di ko din alam kung okay pa kami. i'm just waiting na makapanganak ako, then maybe after that, i can think clearly na. kung magiging ok pa ba kami o hindi na.

parang naiiyak naman ako sa post kong ito. i gave birth na pero, as some of you might know already, my baby died. pero ironically, it has helped me moved on -- or should i say, move forward with our relationship. i really feel like, from the start, my baby's purpose was to save us, his parents from breaking apart.

[i_v_y]

ako na yata may pinakamalalang case dito ng hindi maka move on. over 2 years na since nalaman kong nagcheat sa kin asawa ko, bakit hanggang ngayon ganon pa rin feelings ko nung una ko yun nalaman, mas malala pa yata? kanina nag alsa balutan ako pero bumalik rin ako kasi wala akong matutuluyan. meron man, ayokong ma track ako ng asawa ko kasi susunduin nya lang ako. dapat kong pagplanuhang maige ang pag alis ko. hopeless case na ako ano? kelangan na talaga maghiwalay feeling ko.... ano ba pwede ko sabihin sa kanya para maconvince ko syang umuwi na lang sa pinas? tutal sya may future sya dun, ako e andito na talaga abroad ang buhay ko. hay hirap.... sana talaga may time machine

hi sis. dont lose hope. if you are getting tired na hindi ka pa din nakaka move on, then take a rest. Cast your burden upon Him and He will give you rest. Sobrang totoo yan sis kasi yan ang ginawa ko.
God is not done with you yet, the best is yet to come. You just have to allow Him to work on you.

[euwie]

^sis salamat sobra. your words were comforting. na-touch ako promise. im going thru a lot of pain right now, ang sakit sakit pala kapag alam mong pwede mag-end ang lahat. after ng vacation namin dun kami magkakaalaman

[bucketsale]

mga sis I know kung gaano kahirap makamove on pag naloko pero we really have to find ways to make ourselves feel better and move on as in totally moved on. ako kasi humanap ako ng sagot sa mga nangyari and why these things happened. I also find ways pano sumaya and forget about it... true enough nakamove on ako... i hope you also can find ways to be better and move on..

[klengmorales]

ako hindi pa talaga as in..

[angelita]

it's almost a year since he has stopped staying at home but i'm better than before.  He just comes home to feed the dogs, buy mineral water, does home repairs and dispose of the garbage. But he continues to pay for the bills.  magkatext kami pero very business like, nagttext sya to inform me na paid na ang bills or kung may inayos sya sa house. Then usually i just reply by saying thanks. Kahapon I requested that he buy lpg he replied naman with an ok. ganun lang kami now. Maybe i'm lucky in a way kasi hindi naman ako napabayaan totally kahit wala kaming anak he continues to be responsible for all the bills.

[carlijn]

parang naiiyak naman ako sa post kong ito. i gave birth na pero, as some of you might know already, my baby died. pero ironically, it has helped me moved on -- or should i say, move forward with our relationship. i really feel like, from the start, my baby's purpose was to save us, his parents from breaking apart.

Ang lungkot naman ng nangyari sayo sis, kung siguro namatayan ako ng baby dahil sa stress during pregnancy dahil nambababae asawa ko ay nako hindi ko alam kung ano magagawa ko sa kanya pati dun sa kabit.

[jenybasti]

 After discovering that he cheated, how did u move on?
di pa ko nakakamove on,masamang masama loob ko sa kanya ngayon.galit na galit  ako  siguro hangga't di kami nagkikita at nagkakausap ng personal eh di ko magagawang mag move on...

ok pa kayo or hindi na?
sa ngayon hinde nasa abroad sya..tinitiis ko na wag muna sya kausapin..sya din binabalewala nya ko