Girltalkers na Girlfriend ng Marino (Seafarers)!!!

[betty]

yes nga daw...ayan yung hinahanapan ko ng magiging gf ulit

[sharks]

ah siya pala.. sana his next girl would treat him right.

[Workingmomzie]

kawawa naman pala sis betty yung friend mo sana ok na sya at makahanap ng deserving na girl na pakakasalan nya.

welcome sis khemeynard....doris here.

[sweetpea_1104]

hi sis sweetpea, dito ka rin pala. hehe

uu pagala-gala ako dito hehe.. wala lang feeling ko kasi mag bf at gf pa din kami ni hubby hehe

[angelvenus]

sisses, makisali lang ako ah. un [textspeak!] 1 sa pinakanakakatakot sa part ng seaman [textspeak!] pguwi e may malalaman na di kanais-nais don sa naiwan nila. marami din ako nalaman na ganyan mga friends ni papa, malalaman paguwi nong mga seaman na may iba na yung gf/wife nila kaya naghahanap talaga sila ng mapagkakatiwalaan at maiiwan ng matagal na mga gf and wife. [textspeak!] nanligaw kasi sa akin dati halos 1 year siya nanligaw kaso napangunahan na ng takot kaya naudlot.. hehe. yung papa and mga tito ko naman parang ayaw din kasi nila na mag-asawa ako seaman. hehe.

[sharks]

...nanligaw kasi sa akin dati halos 1 year siya nanligaw kaso napangunahan na ng takot kaya naudlot.. hehe. yung papa and mga tito ko naman parang ayaw din kasi nila na mag-asawa ako seaman. hehe.

siguro sis, meron ibang guy na destined sayo sana binigyan mo ng chance si seaman..hehe malay mo sya pala ang destiny mo?  pagmahal mo na sis kahit ano makakaya mo, kahit gaano pa siya kalayo. ikaw lang makakapagsabi kung deserving ba siya sa love mo, hindi yung mga tao nakapaligid sayo.

[angelvenus]

thanks sisses. though i don't think he's meant for me coz he just got married last month. nabuntis niya kasi yung girl.. hehe. anyways, best wishes sisses.

[sharks]

ay, not meant to be nga..hehe

[serendipity02]

hello mga sis,

I badly need your words of wisdom..
after of 5 months vacation ni BF at halos uber suoer quality time naman kame..gala dito ala dun..overnight at out of town trips..
i am so sad to say na tapos na ang maliligayang araw namin since babalik na sya sa barko s sept 1. at sa may 2011 na balik nya..
baket ganto? pangatlo nya na toh pero parang pahirap ng pahirap yung pag-alis..di ba dapat sanay na ako?
he assured me naman na we will plan our wedding pagdating nya..
its just that nawala sa sistema ng katawan ko na pinahiram lang sya samin ng company nila and now its time to go back to work.

[health.gal]

^just think of the things that you have to be thankful of...
- 5 months vacation niya, matagal na yun, sa iba nga 2-3 months lang eh
- in the span of his 5-month long vacation, he did his best to spend quality time with you
- 8 months lang next contract niya, yung iba nga 10 months, or sa ibang mga LDR na landbased, minsan years pa bago sila magkita ulit
- his assurance of planning your wedding when he returns -->at least sigurado ka na intentions niya pakasalan ka
- pinahiram lang siya sa iyo ng company niya? pwede naman siya tumanggi ng pag-alis ulit eh, at magtrabaho as a minimum wage earner dito sa 'Pinas or stay at home at ikaw magwork para sa inyo, or he could opt to leave and work overseas again for the financial security of your future family, everything is just a matter of choice

i know it hurts, and never tayo masasanay sa pag-alis nila. what we could do is to be more optimistic with the status of our relationship with them. try to shift your attention to other things --> be more productive, help him earn malay mo mabilis kayo makaipon mga maraming pera (based on your goal) para hindi na siya umalis. and since magplaplan na daw kayo ng wedding niyo pagbalik niya, why dont you try to start fixing the options for your wedding. i-organize mo na options niyo for suppliers, basa ka na ng mga wedding articles, etc. in that way, pwede din mashift attention mo at maibsan ng kahit konti pagka miss mo sa kanya. try to cheer up, isipin mo na lang, kung nakakawrinkles ang pagiyak at pagmukmuk, gusto mo ba ang pangit mo paguwi niya? LOL. i'm just trying to lighten things up for you 

[babymom20]

after almost 5 yrs, i and a good girlfriend had the chance to spend the whole night chatting.. and sa haba ng usapan namin, nabanggit nya, she was looking for a seaman bf eventually a seaman hubby para daw sa financial security.. she's 28 na rin and a teacher sa isang progressive school.. i suddenly wonder if some of the seaman gf's e may ganun ding perception. but of course outright i corrected her thoughts.

[sharks]

in my case, financial security was never the reason. maybe because when i met my bf, he hasn't been on-board yet and i am already earning on my own. last 2008 lang siya nakasakay so ako yung mas secured financially kumbaga. although that's the case, hindi ko din expected na magkakaron ako ng bf na seaman..hehe nagkataon na lang din.

pero sabi ng isang friend ko na cousin ni bf, sa province daw pag nalaman ng mga single ladies na seaman ang isang bachelor eh talagang plus points daw sa kanila. Siguro kasi nga impression sa mga seaman eh maraming pera...which is also true, pero pinaghihirapan naman nila talaga. Pero baka sa province lang yung ganun thinking.

[sweetpea_1104]

@serendipity02

hi sis, isipin mo nalang hindi ka nagiisa, andito kami at pare-parehas lang tayo ng nararamdaman, masaya syempre pag andyan pero pag paalis na ayaw na. you have to be strong, sabi sa akin ng hubby ko when we were still mag-bf/gf, mahirap daw sa kanila pag nakikta nila na malungkot ang naiiwan nila kasi sila andun sila lang mag-isa walang relatives at walang ibang mapaglibangan at wala silang ibang makausap kundi sila-sila lang at paulit-ulit lang daw minsan ang pinaguusapan. So just imagine mo nalang din yung dobleng hirap sa kanila at least tayo we have our family and friends here na pwede natin maging outlet anytime na malungkot tayo, eh sila diba?

just be strong and isipin mo nalang you really have to be strong lalo na if you both have plans of getting married. Ako I am 8th months pregnant and he's not here and he will also be back May of 2011 in which 7 mos na ang baby tapos once a month lang kami magkausap thru phonecall na wala pang 20 mins. minsan 5 mins lang, yung text bihira din kasi lagi silang walang signal. I'm not even sure nga kapag manganganak ako eh kung may signal siya, diba mas mahirap yung situation ko pero i have to deal with it because this is what i have chosen and because i love my hubby..same also we our other sisters here. ganun talaga so cheer-up sis! =)

@babymom20 == what's new sis, mga mentality ng mga tao dito kapag seaman ang bf or asawa eh nagkakandarapa ang mga tao. parang walking bling-bling tingin nila sa mga seaman na they don't even realize na kapag ang seaman ay asa lupa walang income at bago pa man makaalis eh puno na ng utang. my hubby had his vacation here last time umabot ng 8 mos and imagine, umabot kami ng 50k+ ang utang then [textspeak!] personal savings ko worth 100k+ simot at 2 account ko nagclose. hindi alam ng mga tao yung ganung scenario.

[serendipity02]

Thank God at may gantong forum.
atleast i know im not the only one.. its so hard lang seeing your friends with their BF tapos ako walang kasama.

he gave me two options to choose.
1st. aalis sya for 8months at ikakasal na kame nextyear
2nd. hinde na sya aalis pero mga 5years pa kame bago makapagpakasal.
syempre i chose the 1st option, and it helped me to ease the pain.
pangatlong sampa pa lang ng BF ko toh..

Thank you so much for your kind words..sarap ng feeling ng my karamay at hinde ako nag-iisa.


@babymom- alam mo ako dati, hinde ako proud na seaman BF ko kasi tampulan ako ng tukso.. "ano seaman? naku! dame sumasampa na p*kp*k ah!kahit sabon lang daw ang kapalit ayos na!" I hate those sarcastic jokes. kahit alam kong hinde kayang gawin ng BF ko yun,masakit for me na hinde sya makaiwas sa impression na yun.

[health.gal]

Wow usapang financial security pala... well personnally I can really not tell if I am badly naghahabol for financial security or not. Kayo na lang siguro mag-judge kasi for me I think I am just sailing in between. Hindi ko naman masasabi na I am a "mata-pobre" nor I am gold-digger. Parang nakaplano lang talaga sa isip ko na my boyfriend or my husband should be someone who is earning not lesser than I am earning....

Your post / answer made me curious (again, and again, and again)....I just wanna ask: so, hindi mo sasagutin bf mo ngayon (i mean hindi magiging kayo) kung nakilala mo siya na hindi seaman and earning lesser than you do?

Then I also have a guy friend na he really admitted na ng nanligaw siya sa wife niya it is not love that is pushing him. He is after of financial security he can get from her bank officer wife.

Wow, kakaiba ang guy friend mo ha...kasi most men i know are "egoistic", yun tipong they want to earn more than their partners simply because its what the "norm" tells them to do. Kumbaga, its dictated by the society.

...she was looking for a seaman bf eventually a seaman hubby para daw sa financial security.. she's 28 na rin and a teacher sa isang progressive school.. i suddenly wonder if some of the seaman gf's e may ganun ding perception. but of course outright i corrected her thoughts.

sa case ko, nope, that doesn't apply. naging mag bf-gf kami high school pa lang 

[betty]

gemini,

you would rather care sa kung ano sasabihin ng tao sayo kesa sa puso mo?
i may bluntly say na you are a gold digger, why, because you purposely seek men that earns more than you do for your own benefit.

"sugar mommy ka"  ibig sabihin hinayaan mong hindi ka bayaran ng bf mo? well its your fault na not his.

BTW, pareho lang pala kayo ng bf mo eh kase, hindi karin pala nya papatulan kung wala kang work

[health.gal]

there is a big chance na hindi ko sasagutin. natanong nga yan ng bf ko sa akin eh and i was honest to him na yup baka hindi maging kami. just in the same way na i think na kung sakali wala akong desenteng work my bf would not recognize me either.

For me hindi siya kakaiba sis, marami na yan sa paligid. Or kung mayroon mang mga lalaki na egoistic pa rin in if income pinag-uusapan, I believe iilan na sila at I strongly feel sa iilan na mga lalaking yang they also need a financially productive wife.

oh! we belong to EXTREMELY DIFFERENT worlds! i was brought up in an environment where men are egoistic (or in a lighter tone, they conforme to the "norms" of being the head of the family). hindi kasi ako naging exposed sa environment na pera lang ang habol ng isa sa isa, or pera ang reason kung bakit naiin-love...maybe, thats the reason why I am a "hopeless romantic", and just the same as i am, thats also how i want my future children to be....filled with the values of love, purity, and sincerity 

thanks for being honest 

[health.gal]

...Since we became lovers he always left me his ATM and not a single penny ang kinuha ko for myself because I am not dependent on him financially. If he earns then I am earning too.

sorry, maiba lang usapan....bakit niya iniiwan atm niya? why doesn't he make you his allottee instead?

[health.gal]

GF pa kasi sis kaya ayaw ko na I will be one of his allottee. Iniiwasan ko lang ang possible masasabi ng pamilya na after 2nd sakay ng sanak/kapatid nila mayroon ng another allottee. Besides, as far as I know family/asawa lang pwede maging allottee otherwise si bf ang mag-open ng account then iiwan na lang kung kanino niya gusto iiwan. Ewan ko if this true to all agencies kay yan ang sinabi nga mga kakilala ko.

ah ok. saan agency siya? in our case, ako lang sole alottee ni bf (aside from himself, of course). pwede yun set-up na yun sa agency nila na kahit friend ay allottee. then ako nagbibigay sa family niya. and i feel so blessed because his parents are very kind, understanding and open to the situation.

eh di pag kinasal kayo may pre-nup agreement?

i hope you won't mind whenever i ask a lot of questions about you. your story is very interesting. maybe because, as what i said in my former post, we belong to exact opposite worlds. its just nice to wake up and learn about the "reality" of life. 

[betty]

So let may say it again na kung financial security lang hinahanap ko eh siguro I would have fish a man in my own level and eventually I would not give a chance to a from scratch na seaman.

baket nga ba hinde? im sure yung co owners nyo sa bank has more than enough resources to sustain the "ideal situation" you want.


Eh ikaw mismo nag isip what term to use eh...read your post below.

Wow usapang financial security pala... well personally I can really not tell if I am badly naghahabol for financial security or not. Kayo na lang siguro mag-judge kasi for me I think I am just sailing in between. Hindi ko naman masasabi na I am a "mata-pobre" nor I am gold-digger. Parang nakaplano lang talaga sa isip ko na my boyfriend or my husband should be someone who is earning not lesser than I am earning.