Girltalkers na Girlfriend ng Marino (Seafarers)!!!

[KIn0928]

To start the ball rolling....
1.) How long na kayo ni bf?
2.) When do you plan to get married?

1. 2 months
2. This year 2010.

Hi wonderful ladies... I decided to join this thread for a very obvious reason. I am deeply and crazily inlove with a seaman. and as you can see ako lang ata yung may bagong seaman na bf. unlike most of the girls here na longtime bfs nyo yung mga seaman nyo... ayun... I need an advice... I dont know if this is the right place for me to ask pero kkwento ko na rin dito...

I met Kin nung 3rd time nya bumaba nang barko and pangatlong araw pa lang nya sa pinas. kababata cya nang pinsan ko and close yung family nila sa family nang tita ko. when we met on his birthday automatically may sparks na then after a few more dates you know being drunk and all naging kami na. I really didnt expect things to go this fast. He officially told all his friends and family members na kami na samantalang ako in my part pinsan ko pa lang nakakalam mga 2 weeks ko pa bago nasabi sa friends ko and sa parents ko. Chinese kasi kami and kahit papano may kaya naman sa buhay... I believe pag sinabing seaman mentally nang mga tao mayaman at galante... but para kasi sakin hindi ko minsan pinangrap magka bf nang seaman. and here I am now. inlove at baliw sakanya....

I am 25 years old and I've been to a lot of relationships. actually I just came from a 4 years relationship this year. that was my last relationship bago ko makilala tong si seaman.Kin is a year younger than me. nakaka tatlong sakay pa lang cya and the last gf he had was while he was in highschool 4 years din cla pero nagbreak sila nung college si kin after that hindi na cya nagka gf.

Good looking and mahilig sa maganda at seksi si kin. babaero daw sabi nang pinsan ko pero isa lang talaga yung naging gf nya yun nga 4 years sila e bata pa naman sila nun... after nun wala nang dinala o pnakilala sa bahay. although his friends told me marami ngang sideline tong si kin here in the phil and abroad.... then he met me. sabi nang parents nya and friends nagkaroon na uli nang direction yung buhay nya and here's the shocking thing... anung month naging kami AUGUST gusto na nya magpakasal kami this year! my mom likes him and his parents agreed. Although hindi pa naman cya nagpropropose natatakot ako anung sasagutin ko when that time comes which is any time this month or next month....

I've read a lot of heartaches and heartbreaks having a seaman partner... sa tingin nyo I should say no or talk to him na next year na lang pagbaba nya uli? I love him pero I know its too early.. is it too early?

[health.gal]

^hi sis, welcome here.

I understand your dilemma with your feelings for Kin. As for my opinion, YES, I THINK ITS TOO EARLY. Things are moving too fast. Ano ang reason bakit gusto na niya magpakasal agad? Why not give it another year? After all, bata ka pa, you're just 25 y/o, and two years pa lang kayo sa relationship.

[KIn0928]

^hi sis, welcome here.

I understand your dilemma with your feelings for Kin. As for my opinion, YES, I THINKS ITS TOO EARLY. Things are moving too fast. Ano ang reason bakit gusto na niya magpakasal agad? Why not give it another year? After all, bata ka pa, you're just 25 y/o, and two years pa lang kayo sa relationship.

Thank you so much sis for your reply...
That's exactly the same question I asked him when he told me "pakasal na tayo this year" we were having our tequila night that time and nawala lasing ko when he said that but ofcourse I thought lasing nato hehe... but nung mga 3rd visit nya sa bahay when my mom told him about marriage life bgla nya siningit na "tita plan na nga namen sana bago ako makasakay" so shock ako parang gusto ko lumubog sa kinuupuan ko when he said that. then I talked to him privately. I asked him again why hurry, takot kaba pag sakay mu mawala ako or takot kaba wala na ko pagbalik mu. but everytime I asked him that isa lang sagot nya "mahal kita, ikaw lang, ikaw na" so windang ako hindi ko alam kung anung iisipin ko.

and sis its not 2 years... 2 MONTHS! anung gagawin ko? how can I tell him without offending his feelings or without making him think that I dont love him. panu ko sasabihin na its too early and I am too afraid and again its too early.

I do love this guy pero panu kung hindi nya ko maintindihan or mamisinterpret nya ko?

[Kendrick]

hi girls,  i want to be a part of this.

Pat is my 2nd BF na seaman. pro i nver felt this deep intense feeling for him, we agreed to get married by decmber this year pero he's father was disgnosed with cancer so postponed kami.
khpon [textspeak!] nagiiyakan kami s aphone, saying how much we miss each other and how much we love each other. nkakalungkot kc ang layo nya. im a single mom btw, pro it doesnt matter to him. kkunin din daw nya anak ko. how lucky i am.. and hes 2 yrs younger p sa akin..

[health.gal]

hi kin, sorry for my grammar. typo error, i wrote "I THINKS" instead of "I THINK". LOL.

and sis its not 2 years... 2 MONTHS! anung gagawin ko? how can I tell him without offending his feelings or without making him think that I dont love him. panu ko sasabihin na its too early and I am too afraid and again its too early.
I do love this guy pero panu kung hindi nya ko maintindihan or mamisinterpret nya ko?

2 MONTHS pala, wow, thats really a very short notice. paano sasabihin? plain and simple, "you just think its too early" kung hindi ka niya maiintindihan or kung mamimisinterpret ka niya, it just means that he doesn't love you.

hi girls,  i want to be a part of this.
Pat is my 2nd BF na seaman. pro i nver felt this deep intense feeling for him, we agreed to get married by decmber this year pero he's father was disgnosed with cancer so postponed kami.
khpon [textspeak!] nagiiyakan kami s aphone, saying how much we miss each other and how much we love each other. nkakalungkot kc ang layo nya. im a single mom btw, pro it doesnt matter to him. kkunin din daw nya anak ko. how lucky i am.. and hes 2 yrs younger p sa akin..

welcome to this thread!

[babymom20]

kin0928, haba ng litanya ko sana para sayo kaya lang dinelete ko na lang hehe.. bottomline lang naman, just be yourself..express yourself.. dont pretend. dont hesitate. just be real.. dont worry sa reaction nya. hindi mo hawak yun. sabihin mo lang lahat ng gusto mong sabihin.ipaliwanag ang side mo. thats it. you do your part. then how he is going to react, you have no control. just take it as opportunity to realyze and know kung sya ba yung tipo ng lalaki na kaya mong pakisamahan habang buhay. kung simpleng issue di kayo magkaintindihan, di magkasundo, what more yung much complicated problems.. dont be afraid in expressing yourself.. face the problem.

paano kung mamisinterpret ka nya, or hindi ka nya maintindihan? it means kulang ang paliwanag mo, o mahirap syang umintindi, o pwede rin na ikaw ang hindi makaintindi rin sa gusto nyang mangyari.. mas mahirap naman na magpakasal kayo na hindi kayo magkaintidihan hehe.. goodluck.. it takes two to tango..

[KIn0928]

kin0928, haba ng litanya ko sana para sayo kaya lang dinelete ko na lang hehe.. bottomline lang naman, just be yourself..express yourself.. dont pretend. dont hesitate. just be real.. dont worry sa reaction nya. hindi mo hawak yun. sabihin mo lang lahat ng gusto mong sabihin.ipaliwanag ang side mo. thats it. you do your part. then how he is going to react, you have no control. just take it as opportunity to realyze and know kung sya ba yung tipo ng lalaki na kaya mong pakisamahan habang buhay. kung simpleng issue di kayo magkaintindihan, di magkasundo, what more yung much complicated problems.. dont be afraid in expressing yourself.. face the problem.

paano kung mamisinterpret ka nya, or hindi ka nya maintindihan? it means kulang ang paliwanag mo, o mahirap syang umintindi, o pwede rin na ikaw ang hindi makaintindi rin sa gusto nyang mangyari.. mas mahirap naman na magpakasal kayo na hindi kayo magkaintidihan hehe.. goodluck.. it takes two to tango..

Thank you Baby Mom, I already told him again (last sat) sabi ko its too early and ang dami ko pa hindi alam sakanya and lalo na cya sakin. all he said was whatever your past past na yun and kung [textspeak!] man yung pangit sayo medyo may idea na ko sabi nya sabay tawa. since kasi nung August pagbaba nya 4x a week kami magkasama then starting September 3 days and 2 nights sya every week sa bahay natutulog, tumutulong, naghuhugas nang pingan. then when I was hospitalize last month cya rin nagbantay sa hospital 18 to 20 hours for 5 days, sabi nga nang mama ko maxadong active daw ibang iba sa mga naging ex ko sabi ko naman kasi walang trabaho seaman eh... wala sa sea kaya ganyan... ayun so when he ask me what do I need to find out kung halos everyday na kami magkasama sabi ko naman madami pa. he even told me where like husbands and wives na nga kulang na lang dun na cya tumira samen at marriage license.

 [textspeak!] kasalanan ko rin kasi ganun na nga halos nangyayari pero diba pag Bfs and Gfs kayo gusto nyo laging magksama and yung intimacy nyo is too the highest level since bago pa lang eh what if nagkasawaan na tumagal na, we're already doing it now [textspeak!] pang bago... when it comes to money he gives me his money, he even wanted to open an bank account of us pag alis nya... buong barangay at buong angkan nya kilala na ko... things like that...

and I asked him hindi pa pwede enjoy muna tyo now tska na yung [textspeak!] or yung contract? wala sabi lang nya gusto lang nya ko respect and family ko and he really want me to be his partner forever... its kinda sweet when he said those things pero iba parin yung nararanasan nyo. kayo naranasan nyo na super layo nang mga bf nyo and yet you girls are still there when they return for me im not so sure.. kung kakayanin ko yung layo at tagal

I just realize maybe its not him maybe its me ayoko matali sa lalakeng wala naman sakin most of the time, kaya nga super taas mga kamay ko sainyo kasi nakakasurvive kayo... sigh...

and one more thing... Ayokong mabilisang wedding im sure both of us wala pang ipon sa isang engrandeng wedding pero sa pagbabasa ko here lahat kayo matatagal nang nagiipon nang pera at matatagal nang mag bfs and gfs kami wala pa...
halos lahat kayo matatagal na maraming away na napagdaanan at nalagpasan kami petty fights lang na halos consider to be lambingan lang.

waaaahhh!!!  I wanted to be his wife. I wanted to start planning I wanted to be with him everyday... I wanted to wake up 7 morning a week with him hindi lang 3 morning a week. I wanted to wear that white gown and walk the aisle.I wanted to be a bride pero I am so selfish to want all these things without the contract. 

sorry po medyo mahaba... I just want to know kung ako lang yung abnormal na nakakaranas nang ganito or is there anyone out there or anyone who could talk me out of this selfishness I am in?

[babymom20]

hindi naman issue masyado ang time.. if its something you want, something that will make you happy, something you know kaya mong panindigan no matter what, something na kaya mong tayuan, something na kaya mong tanggapin whatever outcome, something na hindi mo pagsisisihan in case of unfavorable eventualities, then GO.
 
if you can honestly consider yourself and your bf as mature individuals, then GO.

kahit suitor pa lang, nag ooffer na ng kasal sa kaibigan ko. as if naman security ang wedding.. napakadaling magpakasal. nakipag break ako nun sa hub ko dahil sa kakulitan nya ng kasal, e marami pa akong plano sa buhay ko. i was 21 yo then.. four yrs kaming off, but we got constant communication. after four yrs of constant communication, i accepted him back, at kasal na naman ang offer nya, by that time, ready na akong magpakasal, at nakasal nga kami. and i can say, we're fine today. pareho kaming ready na nung nagpakasal. minsan nga tinanong ko sa kanya, what if kaya pumayag ako sa kasal na gusto nya nun, kumusta kaya kami ngayon. and sobrang napatunayan ko kung gaano ako kamahal ng asawa ko. i dont fear losing anybody's love and affection. nagpapakatotoo lang ako lagi. kung tanggap nya, ok..kung hindi naman, what can i do.. i just cant tenforce anything, love cant be commanded. just do what makes you happier.. take risks na kaya mong panindigan, kung tingin mo hindi ka sigurado, halt. there is always a right time for everything.

[KIn0928]

hindi naman issue masyado ang time.. if its something you want, something that will make you happy, something you know kaya mong panindigan no matter what, something na kaya mong tayuan, something na kaya mong tanggapin whatever outcome, something na hindi mo pagsisisihan in case of unfavorable eventualities, then GO.
 
if you can honestly consider yourself and your bf as mature individuals, then GO.

kahit suitor pa lang, nag ooffer na ng kasal sa kaibigan ko. as if naman security ang wedding.. napakadaling magpakasal. nakipag break ako nun sa hub ko dahil sa kakulitan nya ng kasal, e marami pa akong plano sa buhay ko. i was 21 yo then.. four yrs kaming off, but we got constant communication. after four yrs of constant communication, i accepted him back, at kasal na naman ang offer nya, by that time, ready na akong magpakasal, at nakasal nga kami. and i can say, we're fine today. pareho kaming ready na nung nagpakasal. minsan nga tinanong ko sa kanya, what if kaya pumayag ako sa kasal na gusto nya nun, kumusta kaya kami ngayon. and sobrang napatunayan ko kung gaano ako kamahal ng asawa ko. i dont fear losing anybody's love and affection. nagpapakatotoo lang ako lagi. kung tanggap nya, ok..kung hindi naman, what can i do.. i just cant tenforce anything, love cant be commanded. just do what makes you happier.. take risks na kaya mong panindigan, kung tingin mo hindi ka sigurado, halt. there is always a right time for everything.

Thank you sooooooo much Babymom, I am really going to tell him that I am not ready. siguro next year na lang pagbaba nya... but not really this year. ayun Thank you so much for taking time to read the last long one 

sana kayanin ko yung loneliness and longing once na sumakay na cya. super bilib ako sainyo nakayanan nyo mahalin at maghintay sa mga seaman nyo sa buhay. sana ako rin kayanin ko... so far kasi puro saya kasi bago pa lang at andito cya...  :-[sigh... sis thank you .

[KIn0928]

Mga sis... may ask ako... since naging kami ni bf... lagi na ko nagbabasa nang news related sa mga seaman... last month may 20 filipino seaman na nakidnap sa somalia... kahpaon may 17 nanaman from kenya... after this news wala na ko nababsang updates kung anung nangyayari sa mga filipinong marino na nakuha din nang mga pirata...

• nanonotify ba yung mga family members incase na hijacked yung ship?
  may sahod pa din ba yung mga nakidnap habang nasa kamay pa sila nang pirata?

may kakilala na po ba kayo na naging biktima na nang somalian pirates?

sencya na mga sis if I have to bring this up... ayaw ni bf pagusapan namen yung mga ganitong topic, gusto ko lang malaman what will happend to me and what should I do when this kind of things happend.

[emmie]

Hi mga sissies! Sorry sobrang tagal akong hindi nag check. October umalis si hubby. Sis sharks, di kami nag pakasal bago sya umalis. I'm still getting through the fact na he's away.

1. 2 years
2. october-december 2011 (tentative kase lage yung eta)

Sis sharks, yung hila na SIL nako ganun pa ren sya. pasama ng pasama ugali habang tumatagal. and she's trying to bring me down. anyway, yung bf ko naman napaka supportive. actually mas matanda pako sa kanya ng ilang years pero it seems like mas matured pa sya mag isip. yung family nya hindi maganda yung treatment saken pero kinakaya ko dahil mahal ko ang bf ko. tinitiis ko lahat. i know one day, it will all be paid off. I'm so looking forward sa wedding namen. Sabi nga ni bf kahit kaming dalawa lang tapos may witness ok na basta makasal kami. Sana lang matupad lahat ng pangarap namin. At sana hindi nya ako iwan. I always pray. Lalo na nung kakaalis lang nya. nag re rent kase kami sa makati tapos umuwe nako sa province sa family ko kase hinde ko talaga kaya mag isa. i was emotionally tortured by his family. They even said na hinde sila a attend ng kasal and hindi sila pipirma and everything. Pero i stood strong. hinahawakan ko lang yung love ko sa bf ko at love ko sa kanya.

You know what, may times na pumupunta ako sa church just to sit there and cry, cry my heart out.. find solitude. that's how tortured i was that i dont even know where to run. i just cry. until now i cry before i sleep, i cry in my dreams, i cry when i wake up. but, i know he loves me, that's what keeping me strong. that's what keeps me holding on.

thanks kase may ganitong thread na pwede kang maglabas ng sama ng loob. at ng mga gusto mong sabihin. thanks for the support. i will always be here for all of you. maybe one time we can all meet up.

take care. all the best sissies

[emmie]

sali din ako, 3 mos. pa [textspeak!] kami ng bf ko tapos dis coming november 2010 na sya baba kaya excited na ko sa pag uwi nya  saka sa tanker sya naka sakay ngaun tapos sabi nila delikado daw yon? 

tanker din bf ko. delikado [textspeak!] LPG kalimitan [textspeak!] karga. ano ba position ng bf mo? skn [textspeak!] sa makina, delikado [textspeak!] mainit. nkkbaog daw. kya sna mka buo na kmi ni bf after ng kasal namin later this year.

[ashleycole]

tanker din bf ko. delikado [textspeak!] LPG kalimitan [textspeak!] karga. ano ba position ng bf mo? skn [textspeak!] sa makina, delikado [textspeak!] mainit. nkkbaog daw. kya sna mka buo na kmi ni bf after ng kasal namin later this year.

hello sis, OS yong ex bf ko (hiwalay na kami) 

Congrats in advance sis, sana makabuo kayo kaagad kasi yon nga daw sabi nila nakakabaog pag tanker ang sinasakyan..

[asassinmantis]

Mga sis... may ask ako... since naging kami ni bf... lagi na ko nagbabasa nang news related sa mga seaman... last month may 20 filipino seaman na nakidnap sa somalia... kahpaon may 17 nanaman from kenya... after this news wala na ko nababsang updates kung anung nangyayari sa mga filipinong marino na nakuha din nang mga pirata...

• nanonotify ba yung mga family members incase na hijacked yung ship?
  may sahod pa din ba yung mga nakidnap habang nasa kamay pa sila nang pirata?

may kakilala na po ba kayo na naging biktima na nang somalian pirates?

sencya na mga sis if I have to bring this up... ayaw ni bf pagusapan namen yung mga ganitong topic, gusto ko lang malaman what will happend to me and what should I do when this kind of things happend.

YES SIS SAGOT SA LAHAT NG TANONG MO: maliban sa wala pa ako kilala na nabiktima.... yung other ship lang ng company ng mister ko ang na pirata.... di naman sila papatayin e as long as hindi sila lalaban....kung may  kasama asawa ang isa sa seaman yun lang ang kawawa dahil narerape sila kesehodang buntis ka....ganun kasi hapen base sa kwento ng asawa ko....sumama kasi asawa nung seaman (kasi mataas rango pwede magsama ng misis)...pero hindi naman sila nananakit kung hindi ka lalaban e...sa kanila magnanakaw lang sila lahat ng napapakinabangan na gamit ng mga seaman ultimo underware, pagkain at ipapatubos ang barko nila...kaya kung GF o misis o anak o apo ka man ng seaman or any relation PAGDASAL NATIN LAGI ANG KALIGTASAN NILA

[emmie]

hello sis, OS yong ex bf ko (hiwalay na kami) 

Congrats in advance sis, sana makabuo kayo kaagad kasi yon nga daw sabi nila nakakabaog pag tanker ang sinasakyan..

Wiper/Oiler pa lang bf ko sis. Bubuo na talaga kami pagdating nya.

I'm sorry to hear na hiwalay na kayo. What happened? If you don't mind me asking. Share ka lang if feel mo mag share. All the best!

[emmie]

Thank you sooooooo much Babymom, I am really going to tell him that I am not ready. siguro next year na lang pagbaba nya... but not really this year. ayun Thank you so much for taking time to read the last long one 

sana kayanin ko yung loneliness and longing once na sumakay na cya. super bilib ako sainyo nakayanan nyo mahalin at maghintay sa mga seaman nyo sa buhay. sana ako rin kayanin ko... so far kasi puro saya kasi bago pa lang at andito cya...  :-[sigh... sis thank you .

KIn0928: i read your posts . medyo nabitin ako. what happened girl? how are you now? i hope things went well with you and your bf or hubby na yata? =)

Girls: I very much appreciate this thread. and dami ko nalalaman. thank you sa inyong lahat. =)

[emmie]

i agree, there is always a somebody for someone. i'm a hopeless romantic so i believe we don't have to go looking for it, love comes to us. yes, i have qualities that i look for in a potential partner but i think when the person destined for you comes, it won't matter if he has the qualities you're looking for. everything will just fall into place.  di ba mga sis? hehe masyado bang cheesy?

super like! oh God! sobrang delayed ng reaction ko. sorry talaga. never thought of this thread kase windang ako sa pag alis ng bf ko ng October.

Anyway, i've read all the posts in this thread. and na touch sa mga inspiring messages. I am in my biggest downfall these past few months, i remember this thread, it's very comforting na hindi pa ako nagsasalita pero parang may nag advice na sakin. thank you.

i just want to introduce myself, a bit of myself. i'm 25 y/o. when i was 19 y/o i started to work in manila/makati. call center. my last relationship before my current bf ended when i was 18. i was single for 4 years. it was 2008 when i met my bf. that time i already knew he's the one i've been waiting for. that time i didn't know anything about him, but instantly i got to know him better. kwentuhan lang ganon. sharing and everything. then sinabi na nya na he will soon be a seaman. though im the kind of person who's not fond of waiting, i did not hesitated. he never gave me anything to worry about. i gave my all. i love him. that's all i know. and then tumagal na yung relationship namin. hindi na kami naghiwalay non. tumira pa sya sakin sa manila. he said yun yung pang bawe nya pag dumating na yung time na sasakay na sya. dapat ikasal na kami bago sya umalis pero nagbago isip nya, ayaw daw nya umasa sa parents nya pagdating dun kase gusto nya pinaghirapan nya yung gagamitin namin para kami ren ang magde decide ng lahat. last october sumakay na sya. his family never supported me just when i needed them most. they're pulling me down. they're making me feel that they don't like me every single day. i never thought of this before but it seems like the world came crashing down on me. i always cry, like what i mentioned sa ibang post ko, i go to church just to sit there and cry..cry my heart out..find solitude. i decided to go home to my family. tried to find a job. and start over.

now, 3 months na sya sa barko. asia lang byahe nya. may work na ako dito sa province namin and i'm starting to pick up the pieces that i left off.  and then naalala ko tong thread na to. you guys made me feel that i'm not alone. haven't stated my situation yet but after reading the posts, i felt better. that there are some people out there who would make me feel well. u girls did. thank you.

so, kwentuhan tayo. i will be active on this thread as often as i can. i wish you all the best pati yung mga bf/hubby nyo.

again, thank you.

[babymom20]

^ kwento ka sis para mas maintindihan namin pinagdadaanan mo.. if you feel like it.. pero kung di ka pa ready, take your time..

what support are you expecting sa family nya? what happened to you and your bf?

[emmie]

hi sis babymom. we're ok naman ng hubby ko it's just that i'm having a hard time coping with our situation kasi first pa lang na sakay nya. expect ko lang sa family nya is maging supportive, kahit hindi na sakin kundi sa bf ko. sa kanila kasi ni hindi man lang nila kinu kumusta ang bf ko. parang lagi na lang pera ang habol nila, pinabayaran pa talaga lahat ng mga nagastos ng bago umalis bf ko, mag te text lang yung nanay nya paghihingi ng pera na pang sustento sa bisyo nya. pero yung physical state ng bf ko it seems like they don't care. i can say this kasi eto ren yung nararamdaman ng bf ko. he even told me na ako lang daw ang meron sya. sabi nila dati ayaw lang daw nila pag isipin bf ko pero that's not an excuse. and that's not what my bf feels. tapos sabi family nya bakit daw hindi na sila kinakausap ng bf ko, e kase naman kahit mag message lang sa email hindi nila magawa. mas gusto pa ng nanay nya magsugal. yung sister naman nya super sama ng ugali sakin, lagi na lang ako pinag sasalitaan. na pera lang daw ang habol ko, na hindi daw sya papayag na ako yung maging asawa ng bf ko at di daw sila pupunta sa kasal and pipirma. alam mo yung point na hindi na nga nila ako kino comfort e lalo pa ako dina down. hindi na nga nakakatulong e pabigat pa! they even said that i am a poor lonely soul. hay... ngayon, ok na naman ako. i'm trying to be strong for the both of us and i'm doing everything i can to make him feel that he's being loved.

[health.gal]

^based on your story, mahirap nga yang situation mo. do you have any plans of getting married soon? kung wala naman, then pag-iwas lang sa family ng bf mo magagawa mo. kung hindi mo sila nakikita, then, hindi ka nila mapagsasalitaan ng masakit. after all, si bf naman ang kailangan mong pakisamahan as of now. but, if you already have plans of getting married soon, then, ibang usapan na iyon. think a zillion times kung magpapakasal na nga ba kayo. this is just my straightforward opinion.