GT with Foreigner Hubby/Fiance/Boyfriend thread 2

[mharickar]

comment lang din ako.. NO OFFENSE mga sis ha.. friendly question lang, bakit pag may kasamang foreigner na bf or husband, the way you dress.. parang kakaiba?? parang out of place yung attire nila.. curious lang ako.. kasi almost ng nakikitang kong couple (foreigner with filipina) is ganun magdamit yung girl.. curious lang, wala kasi kong matanungan.. thanks! sorry kung may na-offend.. 

[chiching]

i have been in a relationship with an American for 3 and a half years now... he works here 2 weeks and then 2 weeks gone.

when he is here, i can say that he is the sweet and romantic type.  he would always try to have tme for me. he would show up in my workplace and surprise me. sometimes, i would come in to my house and find him sitting on my bed. he just knows how to make me feel like a princess.

the problem arises when he's not here.  he is just too focused on his job, too career-oriented that i sometimes become very needed and feel like im being taken for granted na. i discussed this issue with him but he said that he is doing it on purpose  to be busy to resist the temptations daw while we are not together.. so he would rather get himself busy.. i agree with him but then he  gets very tired too that we lose the chance to have the quality time to spend after a work day. yun lang naman, pero i see his point naman. i would prefer that he spends all his time working than playing around. haha!

and yes, i can totally relate to the cab drivers who try to mug our partners straight to our faces. i can relate to our fellow filipinas who look down at us and label us gold diggers, and i also hate it that people are thinking that we are rich just because we have foreign partners.. minsan nga nasabihan ko na if im rich i would not be working here. besides his money is his. he pays for most of our expenses, thats a fact pero  make it a point to shell out something din naman. kahit pang taxi lang.

may isa pa na super hate ko pag naririnig... that foreigners like ugly and exotic looking girls... i totally disagree. my bf disagrees too. sometimes, nakakalungkot talaga isipin na fellow filipinos pa nag iisip ng ugly things about us.

[little_princess]

mharickar, what kind of dressing up? sorry, baka naman the ones you sees are girls for hire? i mean, i don't dress differently than when i wasn't dating my fiance.

chiching, what does your bf do? mine is like that but he is away 4-5weeks at a time and is here 4-5 weeks din. i can relate about focusing about work. mine does too, we email everyday then 1 phone call and 1 chat session every week. it is timed and i understand him kasi work is work naman talaga and i like it that he is focused.

i also agree with the exotic thing. i am chinese by blood so maputi and chinita ako so i have to say i am not the typical gf/fiance or wife

[chuzzle]

sis mharickar, what do you mean kakaiba? Baka nga the girls you are talking about are for hire, but still, I do not think it is right to judge. Ako, whenever I see a woman wearing skimpy clothes with a foreigner, I do not immediately assume na girl for hire sha. Malay mo ba if she is from the states and she is just used to showing more skin.

sis little_princess, me too. I am chinese-filipina so I am a bit fairer than most pinays and I am chinita.

This guy I am dating, like what I have already said, is 10 years older. He has a stable job, and he is very hardworking. I like that because he shares so many things with me about the industry he is in. I dated some pinoys my age after my 7 year relationship with a Filipino pero talagang they do not interest me. Hahaha. When I met this guy, kahit na he is older and foreign, talagang I was so interested in everything he said. He is so nice and funny. I was so surprised too with how I reacted kasi honestly, I am not attracted to Caucasians, pero naattract talaga ako sa kanya. hahaha. 

[little_princess]

chuzzle, baka naman sa dirty makati or malate or sa may greenbelt 3 nakikita ni mharickar yung mga girls. haven yung area na yun ng girls for hire

my fiance is the same age as i am so may less i guess yung stares because we both look young but he is very responsible and hardworking. and sorry sa mga chinese and filipino boys, ibang iba siya with them in terms of outlook and attitude.

ako din, didn't like caucasians before but when i met him, the deal was done na hahaha i guess they have a different culture pero that means that you have to adjust to their ways din especially if you are in their country.

[lisse]

comment lang din ako.. NO OFFENSE mga sis ha.. friendly question lang, bakit pag may kasamang foreigner na bf or husband, the way you dress.. parang kakaiba?? parang out of place yung attire nila.. curious lang ako.. kasi almost ng nakikitang kong couple (foreigner with filipina) is ganun magdamit yung girl.. curious lang, wala kasi kong matanungan.. thanks! sorry kung may na-offend.. 

Napapansin ko din ito sis. And whenever nandito din asawa ko for his RnR (working off-shore kasi siya) and may masalubong kami sa mall na exactly as you described, naku napapangiwi. Siya mismo ayaw niya ng ganong porma. Wala din nabago sakin when me and my husband started dating lalo na sa get-up. We both like jeans and sneakers pa nga eh kasi most of the time naka-corpo look kami sa work. Para maiba naman =). Basta hindi lahat ng nakikita or nalalaman natin is applicable sa lahat or speaks for the rest of the population. Hindi lahat ng foreign men eh gusto yung "exotic looking", or skimpy manamit. Conservative husband ko and he's 10 years older than I am. HIndi din lahat ng girls na daring manamit eh may dirty biz na kasi I met some women na mismong partners daw nila ang gusto na magsuot sila ng ganon nagagalit pa daw sa kanila pag hindi maikli or hindi plunging ang neckline. Basta iba-iba lol!

[chuzzle]

I think what's important talaga eh yung you love each other and you sincerely want to be with each other. Hindi pilit or bayad. It doesn't matter ano suot mo or anong sasabihin ng ibang tao. Pakialam nila. I've talked to some Pinays with foreigners sa mga resorts outside manila and they may look like 'bayaran' pero when u talk to them hindi naman, they are just like ordinary women looking for love. Nagkataon lang na nakita nila un sa foreigner. So,  ako talaga I don't judge or I try hard not to.

[mharickar]

Napapansin ko din ito sis. And whenever nandito din asawa ko for his RnR (working off-shore kasi siya) and may masalubong kami sa mall na exactly as you described, naku napapangiwi. Siya mismo ayaw niya ng ganong porma. Wala din nabago sakin when me and my husband started dating lalo na sa get-up. We both like jeans and sneakers pa nga eh kasi most of the time naka-corpo look kami sa work. Para maiba naman =). Basta hindi lahat ng nakikita or nalalaman natin is applicable sa lahat or speaks for the rest of the population. Hindi lahat ng foreign men eh gusto yung "exotic looking", or skimpy manamit. Conservative husband ko and he's 10 years older than I am. HIndi din lahat ng girls na daring manamit eh may dirty biz na kasi I met some women na mismong partners daw nila ang gusto na magsuot sila ng ganon nagagalit pa daw sa kanila pag hindi maikli or hindi plunging ang neckline. Basta iba-iba lol!

baka nga na-gets mo yung sinasabi ko.. hehe.. thanks! ang hirap kasing idescribe..

chuzzle: wala naman akong sinasabing nag-jjudge ako, na-curious lang ako kasi almost yung mga nakikita ko is ganun.. so yun, sorry kung na-offend kita or what.. 

little princes: no sis, sa manila ko sila nakikita.. nag-wwork kasi ako sa may sm san lazaro.. dami din foreigners.. ayun no comment na..

**corrections po, as what i've said earlier, NO OFFENSE..or baka di ko din naitype na wala naman akong jinu-judge.. curiosity lang.. 

[chiching]

@ little princess:  my partner is a geologist. so he spends 2 weeks in malaysia and then 2 weeks here. minsan, pag di sya makakauwi, ako na lang pumupunta to visit him. (if my work sked permits). 

I am full blooded filipina pero i have chinita look naman. not very fair but not very dark.

as for the clothes im wearing naman.. it really depends on where we go. most of the time, depende rin sa attire nya.  he is most of the time in corpo clothes so i dress up a little pag ganun. (more often, im in my nurse's uniform) lol!  if malling lang, i wear shorts and shirt. if i wear sleeveless top naman, i use jeans. i wear clothes that's not too revealing. well not unless the situation suggests naman.

[little_princess]

chiching, my fiance is a geophysicist naman! haha what industry is he in? my fiance nasa oil and gas and he's been everywhere. what is there in malaysia for geologists? sorry ha, we're trying kasi to look for a land job for him para sa future.

clothes wise, i really don't know. i dress the way i dress and it hasn't changed. sabi pa nga ng fiance ko that people here wear short shorts (normal shorts lang for us) kasi in europe daw, not a lot of people do it. he lets me be but he likes it when i'm dolled up like a in a dress and nice fitting clothes kasi it brings out the feminine curves. i dress for the occasion and not for the person.

[chuzzle]

sis mharickar sorry, I don't mean na nagjujudge ka. I understand that you are just curious. I apologize if I offended you.

As for me, saksakan ko nga ng conservative. I wear shorts, but I never wear sleeveless blouses. Hahaha. I always just wear jeans and like a blouse when I am with him. I like wearing flats too. Sometimes, nagheheels ako when I feel like it. Usually wedges and mga 3 inch heels. He isn't that tall. Mga 5'10" siya and I am mga 5'4.

Sisses, bakit ganun? I haven't met any Pinoy guy as interesting as him. Basta di ko maexplain. He is actually conservative as well. He is incredibly smart and fun and interesting. Di naman obvious na I am so into him, no? haha

[chiching]

@ little princess: hi! my guy is into gas and oil din.. so far ang biggest project nya dito is the FPIC (leak in west tower).  their company is US based but has branches here is Asia so he is the regional consultant for southeast asia so keeps travelling din. pag nakakuha ako ng break sa work, sinasama naman ako. lol!! i guess, thats one of the perks of being with bf who is assigned anywhere.

di rin naman sya strict sa clothes ko... i take the freedom to wear something thats nice and not magmukhang bastusin especially since we live here in malate area (i work in PGH). dami kasi ditong u know.

[Lady Blue]

Hmm.... exotic doesn't mean ugly. Ewan ko ba kung bakit pag sinabing exotic-looking ang isang tao eh iniisip na agad pangit.

I met this woman once when I was in Cebu with my fiance. Unang tingin mo sa kanya, you'll think she's a hooker. What, with her big hairdo, heavy heavy eye make-up and figure-hugging loud clothes. Turned out she's a high-earning computer programmer working in an American firm and she was in Cebu vacationing with her foreigner hubby. Very interesting lady.

Kahit ako I haven't met a Pinoy as interesting as my sweetheart. With him, I am free to be me. And he's so smart and funny and interesting.

As for the clothes, hinahayaan nya ko magsuot ng kahit anong gusto ko. Kasi he wont care kung ano iisipin or icocomment ng ibang tao. Sa kanya kasi kung saan ka masaya,keber ba nila? Kung gusto ko magsuot ng scandalous/skimpy na damit (which I do not think I will ever have the guts to do), go!  We only live once, that's our motto .Eh ako kasi may pagkaboyish. Twice or three times pa lang yata ako nakasuot ng dress sa buong buhay ko.. Prom and engagement party. My usual get up: jeans, t-shirt, sneakers and a backpack tapos nakaglasses pa ko. The first time we met he thought I was a student. So gang ngayon yun pa rin usual na suot ko.. pwera na lang pag nasa bahay.. which is wala..
Siya naman he loves wearing a sarong-like cloth then t-shirts. Mainit kasi!

He is 6'3" and I am 4'11" but I don't wear heels. I am a klutz kasi. Flipflops nga natatapilok ako eh. And I love the disparity in height. Feeling baby ako His hair is light brown with natural golden and reddish highlights, mine is black. His eyes are icy blue and mine are warm brown. His skin is white but tan now due to too much sun but not as dark as mine.

[pillows14]

comment lang din ako.. NO OFFENSE mga sis ha.. friendly question lang, bakit pag may kasamang foreigner na bf or husband, the way you dress.. parang kakaiba?? parang out of place yung attire nila.. curious lang ako.. kasi almost ng nakikitang kong couple (foreigner with filipina) is ganun magdamit yung girl.. curious lang, wala kasi kong matanungan.. thanks! sorry kung may na-offend.. 

I want to comment on this, hindi lang filipina with foreigners ang ganito, it can happen to asian girls with europeans... Based on my observation (i myself is married with a european), madami friends si hubby na nagpupunta sa angeles, they chat on the net and voila they have new gf's, from there ang suot ng girls dun is maiikli, almost kita na kaluluwa, that is because the girls want to make sure that they have the guy's attention at hindi sila ipagpalit sa iba kasi sayang ang kita.... On the otherhand, hindi lahat ng ganyan magdamit na girls eh for hire, my hubby's friend who met a davaoena girl wearsk skimpy attires, short shorty skirts because that is how the guy wants him to wear, these europeans wants to show the world how lucky they were to have a filipina girlfriend (yan sabi nung friend ni hubby) also yung ganitong pagdadamit eh depende po yan sa choices of clothes ni girl or nung mismong foreigner... Not necessarily for hire sila ... As for me, my hubby wants me to dress formally or casual at all times, he wants to look presentable and at the same time ako din, so its a big no-no for us na magsupt ako ng super ikli or labas ang boobies or whatever, important sa kanya ang respect ng isang babae sa pansarili nyang katawan and that includes the way how a woman should dress... Of course gaya ng sinasabi ko madalas, iba iba ang mga lalaki

What is it like being married to a foreigner? All of my ex boyfriends are pinoys, and I am thinking about being serious with this foreigner I am seeing regularly. Marrying age na ako, so I think, di malayong magkatuluyan kami. I don't have close friends who are married to foreigners kaya wala akong matanungan. What is life like? Adjusting and all? I hope I learn something from everyone here.

Hi sis chuzzle, with regards to your question, being married to a foreigner is almost the same as marrying a filipino. BUT the challenges are different, una syempre ang culture, beliefs etc etc... With regards sa ganyang issue, its more of meeting half-way or weigh the pros and cons... As for my experience, madami kami differences sa paniniwala ng hubby ko but later on natutunan ko din na tama pala and sya din natutunan nya na may point din ako on some instances, communication is also the key... Straigh forward sila, unlike tayong mga pinoy ang dami natin pasakalye or paligoy-ligoy if we want to say something. Just like me hahahaha... Until he taught me na maging straight forward hehe mas better pala yun. Also, since foreigner sila, dont ever think na mas superior sila sayo or mas superior ka... Kase nasa relationship kayao and lalo na kung married na diba... So far the biggest challenged we had was living in australia or in the philippines as i dont want to leave my career here and start anew sa australia but then since we will now have our second child, napapaisip na ako for my kiddies education. Also, dont ever try to impress people, kiber kung tignan ka nila mula ulo hanggang paa for marrying foreigner at never let others feel na porke foreigner eh mapera, they are also working hard... Respect for each other is the best aside from keeping the communications line open... Feel free to ask questions sis if meron ka pa gusto itanong

[chuzzle]

Thanks for the advice sis pillows14!

I guess, halos parehas lang naman ang relationships with a foreigner sa relationship with a pinoy. meron lang talagang cultural differences. What's important is talaga yung communication. I do agree with the being direct attitude. Me also, I tend to avoid saying NO. As much as possible, yes lang or kakayanin or maybe I will try. Pero he hates that. He always tells me to be true and just say my feelings directly.

[shopaholic18]

nothing changed in the way i dress ever since i met my boyfriend, casual lang naman kasi talaga ako and since boyfriend is half pinoy, di naman too obvious na half American not until he speaks. sa weather nga natin dito, i can also apply it when i get there in California, very laid back kind of clothes. we we're never judged too, even if he's 10 year older than me, he looks so young. and yeah people judge girls with exotic looks, personally even if with all my Chinese features, i try not to judge them, why coz honestly that's true pure Filipina beauty. pero i can't ignore the fact that some girls do that and when boyfriend and i talk about it, we pity them. boyfriend has a friend who got married to a filipina who only used and cheated on him. it happens but not to everyone.

[^Vain_Chiq^]

I don't know where to post this so I'll just post it here mga sis. Grrr.. naiinis ako now with this Filipina who I think is flirting with my bf. My dutch bf & I have this Phil.travel website kasi and my bf posted an ad somewhere looking for writers and he indicated his email there. And then kanina lang nahuli ko accidentally na there's this email of 1 girl writer who obviously flirts with him just because she knows my bf is foreigner. I mean alam naman natin kung kailan professional and kung kailan medyo flirty na ang dating ng email. Biruin mo my bf just replied to her queries in one word tapos ang reply eh mega ang haba with matching smiley face and flirty lines. I don't meddle with my bf's private email so I'm worried that the flirting of this girl will continue. Badtrip lang mga sis....

[pinklilac]

^ naku sis kairiita talaga mga pinay na flirt..
lalo na mga girls na alam na nilang taken si F eh mega flirt at papansin pa rin..

[lovely_chic]

^^ Wag ka na masyado mag worry sis.. Gaano na ba kayo katagal ng bf mo? May mga pinay na ganyan talaga ang ugali especially when they found out that the guy is a foreigner. Kahit nga hindi foreigner ang guy nagfiflirt pa rin nasa ugali na kasi yan. There was one time din na someone emailed me and told me that bf din niys yung bf ko. Jusme! Natatawa ako sa kanya kasi ang desperada niya to say that at super galit yung bf ko coz muntikan nasira yung relasyon namin coz that. Mga panira talaga yang mga klase na girls yan. Walang magawa sa buhay at desperada na. Kaya't wag kang magpa apekto sis. Just give him all the best that you can.

[lonelymiss28]

speaking of....we have this circle of friends before, 4 kami sa grupo...we go out together and pag may date ang isa, isa sa amin kasama or hihintayin namin sa labsa [textspeak!] coffee shop and papanoorin lang namin sila...ganon kami ka close...then one time may naging bf yung isa na american (canada kami lahat), aba yung isa naming ka-group ni add si american sa ym nya na di sinasabi kay ate at nagpapadala ng flirty message, mabuti nalang di pinatulan ni american at medyo na bad trip si kuya dahil bat sya pinapadalhan ng message without telling my friend eh magkakaibigan kami so since then nawalan ako ng simpatya at di na ako nakisama sa kanila. i don't want to associate myself sa ganong mga tao...kaibigan tatalunin...hello!