GUYS, would you consider dating a fat girl?

[abuanddiego]

sacredcow, thanks for the link, but to be honest, I don't give a f*** about that SMV. seriously, you guys believe in him? what is he now, your role model/relationship guru? If you guys want to feast on girls as if you're in a candy store, then fine, do it! that's your teeth to ruin anyway lol!
so is that the definition of a quality man nowadays? that author? a man who uses a study to lash out on the fatties? whoa, that's a very sneaky psycho! know what, if all quality men thinks like him, then I'd rather remain and die as a single fat cow, I'm perfectly happy with my udders anyway. But I must admit that he's a very good writer, perhaps it's due to his passion in degrading people?

Pwedeng may magkagusto nga sa'yo for who you are (fat and all) pero I doubt na ok na
sa'yo ang guy basta tanggap ka niya, eh pano naman kung siya naman 'tong ayaw mo

and what do you mean by that? that no good man in my standards will ever like me? and whoever said that I'll settle for the man you're talking about? Brother, no one knows what can happen in this f*****g world that we live in, so let us not put anyone's future in our hands 

[sacred cow]

seriously, you guys believe in him? what is he now, your role model/relationship guru?

yup, his posts are rather enlightening other guys should try reading posts like these too...masyado maraming
nice guy at p*ssy whipped na lalake sa Pilipinas.

rationalmale.wordpress.com is also a good blog

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/forumdisplay.php?f=15 is also a good forum for men

If you guys want to feast on girls as if you're in a candy store, then fine, do it! that's your teeth to ruin anyway lol!

no qualms with that...haha

so is that the definition of a quality man nowadays? that author? a man who uses a study to lash out on the fatties? whoa, that's a very sneaky psycho!

wow, hasty generalization.

know what, if all quality men thinks like him, then I'd rather remain and die as a single fat cow, I'm perfectly happy with my udders anyway. But I must admit that he's a very good writer, perhaps it's due to his passion in degrading people?

I sense bitterness, maybe you could think objectively and look at it on another perspective...maybe you're too prideful to admit that there's truth in what he said

and what do you mean by that? that no good man in my standards will ever like me? and whoever said that I'll settle for the man you're talking about? Brother, no one knows what can happen in this f*****g world that we live in, so let us not put anyone's future in our hands 

yup, I'm saying that no good man in your standards would like you, kasi nga hindi ka rin magsesettle...so how do you expect
the guy you want to sell himself short? Isipin mo kung ano pinaka nakakaturn off saýo sa lalake (e.g. guys who talk like me or the guy who wrote the blog), kasi kung ano man yun...
fat girl (as in yung 30+ lbs overweight) ang counterpart nun for most na mga lalake.

[jaymejorrol]

my guy told me at first why he disliked fat women in general... but I'm fat (35lbs over my ideal weight) so I didnt know why he wasted so much time with me everyday.  hanggang sa sinabi na lang nya, na dapat in 2 years from now, slim na ako.     hindi ko nga inisip na aabot pa kami ng 2 years... but yes, since i like him a lot, i will make that change. 

kelangan din talaga na mag-effort tayo.. para din naman sa atin yun eh. and sa ikabubuti ng lovelife

and what do you mean by that? that no good man in my standards will ever like me?

what are your standards in choosing a guy? may i know kung nagkaroon ka na ng bf before? or kahit anong lovelife? baka naman din po kasi mataas ang standards mo sa mga guys.. well since talagang naghintay ka dun sa someone na tatanggapin ka.. dumating na ba sya? or meron sana, kaso hindi pumasa sa standards mo? or pwede ding nagkaroon ka na.. kaso nasaktan.. kaya gusto mo maging single na lang..

and sabi mo:

pag may isa kang flaw, bye bye na.

soo.. kung ganyan po pananaw mo.. mukhang mahihirapan nga tayo jan.. walang taong perpekto.. what if si guy na like mo (yung pumasa sa standards mo) eh may isang flaw ? bye bye na agad? tapos pag nag-suggest kame what's good for you Controlling agad? suggestion lang po yon, hindi po mandatory.. haha.. and kung tingin nyo negative ang dating sa inyo nun, well.. kayo bahala.. besides it's just only a suggestion.. walang mawawala..

well.. ok po kung tanggap mo na ang pagiging single.. no problem.. kaso pansin ko lang parang ang negative lahat ng views mo.. i said mag-effort maging appealing.. ayaw mo kasi ayaw mo dinidktahan ka and hindi mo yun kino-consider as a challenge.. so sabi ko bumawi na lang sa attitude etc.. pero may prob ka nanaman sa flaws! parang there's something..

[jaymejorrol]

I sense bitterness, maybe you could think objectively and look at it on another perspective...maybe you're too prideful to admit that there's truth in what he said

possible.. too prideful.. kasi ayaw nya rin na dinidiktahan sya ng iba.. although para sa ikabubuti nya naman din yun..

[abuanddiego]

sacred cow and jaymejorrol, you guys are both right ayokong ayoko na dinidiktahan ako, I am too prideful that's why Im so bitter when I read those kind of posts

sacred cow, I read his blog, the full study and I know the truth. The one thing I can't accept is how he wrote that blog, what do expect us fatties to feel after reading, be happy and glorify him? Pero kung sya ang iniidolize mo and you're fine with his technique, then fine keep reading his blogs but don't expect everyone to be happy, believe and be like him

jayme, I am fat girl with high standards, aminado ako dyan, and I know na mahirap mangyare ang gusto ko kaya nga sabi ko tanggap ko kahit maging single forever. I even said na okay lang sakin kahit walang dates and suitors, because I know that this is the price I have to pay for being fat with high standards 

And yes I had guys in the past pero hindi ko sinabing ako yung tipo ng taong goodbye na pag may isang flaws, please read it properly,

sabi ko nga you can never be good enough for some people. kahit okay ang attitude at malinis sa katawan, pag may isa kang flaw, bye bye na.

saang part ko sinabi na ganyang klaseng tao ako?

[snowberry]

dont worry sis, may guys din na okay lang chubby or  fat  GF nila. When I was single, we have a colleague who is really very fat as in obese .  Tapos yung BF nya , nag surprise visit sa kanya sa office as in balikbayan yung BF  nya at hindi naman siya ikinahiya . Lahat kami sa office nagulat na may BF siya hahha, while kami na mga slim eh puro wlang partner hahha.

Pero health wise, it's better na huwag naman tayo magpabaya sa sarili . Of course, flattering pa rin naman na nililingon ka nila at muling napapalingon   ang mga guys because they like what they see. Contradictory ba?

[abuanddiego]

^iba-iba kasi klase ng tao sa mundo. ako rin minsan nagugulat pag nalalaman ko na may mga guys who are not bothered about my weight, even if they are fit and works out regularly.
i'm just saying that if ever I won't find the right guy, I am ready to be single forever. I grew up kasi with lots of single women, tapos malaki na ako nung nilabas and always been big kaya I'm fine with it. Kumbaga sanay ako na malaki ako kaya I'm not pressured to be slim. Yes flattering nga with most yung nililingon ka pero okay lang naman sakin kahit di sila attracted sa itsura ko lol! to each his own ika nga.

re the link posted by sacred cow, I've noticed that the participants of the study were couples, naalala ko lang the topic pala is asking guys considering to date a fat girl. I'm thinking if the study would still apply kung willing naman ang guy to date a fat girl? I mean kung start pa lang wala ng issue sa kanila ang weight, would the results be the same?

[stylishmomy]

I was fat...gained tons of weight during and after pregnancy, never the thin kind of girl but I've changed my lifestyle and lost a lot of weight. Still hasnt reach my ideal weight but I am definitely working on it - very close to it and I am positive that it's possible. I have to admit, being fat is not nice at all... "Dating scene" and being confident. Let's admit it, there are lots of clothes/style that we want to try but just doesn't look good at all coz of our size.

Most importantly, it's for ourselves - healthier self
I've seen on TV and read somewhere that there are guys who are into fat women - fetish nila yun, others even like their women to get bigger which I really dont understand - to each his own nga, but its very unhealthy.

sacred cow - read the blog and the writer really has good points, sad but true - men are visual creatures.

[argento]

usually the fat ones are the ones left out.

[chubbelita]

nung single ako nun and i was chubby na back then hindi ako nahirapan maghanap ng date, boyfriend and fubus. never naging issue yung weight ever since sharing lang to enlighten other chubby girls out there

[sacred cow]

nung single ako nun and i was chubby na back then hindi ako nahirapan maghanap ng date, boyfriend and fubus. never naging issue yung weight ever since sharing lang to enlighten other chubby girls out there

baka naman kasi maganda face mo to compensate for your figure. besides, we're talking FAT here...chubby is ok.
I believe hindi naman chubby yung sinasabi naming ayaw namin, but those who are really overweight na hindi na
maconsider as just chubby

[chubbelita]

^ok thanks for killing my inspiring message lol haha. anyway, chubby/fat girls what we may lack on the figure department bawiin natin sa face ok, exercise helps din.. kahit hindi tayo payat at least medyo toned di ganun ka-flabby:)

[sacred cow]

^ok thanks for killing my inspiring message lol haha. anyway, chubby/fat girls what we may lack on the figure department bawiin natin sa face ok, exercise helps din.. kahit hindi tayo payat at least medyo toned di ganun ka-flabby:)

that's the spirit. yung iba kasing fat girls parang resigned na sila sa fact na unattractive sila kaya hindi na nag-aayos tapos
usually tahimik pa or difficult ang personality kaya lalo tuloy nakakawalang gana kausapin.

[jaymejorrol]

sabi ko nga you can never be good enough for some people. kahit okay ang attitude at malinis sa katawan, pag may isa kang flaw, bye bye na.

abuanddiego: well nasabi ko yun dahil sa word na 'bye bye na.' ..kahit mahal mo si guy, pag may isang flaw lang goodbye agad? the escalated quickly! sabihin nating hindi ikaw ang ganong kalseng tao.. pero paano mo na-conclude na pag may isa kang flaw, bye bye na? baka nga hindi mo din pansin na yung guy na gusto mo eh maraming ring flaws, di mo lang nakikita.. pinopoint-out ko lang naman po dito is walang taong perpekto.. kung talagang mapili tayo sa tao, kumbaga isang flaws lang bye bye agad, talagang mahihirapan tayo makita yung taong gusto natin..

usually the fat ones are the ones left out.

eto rin napansin ko.. kasi nga most of the boys are visual..


i dated a fat girl dati (but not obese).. when i was in highschool.. kahit maraming mas maganda at sexy sa kanya, nagustuhan ko sya dahil sa attitude nya, and syempre malinis sya sa katawan.. we've been dating for 8 months (hindi naging kami kasi ayaw nya, hindi sya ready, strict din parents nya.. pero palagi kami magkasama and super close talaga ) minsan sabay kami kumakain and namamasyal.. sadly, hindi tumagal samahan dahil sa studies namin.. and graduating ang isa samin kaya naging busy.. ok lang naman samin kasi hindi naman talaga naging kami.. hindi ganon kasakit pero syempre sad parin.. sya ang 1st gf ko if ever sinagot ko sya (oo.. sya ang nag-approach sakin.. ).. then i had my 2nd gf (chubby sya pero may figure parin), pero hindi ako yung naghanap sa kanya, gf ko ang lumapit sa akin.. (oo sya nanligaw.. honestly.. torpe po kasi ako!) hindi naman po ako kagwapuhan para mag-inarte.. i know marami syang flaws, pero tinggap ko pa rin sya.. (oo sinagot ko sya.. ) kaya eto.. mag 5 years na kami.. and mas lalo sya tumaba.. haha!

shinare ko lang po experience ko.. para naman alam nyo na nagmahal din ako ng fat/chubby.. oo i am visual, aminado ako ..pero more on tingin lang ako.. ako kasi yung tipo na hindi ganon kaarte.. mas gusto ko ako yung unang minahal (kahit ano pa figure mo) ..kasi alam ko talagang mahal nya ako.. then kahit ano pa imperfections nya.. tatanggapin ko parin and ako na ang mag-aadjust.. and on topic.. kung wala lang akong gf now.. why not?

[jaymejorrol]

^ok thanks for killing my inspiring message lol haha. anyway, chubby/fat girls what we may lack on the figure department bawiin natin sa face ok, exercise helps din.. kahit hindi tayo payat at least medyo toned di ganun ka-flabby:)

yan din sinasabi ko na dapat kahit papaano mag-effort.. kasi para rin naman sa inyo yun

yung iba kasing fat girls parang resigned na sila sa fact na unattractive sila

yup.. parang hopeless.. kahit maaga pa tanggap na nilang single sila.. kahit ka-work ko now.. same age kami tapos pag tinatanong ko, 'bakit di ka na mag-asawa?' then sasabihin nya.. nako.. tanggap ko na single ako.. sa itsura kong to?
hopeless.. pero maganda sya.. parang wala sya confidence.. bubbly and jolly sya kausap kaya di pwedeng walang magkagusto sa kanya.. paano, mataray.. haha!

[Observer54]

Yes!

[abuanddiego]

jayme, parehas naman tayo ng point, the reason why I said that is bec. marami na akong nabasa online na ganito, I even know some people who are very choosy, meron ding mga hindi. sila ang dahilan kaya ko nasabi ko to at hindi ang sarili ko.

Meron talagang mataray, friendly, tahimik, loud, mahiyain na babae. Same thing with being suplado, gentleman, torpe or mayabang na lalaki. Mas mahirap pa yan kung hindi ka blessed physically, mas maraming judgments and criticisms. Pero iba-iba ang personalities at itsura ng tao and that's what makes the world go round, at hindi natin sila mababago kung ayaw nila. we just have to deal with it, keep our minds open and avoid being judgmental. kung ayaw natin sa kanila eh di lumayo tayo at humanap ng makakajive natin.

stylishmomy, Congrats and keep it up. Mahirap talaga pag di natin tanggap ang weight natin. This is frustrating at nakakababa ng self-esteem. I know some na kahit normal weight naman eh mataba pa rin ang tingin sa sarili nila. At meron ding mga obese pero normal pa rin ang tingin sa sarili nila, some are even on denial.

Re the fetish, ang mga nakita ko is about weight-gain fetish, ito yung fetish na ang gusto nila ay fat people then during the relationship gusto pa nila mag-gain ng weight yung partner nila. Ito rin ba yung nakita mo? Or may different types pa ang fat fetish? Naisip ko kasi, pano kung may isang guy na willing to date and have a relationship with a fat girl, tama bang sabihin natin na, "Ah fetish lang nya yan." What if okay lang sa kanya kahit anong itsura ng potential mate nya?

[stylishmomy]

^yeah, understand your points. You seem to be happy and contented that you're fat and going to be single forever. So be it girl like you said, iba iba ang tao.

[Girltalker2]

What if okay lang sa kanya kahit anong itsura ng potential mate nya?

For guys, this statement is very ironic. Una una they are very visual beings.  So they can never initiate if tingin lang ang pag uusapan. So pano sya lalapit. 

Minsan lalapit ang guy kasi sa work or sa activities, and they will just "happen" to notice a girl medyo big size because of her personality.  Pero paglapit palang na l-limit na yung possibility na maka-date ng lalaki yung medyo mataba ng girl because of this. Pero again, not impossible.

My second point naman, for guys, who are more prone to infidelity, bigyan mo ng medyo heavy side, natural sa kanila to look at others na mas slim and be tempted din. Paniniwala ko lang naman iyan.  Pero kasi ang hirap, first step kasi is a challenge na, is to have a guy notice a girl on the heavy side what more to KEEP him attracted to you, which by the way a harder challenge. Then extra challenge na if say matuloy tuloy after marriage, is again, to prevent him from straying. 

Third, it is not easy to maintain your figure.  Kahit pa naman payat ka nung bata, tendency (most) talagang lolobo if we do not engage ourselves in exercise or any sport.  Moreso when you reach 40, metabolism goes down, by nature, and the body has a tendency to retain all the fats and fats and fats in our body.

So there.  I think life is not fair for women.  Kasi mga lalaki lagi nalang gusto sexy.  So as women, the odds are alwyas against them. Kaya we just try our best to look our best to keep our men. 


 

[jaymejorrol]

So there.  I think life is not fair for women.  Kasi mga lalaki lagi nalang gusto sexy. 

oo.. pero ako mas perfer ko chubby.. hehe.. mahilig kasi ako mang-hug.. and masarap i-hug ang mga chubby..