GUYS, would you consider dating a fat girl?

[marge070407]

Respect lang din. Kasi din forum is made to boost confidence din naman. Porke ba mataba hindi na makakahanap ng date?  Madami din akong kilala na guys na mhilig talaga sa malaman at chubby. 

[FOURever]

^ agree

Have to say this, last week, someone asked me kung pwede kami mag date i'm trying to lose weight pero chubby pa din state ko ngayon too early to tell pero he's fun to be with it. Siguro naging ok first date namin kasi he was a schoolmate before and even if date date lang, kung talagang super ok kami, then eventually i will hope na mag "level-up" yung status. I said, dating is really fun but at the end of the day, of course i want something more stable.. Paano pa kaya yung dati pa nakikipagdate di ba? Deep inside meron ding hope sa kanila na matuloy sa relationship just sharing

[ohcmon]

@ ohcmon

hindi nga namin ikagwagwapo pero sometimes tough love or some blunt advice from someone that
you don't know personally could do wonders. No one is imposing their opinions naman, everyone is
free to give advice and to take advice or take it with a grain of salt.

Yeah, but these girls you want to help don't need or even want your help at all. Hindi sila nagpost dito para magtanong kung dapat ba talaga silang magpapayat para sumaya because most seem happy in the first place.

Next time, offer your "blunt advice" for people who actually ask for it.

[marge070407]

I totally agree with you ohcmon!

[sacred cow]

Yeah, but these girls you want to help don't need or even want your help at all. Hindi sila nagpost dito para magtanong kung dapat ba talaga silang magpapayat para sumaya because most seem happy in the first place.

Next time, offer your "blunt advice" for people who actually ask for it.

Ah ok, I wish for their continued happiness. If knowing that other girls despite being fat/chubby/overweight gets them guys kaya hindi
na kelangan maglose weight would let them sleep at night, then so be it.

[tough_guy]

lahat ng babae mganda, may mas maganda nga lang :-D

[sacred cow]

lahat ng babae mganda, may mas maganda nga lang :-D

blasphemy!

[jaymejorrol]

marami akong chubby/fat girl friends.. and i can say happy naman sila now.. yung dalawa sa kababata kong fat are lesbians now.. mas astig pa pumorma sa akin ang hanep.. haha..

but back on my highschool days, naranasan ko na mainlove sa fat girl ..that time, parang dedma lang sa akin yung size ng katawan.. kasi ang bubbly nya, sarap kausap, kalog din, malinis sa katawan, laging mabango, tapos sarap i-hug at panggigilan.. haha!

[Girltalker2]

May ex ako mahilig sa mataba. Lahat ng naging gf niya chubby and fat. So I guess di rin consider ng guy yung size. Depende sa guy siguro

yes, depende sa guy. but I believe na malamang 1% lang ng guys at ang mga bulag ang hindi tumitingin sa physical attributes ng girl. kahit papano, the guy looks at her personality AND looks. 

Hayaan niyo na kasi kung okay lang na fat/chubby mga sis natin dito and they feel good abt themselves. Is that so hard to believe?

No, it is not hard to believe.  I think for girls, mas mature kasi ang female gender.  Some are comfortable with how they are built.  so long as healthy ka, kahit on the chubby side, good personality, then go go go! 

"Guys are visual creatures so pasexy na kayo para meron magdate sa inyo" like hello?

That's reality sis.  For me, kahit pa anong reklamo ko, dahil babae din ako, wala akong magagawa.  Kasi sya yung totoo.  Guys are Generally visual creatures.  Ikanga, paano sila titigasan kung puro pata or cellulites nakikita nila.  Siguro some, but I really do not know as I am not a guy, and based on my limited pov, I find that hard to believe.

Anyone, kahit babae, won't take a second look at another person if she/he does not find the other person attractive.  Moreso mga lalaki, kasi nga importante sa kanila ang looks.  So para ma-ask ng date ang isang medyo on the heavy side, I only see the possibility na -
Magkakilala na talaga yung guy at girl, where the guy sees through the girl's charm and personality, kaya nya nagustuhan.

At hindi yun tipong, asking for a friend of the girl na pakilala mo naman ako, etc.

As for sa pagpapasexy for girls, well, I think it is a personal choice.  And slim does not necessarily equate to sexy. Moreso,  chubby does not mean 'not sexy'.

Respect lang din. Kasi din forum is made to boost confidence din naman. Porke ba mataba hindi na makakahanap ng date?  Madami din akong kilala na guys na mhilig talaga sa malaman at chubby.

Discussion lang po.

We asked the question. The guys are just answering it.  Sometimes it is hard to take kasi natatamaan tayo. Eh nagtanong pa kasi tayo eh.

At tsaka kung totoo ba na ayaw ng majority ng guys ang chubby, eh ano ngayon?  Kung ayaw nila sa chubby, eh ano ngayon.  Eh kung ayaw din natin sa kanila, so (as they are not worth our time)? 

We should not talk about having the love of our life as if that is the one of only goal in life we have - na kung wala iyon, we are miserable.  Naman. 

The important thing is to live happily and healthily.  Kahit may lalaking pumapansin sayo o hindi. 

[ohcmon]

That's reality sis.  For me, kahit pa anong reklamo ko, dahil babae din ako, wala akong magagawa.  Kasi sya yung totoo.  Guys are Generally visual creatures.  Ikanga, paano sila titigasan kung puro pata or cellulites nakikita nila.  Siguro some, but I really do not know as I am not a guy, and based on my limited pov, I find that hard to believe.

Anyone, kahit babae, won't take a second look at another person if she/he does not find the other person attractive.  Moreso mga lalaki, kasi nga importante sa kanila ang looks.  So para ma-ask ng date ang isang medyo on the heavy side, I only see the possibility na -
Magkakilala na talaga yung guy at girl, where the guy sees through the girl's charm and personality, kaya nya nagustuhan.

At hindi yun tipong, asking for a friend of the girl na pakilala mo naman ako, etc.

As for sa pagpapasexy for girls, well, I think it is a personal choice.  And slim does not necessarily equate to sexy. Moreso,  chubby does not mean 'not sexy'.

Sorry, sis, you might have misinterpreted that phrase. The hello? part was to emphasize that some answers in this thread are not really answers to the question being discussed.

Guys are visual creatures, sure. Nobody's questioning this "reality". Kaya nga reality. Nobody's forcing anyone to change their physical standards para maaccomodate ang mga chubby girls. Wala naman sigurong mag-rerebutt dito na mas okay ang chubby kesa sa sexy, because we all know that is not the case (unless personal preference mo ang chubby).

Discussion lang po.

We asked the question. The guys are just answering it.  Sometimes it is hard to take kasi natatamaan tayo. Eh nagtanong pa kasi tayo eh.

To answer the question is a different thing, but to make these girls feel like they're hopeless cases is another.

Girl: Chubby din ako pero guys still like me naman, blah blah blah...
Guy: Not all guys like chubby girls, try mo din sis pasexy baka mas maging happy ka blah blah blah...

Sabi ko nga kay sacred cow, offer their pieces of "blunt advice" to those who actually ask for it. In the first place, I'm sure most of these girls already know that sexy is in, and chubby is not. No need to rub that to their faces and to spell that out for them. If they wanted to do something about getting slim, hindi na sila magpopost dito sa thread for second opinion kung dapat ba talaga silang magpapayat because society itself screams "yes".

I don't think the topic being discussed itself is hard to take, but how some people don't know the difference of "honesty" and "tact".

[sacred cow]

^ slow clap for GirlTalker2

Pasensya na din kung may naoffend/tinamaan/nabasag sa mga nasabi ko pero nagsasabi din lang kasi
kami ng totoo

Asking guys to consider dating a fat girl is like telling girls to consider dating guys that are usually rejected by other girls
(e.g. not confident, not assertive, does not know how to lead, awkward, no social skills or has a face only a mother could love etc. etc.). I know that some guys na ganito can still get dates or get a gf
since my officemate is one, but sobrang liit ng % nang ganito, even my girl officemate wonders what she saw in him, kasi hindi raw ''kasagot sagot''

I know it's unfair that guys are so superficial and look at external attributes, pero kung alam niyo din lang ang pinagdadaanan ng guys na self development all in the
name of being able to date pretty girls. Mas mahirap pa nga sa guys kasi hindi lang namin kailangan maging fit, but we also need to change our attitudes and personalities kung dati
wussy or 'nice guy'(doormat, being nice to people expecting other people to be nice to him din) kami at kelangan din successful kami sa ginagawa namin at may ambisyon. A girl just has to look good, and she would already have a lot of options ranging
from boy next door to corporate CEO.

You might argue na ''be yourself'' lang kasi at may magkakagusto din sa'yo, well pa'no naman if 'being yourself' does not get you results e.g. being torpe, hindi ba dapat may baguhin ka (If you always do what you've always done, you'll always get what you've always got)
Kaya ganun din sa girls, like I always see pretty girls na may close friend na mataba and I sometimes pity those girls kasi hindi sila napapansin kapag naglalakad with their pretty and thinner friends,
I'm even guilty of forgetting the fat friend's name kaya minsan nahihiya na ako mag-hi. Well some might not care and are happy as they are, pero
most sa nakikita ko, obvious na inggit or malungkot that they don't get male attention. It's up to them if they're gonna do anything about it or just be happy with the cards that life dealt them.

[sacred cow]

To answer the question is a different thing, but to make these girls feel like they're hopeless cases is another.

Girl: Chubby din ako pero guys still like me naman, blah blah blah...
Guy: Not all guys like chubby girls, try mo din sis pasexy baka mas maging happy ka blah blah blah...

Sabi ko nga kay sacred cow, offer their pieces of "blunt advice" to those who actually ask for it. In the first place, I'm sure most of these girls already know that sexy is in, and chubby is not. No need to rub that to their faces and to spell that out for them. If they wanted to do something about getting slim, hindi na sila magpopost dito sa thread for second opinion kung dapat ba talaga silang magpapayat because society itself screams "yes".

I don't think the topic being discussed itself is hard to take, but how some people don't know the difference of "honesty" and "tact".

Ang problem din kasi, yung topic ang nakalagay is FAT and not chubby. Yung iba kasi FAT, pero pinagpipilitan nilang sila ay chubby. Iba po yun.
Chubby girls who have a nice face would still get dates kesa dun sa may nice face pero FAT talaga. If you would read my earlier posts in this thread, I tried to be tactful pero lalo lang
na hindi ako naintindihan, which is why I resolved to being blunt...the world where we live in naman won't be tactful and won't care if some fat girl's feelings get hurt.
It's either uuwi ka at iiyak or take action

[jaymejorrol]

Dati nagbigay ako ng advice and suggestions here.. someone said na parang lumalabas daw na kinokontrol ko yung buhay nila.. Pag nagsuggest nangongontrol po ba agad? nasa inyo pa rin naman po yan kung susundin nyo suggestions ng iba.. like mag-exercise, diet and maging malinis sa katawan.. para sa inyo rin naman yan, pwede din naman sa attitude na lang bumawi kasi physical aspects are just for attraction lang.. and again.. nasainyo kung gagawin nyo.. kung happy naman na kayo as being fat, then good for you..

[akthung]

dati may batch mate ako

kahit chubby siya, daym!! ganda niya. may dating pa. you can say she's hot. iba talaga. probably the exception.

feel ko noon, even up to now, kung magpapayat siya, she'll be even hotter!!

i don't mind dating her. nandun yung attraction.

so i guess yun ang point, basta may attraction.

eh kung true love. mas lalo na! walang tatalo dun.


but no harm in having her under go a diet. for her own good din yun. you can get away with it in your 20s or even early 30s. but genetics is genetics. age is age.

by staying lean, you'll lengthen your life. para din sa magandang kinabukasan niya.

kung ayaw niya bahala siya. health is wealth. mahal ang gamot maintenance meds et al.

[FOURever]

Hindi naman nabasag trip ko nung medyo nagreact ako sa guytalker who said na di sya makikipagdate sa babaeng xxxl (karapatan nyang di makipagdate sa xxxl na babae) pero when he said na sasabihan PA niya ng: itulong mo na lang sa mahihirap yan (or something to that effect) medyo di lang ganun kagandang basahin especially to others na may ganung condition. Im not an xxxl sized woman but i dont judge them because what i learn from my field, most of them di talaga nila 100% kasalanan na ganun size nila. Alam niyo yun, i just cant help na di magreact kasi when it comes to that. Siguro nga, kadikit talaga ng career na tinatahak ko ngayon yung pagtulong sa ibang tao instead of criticizing them just because of how they look. Given example lang yun ni bro but still, for me, anyone does not need that kind of "advice" if advice ngang matatawag yan yun lang naman

And agree ako sa sinabi ni Akthung ^

[sacred cow]

Hindi naman nabasag trip ko nung medyo nagreact ako sa guytalker who said na di sya makikipagdate sa babaeng xxxl (karapatan nyang di makipagdate sa xxxl na babae) pero when he said na sasabihan PA niya ng: itulong mo na lang sa mahihirap yan (or something to that effect) medyo di lang ganun kagandang basahin especially to others na may ganung condition. Im not an xxxl sized woman but i dont judge them because what i learn from my field, most of them di talaga nila 100% kasalanan na ganun size nila. Alam niyo yun, i just cant help na di magreact kasi when it comes to that. Siguro nga, kadikit talaga ng career na tinatahak ko ngayon yung pagtulong sa ibang tao instead of criticizing them just because of how they look. Given example lang yun ni bro but still, for me, anyone does not need that kind of "advice" if advice ngang matatawag yan yun lang naman

And agree ako sa sinabi ni Akthung ^

we understand naman FOURever, nadala lang siguro si tough_guy...kasi nagkukulitan sila ni jay. it's normal guy humor that is not meant to offend anyone,
nagkataon lang na dito kasi sa GT forum nahirit wherein marami ngang girl members kaya medyo foul para sa iba.

I like the people in this thread, EB tayo!

[FOURever]

^well yeah, i know naman, just reacted to remind him para dahan dahan, to cut a conversation i think is somewhat offending. Anyway, i'm cool with you, didn't even think of hitting the rtm button nung time na yun ang reply ni tough guy let's keep the thread healthy na lang

By the way, back to topic ng konti.. Minsan ang hirap din maniwala sa guys kapag kunwari nagdidate kayo or kayo na, tapos chubby or fat ka, tapos sasabihin pang sexy ka. Minsan nasabihan na ako nyan dati. Di ko alam kung matutuwa ako o maooffend ako

[Girltalker2]

but no harm in having her under go a diet. for her own good din yun. you can get away with it in your 20s or even early 30s. but genetics is genetics. age is age.

by staying lean, you'll lengthen your life. para din sa magandang kinabukasan niya.

kung ayaw niya bahala siya. health is wealth. mahal ang gamot maintenance meds et al.

akthung, natumpak mo. once one reaches her 30s, dyan lumalabas ang mga sakit sakit.  Ang bata pa, I see people in their 30s with maintenance meds na, etc. Tapos constrained ka na to travel kasi di na masyado makalakad. Di mo na masyado ma appreciate ang mga beaches kasi nakaka insecure mag bathing suit.

and worse about being overweight is it adds at least 5-10 years to your real age. ayaw mo naman siguro isipin ng mga tao na tuwing kasama mo ang hubby mo eh pagkamalan syang anak mo or younger brother mo.

I am at the age na wala na sa kalendaryo.  Mas nagiging observant ako, at napansin ko nga na sa Manila, if a girl is nearing her 30s, may bilbil sa likod (hindi sa harap), and mga 70% look older than their partners. It is a sad reality. But we just don't have a choice but to face it - bravely or gracefully.

[entwife]

I think this thread really shows the differences between the male and female brain.

[jaymejorrol]

Hindi naman nabasag trip ko nung medyo nagreact ako sa guytalker who said na di sya makikipagdate sa babaeng xxxl (karapatan nyang di makipagdate sa xxxl na babae) pero when he said na sasabihan PA niya ng: itulong mo na lang sa mahihirap yan (or something to that effect) medyo di lang ganun kagandang basahin especially to others na may ganung condition. Im not an xxxl sized woman but i dont judge them because what i learn from my field, most of them di talaga nila 100% kasalanan na ganun size nila.

nawindang nga rin ako sa xxxl eh.. hehe