paano ba magkaroon ng best friend na guy?

[caterpillar-girl]

Masaya talaga magkaroon ng best friend na guy. I had guy best friends, but mooncake is right. Pag may relationship na, mejo nababawasan na yung closeness just out of respect for the girlfriend/boyfriend, kahit sabihin mo pa na you were friends way before they met their gf/bfs. It's just how it is.

Ngayon, if you really want a best friend na guy, then treat them as you would any other friend. Don't force yourself to be cowboy when you're not. Don't be shy. Ask for their help, for their opinions. Talk to them about everything, movies, family, career, etc. Again, like you would any other girl friend. Show them you're not sensitive about dumb jokes, but know also when to draw the line.  In short, just be yourself.

[Nuna]

I have a guy bestfriend. At hindi yun pinlano. Kilala ko sya elementary days pa lang. But never talked to him. He's from another school and i see him lang kapag may school competitions. Then we became classmates in highscool. dun kami naging friends.

I actually have a lot of guy friends. Siguro kase hindi din ako masyadong girly.. lumaki kase ako na parang lalake NOON. so madali ako maka relate sa boys. hehe! Sa totoo lang, masaya. Wala kasi akong kuya, pero sa dami ng kaibigan kong lalake parang ang dami kong kuya. May taga bantay ako sa school.. may napapagkwentuhan ako at nahihingian ng opinion pag may nanliligaw sakin.. may nagpapaliwanag sakin kapag meron akong di maintindihan sa bf ko.

Swerte ko din kasi lahat yung mga kaibigan ko, walang nangta-talo. At dahil di sila babae, wala silang karapatan mag-inarte! hehe

Ang mejo problem lang.. girls in school hated me. kase seselos sila, ako lagi pinapansin ng mga crush nila na kaibigan ko naman. ngek! At isa pa, minsan nagselos na yung bf ko (now my husband) sa mga kaibigan kong lalake. (lalo na those he didnt get to meet)

Ang tunay na pagkakaibigan hindi naipa-plano.

[freeswan]

in my experience, you don't impose friendship to anyone. you earn it. how does it feel to have a guy bestfriend? same lang with girl. actually, the only difference between a guy and girl bestfriend is only having common interest on girl things. you just don't talk hours about makeup, shoes, bags, etc.. but you still talk with sense. my bestfriend is a guy and i can talk to him when i have dysmenorrhea, lovelife issues, family issues, movies, songs, etc.. i can mention shoes and bags i love, he asks me a couple of questions then that's it.

how we became bestfriends? same lang. we became friends at first but then we suddenly have things in common then we just hit it off. pero ingat sa ganito ha, minsan kasi yung iba "attraction" ang nafifeel. just be wary. sa amin kasi, although tinutukso kami pero in our minds parang "yuck, d kami talo noh" sabay tawa na lang kami. i actually never expected to have a bestfriend na guy. although most of my friends are really guys, i still thought that my bestfriend could be a girl, turns out, guy yung may kaayos sa personality ko.

[lilmissprettydiva]

for me dumarating nalang yun eh. You don't force things or impose them on other people. Meron kasi guy and gal na nag jjive yung personality kaya nagiging best friends.

Me and my college bestfriend were just introduced to each other. Tapos turns out we have lots of common stuff to talk and agreed. Hindi namin namamalayan each day na magkasama kami eh naging close kami. From nonsense talks naging serious topics and secrets na hanggang naging comfort namin ang isat isa but its pure platonic relationship talaga

[orangerain]

One of my two best friends is a guy. Nagstart kami na nanliligaw sa akin way back in high school, eh ayaw ko talaga. Umabot pa sa nag-away kami kasi ayaw niya ako tigilan. Nagkataon nung college we enrolled in the same school. Wala na yung sama ng loob niya sa akin (haha, kasi pinahiya ko talaga siya sa sobrang asar). Naghang out na kami palagi. May gf na siya, may bf na ako pero wala lang sa amin yun. We talk to each other about everything and we even shopped together. Hanggang naging sobrang close na kami. Now we're the best of friends! Minsan talo pa nga niya yung best friend ko na girl. hehe. Nagkakaasaran pa silang dalawa minsan kasi nga may times na mas gusto ko ka-hang out si guy best friend.

[snix]

most of my best friends are girls but i have one very special guy best friend.. i don't know kung best friends kami pero yun yung sinasabi niya sa mga tao..masaya kasi may tagapagtanggol ako at iyakan pag nalulungkot..  at syempre sakin din siya nagkkwento ng mga problema niya sa mga babae nya  .. pati nga mga green topics napaguusapan namin ng walang ilangan..nagshoshopping pa kami minsan for clothes.. hehe

met him through my other best friend and like orangrain nagstart kami na siya nanligaw sakin kaso ayoko din, ang landi kasi parang kahit sino papatusin  naging close kami ng naging magmu naman kami(gulo noh?!  ) but now we're best friends walang ilangan.. just be natural..you don't need to be like a tomboy..para lang din naman yan sa girl best friends.. they just don't have the same interests

yun nga lang malungkot na pag may relationships na kasi syempre out of respect na rin yun para dun sa karelasyon.. but the bond will always be there.. kinokonsensya ko din kasi kapag nagkakagf siya.. hehe

[ms.holly]

I have two male best friends one is gay though. the other one medyo "pumoporma" saken  hehe

I love my gay best friend he will really cheer you up when your down and believes in me in ways I dont believe in myself actualy kahit my  male bff is like this they kinda bring out the best in me and Im thankful kay lord for giving me friends like them na kahit may pagkukulang si bf somewhat they compensate. my girlfriends they are always there for me but they are more of a support system. guys will give it to you straight out from a man's POV if a guy is toying with you or not

How to have a male BFF?
Im sure theres no real formula except be yourself.
act like a woman but think like a guy.
I have a lot of guy friends although kikay ako madali akong pakisamahan specially with guys siguro kase I have 4 brothers...
goodluck sis

[RubyMoon]

Originally ito sana aim ko nung una sa kanya pero di na sya talaga naghanap ng iba. Siguro dahil di ako mahilig magpa libre at magpa habol tulad ng mga classmates na iniisip sana nyang pormahan lol.

[LeStSkY]

my guy bestfriend since hs.. nagkagulo kami nito lang pero naayos nanaman.. mas ok ata guy ang bestfriend IMO.. pero huwag lang magkakaroon ng something ang hirap

[FOURever]

just be yourself. Ako, mas madami akong friends na guys, 2 guys (one guy, one gay) na bestfriend, 1 girl bestfriend + may stable bf ako (parang kumpleto na, hehe). Anyway I don't know. Basta all i know is that i don't spill secrets.. Pag may prob sila na sinasabi sa akin, di ko sinasabi sa iba. even the darkest secret of my ex, i don't tell to anyone. Kaya kahit now, hinahanap nya ako as a friend..ü

[iwannabeasupermodel]

i think, you dont get to choose and pick who you want to be your best friend and vise versa. wala akong best friend na guy. gays meron. hahaha. i think you have to be like super cool or super pretty to have a guy best friend.

and i dont know too what's the advantage of having a male best friend. i think in the end i'll be treating him and talking to him like i do with my female/gay friends and he might not  like it.

[Joycy]

I used to wonder about this too. Kasi, ako din, gusto ko ng guy and gay bestfriend.  Both didn't happen for one reason or another so siguro, iniba ko na lang ang focus ko and not think too much about it. Kasi, like everything in life, if it's meant to happen, it will happen. For the meantime, i'm enjoying my life. So, kung dumating man ang mga future best friends ko, then it's fine. Kung hindi, at least hindi nag-stop ang mundo ko. 

[ellenmitchie]

Simple lang.

Kung paano ka makisama sa mga girl friends mo. Ganun din ipakita mo sa kanila. It doesn't have to be kung kikay usapan niyo with your gfs kikay kwentuhan din kayo nung guy. Of course, the norm -- Everyday life, school, work, etc. Wag din masyado magpa effect na "nahihiya" ka or something tuwing kausap mo sila. Simpleng usap usap lang about those things that I mention. Weeks, months later, hindi ko napapansin close na close na pala kami. BUT, be sure na "no feelings involved" kung talagang bestfriend ang hanap mo.

I have this close friend of mine, may asawa na sya pero super bonding kami pag kasama ko sya. Minsan pa nga, he would hold my arm and saka sa likod pag naglalakad na kami. Pero nothing personal. Saka he does these things too sa iba pa namin mga close na girls. Parang babaeng kaibigan lang din. And I don't feel anything for him din naman kasi nga, in the first place, kaibigan lang talaga. Kahit pa may asawa or wala.

Kaya be sure na kaibigan ang hanap mo. Hindi yung ka-ibigan ah. Kasi lugi ka kung na fall ka and he doesn't feel anything for you. Ikaw lang din masasaktan. 

[ana mimi]

having a guy bff is not easy.. ako kase talagang bff ko na nung nasa college palang ako are guys and even in the workplace.. hindi naman ako malanding babae and i have my boyfriend naman. siguro, it's just a matter of similarities at kung pano mo pakikisamahan yung guy na hindi sila pressured na ang dating mo ay pang-ligawin type.. be like a guy if you want a guy bff..

you have to approach them because they won't approach you.. wag mong iparamdam sa kanila na nililigawan ka nila ang dating at syempre wag masyado mahiyain..

[LeStSkY]

^tamah...

hay nagkagulo na kami tuluyan ng bff ko dahil sa wife niya.. oh well buhay nga naman.. yung wife niya ang problem..

[sweety_paige]

I have one and I'm blessed to have him

Classmate ko siya nung elementary pa then nagkita nalang nung college, from there naging bestfriend na maituturing ko siya   We don't call each other bestfriends but we know na our friendship is deep. 

Thank God na kahit may mga asawa na kami hindi naman kami nagkaka ilangan and friends pa kami ng wife niya.  Now mas madalas ko pa nakakausap wife niya kesa sa kanya 

The difference pag guy is mas straight silang kausap, hindi ka kakampihan pag mali ka.  Thank God for this friendship 

[badcoverversion]

I don't know if it's really possible for a girl and a straight guy to be best friends, as in shoulder to cry on, and not just close acquaintance or ka-tropa or kasama sa hobby or sports. In popular culture, let's see the men who have loyal girl bestfriends - Roderick Paulate, Raymond Gutierrez, Eric Quizon, hmmm, Ok get the picture.
I have male friends. I go out with them, in groups, syempre. I do confide stuffs to them, ganun din sila. Pero may limitasyon. I don't think I will consider them as BFFs. Just good friends. Same level lang ng kachikahan na ka-officemate or old HS buddies or maybe more, but I will not invest so much emotion in them. Mas comfortable pa rin ako sa girls.

[feisty_angel4]

Just be yourself. Tama yung sabi ng mga sisses natin, kung paano ka makitungo sa babe mong kaibigan, ganon din sa kanila.

I had one but the wifey got jealous coz my bestfriend na lalaki would consult me first than his wife. Ako na yung lumayo.

Our friendship developed after college because both of us were into computer games, as in super addicts. Both of us are in the medical field. Both are nocturnes. We can talk till its 5am and we both of us love different types of personalities. Yung pure friendship lang talaga. We just tease each other sa FB pics, hindi na yung nagkikita pa. Ninang ako sa dalawang anak nya while he is the ninong of course of my son. It's nice to have a male bestfriend coz practical and straight forward yung answers. No beating around the bush.

[muahmuahmuah]

i have a couple of guy friends and even in college my best buddies were guys, playgirl kasi ako eh joke.  the girlfriends were pa isa isa lang cautious ako who to befriend and trust and it's easier lang din siguro na i get along  more with the guys than the girls madali kasi sila kausap and pakisamahan no hangups, anything goes and walang arte. i'm not a fan of kaartehan rin kasi so there goes.

you don't also just go spotting them and pulling them off the rack, its years of friendship and respect.  madali when you find some  common ground and don't take anything personally but of course don't dish out more than you can take. keep self-respect in mind too and having any romantic thoughts early on isn't a good sign to start the friendship,  dapat walang malisya it just kills everything unless you know how to control and contain it after. minsan easier if sila yung may romantic interest sa iyo kasi they want to get to know you more and that will be an advantage for you to buddy up, but it has to come from you na you won't entertain any of their advances or you can just ride with it in a fun way and given alam mo wala talaga patutunguhan yun.   mentally set boundaries when it comes to topics to discuss knowing yourself too and being confident with yourself will determine how far and well you can handle the friendship.

[cosmochick]

I find it easier to bond with guys than girls. I'm one of the boys nga raw. Minsan nga sinasabi nila lalake ako dati.. pero mind you, im really girly and maarte rin pero cow girl ako... siguro dapat marunong ka lang sumabay sa trip at usapan nila.