GT with Foreigner Hubby/Fiance/Boyfriend thread 2

[jddrgn]

makikisali din po ako

it was february last year, i met a korean guy in a dating site, we lasted for about two months.

then july, i discovered the webchat na makikipag usap strangers, one night there's this British guy, he's just a year or two older than me.nag chat kami sa website but then he asked for my msn, so i gave ot.he's nice and we're on the same field, which is arts and films.everything went well, every night mag kausap kami, pero never naging kami, kahit gusto niya na maging kami, kasi ayaw niya ng LDR.so he said na he'll save nalang muna to meet me, he's so matured kung mag isip kasi mag solo siya, kasi patay na dad niya and his mom nag asawa na din pero nasa Spain. Nag wowork siya para makapag- aral and sa pang gastos.And he's not a type of guy na puro sex lang.when ever na pumapasok ang sex sa usapan it's about having our own kids, all about marriage life kung baga.masasabi ko he's a perfect guy.binigay niya din mobile number niya kung gusto ko siya makausap.until now he's single and waiting for the right time.wala naman kaming promise sa isa't isa na maging single hanggang mag meet kami.

early this year, mga january i met this french guy in a dating website naman.pero hindi nag work, he's too much into sex, and ang gusto ba naman e mag show ako sa cam.pero i have to admit na, na fall ako sa kanya, miski siya din naman, pero he's the first one to like me.ngayon wala na kaming communation, ayoko din kasi.walang assurance sa kanya, gusto ka lang for sex and pleasure.so bye bye nalang.

and now i'm in a relationship with an american, he's too different, he's been single for about 7 years before niya ako makilala.his mom already know that i'm his gf, i'm 18 turning 19 and he's 24 turning 25.and nakakatuwang part e, sinabihan siya ng mom niya na baka makulong siya for child abuse, cause his mom doesn't know yung mga date date dito satin.he's studying and looking for working at the same time.para maka ipon to meet me next year, and gusto niya na ako isama sa US pag bumalik siya don.tinutulungan niya na din ako mag hanap ng work since i'm about to graduate ng college this december.hindi pa din alam ng parents ko, pero they're not against sa age gap and interracial marriage, for my lolo is 18 years ahead sa lola ko and may relatives kami na may asawang foreigner.

as of now i'm happy and contented.

[stylista]

Every since I came to Canada I was only in a relationship with Caucasians. I dated 3 white guys to be exact. There was not a lot of a difference in my opinion.

Napansin ko lang sa mga sis dito na na-meet nila yung mga Foreigners on a dating site. Well, kahit ano pang ethnicity nila basta you met them online eh nakakatakot. :| Just be more cautious. Di lahat ng sinasabi nila eh totoo. Meaning mahilig din mambola kase akala nila nadadaan nila mga Filipina na mga tatamis na salita LOL But seriously, ingat lang.

It will be a lot different if you meet them from a common friend or somebody you actually know from work. Wala namang masyadong culture barrier. Well, the guys I dated were all white kaya wala talagang adjustments. Unlike if you date someone with another language as their first language. (Europeans, Asians, etc)

[shopaholic18]

theres this one nice guy whom im getting to know as of the moment, he's half filipino and half american, we actually met online lang, then naging frequent chat na(daily) at first akala ko fake accounts niya sa FB or ym but then again we had video chat and na confirm ko naman na siya yun. first time ko sa ganito so nanibago talaga ako, iba talaga kasi culture nila, they really value their space and time kaya pag binigyan ka niya ng time maswerte ka na, lagi silang on the go. kaya siguro kami ngkasundo kasi we both work in the medical field, dami din namin napagkakasunduan and nakikita namin sa isa't isa husband/wife material. a month later we both decided to quit that dating site, actually trip lang talaga pag sali ko dun kasi may nag dare lang sakin. then he told me na it would be better if kami munang dalawa, walang iba para mas makilala namin yung isa't isa. dun ko na realize na medyo seryoso na, kasi naging honest talaga siya na sumali siya talaga sa dating site na yun to look for a filipina wife and not just make friends, he wouldn't want to waste time either kasi maraming time na waste niya with his past gf. then he admitted he liked me. until now were taking things slow, were not yet a couple pero kung sa atin is mutual understanding, sa amin ang dating nun is were both reserved. still enjoying getting to know each other every single day, he plans on going here to meet me or me going to US and visit my relatives there too. ive decided na mas maganda nga siguro yun mas magkakilala muna bago yung mga next step. nakakakilig lang parang kayo pero hindi, feelings are mutual pero not yet that mature to be called love, and hirap kasi di pa kami nagkikita in person, by that time siguro dun namin ma susure if there is really something. pero ngayon ang masasabi ko lang were both happy.

[^Vain_Chiq^]

Basta wag agad papabola.Iba rin kasi yung nakita mo na personally and nagkasama kayo.Then that's the only time you can say that everything can work out.Basta ako I'm super happy with my dutch bf and I couldn't ask for anything more.

[shopaholic18]

^thanks for the advice sis, we are still on the process and its been 2 months consistently, but i still am firm with my decision of being not involved with him not until we see each other. so far so good lang.

[little_princess]

.. and while you haven't met, wag papadala and still see other people locally. if things turn sour and you are online 24/7, you just might miss out on a lot of things life can offer outside the computer.

[shopaholic18]

^i can but chose not to, wala lang tingin kong deserving sa attention, pero whoever comes along the way na makukuha yung attention ko maybe but as of now ok naman ako with this. thanks for all the advice mga sis.

[pillows14gurl]

Pasali din ako [textspeak!]

although napost ko na story ko sa ibang thread (im just happy to share it) I have an australian hubby... we knew each other thru phone (2009).. (double job kase ako that time pharmacist sa umaga at call center agent sa gabi) so one time he called for a simple technical troubleshooting for internet security. I wasnt looking for any relationship at all since busy ako sa anak ko and sa work. last part is need ko to check if may outgoing na email nya, so i gave my working email add. he gave out his email adress and i forgot about it. the following morning he sent me an email, and i just replied thank you. after 3 days of email correspondence, he sent me a documents coming from their embassy that everything he owned (house and lot, car etc etc) is already named after me and my son..even all his insurance ako un at anak ko un beneficiary. my reaction was "are you dying?" and he said no.. he was 20 yrs my senior. hindi nya pa ako nakikita kaht sa webcam. the first time we chatted sa skype my hair was dishevelled [textspeak!] kakagising ko lang..as usual dahil foreigner he finds it lovely LOL.. the following day, nagpaganda naman ako kahit papano exert naman ng effort, nagparebond then naglagay ng lipstick at eyeshadow hehe kaya lang when he saw me sabi nya i looked haggard, so never na ako ulit nageffort nung mga sunod na chat namin. he never courted me nor promised anything over the net. then after 2 weeks of chatting, he went here in the Phils. I never never thought that we will be wearing same shirt color. nung makita nya ako sa airport, right then and there he proposed infront of so many people na nandun sa airport with matching engagement ring na hawak nya (nahihiya ako that time kase nakatingin lahat ng tao) and to think kaharap parents at anak ko (2yrs old that time) i was shocked kala ko sa movie lang may ganon. So we went to the hotel, at first ayoko magstay at matulog doon(kahit na i was previously married parang nahiya ako bigla kase foreigner naman ito) it melt my heart when he said, lets not do anything, i want you to be comfortable with me and i will wait until u accept my proposal before we can make love (later on inexplain nya na before he went here in the phils, nabasa daw nya sa internet na conservative ang mga pinay at natatakot sya i-turn down ko un proposal nya). He stayed for two weeks.. believe it or not, magkatabi kami matulog no sexual contacts. may kiss naman pero he dont do it sa gabi (lakas nya magkontrol) he was so gentleman.. he stayed for 2 weeks and went back to Australia. tuloy tuloy communication namin, hanggang maging kami, we travelled every other month together. he considered my son as his own. i requested na gusto ko magstay [textspeak!] sa pinas and ayoko pumunta ng australia and i have to justify it kase gusto nya pumunta ako doon. he knew na i have a very stable career here in pharmaceutical industry na d ko naman pwede iwanan. so sya na lang ngbabakasyon [textspeak!] every other month. he sold his property in australia and bought an apartment there (para daw pag nagbakasyon ako may pupuntahan daw ako doon) he also bought a big house here for me, bought a house for my parents (so un house ng parents ko eh pinaupahan na lang namin), he gave me money to start business, send my son to school, he provided everything for me and i am so grateful about that. he is a genuine person and he would call me everyday (pag nasa work sya just to say he loves meand telling me how proud he is to have me). right now, we are expecting a baby, i will give birth on June 2011. sobrang happy ako at nakilala ko sya at kahit sa telepono lang kami nagkakilala masasabi ko na un love namin for each other can never be replaced with material things. may iba sinasabi t@ng@ ako kase hindi ako pumunta sa australia, but i dont care, its not my cup of tea... i want to stay here in Phils. and we are happy here..every other month sya umuuwi dito sa pinas kase every other month lang bakasyon nya. He's a navigator. we are just so happy, contented and inlove everyday.

[shopaholic18]

^oh my coming from a fellow pharmacist ang cute ng love story niyo sis, hopefully all goes well between us nung guy na kinikilala ko ngayon. i just have to pray hard for it, i guess. hope he's gonna be that answer to my prayer.

[pillows14gurl]

pray ka lang sis shpaholic saka u will feel it in your heart naman kung sya na talaga... just take your time....ayyyy i hope sana maging okay kayo nyan hehe fellow pharmacist! yehey! i will pray for you din 

[shopaholic18]

^thanks sis. consolation na sa ngayon na we're both happy with what we have. formality sake nalang talaga kulang which is magkita kami, hopefully when i visit US or when he comes for vacation here mangyari yun, hectic schedule namin kasi we're both working in a hospital. yet looking forward to what's in the future for us both.

[little_princess]

pillows, good for you and your happy ending

shopaholic18, basta be careful pa din. it will change once you personally meet each other. my bf and i didn't meet online but as any normal couple, we discover more and more about each other everyday. goodluck!

[lisse]

wow, how sweet! tagal-tagal ko ng nawala, dumating kasi si hubby for his RnR kaya mejo nawala ako sa ere for awhile.

anyway mga sis, do you always get this na pag nalaman ng friends or even casual acquaintances na foreigner si hubby/bf, they will nag you into asking your partner if meron siyang friend or bro or cousin or colleague na single and searching din?

[shopaholic18]

^i will, thanks sis, really appreciate all your advices.

[little_princess]

hi sis lisse! same here, he was here for 5 weeks and now he's back to work for another 5

i don't get that much since in my culture, interracial relationships are frowned upon

[lisse]

^Ganon? well, in a way e swerte mo na din sis kasi sometimes I'm running out of excuses not to hook them up with hubby's acquaintances eh. Pano ba naman kasi I don't want them to expect na they will be like me, I'm not trying to sound as if I have the perfect everything na ha, far from it, but then I thank God na hubby is all that I want in a man eh syempre nag-e-expect din sila na katulad ni hubby yung mga ipapakilala namin.

Sa place naman namin, they think na ang yaman-yaman mo na kapag married ka sa isang foreigner. Kaya whenever I get these kind of comments at work, I just smile and say "Why do you think I still work here?"

Ewan ko ba, pero sometimes may ma-e-encounter ka talagang mga tao na iba ang tingin sa mga foreigners.

By the way, you said culture. I assume na you have mixed cultural background? or race kaya?

[macblush]

Pasali din ako [textspeak!]

although napost ko na story ko sa ibang thread (im just happy to share it) I have an australian hubby... we knew each other thru phone (2009).. (double job kase ako that time pharmacist sa umaga at call center agent sa gabi) so one time he called for a simple technical troubleshooting for internet security. I wasnt looking for any relationship at all since busy ako sa anak ko and sa work. last part is need ko to check if may outgoing na email nya, so i gave my working email add. he gave out his email adress and i forgot about it. the following morning he sent me an email, and i just replied thank you. after 3 days of email correspondence, he sent me a documents coming from their embassy that everything he owned (house and lot, car etc etc) is already named after me and my son..even all his insurance ako un at anak ko un beneficiary. my reaction was "are you dying?" and he said no.. he was 20 yrs my senior. hindi nya pa ako nakikita kaht sa webcam. the first time we chatted sa skype my hair was dishevelled [textspeak!] kakagising ko lang..as usual dahil foreigner he finds it lovely LOL.. the following day, nagpaganda naman ako kahit papano exert naman ng effort, nagparebond then naglagay ng lipstick at eyeshadow hehe kaya lang when he saw me sabi nya i looked haggard, so never na ako ulit nageffort nung mga sunod na chat namin. he never courted me nor promised anything over the net. then after 2 weeks of chatting, he went here in the Phils. I never never thought that we will be wearing same shirt color. nung makita nya ako sa airport, right then and there he proposed infront of so many people na nandun sa airport with matching engagement ring na hawak nya (nahihiya ako that time kase nakatingin lahat ng tao) and to think kaharap parents at anak ko (2yrs old that time) i was shocked kala ko sa movie lang may ganon. So we went to the hotel, at first ayoko magstay at matulog doon(kahit na i was previously married parang nahiya ako bigla kase foreigner naman ito) it melt my heart when he said, lets not do anything, i want you to be comfortable with me and i will wait until u accept my proposal before we can make love (later on inexplain nya na before he went here in the phils, nabasa daw nya sa internet na conservative ang mga pinay at natatakot sya i-turn down ko un proposal nya). He stayed for two weeks.. believe it or not, magkatabi kami matulog no sexual contacts. may kiss naman pero he dont do it sa gabi (lakas nya magkontrol) he was so gentleman.. he stayed for 2 weeks and went back to Australia. tuloy tuloy communication namin, hanggang maging kami, we travelled every other month together. he considered my son as his own. i requested na gusto ko magstay [textspeak!] sa pinas and ayoko pumunta ng australia and i have to justify it kase gusto nya pumunta ako doon. he knew na i have a very stable career here in pharmaceutical industry na d ko naman pwede iwanan. so sya na lang ngbabakasyon [textspeak!] every other month. he sold his property in australia and bought an apartment there (para daw pag nagbakasyon ako may pupuntahan daw ako doon) he also bought a big house here for me, bought a house for my parents (so un house ng parents ko eh pinaupahan na lang namin), he gave me money to start business, send my son to school, he provided everything for me and i am so grateful about that. he is a genuine person and he would call me everyday (pag nasa work sya just to say he loves meand telling me how proud he is to have me). right now, we are expecting a baby, i will give birth on June 2011. sobrang happy ako at nakilala ko sya at kahit sa telepono lang kami nagkakilala masasabi ko na un love namin for each other can never be replaced with material things. may iba sinasabi t@ng@ ako kase hindi ako pumunta sa australia, but i dont care, its not my cup of tea... i want to stay here in Phils. and we are happy here..every other month sya umuuwi dito sa pinas kase every other month lang bakasyon nya. He's a navigator. we are just so happy, contented and inlove everyday.

your super lucky sis, i wish ganyan din hubby ko foreigner din sya but magkaiba sya naman super kuripot and he don´t allow me to handle his finances basta kumakain lang ako wala akong freedom hay nakakpagsisi you´ll never know unless makasama mo sa isang bubing. but your lucky sis really

[little_princess]

sis lisse, i'm [textspeak!]-chi my culture kasi, we can only date fellow chinese people so i'm such a rebelde

just tell the people you know that he does not have single acquaintances or if he's single, he's a douche bag. that ought to shut them up hahaha. what do you do ba?

pillows14girl, you're hubby is a navigator pala. my bf works on a boat as well but he's a geophysicist.

[lisse]

sis lil_princess, ah ok gets ko na. My cousins are half Chinese as well, so I know the culture.

Lahat na yata sis ng excuses nasabi ko na. Short of bad-mouthing the guy, lol! I mean, I can only go as far as saying he's a good person, a really nice friend but makes a terrible bf. Pero ayon, sometimes they don't buy it eh. KAya kami ni hubby automatic na lang sagot namin, taken na or hindi pa break sa gf hahaha!

sis macblush, naku, sounds not good. ano ba nationality ni hubby, if you don't mind? si hubby kasi American and never naging issue sa kanya money. Pero of course hindi naman ako naging easy-peasy sa pag-spend ng money, and I make sure na even out of my own salary eh may savings din ako kahit maliit lang. Sabi nga ng mom ko, alangan namang pambili ng napkins charged to hubby pa hahaha!

[little_princess]

magsasawa din sila sometimes you cant help but wonder what are their intentions eh.. just tell them no one is single.

sis macblush, share naman baka we can help