I believe dun sa mga reasons provided ni Aquacharly.
I think parang typical corp employee din ang helpers. if the person has High Aptitude and Good Attitude. they will sooner or later leave and seek "greener pastures". kaya ako, when i encounter someone like them, lalo na kung fresh out of probinsya na high school level, pero parang college grad mag isip, inuunahan ko na sila. sasabihin ko na just let me know in advance kung kelan sila aalis and if possible if they can find someone na kapalit nila, better appreciated.
a good example of this was we had a house boy noon, na gustong umangat sa buhay. he would read the english dictionary every day. read newspapers (hihiramin sa amin), watch informative tv shows and news. then nung nakaipon na, he would take night courses. and he would often borrow my encyclopedias noon. para nga akong library eh. but we all knew what he was up to. nagpaalam naman ng mabuti. a few years later, while my mom was shopping in a department store, she heard someone calling her name. (mrs. xxx)
and my mom couldn't recognize him. and then he told his story. Manager na pala siya doon.
Meron din akong katulong noon na nakitaan ko ng magandang talent. i tested her and she was exceptional!!! as in. ang galing niya mang hilot. sobra. And i knew i couldn't let someone like her stay. and for Divine reasons, i let her go. Pinakilala ko siya sa mga mayayaman kong kaibigan. and now, isang massage lang niya sa foriegner eh 100 dollars na. and whenever we meet, i don't see her as a katulong but as a friend. maganda na nga mag suot. malayo sa pinanggalingan. considering she has 7 kids noon and money was very hard to come by. siya ngayon nagbibigay sa amin ng mga helpers namin. and dahil maganda ang naging buhay niya sa amin, yung mga rinereto niya eh magaganda din ang ugali kaya tumatagal. siyempre she has a name na din. hindi nya sisirain yung pangalan niya by recommending a not so good helper.
anyway, going back, siguro its best to find a helper that is comfortable na with what you can give. helpers who see that they can grow with you and actually help their families grow. and of course sila, they will help your family grow too. they will see your kids as their own. and if they do. they will never hurt your kids and will even go out of their way in and in harms way to protect them.
syempre hindi tayo companya, yung iba mangangarap magtrabo sa company. kaya kahit gaano kabait kayo, aalis pa din sila. yung mga tumutulong sa amin na dating namamasukan sa amin, pero nasa malalaking companya, eh nagpapart time pa din sa amin. part timers get higher pay sa amin. but tasks nila is no ordinary task. minsan nga they do it for free as a gesture of gratitude. but i always see to it that they get something.
since wala na ako sa pilipinas, i still send balikbayan boxes of goodies to them and for their children. kahit nasa ibang lugar na sila etc. dumadating naman sila. in fact i heard na pag may free time daw sila, they would often stop by and just have coffee with our current helpers. i've been doing this since i left. 1-2 boxes a year for them.
maaring hindi nga sila nagstay as in consistently for say 10 years. pero their "invisible help" is there. and that help has been consistent throughout the years.
ako noon, maraming nararamdamang sakit sa katawan as i used to train hardcore sa martial arts. upon letting go of our helper na magaling mag hilot. i suddenly became healthier and stronger. halos lahat ng ailments ko nawala. kaya i really believe that it is in helping others that we are help. since i gave way for others to be healed, i was healed. yung mga mayayaman, sosolohin ka pa nila. and she was offered to live in hawaii etc. pero this person kasi is spiritual, she saw her gift as a means to serve kaya she said no.
I've had bad helpers din and as usual amo ang masama. but sa akin lang. bakit yung iba bumabalik at nagpapasalamat? hindi lang nila ako naiintindihan. baka makitid ang isip nila.
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In general, we give what we can give.
