GUYS, would you consider dating a fat girl?

[dj_lle]

hello FNetwork!!

yung nililigawan ko medyo chubby siya, and it's not an issue for me....i like her personality, mabait, we jive, she's simple, she's neat, she's mabango and cuddly...physically she's cute, makinis and chinita...nasa mid-class siya but hindi maarte in terms of food or places we go when are on a date...she is simply one-of-a-kind.......

CHUBBY = FOR THE WIN.

lol. seriously.

and share ko lang, here's some good read for everyone.....

http://www.articlesbase.com/dating-articles/the-beauty-of-fat-girl-dating-347214.html

[snowyice]

natawa ako sa thread na to.  Marami akong friends na fat pero may mga BF sila and may mga hitsura ha. 

[super bratinella]

Chubby ako nung niligawan ako ng hubby ko then nung kinasal kami tapos nagka anak , nag decide ako magpapayat, mas ok daw kay hubby ang medyo may laman ako kaysa sa  mapayat.

[akthung]

i feel somehow offended by this, not because nasasaktan ako dahil guys will chose slim girls over fat girls, but with the idea that fat girls feel sad at may generalization na fat girls lose their hope over this reality.

I honestly don't care if guys don't get attracted with me because of my size, it's okay if I don't have suitors, I'm even open with the idea that I could remain single forever. pero di rin ako impokrita para sabihin kong i don't feel any inggit when I see couples because it is common knowledge na masaya talaga kung may mahal ka at may nagsusukli ng pagmamahal mo. pero yung maawa ako sa sarili ko, icompare ang situation ko sa iba, at mawalan ng pagasa kasi walang may gusto sa akin, that's ridiculous, hindi ako ganoon kababaw para maisip ko ang mga bagay na yan. I accept myself kahit dabiana ako I feel happy and contented with the people and pets around me. Siguro yung pagkakaroon ng man is just like a cherry on top. I can live with or without a man period

Come on it's 2012 already, let's be more open with the fact na hindi lahat ng matataba ay mababa ang self-esteem at hindi lahat malungkot sa buhay

but the word works differently. may mamemeet ka pa din na "iba" from time to time. you'd just have to ignore and suck it up.

[abuanddiego]

^Obviously I can't just ignore it and suck it up, kitang kita naman sa post ko so there's no need for your advice.   

[|:AyemZia:|]

and share ko lang, here's some good read for everyone.....

http://www.articlesbase.com/dating-articles/the-beauty-of-fat-girl-dating-347214.html

ganda nung article. thanks for sharing!

depende naman siguro sa tao kung pano nya tingnan yung situation. iba2 tlaga tayo. IT'S OKAY if you don't want to date a fat girl, pero it's not right to criticize them. sabe nga dun sa nabasa ko, you shouldn't judge somebody just because she's fat or her appearance is not acceptable for you. maybe you should sometimes take consideration baka mamaya she's sick that's why hindi nya magawang magpapayat (if i can remember right, yung sakit is something like kay Kim Delos Santos)
and dapat maging matalino din tayo sa pagbibitaw ng salita. yes we're a democratic country pero sana we'll respect other persons' feelings too. JMO.

[chicafabulosa]

there is nothing wrong being fat or skinny. it depends on the preference of the the person. some guys/girls prefer yung malaman, yung iba naman gusto super sexy. iba iba kasi ang type ng mga tao. ako, i prefer dating chubby guys. My husband is actually beyong being chubby but i still love  and chose him over sa nanliligaw sa akin na muscle man.

but of course, dapat naman presentable yung medyo nasa heavier side. let's face it, we still want yung tipong mabango tingnan right? meron kasi na pag medyo malaki, medyo untidy na. and like what the other poster said, men are more visual than girls.

so kahit paano dapat effort tayo na magmukha naman na malinis at mabango. but being fat wont stop you from being genuinely love by someone. taba lang yan, natatanggal yan. and hindi natin dapat gawin basis yun para di mahalin ang isang tao. if mataba ang isang tao and naiinlove ka, go. bakit ba hindi. pwede mo naman i-inspire sya na maglose weight di ba. sabayan mo sya mag gym.

yun ang ginagawa ko now sa hubby ko. but before kame, i am the who used to be FAT. and he inspired me to lose weight and to be more beautiful for him and for myself. it's a matter of explaining to your partner na it will be for him/her and not for us. Health reason rin. panggising sa akin nun is when hubby told me "I want to grow old with you. but it won't happen if you won't love yourself".. then i realized may point sya.

so to sum it up, let's just inspire the person to be healthy if ever you fell for someone heavy. di mo sya papayatin because gusto mo sexy sya but because you want to spend the rest of your life or makita na tumanda kayo ng sabay.

[|:AyemZia:|]

^SUPER LIKE! you said it right sis!

[Cate08]

there is nothing wrong being fat or skinny. it depends on the preference of the the person. some guys/girls prefer yung malaman, yung iba naman gusto super sexy. iba iba kasi ang type ng mga tao. ako, i prefer dating chubby guys. My husband is actually beyong being chubby but i still love  and chose him over sa nanliligaw sa akin na muscle man.

but of course, dapat naman presentable yung medyo nasa heavier side. let's face it, we still want yung tipong mabango tingnan right? meron kasi na pag medyo malaki, medyo untidy na. and like what the other poster said, men are more visual than girls.

so kahit paano dapat effort tayo na magmukha naman na malinis at mabango. but being fat wont stop you from being genuinely love by someone. taba lang yan, natatanggal yan. and hindi natin dapat gawin basis yun para di mahalin ang isang tao. if mataba ang isang tao and naiinlove ka, go. bakit ba hindi. pwede mo naman i-inspire sya na maglose weight di ba. sabayan mo sya mag gym.

yun ang ginagawa ko now sa hubby ko. but before kame, i am the who used to be FAT. and he inspired me to lose weight and to be more beautiful for him and for myself. it's a matter of explaining to your partner na it will be for him/her and not for us. Health reason rin. panggising sa akin nun is when hubby told me "I want to grow old with you. but it won't happen if you won't love yourself".. then i realized may point sya.

so to sum it up, let's just inspire the person to be healthy if ever you fell for someone heavy. di mo sya papayatin because gusto mo sexy sya but because you want to spend the rest of your life or makita na tumanda kayo ng sabay.

[tipC_shoegal]

it's a matter of preference. let's face it, the stigma placed on the less attractive bunch is worse and that we can't really curtail. we all are entitled to our choices and the truth is, most men like women who are similar to the ones on magazine covers - the slim figured ones.

if i were a guy, i'd date a chubby, shapely, heavily built woman, what's wrong with that? BBW's are amazing people as slim ones are. the only difference is their physical built. what's wrong about our society is they criticize the big ones. they think it's inappropriate to be seen with them fat people thus the male community would usually go for the nicely-shaped females and that to me is just a ton of B.S. men who are too conscious of who'd they date must be shown a lesson that not all women should be of this particular shape because an ugly personality will always destroy a pretty face/body. that's just my take.

and yeah, i used to have a man who's on the heavy side and i loved him despite his shortcomings when it comes to weight. believe it or not, i used to think that chunky men wouldn't be my type but it eventually became passe to me because i learned to see beyond the shape of that person and my oh my was he a revelation in bed (but that's beside the main point here.) all i'm saying is, weight isn't a matter to be dealt with when you're going to love. if you're shallow, then okay, be shallow all you want but it's not gonna bring you anywhere because you can never learn how to appreciate and love what's real about that person because you're just plainly concentrated on the outer. that's just depressing.

big women give big love and i'm proud to be shapely! bones won't be good without them meat on, yeah?! YEAH!

[ladychris17]

I cringe at men who leave their girlfriends because they become fat. What losers. almost all of us, except for a select few who have probaly been skin and bones all their lives, will get fat when we become pregnant. Ang babaw lang. Dibale sana kung buong buhay rin nila eh kasing guwapo sila ni George Clooney at may katawang Brad Pitt even at a late age noh. Lalaki din naman tiyan nila.

(di ako man hater nainis lang ako dun sa kwento sa taas na iniwan daw yung girl dahil tumaba. )

[sakura_bloom]

^Our concept of beauty has really become twisted.. Our definition of "fat" was beautiful during the renaissance. And the constant pressure of media for girls/women to become thin, beautiful, youthful has impacted their self-esteem for the worse.

^^To cut it short, the Masters got it right the first time.
http://www.guardian.co.uk/artanddesign/gallery/2012/mar/11/art-nudes-have-gone-skinny

[ladychris17]

^ I think in India and the Middle East, they still find chubby women attractive because it's a symbol of properity, though.

It's pretty scary, how as time goes by, we become more and more obsessed with the artificial.
This, coming from a makeup addict. Haha

P.s. natawa naman ako sa mga revisions haha 

[sunstreaker]

When I first met my fiancee, she was a bit chunky then. Fast forward today, she has lost a lot of weight and I never forced her to.

[Girltalker2]

^ and?  which version do you like better?  chunky or thin?

Come to think of it, mas marami pa atang payat na insecure kesa sa heavier side.  Kasi yung mga medyo chubby, they just have to accept it since they chose to be that way - confidence lang naman kasi yun. And agree ako, basta malinis tingnan, hindi pawisin, at mamantika ang face, puede naman maging delicious kahit na on the heavier side.

Pero kasi admittedly, if you are a guy, syempre ayaw mo na mas malaki sa iyo yung girl. Ewan ko, that's just me. Kung malaki ako na guy, ok lang siguro on the heavier side, so long as the girl is not bigger than me.  Otherwise, parang ang hirap dalhin, buhatin, etc.

[sunstreaker]

^ and?  which version do you like better?  chunky or thin?

Come to think of it, mas marami pa atang payat na insecure kesa sa heavier side.  Kasi yung mga medyo chubby, they just have to accept it since they chose to be that way - confidence lang naman kasi yun. And agree ako, basta malinis tingnan, hindi pawisin, at mamantika ang face, puede naman maging delicious kahit na on the heavier side.

Pero kasi admittedly, if you are a guy, syempre ayaw mo na mas malaki sa iyo yung girl. Ewan ko, that's just me. Kung malaki ako na guy, ok lang siguro on the heavier side, so long as the girl is not bigger than me.  Otherwise, parang ang hirap dalhin, buhatin, etc.

the current version is her best version to date in terms of personality and appearance

Being chubby doesn't have to mean you have to accept it.. there is always the chance to change

[sakura_bloom]

Come to think of it, mas marami pa atang payat na insecure kesa sa heavier side.  Kasi yung mga medyo chubby, they just have to accept it since they chose to be that way - confidence lang naman kasi yun. And agree ako, basta malinis tingnan, hindi pawisin, at mamantika ang face, puede naman maging delicious kahit na on the heavier side.

Pero kasi admittedly, if you are a guy, syempre ayaw mo na mas malaki sa iyo yung girl. Ewan ko, that's just me. Kung malaki ako na guy, ok lang siguro on the heavier side, so long as the girl is not bigger than me.  Otherwise, parang ang hirap dalhin, buhatin, etc.

^Para kang guy dito sis.. hahaha. Iniisip mo talaga yung possibility na kung guy ka and you dating a "fat" girl?

the current version is her best version to date in terms of personality and appearance

Being chubby doesn't have to mean you have to accept it.. there is always the chance to change

^awww

But I think it's more than just confidence. It's being comfortable with your own skin, with who you really are. And changing for the better coz you want to, not because you want to please other people.

I think the main issue here is not about the girl being "fat", but the discrimination of guys (and girls) towards dating a "fat" girl.

[Babe1111]

I'm fat! 5'4, 152 lbs, HAHA! but i still got dates, maybe it's just a matter of carrying yourself gorgeously! and kanya kanya taste ang mga guys, and yes, sa sexy pala tingin sila pero it doesn't mean na they love sexy girls and kadalasan (not all the time), kaya tumitingin sa sexy to please their eyes and fulfill their fantasies, Haha! pero minsan si boyfie pag tumitingin sa sexy i'm kinda jealous and wants to be thinner!. sa mga fat girls like me  pag my date wag pahalata na masyadong piggy kumaen, hahah! sa bahay na lang.    

[Antigone]

Naku, karamihan talaga sa mga lalake eh ayaw sa matataba. Preference kasi yan. May mga gusto ng matataba pero konti lang sila. :-)

Buti na lang natagpuan ko ang isa! hehe! Swerte ko, kahit gano kalaki ang i-gain ko (or i-lose) pareho pa din treatment sa kin ng boyfriend ko. Love na love ako.

[Girltalker2]

para sa mga Guys, do you think the cause of cheating husbands/bfs is dahil tumaba na ang better half nila, at naghahanap nalang sila ng mas sexy (kahit hindi nila mahal)? 
Pero they would tend to stick with kung sino mahal mo, pero totoo bang nakakatempt patulan ang mga mas sexy?