Filipino couples who are childless by choice...

[a_y_e_n]

i admire those couples who are capable to bear a child but really decided not to have a one. meron din kase sinasabi lang nila they dont want to have a child pero di naman pala talaga pwede kahit gustuhin nila. mas ok naman kase talaga na honest kayo sa sarili nyo at sa tao. kung di nila matanggap yun, bahala na sila.

kame kase we decided not to have a baby for the first few months of our marriage lang, pero grabe na yung reaction ng mga tao. lalo na nung nalaman nila that i was using contraceptives nung bagong kasal palang kame. what more kung for life na decision pa? almost lahat ng kakilala kong copule na walang anak, not by choice eh. yung prof ko lang nunng college ang kakilala kong capable but decided not to have a child, ayun sobrang successful naman ng career nilang mag-asawa.

[artegirl]

the thing that I don't really understand, when you tell people that you don't have plans of having a child, their first reaction was "bakit ka pa nagpakasal if you have no plans of having a child?" yun ba talaga reason for getting married? to have a child? kasi when I say that we got married because we want to spend the rest of our lives together, not to have a child, parang alien (or maybe lunatic?) tingin nila sa 'kin.  kaya ngayon, I just say "ganun eh". 

[Bubblin]

^I don't get it also why our society slightly condemns couples who are childless by choice. siguro dahil ito sa religious roots natin,with that "go forth and multiply" line na sinasabi during wedding.I think that God likes it when we plan for ourselves, but He still has the last say on our plans,which includes the interest in having children.I believe that as long as He is the center of a relationship, kahit walang anak ay tatagal ang pagsasama.

[izabelle]

Akala kasi ng iba kapag nag asawa ka OBLIGASYON at RESPONSIBILIDAD mo magpakita na may anak ka at parang ang hirap tanggapin na sa iba na kayang maging masaya ng ibang couples at maging kuntento sa buhay kahit wala silang anak (by choice man or hindi)

Minsan naiisip ko din bitter lang din yung iba kasi sila hindi nila naenjoy buhay nila and most of them nabuntis pa ng hindi pa kasal. (hindi ko po nilalahat, yung sa ibang kakilala ko lang po)

Iba iba kasi priority ng tao. may mga tao na pangarap na nila magkababy even before getting married, meron iba naman na yun talaga gusto nila sa buhay at yun priority nila.

pero let's face it, iba iba ang tao, meron mga couples na hindi nila priority yun, na dumating man or hindi ang bata masaya sila at kuntento sa buhay nila. At meron din naman na sadyang ayaw nila dahil yun ang tingin nilang tama for them

Let us just respect other people's choice or the kind of life they have. I know GOD has other plans for them lalo na sa couple na hindi talaga binigyan ng baby. Who are we to question din naman God's plans for them diba

I also admire people na open minded sa ganitong bagay

[sistah!]

buhay pa tong thread!

i've been married for a year and yes, we're still childless. i think down the line, i'm open to kids but we don't think about it now, and we also don't care if we never get pregnant. most of the people from my side of the family are ok with that. they acknowlege that we need to take time to warm up to parenthood. anyway, what makes me sad is my hubby's family is going through a baby boom. his sister is pregnant, 3 cousins are pregnant and one just gave birth. we went to a family gathering a couple of weeks ago. you know how some boys are so crass? well, this one takes the cake because in a booming voice, hubby's cousin goes "bakit wala pa kayong anak? baog yata kayo!" of course, it was meant to be a joke but ohmygod, the embarassment of my husband. it is truly exasperating to deal with people like that. i'm so glad that this thread is still alive!

[phurple0515]

^ kaya nga e, usually nagiging uneasy na rin pag ganon ang tanong, parang hello, kelangan ba pag kasal na kami matagal, me anak na dapat?!?!?! Though, I find it very good to always reply na "We're enjoying each other's company pa!" e di mamatay naman sila sa inggit at sweet pa kami ni hubby, hehe...

[cosmochick]

I'm seriously contemplating not to have kids when I get married but I know that's not going to happen because my fiance loves to have kids.

Oh well, I'm still hoping he'd change his mind. Miracles do happen everyday, right? =)

[bluemargarita]

open to the thought of being a FAMILY OF 2 

[artegirl]

we went to a family gathering a couple of weeks ago. you know how some boys are so crass? well, this one takes the cake because in a booming voice, hubby's cousin goes "bakit wala pa kayong anak? baog yata kayo!" of course, it was meant to be a joke but ohmygod, the embarassment of my husband. it is truly exasperating to deal with people like that. i'm so glad that this thread is still alive!

naku sis, I really hate those insensitive people! 

[Bubblin]

^I second to that. if that was me, I would have said,"ah kaya pala mukha ka nang losyang"

[emilee]

when hubby and i got married, we talked about having (or not having) kids. agree kame na kahit di kami magkaanak in the future e gusto naming magpakasal. i don't mind having one, two, three kids--or none. i can relate dun sa mga naka-experience na nasabihan ng "bat wala pa kayong anak?" tapos ngayon "bakit di nyo sundan?" (we have a baby now).

[phurple0515]

^ panalo sa banat, hehe

[ning kuting]

Me too, I want to remain childless. Ang nakakainis naman pag sinasabi ko na ayokong mag-anak, kokontrahin ng mga tao tapos sinasabi ngayon lang daw yun, magbabago din ang isip ko, makikita na lang nila ako may anak na. Para bang dahil hindi popular ang choice ko ay kailangan nilang patunayan na mali ako at gusto nila ay magkamali ako. They don't find their attitude rude but think about it. Kapag may nagsabing gusto nyang magkaanak at nag-comment ako ng, " Ngayon lang yan, magbabago din isip mo, hindi ka magkakaanak," naku ako na ang pinakabastos na tao sa buong mundo.

[googalee]

My husband and I were like this at first kaya lang having kids kind of creeped up on us to the point that this was the only thing in our minds every single day. It drove us crazy.

At first I thought I didn't want to have kids, but I guess when I was faced with certain situations my view on that matter started to change.

[nadialicious16]

I have a friend who chose not to have a child. I asked her 'why?' sagot nya, hindi nya financially afford ang magpalaki ng bata. honestly,when she said that nainis ako sa kanya ng bongga. kesyo mahal daw magpalaki ng bata rah rah rah .. pero ang mga collection ng LV - Chanel - Burberry - Hermes nag uumapaw. i know it's none of my business,pero yung sagot nya sablay naman ata. 

[phurple0515]

^ baka mas feel niya mag-ipon ng bags than have kids

[tabbru]

I have a friend who chose not to have a child. I asked her 'why?' sagot nya, hindi nya financially afford ang magpalaki ng bata. honestly,when she said that nainis ako sa kanya ng bongga. kesyo mahal daw magpalaki ng bata rah rah rah .. pero ang mga collection ng LV - Chanel - Burberry - Hermes nag uumapaw. i know it's none of my business,pero yung sagot nya sablay naman ata. 

Bakit naman sabay? Who says that having children is better than acquiring designer bags? Kanya-kanyang priorities lang yan. I guess you just have to respect her decision.

[ning kuting]

^ I agree. To each her own. IMO it's more expensive to raise a child than to buy designer bags. And it's a lifelong commitment. Unlike sa bag na pag ayaw mo na pwede ka ng tumigil. She may afford raising a child today but maybe she's not sure if she can afford it for life.

Well mas hindi ko maintindihan yung mga anak ng anak tapos ang rason e para may mag-alaga sa kanila pagtanda or para may mag-angat sa kanila sa kahirapan. Parang lotto lang. 

[Bubblin]

^I agree. kung yun ang gusto nya eh, as long as hindi sya baon sa utang kakabili ng designer bags.honestly, agree naman ako sa sinabi niya. raising a child costs more than 1M yata... eh yung 1M na yun ilang designer bags na mabibili nya. tsaka I don't get the saying also,"magka-anak ka para may mag-alaga sayo pagtanda mo"... errr? gaano ba ka-sigurado na aalagaan ako ng anak ko pagtanda ko?

also, hindi lang financial capabilities ang kelangan tignan sa pagpapalaki ng bata.you also have to consider yung mental,emotional,social,and spiritual standing mo as a parent.having a child is a HUGE responsibility.then, meron pang external factors na pwedeng maka-apekto sa kanya paglaki.maaaring pinalaki mo sya ng mahusay,pero kapag napasama siya sa maling 'crowd',well.... kapag lumaki pang hindi maganda ang asal ng bata, may masasabi pa ang ibang tao,"sino ba magulang ng batang yan???"

[nadialicious16]

Bakit naman sabay? Who says that having children is better than acquiring designer bags? Kanya-kanyang priorities lang yan. I guess you just have to respect her decision.

Don't worry sis, nirespeto ko naman sagot nya. Ang hindi ko lang maintindihan well para sa akin ha, eh bakit naman nya sinabi na di nya afford mag palaki ng bata to think mayaman naman sya. Ang pag papa aral naman dito kayang kaya nya yun most of the time free pa nga.Yung asawa nya willing mag ka baby sya lang ang may ayaw. Parehas maganda trabaho nila. May isinagot pa sya sa akin non, stressful daw ang mga bata at saka hindi daw sya mahilig sa bata which is hindi ko rin naintindihan lol ! Feeling ko kasi may mas malalim pa syang dahilan ayaw lang nya magsabi.  IMO.