GUYS, would you consider dating a fat girl?

[vianyx]

yung bf ko naman mas mababa kaysa sakin and mataba pa sya at di naman kagwapuhan.. ako naman matangkad and slim..
pero nainlove ako sa kanya kasi understanding siya at mabait talaga, di rin ako namimili ng itsura ng guy..
naalala ko dati nagkakacrush ako sa matataba kong mga classmate kahit di gwapo kasi mga mapagbiro sila at gentleman..
ahehe..

may friend din ako na girl na super taba talaga.. 180lbs ata sya, lahat silang magkakapatid ganun..
walang nanliligaw sa kanya kasi yung mga classmate namin grabe kong mamintas, kaya nahihiya tuloy sya..
pero now may asawa na siya, mataba rin like her kaso walang anak, alam nyo na mahirap magkababy ang super fat..

[abuanddiego]

janix..that is to answer naughty guru's comment on girls' preference on a man's height vs. the mens' preference on girls' weight. i have my own preference but not to the point na pag may short or chubby guy na nagkagusto sa akin ay iisipin ko na sya ng negative.

naughty.. hindi naman natin sinasabi na pag mataba ay serial killer na, kumbaga counterparts lang sila sa fear in online dating. sana kung serial killer to serial killer, or cheater to cheater, overweight to overweight, yan ang acceptable. sabi ko nga ito yung extremes na tinatawag, it's like saying that fatness is as worse as having a serious mental problem.

you yourself and most people have that kind of impression on fat girls, pero ako naman, I have been teaching myself to stop creating impressions on my mind when I see people. Noon sobrang pintasera ako, I'm fond of observing kasi kaya lahat napapansin ko, pero ngayon hindi na. pag nakilala ko na sila ng lubos ako gagawa ng conclusion

Sa akin kasi impressions and perceptions create barrier in people, kasi pano natin makikilala ang isang tao kung unang kita pa lang ang dami na nating iniiisip towards them based on looks alone? Parang elementary days, diba pag may mataba or payat, sila lagi yung tinutukso ng baboy or payatot/lampa? Tapos wala ng gustong lumapit sa kanila at wala na silang friends, kasi pag lumapit ka sa kanila either paguusapan ka at tutuksuhin ka na rin. May social stigma and peer pressure na agad. Ganyan para sa akin ang perceptions and impressions based on looks, it's very damaging to the society. Siguro kung mga bata pa ay maiintindihan ko pa ng onti, pero kung adults na at nasa dating stage na at ganun pa rin ang thinking natin, that is plain kababawan for me.

[Naughty^GuRu]

you yourself and most people have that kind of impression on fat girls, pero ako naman, I have been teaching myself to stop creating impressions on my mind when I see people. Noon sobrang pintasera ako, I'm fond of observing kasi kaya lahat napapansin ko, pero ngayon hindi na. pag nakilala ko na sila ng lubos ako gagawa ng conclusion

Sa akin kasi impressions and perceptions create barrier in people, kasi pano natin makikilala ang isang tao kung unang kita pa lang ang dami na nating iniiisip towards them based on looks alone? Parang elementary days, diba pag may mataba or payat, sila lagi yung tinutukso ng baboy or payatot/lampa? Tapos wala ng gustong lumapit sa kanila at wala na silang friends, kasi pag lumapit ka sa kanila either paguusapan ka at tutuksuhin ka na rin. May social stigma and peer pressure na agad. Ganyan para sa akin ang perceptions and impressions based on looks, it's very damaging to the society. Siguro kung mga bata pa ay maiintindihan ko pa ng onti, pero kung adults na at nasa dating stage na at ganun pa rin ang thinking natin, that is plain kababawan for me.

sorry pero i have to disagree. i don't think na kababawan na meron ka preference. parang ang sama naman ng tao na ayaw makipag date sa fat girls.

girl: would you consider dating a fat girl?
guy: no
girl: ang babaw mo naman.
diba parang ang sama? haha! 

different scenario:
girl: would you consider dating a fat girl?
guy: sure
girl: ang bait mo naman
parang negative pa rin diba for the fat girl? parang may sakit pag fat girl na it's a charity work yung dating pag nakipag date ka sa fat girl

  sorry if im not making any sense 

[iq160]

after 1 year tinanong ko ulit husband ko if he will be considering dating a FAT girl (fat para sa kanya ang mas mabigat sa isang sakong bigas). ganun pa rin. nothing has changed. his reply:

"HELL NO!"

tulad niyo girls i also tried to change his mind. hindi naman basehan ang ichura/figure, mas mahalaga ang kalooban at kung ano ano pang natutunan ko noon sa GMRC subject pero wa epek. galit pa siya hahaha ayaw talaga.

[abuanddiego]

^sana tinanong mo sis, pano kung mas bumigat ka pa sa isang sakong bigas? hell no pa rin ang reply nya? haha!

naughty..bro I am not talking about the preference itself, diba inexplain ko naman na yung negative thinking/perception/impressions that goes hand in hand with our preferences in life ang mababaw? magulo ba yung post ko? haha! gaya na lang pag sa fat people, iisipin agad walang confidence, lazy, ugly, etc. wala namang masama kung may kanya-kanya tayong gusto sa buhay, nagiging masama lang yan pag umpisa palang nagisip na tayo ng hindi maganda towards them (especially if solely based on looks) kahit di pa natin sila nakikilala ng lubusan. Pansin ko this is my third time to explain, but still, you don't get my point haha! Para di na umulit-ulit ang usapan, this will be my last comment for our discussion

[iq160]

bumigat ako sis. wayback 18 yrs old ako 45kgs lang ako nun(this was 8 yrs ago pa). syempre nakakataba ang masayang relasyon. araw araw date. tapos nagbuntis ako, then nanganak ako. ang buhay mag-asawa sobrang stressful. i went as far as 65 kgs. in fairness to him, wala naman nagbago. napilitan lang akong magpapayat kasi nahihirapan akong bumili ng damit, hinihika ako ng madalas tapos parang iba ang amoy ng pawis ko (?).  napansin ko rin na hindi bagay sakin ang mataba hahaha maybe because of bone structure 

so ayun pumayat naman ako ngayon 51kgs (mataba pa rin sa standards niya).  at yun nga hell no pa rin ang sagot niya   matinde ang standards ni husband kala mo kung sinong bachelor hahaha

[av]

Depende naman sa term na "FAT". Kung kasing bigat ng tangke ng tubig kahit lalaki ako, ayoko. Curvy siguro pwede.

[abuanddiego]

^^eh sis sabi mo wala naman nagbago kahit tumaba ka? baka sabi nya lang yun haha! ano ba, para namang di nila alam na iba ang katawan ng babae sa lalaki, normal na mas tabain ang babae pag nagkakaedad at nagkakaanak, kaya yung mga husbands and husbands to be, dapat nilang maintindihan yun. pero parang okay pa rin naman kayo hanggang ngayon diba?

[Girltalker2]

Lahat naman tayo siguro may minimum criteria when it comes to dating.  Sa mga babae, hindi siguro masyado importante ang itsura, especially as we go older in our 30s or 40s.  So long as hindi nakakatakot ang itsura, at mukhang tao at walang sayad, oks puede i-date (of course along with our own list of criteria).

Pag iisipin nyo kasi, all these dating, getting to know the opposite sex, finding a partner - all boils down to havings sex/procreation/getting married/being with someone.  Hindi ba? 
So, pag lalaki ka, pano ka naman ma-e-engganyo kung hindi attractive ang babae?  You have to get it up somehow, hindi ba?` Where as sa babae, you dont have to do anything, that's why siguro hindi ganun ka importante ang looks sa mga babae compared to how guys give importance to looks.

[Girltalker2]

bumigat ako sis. wayback 18 yrs old ako 45kgs lang ako nun(this was 8 yrs ago pa). syempre nakakataba ang masayang relasyon. araw araw date. tapos nagbuntis ako, then nanganak ako. ang buhay mag-asawa sobrang stressful. i went as far as 65 kgs. in fairness to him, wala naman nagbago. napilitan lang akong magpapayat kasi nahihirapan akong bumili ng damit, hinihika ako ng madalas tapos parang iba ang amoy ng pawis ko (?).  napansin ko rin na hindi bagay sakin ang mataba hahaha maybe because of bone structure 

so ayun pumayat naman ako ngayon 51kgs (mataba pa rin sa standards niya).  at yun nga hell no pa rin ang sagot niya   matinde ang standards ni husband kala mo kung sinong bachelor hahaha

Para sakin, it is important to stay fit, and attracting/dating the right guys for you is just one of the reasons.  But there are more important reasons why we should stay healthy.

^ I guess that's reality.  Importante sa atin, kahit mapa lalaki man o babae to be fit.  51kg is not bad considering nagkaanak ka na sis. And ang trabaho mo is just to maintain that.

It is important to stay healthy for our loved ones.  We have to be presentable for our partners. Ang hirap kaya bumili ng damit kung mataba - bukod sa hirap makahanap ng kasya, ang hirap makahanap ng babagay sa iyo.  Furthermore, mahirap gumalaw, for travel, do more activities with the kids and spouse. If you can keep up with them, activities can be more enjoyable for the whole family. Kahit daily chores lang mahirap gawin if you are not healthy.

 

[franc1sgmp]

no.

[hisana]

Regarding that "greatest fear in online dating" survey, sa tingin ko kasi, the biggest concern women have with meeting and going out with a male stranger is their safety talaga. Or kahit hindi na date, basta kahit anong situation na ikaw lang at isang lalaking hindi mo naman kilala, talagang your guard is up consciously or subconsciously kasi totoo naman na we can be easily overpowered by guys (of course, pwera na lang if you've had some training in self-defense, o kaya you have a butcher knife tucked in there somewhere).

Sa guys naman, I don't think they usually consider a girl as a physical threat on the first meeting. Kahit nga siguro totoong serial killer pa yang ka-date nila, I'm sure at the back of their minds they believe that they can defend themselves if the unfortunate need arises. Tsaka siguro half-joking lang naman yung iba nung sinabi nila they fear going out with a heavy girl. I'm pretty sure mas ayaw nila to end up with a serial killer! Hmm, a female Dexter...

[xRylaine]

tama nga most men are very visual..
minsan yung iba pag mataba, najjudge na agad..
pero syempre depende pa din sa personality ng girl..

and well based on my experience ganyan talaga, dati I weigh 86kgs and back then most of the guys I met tend to be judgemental kasi when you look at my picture hndi raw halata na mataba ako..sinabi pa na "mapanlinlang" daw picture ko..grabe naman di ba.. at parang iba yung approach nila sakin compared sa ibang girls..at dahil dun takot ako sa lalaki dati kasi yung iba masyadong pranka to the point na nakakasakit na sinasabi nila..well, reality bites.

pero ngayon medyo naiintindihan ko na..kasi hindi talaga healthy tignan yung nasa sobrang heavy side ka, at naaapektuhan talaga self-confidence and self esteem mo.. and sa ngayon na medyo pumapayat na ko ang laki ng pagbabago kasi may mga guys na inaapproach na ko ako..unlike dati..hehe

[Mr.Punch]

I don't think the results of that survey (if it exists) is offensive.

It makes sense.  Guys are generally confident that they can take care of themselves and defend themselves, if need be, from physical harm.  That's why dating a serial killer is not their top fear.

Women, on the other hand, generally don't share that same confidence about their physical safety.  Therefore, dating a serial killer would be a top result.

[skrumian]

I would still date a fat girl---- not obese, just maybe chubby or overweight. may mga fat pa rin naman na attractive at may curves pa rin. basta hindi obese.

[Mr.Punch]

For the purposes of comparing people of various weight classes, allow me to suggest a 1-7 scale that classify people from lowest to highest weight:

1 - anorexic
2 - thin
3 - underweight
4 - normal
5 - chubby
6 - fat
7 - obese

Just a suggestion. 

[Observer54]

I am a guy and yes I would date a fat girl.

[mariaclara-]

even as a girl, i think guys would prefer slimmer ones than those who are fat.

PERO, yung mga sinasabi niyo na kahit masama ang personality ni pretty slim girl eh hinahabol parin, i think ang gusto nila eh trophy girlfriend. yung kaya nilang ipagyabang sa mga friends nila but eventually, they'll dump those girls after makuha ang gusto at pag napuno na sila.

but if you're slim tas pretty pa tas good pa ang personality, ikaw na!

[mariaclara-]

im fat pero marami pa ring mga lalake ang nagkakagusto sakin.

take care of your other physical aspects nalang para kahit mataba, atleast maganda parin. right girls? and dont forget the attitude, pangit naman if mataba na nga, pangit pa ugali. its how you carry yourself. you may be slim but not confident and yet may mga matataba pero oozing wit sex appeal naman

[sacred cow]

hanggang chubby lang siguro pero kelangan may face value talaga. when I meet a nice girl na FAT,
I put them in the "teddy bear zone" parang friendzone pero living stuff toy ang tingin ko