GT with Foreigner Hubby/Fiance/Boyfriend thread 2

[^Vain_Chiq^]

^I replied on sis macblush post sa married board. Wawa naman sya. Let's all pray that she can safely go home.   

[lisse]

^sis vain, nabasa ko na yung thread sa married life, and yung story na pi-nost ni sis macblush. grabe pala talaga pinagdadaanan niya sa husband niya. and the worse part is she's in a country somewhere na she can't speak the language. badly needed talaga niya ng prayers. i think i can safely say that the guy is sick in the head. my heart really goes out to her. i learned a lot from her story, and it made me appreciate my hubby even more. i just hope and pray she recovers soon.

[little_princess]

i saw macblush's post and it made me very very scared for her. hope she is ok 

[nomorebacardi]

hmmm.. im not in a relationship with a totally foreign guy. but he is chinese and grew up here in the Philippines.

met him through facebook. now were together and serious about each other. cant wait to get married haha. bata ko pa! 21.

but anyway i can't really tell about total foreigners na di naman dito lumaki or nanirahan. but what i like about that is the kids that we might be having!

im sure cuties! hahah

wow cool, i also met my boyfriend through facebook pero dahil sa common friend nung nagkakilala kami, sakto magbabakasyon sya ulit in the philippines for 3 months. tapos ayun, naging magboyfriend kami, ngayon mag1 year na kami and babalik na sya this september.

[felicityinlove]

Pajoin mga sis..

My fiance and I work in the same company and we met at the office when he came to the Phils for his expat role. We eventually fell inlove during his one year stay and has been engaged for 6 months now.

[lunast]

hello mga sis..i just need advice. Thanksgiving is coming soon and my Texan bf will visit his Dad for Thanksgiving.. originally, our plan was for me to go with him but I have to stay home and spend thanksgiving w/ my own family bec my brother (whom I haven't seen for months!) will be coming home in Florida and will be gone for deployment by December w/c means I won't see him again for another 7-8 months. Mybf  already told his Dad that I can't go and why.. Ok naman sa Dad nya but I was just wondering if there's something I can do, like maybe send my bf w/ a gift for his Dad.. or ndi ba magmumukhang OA un? lol I wanted to send some Florida oranges but I dunno if that's a good idea. Handcarry lang dala ni bf sa airplane eh. pwede ba un? homebaked goods? Or should I just not do anything? Parang ndi kc ako sanay na balewalain lang dahil Pilipino [textspeak!].. we're family oriented. I just want to make a good impression to his Dad. Not impress his Dad, but just start on a good foot ba.

[lisse]

hi sis lunast! IMO, do what you feel like you're comfortable doing. And also pwede naman siguro hingin ang POV ni bf mo. For example, baka may allergy sa citrus si dad niya, or hindi siya mahilig dun, and since siya magdadala, ano din ba ang carry niyang dalhin. ma-aapreciate yon ng dad niya kasi kahit na sa maliit na way maalala mo siya. ako nga si mother in law ko nung nag-visit from the US, dinalhan ko lang ng native na bag and maps ng Philippines. (tapos regalo niya sakin blackberry bold waaaa!). ayon super na-appreciate niya and take not pina-frame pa daw niya yung maps  hahaha! May soft side din naman sila and besides, masyado ng gasgas ito pero there is truth to this: "it's the thought that counts".

[starfirejulie]

Make yourself pretty dahil madaming kontrabida. Lalo na kung bata pa yung partner nyo. Kahit nga matatanda na hinahabol pa din ng mga babae dito because some girls look at foreigners as walking visas and wallets.

[Erika]

Has anyone dated/been with someone who used to be with the US army/have experienced war?

[NightSky]

Joining the topic din. I'm currently in a relationship with an American for about 3 months now. Long time friend ko, met at an anime site about 7 years ago. Talagang Naruto pa ang dahilan kung bakit kami naging friends He'll be coming here this May. Nakakakaba pala. Nung nanligaw siya, nung una parang ayaw ko kasi ayoko na may mag-isip na ang habol ko pera lang, dahil may blockmate siya na yun ang sinabi (he confided it with me tapos sabi niya hinampas niya daw ng libro dahil hindi daw ako ganun) pero leap of faith talaga naging decision ko and I'm happy, we both are. Here's hoping everything will go smoothly this coming May. 

[pillows14]

Hello mga sissies, now lang ako nakapagonline ... I already gave birth to a baby girl so ayun ,ejo naging busy ako... I wish na sa mga girls na may foreigner bf eh maging maingat at kahit papano maging choosy pa din, hindi kase lahat serious, hindi lahat mabait etc etc... Use your instincts... Im so sad when i read sis macblush posts on the other thread... I hope she is okay by now...


As for me, my husband is still the same, no changes, still romantic and more patient now... Never failed to say i love you everyday. We are now based in Manila... Our daughter will be turning 1 next month and new baby is on the way, will probably give birth by the end of this year...

This maybe OT but i want to share this, my hubby have some friends who frequently visits Phils esp angeles, one of his mates met a filipina bar girl and decided to bought her from her mamasan, lucky for this girl because the guy is soooooo nice, he provided everything for the girl, gave her decent life, shouldered her 3 sons tuition fee and gave her parents some money to start business.. The only request he asked is never ask him to get married, he doesnt want to get married. He never fails to visit phils monthly just to make sure the girl is okay... Lucky her eh...

Another one i knew is like quite a playboy, my hubby's friend... Met a girl online thru filipina dating site, decided to meet her in One of the progressive cities from Visayas region, the girl lives in a remote area, i couldnt say that she is poor just because she lives in remote area. So she met m y hubby's friend... This guy doesnt want to go to the remote area to meet the parents, he wants the parents to meet him in one of the hotel in the cities and booked them in a cheap pension house... Then he invited the girl to go with him in angeles, he even wants the girl to wear sexy dress as in makikita na ang singit. He wants her to dress like bargirls... Well, for her okay lang basta magkaron lang ng foreigner bf, which is mali kase nawawala na ang self worth nya, then the guy informed us (me and hubby) that he wants to bring the young girl in his house overseas...guess what... He wants her to look after his house habang wala daw sya to clean, in short caretaker then s3x partner sa gabi... That is how she described her... Then pag magkakasama lahat kinuwkento ng guy un performance ni girl sa kama...unaware si girl about it which hindi ko masabi ng maayos sa kanya kase mejo sarado utak ng girl, konting nega lang masabi ko about bf nya (which is for her own good din naman) sinusumbong nya ako agad sa bf nya na kesyo pakialamera ako at sinisiraan ko bf nya so hindi ko na sinasabi sa kanya lahat ng alam ko..close kase bf nya at hubby ko... Now, demied visa ni girl, and guess what the guy says, dapat i should find new young girl with work so she can get isa, my house needs caretaker!...

Sorry mahaba... I just want others to know na hindi lahat ng gwapo or sweet na foreigner ay may intention na maganda, wag maing sarado ang isip, gamitin din ang utak wag lang un pangarap na makapunta ng ibang bansa...or wag lang un panagarap na masabi lang na may bf na foreigner... Ingat din po... And be sincere to them as well...pasasaan ba at may taong laan talaga for you...

[little_princess]

^ i have to agree with that kasi not because asia, mabait na and maasikaso and not because foreign, hindi na gagawa ng kaokohan.

my fiance naman experienced the opposite. he met a filipina in cebu and they got into a short relationship. why short? the girl's family begged him to support them tapos he tested her if she would be trustworthy but she failed. he left an atm with her to be used if there is an emergency, there was about 50k there and the day after he left, she withdrew all the money.

[Cristal]

Hirap ako sa foreigner na BF in terms of culture...I cant take how liberated they are. The way they talk to their friends na girls...kala mo there's something going on...super touchy sila. He makes me feel im just paranoid and he said he will not change the way he is. Wow! great diba? Oh well...iba talaga ang pinoy boys! Mas sensitive sila sa needs ng girls.

[lisse]

^^^hay sis, i can feel where you're coming from. idk ha, pero i experienced the same, ikaw na lang nagmamalasakit ending eh ikaw pa mapapasama. pwede naman magkamali and hindi perfect ang ating mga foreign partners diba? just because they're foreigners doesn't mean they can never be or do wrong. at least you've done your part, the rest is up to them. (sorry if mejo napa-OT

[starfish07]

Hi! I am currently in a relationship with an american guy, he was so sweet ,caring and thoughtful to the point na iniwan ko yung 2 years kong bf because of him kasi my ex started to take me for granted that time na overwhelmed ako sa attention ni american guy. I never imagined my self na makipagrelasyon sa foreigner ayoko nga eh dati.. pero eto ako ngayon.. well.. now, i can say na may advantage at disadvantage ang pakikipagrelasyon sa foreigner or sa kalahi natin.. i can say na kailangan ng malaking adjustments pareho kaming 30  yrs old and after we dated for 3 mos he asked me to moved in with him , and ako naman si ga** naki move in naman nga kagad this is like a trial marriage its a huge difference than just dating iba talaga pag kasama mo na sa bahay.. marami kang madidiscover.

[pillows14]

Madami talaga cultural differences when it comes to dating or marrying a foreigner... I did experience those as well.... Noong mag bf pa lang kami ng hubby ko, he kisses me kahit sa harap ng parents ko or some close friends which is naiinis ako at nahihiya, then i trid talking to him privately na ayoko ng ganong klaseng PDA (hindi naman ako masyado conservative pero nahihiya lang ako pag sa harap ng parents ko) then he said, it is normal to them na halikan gf nila infront of anyone as long as hindi naman nakakabastos, also he told me, you should feel lucky when i kiss you infront of others, other girls or wife never experience that from their bf or husband, never showed the public how much they love their gf / wife and they wish that their bf/husband can do the same for them. You may not like it but i wanted to show everyone how much i love you, kissing you in the puclic doesnt mean that i am degrading you, i know when and where is the right place. This is europeans way, i hope you'll get used to it somehow..... Mejo napaisip na din ako... Nungagtagal natanggap ko na din ... Some aspects na may differences kami, we discuss it and meet half-way... Or we sometimes weight the pros and cons then mutually agree to the things that will benefit us... Napaguusapanaman lahat ng bagay eh, differences are just differences, pwedeng pagusapan para maging mutual

[Cristal]

^^^hay sis, i can feel where you're coming from. idk ha, pero i experienced the same, ikaw na lang nagmamalasakit ending eh ikaw pa mapapasama. pwede naman magkamali and hindi perfect ang ating mga foreign partners diba? just because they're foreigners doesn't mean they can never be or do wrong. at least you've done your part, the rest is up to them. (sorry if mejo napa-OT

Hay naku sis!!! Hirap talaga nila intindihin! That guy made me feel pa na he's not doing anything wrong eh ang dami kong friends sa states who grew up there na Hindi touchy or Hindi flirt sa girls. He kept telling me cuz they are Filipinos...so what diba? They all grew up in one country and culture. Ayaw nalang aminin na he has fidelity issues!!!! Hay buhay! Sakit sakit!

[bookworm_ako]

Noong mag bf pa lang kami ng hubby ko, he kisses me kahit sa harap ng parents ko or some close friends which is naiinis ako at nahihiya, then i trid talking to him privately na ayoko ng ganong klaseng PDA (hindi naman ako masyado conservative pero nahihiya lang ako pag sa harap ng parents ko) then he said, it is normal to them na halikan gf nila infront of anyone as long as hindi naman nakakabastos

Same situation. I don't like this as well. He told me that it was natural for them to display public affection, but since he knows i don't like it, he refrains himself. What he does though, is whispers in my ear what he wants to do and then laughs when I turn red. Duh! 

Also, I am one of those people who feels self-conscious when we are together since it is very obvious that we are of different races. I mean I look asian (chinita) and he looks white. Aside from that, he looks older than he is. There is only about 14 years difference between us but physically, I can pass as his daughter. 

[NightSky]

Same here. Nung nagkita kami this May, he was very affectionate sa public. Eh hindi ako sanay, inintindi niya naman. A quick kiss or hugs would be fine, but nothing more than that. He's 2 years younger than me, pero mas mukha daw siyang mas matanda sa akin.

Ang ayoko lang may mga tao pa din na feeling ata pineperahan ko. :/ One time kasi naubos cash niya, kaya nagpasama sa mall para makapag-withdraw. While he was withdrawing, narinig ko nag-uusap yung nasa likuran namin; 2 girls. Sabi: "Diba may tawag dyan? Gold digger." Nakakasama ng loob kasi madali ako masaktan sa sinasabi ng tao but I let it slide na lang.

Kaya nung andito siya, share talaga kami and then ako sagot ng ibang expenses namin sa Boracay.

... Bigla ko siya namiss. Waaah.

[shopaholic18]

^yan ang ayoko sanang isipin sakin ng mga tao, although bf is filipino - am, actually more on filipino features niya, wag lang magsasalita. sa PDA naman, he's a discreet kind of person, actually ako pa nga mas malambing, well siguro it comes with age and maturity on his side but i know we'll jive but not to the extent of too clingy type in public kasi kahit ako di narin comfortable dun. medyo OT pero my problem now is it will be his first time here in the Philippines and i wanted to take him to places na sikat talaga satin, he wanted Boracay actually but then tag ulan na kaya i don't think it will be an option. Thunderbird poro point is a sure itinerary along with Baguio and Tagaytay. do you have any suggestions? ask ko lang where did you take your foreigner bf/fiance when they got here for the first time? any help will be appreciated, thank you...