How do you know if a girl is interested in you?

[killbill]

Pag palagi nagpapapansin. Nagpapacute, hihingi ng tulong, papasama kung saan saan. Pag ineentertain ka, nagrereply sa mga text, pag kasama mo medyo high pitched ang boses, masaya, naka ayos palagi at mabango pag magkikita kayo. Saka panay ang retouch.

[simang]

Kapag high pitched yung tawa kapag nagjoke ka.

[17glut]

Pag palagi nagpapapansin. Nagpapacute, hihingi ng tulong, papasama kung saan saan. Pag ineentertain ka, nagrereply sa mga text, pag kasama mo medyo high pitched ang boses, masaya, naka ayos palagi at mabango pag magkikita kayo. Saka panay ang retouch.

but still, one cannot really consider these signs that you mentioned as "surefire" ways na may gusto ang isang girl sa guy di ba? especially kung nakatali na si babae. Exception to the rule na lang siguro is a direct confession but other than that, its all just about mixed signals being thrown around.

Up to this day, I really still find it a mystery on why girls just can't say it straight to our face about your feelings. Bakit kelangang may pahaging pa or pakipot effect? is it for the purpose of chivalry na dapat si guy talaga ang dapat maunang mag da moves?

[killbill]

^ yes dapat si guy ang mauna magpakita ng interest kay girl kasi takot kami ma reject saka mas nakakahiya yun saming mga babae.

[17glut]

^ yes dapat si guy ang mauna magpakita ng interest kay girl kasi takot kami ma reject saka mas nakakahiya yun saming mga babae.

so to set my understanding on this, especially coming from a girl's pov; completely ignoring a girl na deliberately nagpaparamdam or nagpapakita ng interes sa guy (regardless of the ulterior motive of the girl) is considered to be a direct hit to your ego kahit pa na sabihin naming "we're just keeping our distances para iwas gulo", ganun ba yun?

Ganun kasi ginawa ko dun sa girl na literal kung magparamdam, not verbally but as in more on actions sya. Sa kagustuhan kong umiwas sa potential tsismis (or conflicts) that might arise  I just pretended like I know nothing pero ang totoo I notice every little thing she does to get my attention but confused ako sa intentions ni babae towards me so in the end, I decided to just keep my distance from her and kept my mouth shut for months, never telling anyone from our work about what I see. Again, she started acting that way nung pinagbigyan ko ang isang favor that she asked from me -and that is, pinahiram ko sya ng pera. Before all that, we practically never talked one on one at all.

 

[young_maiden]

^ yes bro. masakit sa ego pag yung guy na gusto namin iniwasan kami. nakakababa ng self-worth. baka isipin nung girl pangit siya, walang silbi, cheap, etc.

[killbill]

If a guy ignores me, kung ako yun ha, it's either mas ma cha-challenge ako magpa pansin sa kanya or ma hurt ego ko pero i will act as if wala lang to save face tapos deadma na.

[young_maiden]

^ same here. act na ok lang at walang paki pero deep inside sobrang sakit pala ng nararamdaman.

OT:

A girl is interested kung natatawa siya sa mga jokes ng guy kahit corny. Gagawa ng way para makatext si guy. Kunwari may itatanong na work or school-related pero yun pala gusto lang maka-usap yung lalaki. Saka pag nagtext si guy, reply agad si girl. Kung hindi man agad makareply si girl kasi busy siya, magrereply pa rin siya sa guy pag may free time na siya. Sign din yung mag-compliment siya kay guy lalo na kung di talaga niya ugali magbigay ng compliments.

[killbill]

Pag si girl nagrereply sayo palagi kahit busy sya. Kasi pag hindi namin bet si guy talagang seen zone lang.

Pasimpleng fishing (pero obvious naman) ng info about your lovelife, ayun sure yun.

[Girltalker2]

@glut - completely ignoring means you're not interested. Period. Male or female, same lang.

In situations like this, I think it is the same thing with guys. Actions can be misinterpreted. You don't want to directly say it kasi you're not sure pa. Tapos the awkwardness din.

Sa una, kelangan may 'interest' ka sa isang tao para pansinin mo sya. But it doesn't mean you 'love' him/her na agad. You need time to interact and get to know each other first.

Then along the way, puede mas maging interested sya sayo o hindi. If hindi, eh di wala na dapat pag usapan and move on with your lives separately. However, if the interest grows, tapos sure ka na, and you want to pursue the relatuonship, then guy man o girl, that's the time you wanna think about your next move.

Hindi yung magkakilala lang kayo, a girl is interested, sabihin sayo straight I'm interested in you. Freaky.

[17glut]

If a guy ignores me, kung ako yun ha, it's either mas ma cha-challenge ako magpa pansin sa kanya or ma hurt ego ko pero i will act as if wala lang to save face tapos deadma na.

Pag si girl nagrereply sayo palagi kahit busy sya. Kasi pag hindi namin bet si guy talagang seen zone lang.

Pasimpleng fishing (pero obvious naman) ng info about your lovelife, ayun sure yun.

That's the thing, the more I kept my distance and ignoring her, the more that she's being obvious sa pagpapapansin, as in she never lets up. Feeling ko nga parang nang-goodtime lang sya or what. Kung dati I still respond to her questions pero kalaunan I grew cold of her, instead of parang "tropa" ang turing ko naging parang colleague na lang talaga na isang tanong isang sagot lang, inalis ko na yung "feeling close" aura ko sa kanya (I'm older than her btw).

I remembered pa nga I got her number one time and tinext ko sya mga twice siguro just to test the waters but she never replied. Inisip ko baka wala lang load to or busy pero days passed after texting her wala talagang sagot so sabi ko sa sarili ko kung simpleng text hindi masagot then there's no point adding her up in FB so dun ko nasimulan mag decide na "layuan ko na lang tong babaeng to" considering may syota nga naman sya. Then at work ganun pa din ginagawa nya. This went on for months till I left the company, she initiates the approach at ako naman sinasagot ko lang mga tanong nya without glancing at her. I strongly felt it's getting way overboard na rin sa part nya so sabi ko rin sa sarili ko layuan ko na lang sya para matauhan din sya.

@glut - completely ignoring means you're not interested. Period. Male or female, same lang.

In situations like this, I think it is the same thing with guys. Actions can be misinterpreted. You don't want to directly say it kasi you're not sure pa. Tapos the awkwardness din.

Sa una, kelangan may 'interest' ka sa isang tao para pansinin mo sya. But it doesn't mean you 'love' him/her na agad. You need time to interact and get to know each other first.

Then along the way, puede mas maging interested sya sayo o hindi. If hindi, eh di wala na dapat pag usapan and move on with your lives separately. However, if the interest grows, tapos sure ka na, and you want to pursue the relatuonship, then guy man o girl, that's the time you wanna think about your next move.

Hindi yung magkakilala lang kayo, a girl is interested, sabihin sayo straight I'm interested in you. Freaky.

hmmm..makes sense. Andun nga naman yung awkwardness especially sa inyong mga girls, you don't often see girls na pinamumukha talaga nila agad yung interest nila sa guy na gusto nila at first sight. Pakiramdaman muna talaga.

Don't get me wrong, at first I WAS interested mainly because she's very attractive pero as things went along then dun ko narealize na wala ring mangyayari kung papatulan ko sya or kung magpakita man ako ng motibo. Sige sabihin na nating walang "romantic" sense of feeling na involved between us pero why bother going through all the trouble to get some guy's attention lalo pa't alam nyo na literal na kayong nilalayuan at kitang kita ng lahat na dine-dedma na kayo nung guy sa bawat paramdam nyo? Is it mainly for the thrill of the chase? ego boost coz the more attention the girl is getting from guys the more she would feel that she is special or wanted even? or just simply a downright flirt?

I'm just trying to understand what could possibly be the motive talaga kung bakit sya mag eeffort ng ganun despite having her own boyfriend naman - take note, she acts normal with other guys in our team or batch by calling them their own name, sakin lang talaga sya ganun sa pagkakaalam ko (even calls me kuya and never by my name) when we're still working together.

[red_yesha]

^-maybe may mapapala sya sayo? o kaya baka feel ka nyang maging kuya-kuyahan.
-baka ganyan past time nya.Ang dami ko ng kilalang ganyan e.
-baka malande, gusto nya masama ka sa koleksyon. ikaw lang ba ang ginanyan nya?
hay ewan.

[17glut]

^-maybe may mapapala sya sayo? o kaya baka feel ka nyang maging kuya-kuyahan.

feel ko din naghahanap lang sya ng magiging ideal kuya nya. Isa to sa mga naisip ko na possibility kaya nga nilayuan ko na rin. Kutob ko gagamitin lang ako nun.

-baka ganyan past time nya.Ang dami ko ng kilalang ganyan e.

Isa pa to, tingin ko nga rin parang pinag titripan lang ako nun.

-baka malande, gusto nya masama ka sa koleksyon. ikaw lang ba ang ginanyan nya?

Based sa observation ko sa workplace namin, yes. Although tropa nya din ang ibang guys pero ako lang yung literal na tinatawag nyang "kuya." Ever since napahiram ko ng pera panay na buntot at paramdam sa kin - kahit pag uwian na, hahabol talaga sa kin yan sa elevator hanggang sakayan. Mga isang buwan din ganun ang setup bago ako dumistansya. Inuunahan ko na sya pag uuwi ako, kung magkataon man na magkasabay kami I make sure na hihiwalay ako ng elevator at ng daan pauwi, never the same route as hers. 

[red_yesha]

^ahh simula nung nagpahiram ka.baka next time magpahiram ka daw ng mas malaking halaga pag super close na kayo.hehe

[chichi143]

^^ naku that reminds me of my friend's ex gf! i always thought she's a user. because she will come and go into my friend's life. like for example, di sya nakabayad ng renta sa bahay, she will act sweet para makitulog muna siya sa friend ko. and then after a few weeks, mawawala na naman ng bigla.

OT: so mas ok na sabihin na lang namin yung nararamdaman namin? the thing is, i really like this guy. he showed interest to me already by seeing me thrice outside of office. he treated me to dinner, paid for it, talked with me for 2 hours sa coffee shop,2nd one is pinuntahan ako sa work ko pra ihatid dun sa class ko and the last one is I asked him to have dinner with me and a friend and he came on a short notice.

Natuwa naman ako. but then he stopped initiating talks for a week. so what i did is since friday ako yung nagiinitiate ng contact and I asked to go to with him sa UP for a morning jog. he said it'll be awesome if i can go. am i on the right track? haha i figured maybe im not sending the right signals u know

[argento]

Pahiyain mo na glut.

[17glut]

^^better if you can get direct to the point pero make it subtle since syempre babae ka pa rin - you don't wanna leave an impression to the guy you like na you're "easy to get". As much as possible kasi ayaw namin ng pakiramdaman, it basically wears us out trying to decipher mixed signals from the girl so mas maganda kung maaga pa lang alam na namin yung totoo kesa mag assume.

Ke may pag asa si guy o wala better let him know - atleast kung basted man si guy maigi nang malaman agad, wala nang mas disappointing sa ming mga guys yung gagastos kami ng panahon at pera sa isang babae tapos wala din pala kami mapapala and I'm sure you girls would feel the same too.

BUT before you do confess, atleast get to know his character first, his personal details naman can be discussed over time as you two try to get know each other well, find out what ticks him off and syempre, his soft side (emotional).

[Girltalker2]

OT: so mas ok na sabihin na lang namin yung nararamdaman namin? the thing is, i really like this guy. he showed interest to me already by seeing me thrice outside of office. he treated me to dinner, paid for it, talked with me for 2 hours sa coffee shop,2nd one is pinuntahan ako sa work ko pra ihatid dun sa class ko and the last one is I asked him to have dinner with me and a friend and he came on a short notice.

Natuwa naman ako. but then he stopped initiating talks for a week. so what i did is since friday ako yung nagiinitiate ng contact and I asked to go to with him sa UP for a morning jog. he said it'll be awesome if i can go. am i on the right track? haha i figured maybe im not sending the right signals u know

For me, being a girl, no way ko sasabihin na may gusto ako sa kanya. If he asks, the most I could say - I'm open to get to know you more, being friends is ok, then from there tsaka nalang natin tingnan if we both want to go to the next level.

At least this way, walang commitment muna, since you are both getting to know each other palang.

For me din, I won't allow myself to chase him nor like him more than he likes me. But this is just me. I guard my heart to ensure this. If nawala sya, e di mawala sya. Hanap ako iba and it's his loss.

Question - ano sabi nya sayo when he invited you for dinner? Kasi ganito iyan, from my pov, I prefer Dutch treat, at least sa initial date. But if the guy insists on paying, and I like him, I make sure we go for coffee or dessert Tapos ako naman pay. That way, he won't feel na kinakwartahan ko lang sya or I'm just there for a free meal.
Nung ininvite mo sya to join you and your friend, did you make him pay for all 3 meals? (for me turn off ito for a guy if ever, but then not sure ha since I'm a girl baka may guys na ok lang, but for me foul sya at di pa naman kayo, nagpa libre ka na, nandamay ka pa- that is if he picked up the bill)

If I'm in your shoes, sabihin ko lang, baka next time I will join you. Tsaka last kayo nag kita ikaw na nagyaya, so why follow up na ikaw ulit? Actually kung MU na kayo maybe it doesn't matter who initiates. Pero at this very early stage, at the most you can do is alternate mag invite. Not you inviting him several times tapos sya di na nagparamdam.

[chichi143]

For me, being a girl, no way ko sasabihin na may gusto ako sa kanya. If he asks, the most I could say - I'm open to get to know you more, being friends is ok, then from there tsaka nalang natin tingnan if we both want to go to the next level.

At least this way, walang commitment muna, since you are both getting to know each other palang.

For me din, I won't allow myself to chase him nor like him more than he likes me. But this is just me. I guard my heart to ensure this. If nawala sya, e di mawala sya. Hanap ako iba and it's his loss.

Question - ano sabi nya sayo when he invited you for dinner? Kasi ganito iyan, from my pov, I prefer Dutch treat, at least sa initial date. But if the guy insists on paying, and I like him, I make sure we go for coffee or dessert Tapos ako naman pay. That way, he won't feel na kinakwartahan ko lang sya or I'm just there for a free meal.
Nung ininvite mo sya to join you and your friend, did you make him pay for all 3 meals? (for me turn off ito for a guy if ever, but then not sure ha since I'm a girl baka may guys na ok lang, but for me foul sya at di pa naman kayo, nagpa libre ka na, nandamay ka pa- that is if he picked up the bill)

If I'm in your shoes, sabihin ko lang, baka next time I will join you. Tsaka last kayo nag kita ikaw na nagyaya, so why follow up na ikaw ulit? Actually kung MU na kayo maybe it doesn't matter who initiates. Pero at this very early stage, at the most you can do is alternate mag invite. Not you inviting him several times tapos sya di na nagparamdam.

hmm he invited me and said na he wants to check this resto near my place and if i could join him. ive known this guy for 2 years na kasi we are colleagues so telling him na, yes i could join him was easy. didnt want to assume na date agad. but i offered to pay the bill, but he insisted. and then we went for coffee and i paid for my own coffee lang kasi hindi naman sia ngkakape.

nung with a friend ko naman, no din. we all paid for our own meals.

and sorry if magulo kwento ko but the idea of going to UP is his, i declined last week but promised to go today. but because he was not initiating contact, di ko sure if tuloy. so i made the move of confirming it. and ayun sabi nia, it'll be awesome if i can join him.

but yeah you're right, i should take it slow no confessions just yet hahaha

[Girltalker2]

^ Yun naman pala! He is inviting you. Kung ganun ang story, yup it's ok. at least sa girl's pov (or should I say pov ko hehe)

What's odd lang nga eh nawawala wala sya. So hindi PA convincing na magiging reliable BF sya, kaya good to also date others while you wait for him to want to commit on his own. Hayaan mo muna sya kung ano gusto nya and as far as you're concerned, friend lang sya since that's how he has behaved so far in this past few weeks.

Good luck!