paano ba magkaroon ng best friend na guy?

[young_maiden]

mga sis, paano nga ba? i want to have one eh kasi di naman ako lapitin ng mga boys. i want to have a guy bestfriend. yung nag open up sa akin about himself, his family and his lovelife. yung humihingi ng advice sa akin pag may problem siya. saka yung concerned sa akin pag may problems din ako. parang girl bestfriend lang no pero gusto ko sana guy naman. saka dapat platonic.

i have a few guy friends, of course, pero parang di pa pang-bestfriend ang level.

thanks.

[aquacharly]

Darling,  you can fall in love kisap mata, without thinking.
BUT you cannot have a BFF kisap mata, even when over-thinking.
     
Let me try to explain myself without boring you with a treatise.
     You fall in love, and try to understand because you love.
     Versus     you understand, and love because you understand.

That is why,  Love is generally Not Forever
                   but a BFF is Forever, generally

ang  corny corny corny ko na ha

So to answer your order for a male BFF --
Darling,  matagal linuluto ang True Friendship, like Love it cannot be forced... or, madali lutuin kasi madami kayong shared experiences, usually mga angst, mga foibles.. ay naku basta you know what bonds friends di ba... the things you generally will not tell your parents... mga  shucks, oh shucks,  oh my shucks....    hahahaha

How to get a male BFF as per your specifications?
You reap what you sow.
Be trustworthy, be stable, be clear headed when everyone is losing theirs, be patient, be forgiving, do not be judgmental, be helpful even when there is no payback... then you will have a male BFF who will trust in you, pour his shucks out for you to share and not judge... etc etc etc.

[young_maiden]

hehe. thanks. ewan ko ba bakit di sila open sa akin. dahil siguro sa shyness ko.

[bravo86]

ako rin, i have no BFF na girl

mmm, tayo na lang kaya sis?

umpisahan na natin ang "pagluto"

seriously... why not! you could start looking for friends sa cyberspace... nung bago pa lang ang globechat some 10yrs ago, i had more than a 100 text pals. after a month, i trimmed it down to less than 20. to date, (out of >100) i have 6... 3 ang naging kumare ko, 2 hindi ko pa na-meet, 4 have been married, 2 are already in their 50s, 1 ka-age ko, 3 are 10yrs younger than me (they were teens then)... 1 is based in NCR, 1 in Mindanao, 2 in Visayas, 1 in Bicol, 1 in Cagayan Valley.

what's good having cyber friends, you could ask anything you want, confide all your problems... WITHOUT INHIBITIONS... and you always get truthful answers as well.

aba, kung kelan nga ako tumanda at matagal nang wala sa school, dun ko pa lang naitanong at naliwanagan sa mga sagot i sooooo longed to ask from my Biology teacher.

ganun rin yung 4 before they got married. all questions they would not dare ask or too ashamed to ask from their male friends, their fathers/brothers.

basta, always bear in mind not to give out "specific" information/answers that would lead him para makilala ang identity mo, not unless ready ka na makipag-meet sa kanya.

[binx]

natawa naman ako sa question kasi naman ako ang dami kong guy friends and right now i could say na ilan sa kanila e best friends ko na na matuturing.
Siguro dahil masyado akong "cool?" hehe!

Im just being myself when im around guys kaya siguro nagiging kumportable sila sa akin. Feeling ko, yung ibang girls, when they are around guys, unconsciously, they tend to be more girly.

Iba rin kasi yung effect naman kung nagttry ka naman na maging friends ng mga guys. May iba na nagiging parang OA na. Yung mga trying hard na maging cool.

Just be yourself. May mga kilala akong sobrang shy or girly pero they have guy friends kasi they dont change the way they are when they are with guys.

May sense ba mga sinasabi ko? tee hee!!

[mooncake and leaves]

Bakit kelangan guy? I had/ have friends na lalaki and at one point, nagkaturingan na best friend pero di naman ako nanarget. Stuff like that happen by chance.

Also, ewan ko, mahirap talaga isustain yun eh. What usually happens is pag nagka-relasyon na, significantly nababawasan yung closeness out of respect for each other's relationships/partners. Ewan ko ha pero I don't believe in trying that hard to make it happen.

[PinKisH_23]

I had 2 guy best friends, yung una is college best friend ko since first year, nung high school kasi ako sobrang mahiyain ako kaya puro babae lang friends ko, nung college nag engineering ako, so naging mas malapit ako sa mga guys, till yun nga automatic nag click kami ni best friend Dan. Till now, friends kami, inaanak ko pa baby nya.

Yung second naman, I met him through a friend/client ng company namin before. He wanted to court me pero alam kong babaero so sabi ko bestfriends nalang tayo, nung tumagal, narealize ko nalang every time he would tell me stories about his girlfriends and kung ano ano pa, nahuhurt na pala ako. Tapos we became bestfriends with extra benefits pa, it was hard lalo na nung nag abroad sya.

I decided to end the friendship nung second time na bumalik sya from Japan but I gave him an email telling him what I really feel.

Anyway, mahirap magkaron ng bestfriend na lalaki, dun sa first best friend ko, napagkakamalan kaming kami, pinagselosan din ako ng gf nya, although masaya talaga kasi feeling ko I'm treated like a princess, pero di lang kami nagka inlove-an.

Yung second naman mahirap magfall lalo na kung alam mong hangang dun lang talaga relationship nyo.

[ghellybeans]

You know what, they say you get a close relationship with a person the moment you share something deep with each other. My guy best friend and I became best of friends since college when he shared about his biggest crush in the campus.

Maybe we became best of friends also because we never really felt anything more than that. I had my boyfriend then and he was crushing on this classmate of ours. And, we see each other as "kapatid" rin kasi, since I long for a brother I never had and he was living away from his younger sister.

Guys who are not afraid to show their soft side --I'm not talking about gay men, I think are the ones that are more likely to have girl best friends. So maybe that is what you have* to look for. 

[young_maiden]

ako rin, i have no BFF na girl

mmm, tayo na lang kaya sis?

umpisahan na natin ang "pagluto"

seriously... why not! you could start looking for friends sa cyberspace... nung bago pa lang ang globechat some 10yrs ago, i had more than a 100 text pals. after a month, i trimmed it down to less than 20. to date, (out of >100) i have 6... 3 ang naging kumare ko, 2 hindi ko pa na-meet, 4 have been married, 2 are already in their 50s, 1 ka-age ko, 3 are 10yrs younger than me (they were teens then)... 1 is based in NCR, 1 in Mindanao, 2 in Visayas, 1 in Bicol, 1 in Cagayan Valley.

what's good having cyber friends, you could ask anything you want, confide all your problems... WITHOUT INHIBITIONS... and you always get truthful answers as well.

aba, kung kelan nga ako tumanda at matagal nang wala sa school, dun ko pa lang naitanong at naliwanagan sa mga sagot i sooooo longed to ask from my Biology teacher.

ganun rin yung 4 before they got married. all questions they would not dare ask or too ashamed to ask from their male friends, their fathers/brothers.

basta, always bear in mind not to give out "specific" information/answers that would lead him para makilala ang identity mo, not unless ready ka na makipag-meet sa kanya.

ay! hehe. dami mo nameet sa cyberspace ha. i'll try it pag di na ako busy. thanks.

natawa naman ako sa question kasi naman ako ang dami kong guy friends and right now i could say na ilan sa kanila e best friends ko na na matuturing.
Siguro dahil masyado akong "cool?" hehe!

Im just being myself when im around guys kaya siguro nagiging kumportable sila sa akin. Feeling ko, yung ibang girls, when they are around guys, unconsciously, they tend to be more girly.

Iba rin kasi yung effect naman kung nagttry ka naman na maging friends ng mga guys. May iba na nagiging parang OA na. Yung mga trying hard na maging cool.

Just be yourself. May mga kilala akong sobrang shy or girly pero they have guy friends kasi they dont change the way they are when they are with guys.

May sense ba mga sinasabi ko? tee hee!!

meron naman. hehe. thank you. bigyan mo nga ako ng guy friend. joke!

Bakit kelangan guy? I had/ have friends na lalaki and at one point, nagkaturingan na best friend pero di naman ako nanarget. Stuff like that happen by chance.

Also, ewan ko, mahirap talaga isustain yun eh. What usually happens is pag nagka-relasyon na, significantly nababawasan yung closeness out of respect for each other's relationships/partners. Ewan ko ha pero I don't believe in trying that hard to make it happen.

i want a guy bestfriend. nainggit lang ako sa mga girls na meron. saka parang ang sarap sa pakiramdam na may guy na concerned sayo although not in a romantic way.  hehe.

I had 2 guy best friends, yung una is college best friend ko since first year, nung high school kasi ako sobrang mahiyain ako kaya puro babae lang friends ko, nung college nag engineering ako, so naging mas malapit ako sa mga guys, till yun nga automatic nag click kami ni best friend Dan. Till now, friends kami, inaanak ko pa baby nya.

Yung second naman, I met him through a friend/client ng company namin before. He wanted to court me pero alam kong babaero so sabi ko bestfriends nalang tayo, nung tumagal, narealize ko nalang every time he would tell me stories about his girlfriends and kung ano ano pa, nahuhurt na pala ako. Tapos we became bestfriends with extra benefits pa, it was hard lalo na nung nag abroad sya.

I decided to end the friendship nung second time na bumalik sya from Japan but I gave him an email telling him what I really feel.

Anyway, mahirap magkaron ng bestfriend na lalaki, dun sa first best friend ko, napagkakamalan kaming kami, pinagselosan din ako ng gf nya, although masaya talaga kasi feeling ko I'm treated like a princess, pero di lang kami nagka inlove-an.

Yung second naman mahirap magfall lalo na kung alam mong hangang dun lang talaga relationship nyo.

mas okay pa yung naunang mong best friend.  buti u found a friend like him.

You know what, they say you get a close relationship with a person the moment you share something deep with each other. My guy best friend and I became best of friends since college when he shared about his biggest crush in the campus.

Maybe we became best of friends also because we never really felt anything more than that. I had my boyfriend then and he was crushing on this classmate of ours. And, we see each other as "kapatid" rin kasi, since I long for a brother I never had and he was living away from his younger sister.

Guys who are not afraid to show their soft side --I'm not talking about gay men, I think are the ones that are more likely to have girl best friends. So maybe that is what you to look for. 

sana nga makahanap ako sis

[rox_cute]

You know what, they say you get a close relationship with a person the moment you share something deep with each other. My guy best friend and I became best of friends since college when he shared about his biggest crush in the campus.

Maybe we became best of friends also because we never really felt anything more than that. I had my boyfriend then and he was crushing on this classmate of ours. And, we see each other as "kapatid" rin kasi, since I long for a brother I never had and he was living away from his younger sister.

Guys who are not afraid to show their soft side --I'm not talking about gay men, I think are the ones that are more likely to have girl best friends. So maybe that is what you to look for. 

parang ganto lang din ang nangyari sa akin.. yung naging bestfriend kong lalake is the i hate the most in high school.. as in lagi ko siyang inaaway.. tapos nung nagcollege kami we're on the same building though different course, parang sabi ko sa lahat naman na magiging schoolmate ko siya pa.. then my other classmates, we usually have the same time off sa school every friday so sabay sabay kami umuwi tapos nung tumagal kaming dalawa na lang ang madalas magkasabay umuwi.. tapos ayun nagkkwento siya sa akin ng mga bagay bagay until marealize namin okay pala kaming maging friends.. saka we don't think romantic thought about us (as much as possible iniiwasan talaga)

[ghellybeans]

parang ganto lang din ang nangyari sa akin.. yung naging bestfriend kong lalake is the i hate the most in high school.. as in lagi ko siyang inaaway.. tapos nung nagcollege kami we're on the same building though different course, parang sabi ko sa lahat naman na magiging schoolmate ko siya pa.. then my other classmates, we usually have the same time off sa school every friday so sabay sabay kami umuwi tapos nung tumagal kaming dalawa na lang ang madalas magkasabay umuwi.. tapos ayun nagkkwento siya sa akin ng mga bagay bagay until marealize namin okay pala kaming maging friends.. saka we don't think romantic thought about us (as much as possible iniiwasan talaga)

Cool! Kami naman hindi talaga namin naisip/napag-usapan 'yung ganun. Just thinking about it, it feels like incest. Hehe

[damen]

Me too I wish to have a guy best friend, actually I thought I had one before because I had a guy friend in college and then it turned out na he's gay pala. I have gay friends na, but  I also want to have a guy bestfriend para lang maintindihan ko ang takbo ng utak nila, I have 2 brothers and I'm not even close to them.

[purple_rain0721]

I have 2 guy best friends.  One, I met in college.  Siya yung tipo ng guy na kahit posteng nakapalda papatusin. hehe! He tried flirting with me pero wala siyang nahita.  We ended up as good friends though.  I know his biggest and darkest secret and ako din naman I confide in him pag may mga problems ako lalo na pagdating sa guys.  Inaanak ko ang baby niya. 

The other one, nakilala ko sa 2nd job ko.  We were seatmates during training.  Wala na kami ginawa buong araw kundi magchikahan habang nag-work.  Tinutukso na nga kami ng mga ka-team namin.  I fell for him real hard pero siya hindi.  haha! kainez!    Siyempre awkward na ang mga ganong eksena.  So umiwas ako sa kaniya.  After ilang months nagkausap kami ulit and we became friends again.  7 years ago pa yung eksena na yun.  We are much closer now and sana tumagal pa ang friendship namin ng matagal na panahon. 

Sis young_maiden, masarap talaga ang may guy best friend.  Have as many guy friends as you want.  Malay mo yung isa sa kanila ang maging BFF mo.  Mas maganda yung natural. 

[mikelly]

i think it's destiny.  hindi kasi siya pwedeng i-set.  it'll all depends sa pinagsamahan and the closeness you have with all sincerity.

[young_maiden]

I have 2 guy best friends.  One, I met in college.  Siya yung tipo ng guy na kahit posteng nakapalda papatusin. hehe! He tried flirting with me pero wala siyang nahita.  We ended up as good friends though.  I know his biggest and darkest secret and ako din naman I confide in him pag may mga problems ako lalo na pagdating sa guys.  Inaanak ko ang baby niya. 

The other one, nakilala ko sa 2nd job ko.  We were seatmates during training.  Wala na kami ginawa buong araw kundi magchikahan habang nag-work.  Tinutukso na nga kami ng mga ka-team namin.  I fell for him real hard pero siya hindi.  haha! kainez!    Siyempre awkward na ang mga ganong eksena.  So umiwas ako sa kaniya.  After ilang months nagkausap kami ulit and we became friends again.  7 years ago pa yung eksena na yun.  We are much closer now and sana tumagal pa ang friendship namin ng matagal na panahon. 

Sis young_maiden, masarap talaga ang may guy best friend.  Have as many guy friends as you want.  Malay mo yung isa sa kanila ang maging BFF mo.  Mas maganda yung natural. 

nice stories sis. siguro approachable ka. ako kasi mukhang suplada daw eh. kaya ayun sabi ng ibang tao marami nahihiya lumapit sa akin

[biyach]

i don't think you can plan it, nor find the steps or procedures in getting into this kind of friendship.. Friendship is voluntarily given and shared with another person.. pag click kayo, you just click!! and pag hindi, hindi talaga! as simple as that...

although, i must say masarap may guy bestfriend.. in my case, bestfriends pa nga e.. spoiled and well protected ako sa kanila.. and i love the feeling, lalo pa panganay ako.. it's a wonderful feeling when someone looks after you, with no commitments attached..

[young_maiden]

i don't think you can plan it, nor find the steps or procedures in getting into this kind of friendship.. Friendship is voluntarily given and shared with another person.. pag click kayo, you just click!! and pag hindi, hindi talaga! as simple as that...

although, i must say masarap may guy bestfriend.. in my case, bestfriends pa nga e.. spoiled and well protected ako sa kanila.. and i love the feeling, lalo pa panganay ako.. it's a wonderful feeling when someone looks after you, with no commitments attached..

approachable ka din no. hehe.

nahihiya din naman kasi ako mauna lumapit. baka isipin nila crush ko sila o lumalandi ako. pero gusto ko talaga magkaroon ng guy best friend.

[biyach]

^well we started becoming friends nung first year highschool pa.. wala pang bahid malisya kumbaga.. kaya siguro nasanay din ako kaya even in college and at work, alam ko kung pano ihandle ang ugali ng guys..

actually di daw ako approachable, masungit daw ako at suplada... simangutin kasi ako.. pero once they get to know me.. okay naman..

you can start with just one guy friend i guess... choose someone na you think eh pareho mo ng ugali or ng interest para you can start a conversation, then develop from there.. dont go for those with "babaero" attitude, he might take advantage.. hehe! joke lang..

[chiqmom]

my best friend is a guy. it was not planned of course. high school nagumpisa friendship namin. anyway, the girls here are right, you cannot plan it. just be a friend to everyone, sooner you will find your best of friend, babae man sya o lalake. 

[purple_rain0721]

naku sis hindi ako approachable.  wala pa atang 5 ang guys na nakakausap ko talaga.  kasama na ex ko dun.  may issues kasi ako with men eh kaya hindi ganon kadali for me magtiwala.  nagkataon lang talaga.  like yung guy bff ko nga na nakilala ko sa office.  walang choice eh, seatmates kami eh hehe! kaya nagkachikahan kami palagi.  nagkataon pa na mabait siya at madaldal.

may isa pa pala akong guy bff, sa work ko din na-meet pero sa ibang office na.  ganon din, kami kasi yung magka-back up dun sa isang process tapos magkatapat pa kami, so naging close kami.  he's married na ha pero super safe ang feeling ko sa kaniya.  hindi din naman kasi siya yung tipong nakikipag-flirt.  parang bading kasi siya kumilos at magsalita. 

darating nalang yun sis.  parang si Mr. Right.  heheh!