GUYS, would you consider dating a fat girl?

[carmilina]

^^ lucky for u sis

[akthung]

If there's attraction why not? I remember noong Uni days ko, there's this chubby girl from AC San Lo. grabe maganda na, lakas pa ng appeal. mabait pa!

[Girltalker2]

As a girl, I would think that MOST guys won't date fat girls. It's like saying, if a female manager would date a male janitor, isn't it?

[Antigone]

As a girl, I would think that MOST guys won't date fat girls. It's like saying, if a female manager would date a male janitor, isn't it?

Ay bat naman kami naging ka-level ng janitor, sis?

[Girltalker2]

^ exactly sis! I came on a debate with my officemate about this - saying girls only prefer men with money and power that's why we date the executives and not the tellers.  Duh!?

I told him, it's not the money. It is the attraction.  Parang na insulto kasi ako. Though there is some truth to it pero hindi ko ma explain kaya siguro pikon ako.   Basta it's not because of the money. 

[pinkberries]

^ so the debate, sis is something like --- women prefer those men with money and power while men prefer  those women with sexy bodies?   

Though there are some truth to it, hindi ko pa rin maiiwasan isipin yong karamihan na "thin" women without boyfriend since birth and women who dated men who are not that rich and powerful (aka simpleng emplayado lang).   

My take?  It's all about preferences and attraction.  Heck with all those societal standards.   

[Antigone]

^Sis you're 5'7?

[mooncake and leaves]

^^95 lbs at 5'7. You know we hate you, right? Loljk.

I had this very issue with one of my best friends a few months back. Nakulitan kasi ako na panay, "bakit ako single?" whining nya so prinangka ko na na ang taba niya kasi. Ayun, muntik na tuloy kaming mag-FO and GT would've owed me one best friend.

[Mr.Punch]

^anong FO?

[tipC_shoegal]

F.O - Friendship Over 

[TuscanSun]

just wanna share, i like this chubby girl back in college. i enjoyed being with her. but somehow i couldnt see her as a girlfriend coz of her size.

[abuanddiego]

just wanna share, i like this chubby girl back in college. i enjoyed being with her. but somehow i couldnt see her as a girlfriend coz of her size.

I think one of the reasons din ito kaya maraming single fat girls. literal na natatabunan ng physical feautures ang ugali kapag malaki ka 

[Mr.Punch]

^^parang ok lang kahit masama ugali ng gf mo basta sexy? kesa someone enjoy to be with but fat?

Just because ayaw niya maging gf yung mataba na maganda ugali does not necessarily mean that he'd hook up with the exact opposite (i.e. sexy na pangit ang ugali)

Pwede naman yung sexy at magada ang ugali di ba?  This might come as a surprise, but fat girls don't exactly have a monopoly on good personality.

[TuscanSun]

thanks bro punch. hehe... that flawed logic is called non sequitur.

to add, it doesnt mean that i hated her as well coz she was fat. i just couldnt have the physical desire to be with her... and physical desire is an important component of a romantic relationship. she remained a good friend anyway.

[janix athena]

I think it's a case of natural selection. Men desire attractive girls (usually meaning not too fat or too thin) kasi it's nature's way of showing - she's healthy, she can birth healthy children. Women are attracted to men with money because they can be a good provider. So the offspring from this combination will be better off because they have good genes (from the pretty mom) and a good chance at quality food/shelter/education, etc from the moneyed dad.

There's nothing wrong with this because it's like survival of the fittest. We can't blame men if they don't like fat girls. We can't blame women if they don't like dating janitors. It actually benefits humanity in the long run.

But if you're the fat chick, or the janitor, masakit to hear this reality. So, for women - be healthier, and for men - strive not to be a janitor.

[Antigone]

Men are visual kasi.

[janix athena]

^I understand your indignation sis. Although I also see where the guy was coming from. It could've been handled more decently. The guy could've encouraged the girl to lose weight first, accompanied her to the gym, jogged together in the morning, etc, instead of dropping her like a hot potato.

That being said, I also want to encourage you sis, to imagine yourself in a similar situation. You got engaged young. Through the years BF turned out to be irresponsible, can't hold down a job, no savings in the bank, walang diskarte. And your wedding day is looming near. Won't you have second thoughts? Take note, hindi ito "pera lang" issue. It's a matter of making sure that this guy can take care of you and your future babies.

Going back to your story. For the guy, it's not just because "tumaba lang kasi" si girl. It's a question of can we sustain a passion for each other through the years. Eh paano nga naman kung ngayon pa lang nawala na yung passion nya for the fiance. Maybe it was better to just cancel the wedding instead of making a more serious mistake.

We are wired differently kasi sis. Guys are wired to appreciate beauty and women are wired to be attracted to men with money. No hard feelings kasi ganun ang disenyo satin ng Maykapal.

[abuanddiego]

Isa lang ibig sabihan nyan, di talaga sila para sa isat isa. At oo, ganyan nga ang disenyo satin ng Maykapal pero hindi ganun kadaling tanggapin at hindi maiiwasan na sumama ang loob kasi marami pa namang ibang maooffer maliban sa pera at itsura. Pero kung hanggang dyan lang ang nakikita ng iba eh bahala na sila sa mga buhay nila hahaha!

tsaka pano yung mga likas na tabain? Pano kung may hormonal problem? Sana yung weight na lang din ang example sa lalaki kasi ang offensive kung icocompare yung pagiging mataba sa pagiging iresponsable sa buhay. Ayokong icorrelate ang pagiging iresponsable sa taong mataba kasi may iba pang pwedeng dahilan. At ayokong manghusga ayon lang sa panlabas na anyo. Pero sadyang ganito ang buhay, doble effort talaga kung hindi ka likas na maganda sa paningin. Ang daming iisipin tungkol sayo kesyo ganito ganyan ka. Pero gayunpaman, wag tayong patalo sa sinasabi ng iba. Hayaan natin silang magisip ng magisip basta tayo gawin nating masaya ang buhay.

[pinkberries]

the topic is getting more interesting.   

mga sis, if a guy rejected you or left you for the reason na tumaba ka, then might as well leave him... kasi he has something "small" down there.   pantay ba, physical = superficial. 

some guys at times feel like they're God's given gifts... eh hindi rin naman sila "perfect" physically kaya.  andyan ang kalbo, ang mataba din... at ang maliliit.   

an alpha male chases an alpha female.... yan kung talagang alpha male siya.

oops sorry.  peace.   

[FOURever]

we cannot change the fact that most of the men are visual. When a man likes sexy/thin women over chubby girls with nice personalities, it doesn't mean that the sexy/thin women he prefers have the opposite personalities to that of the chubby girls.

What we can do, ladies on heavy side like me, are enjoy our lives, keep on improving ourselves, and help fate find us partners that won't look down at our 'shape' and will just love us no matter what.