How to deal with this pain alone?

[minikeyklush]

Hi SisPaloma..  ang sad naman nun.. *hugs

lamu sis kahit wala kaming idea how painful it is, yung nafifeel mo ngayon, pero I would just like to let you know na it will pass, gano man kasakit yan. Just have faith in God na whatever the reasons ng nangyare sayo is yung makakabuti din sa'yo. Isipin mo nalan sis yung bright side at least hindi ka talaga sa kanya nagsettle down kung ginawa nya yung ganun ng kasal na kayo mas masakit yun..

Hay sis i've been into that kind of situation pero yun nga mahirap talaga pag nagsimula sa mali yung relationship. Kaya mo yan and i know in due time you will be okay.. Just pray and ask for God's guidance. Godbless you sis.. 

[gurlzat03]

super agree ako sa mga advice ng mga sis natin dito... alam mo 'yung feeling na ramdam talaga nila ang sakit na napapagdaanan mo when they gave advice.

alam mo sis, ganyan talaga ang buhay.. some of my lessons learned from breakup are as follows:

1. feel the pain. usually, 'pag masyado mong minamadali ang healing process, lalo ka lang matatagalan to cope up with what had happened. sabi nga sa Eat, Pray & Love, "when you feel like missing him, then miss him. when you feel like loving him, then love him. then DROP IT ALL OFF!"
2. learn how to forgive and forget. I know mahirap, pero it feels great 'pag nagawa mong magpatawad. Pero before you forgive others, try to forgive yourself first.
3. Pray, Pray, Pray... Put your complete trust in him and everything will turn out okay. Tested na yan, promise!
4. Love yourself and don't forget yourself when you're ready to love others.

Post na lang ulit ako ng ibang lessons learned, need to attend the holy mass muna.    

[paloma]

sis muymuy, gurlzat & minikeykush: thanks mga sis. sobrang sakit pa din till now. pero gusto ko naman mag move on and ayoko naman magpastuck sa ganitong miserable na situation. Kaya lang ang hirap hirap eh, kung pwede nga lang madaliin kaya lang hindi eh.

Nakapag move on ako sa kanya dati pero kasi ngayon iba yun sitwasyon mas masakit yun ginawa nia ngayon. Pero sana kayanin ko.

Btw, first time ko sila nakita yesterday. I had a hunch na makikita ko sila sa church and yep hinanap ko talaga sila. And nakita ko naman, ang sakit sakit lang. Pero atleast next time na makita ko sila sanay na ako sa pain namararamdaman ko pero sana wala ng next time. Masakit sobra, hindi ako naiyak pero sa loob para kong sasabog.

Like sabi ko sa kabilang thread, this is the best time to turn to God and lift up all my burdens and pains. Pero nahihirapan ako, feeling ko mas lumalayo ako. I know mga sis ang bad ko pero parang nafifeel ko bakit kailangan mangyari ang lahat ng to. ;(

[lady gwenhwyfar]

^hi sis paloma. based from your story, i don't think he really loved you. he just used you to move on and used you to find another one. he is not worth your tears.

Alam ko mahirap mag move on and i've been there. I know how hard it is. kaka break ko din this May. I still think of him every now and then. I still cry at night minsan. Iniisip ko lang, my world doesn't revolve around him. He doesn't have the right to affect my emotions. I am in control of my emotions. I don't depend on anyone to make me happy. I can make myself happy. I just use those affirmations kapag tapos na kong umiyak.

[missyli]

Hugs Sissies

This is a very helpful thread for I, too, am going through a "trial Separation" per se with my husband..It has been 10 days since he left..Im trying to be okay for my daughter pero I nedd help. Ill be going to Counselling tomorrow at CEFAM which is in Ateneo..Hopefully it will help...Let's all be head strong and hopeful because there will always be BETTER...

[minikeyklush]

Hugs Sissies

This is a very helpful thread for I, too, am going through a "trial Separation" per se with my husband..It has been 10 days since he left..Im trying to be okay for my daughter pero I nedd help. Ill be going to Counselling tomorrow at CEFAM which is in Ateneo..Hopefully it will help...Let's all be head strong and hopeful because there will always be BETTER...

@sis missyli

sorry to hear that sis, keep on praying lang. Sabe mo nga its a trial separation lang, just stay positive lang na maaayos pa yan. Sa mga ganitong instance si God lang ang makakatulong sa aten kaya kausapin Mo sya. Goodluck sayo. Kaya mo yan and kayanin mo sis kahit gano kahirap, it'll pass 

[missyli]

@sis missyli

sorry to hear that sis, keep on praying lang. Sabe mo nga its a trial separation lang, just stay positive lang na maaayos pa yan. Sa mga ganitong instance si God lang ang makakatulong sa aten kaya kausapin Mo sya. Goodluck sayo. Kaya mo yan and kayanin mo sis kahit gano kahirap, it'll pass 

@minikeyklush

Thanks sis..eto my daughter is crying after talking to her dad..namimiss nya Heart breaking parang gusto ko madurog! Sigh...sobrang hirap pero wala din ako magawa but to endure...

[goldpoint]

grabe sobrang sakit, gusto ko na lang tumawa ng malakas!

[iheartkulot]

it has been nine months...

from time to time, i'd feel i'm okay...but the truth is- I HAVEN'T.

nine mos of false hopes, of pain, of bitterness, of loneliness- HELL

sisses, i hope one day, we can finally say that all that we are going through right now make sense...

let's have a girls' night out or kahit ano'ng bonding....day tour somewhere...spa, bowling, kahit ano....

wala lang....ako kasi parang bored sa buhay...parang napagod sa cycle.

lalo na ngayon, i'm working sa isang small office with very few people na nakikita...so after work, usually uwi lang ako apartment, watch tv, eat on my own then sleep, tas work ulit. alam niyo yung feeling na parang para san pa ba tong ginagawa ko...though nakakatulong ako sa family, sometimes i wonder if ano pa ba ginagawa ko sa mundo.

i'm 27...yeah i know marami magsasabi na bata pa rin ako and i shouldn't hurry, pero ewan ko, di naman kasi ako mahilig lumabas, parang sawa na ako maging dalaga. hahaha. gusto ko na yung tipong uuwi ka sa bahay with someone...hay. lagi pa usapan sa officekung gaano kasarap maging mommy...at lagi pa ako niloloko na bilisan ko daw at mahuhuli na ako.

napa-emote na...have a nice day sisses. mahirap pero i hope one day, maging okay tayo.

[minikeyklush]

it has been nine months...

from time to time, i'd feel i'm okay...but the truth is- I HAVEN'T.

nine mos of false hopes, of pain, of bitterness, of loneliness- HELL

sisses, i hope one day, we can finally say that all that we are going through right now make sense...

let's have a girls' night out or kahit ano'ng bonding....day tour somewhere...spa, bowling, kahit ano....

wala lang....ako kasi parang bored sa buhay...parang napagod sa cycle.

lalo na ngayon, i'm working sa isang small office with very few people na nakikita...so after work, usually uwi lang ako apartment, watch tv, eat on my own then sleep, tas work ulit. alam niyo yung feeling na parang para san pa ba tong ginagawa ko...though nakakatulong ako sa family, sometimes i wonder if ano pa ba ginagawa ko sa mundo.

i'm 27...yeah i know marami magsasabi na bata pa rin ako and i shouldn't hurry, pero ewan ko, di naman kasi ako mahilig lumabas, parang sawa na ako maging dalaga. LOL. gusto ko na yung tipong uuwi ka sa bahay with someone...hay. lagi pa usapan sa officekung gaano kasarap maging mommy...at lagi pa ako niloloko na bilisan ko daw at mahuhuli na ako.

napa-emote na...have a nice day sisses. mahirap pero i hope one day, maging okay tayo.

@sis iheartkulot

sis parang quarterlife crisis na ata yang nafifeel mo, coz hindi lang ikaw ang magisang nakakaramdam nyan.. even me, feeling ko nasurpassed ko na yung stage ng gimik days, minsan i just want to stay at home na lang then magisip. basta sis whatever you're going through now it'll pass and isipin mo nalan na hindi lang ikaw ang nakakafeel nyan. kaya mo yan sis, keep on praying lang.

[gurlzat03]

^hugz sis.. mahirap talaga, pero always remember na ikaw lang ang makakatulong sa sarili mo.. dumaan din ako sa ganyang feeling before, 'yung parang feeling mo sawa ka na talaga na mag-isa.. pero what I did was I participated in running activities, shopping to the max & spend so much time with my family.. saang area ka ba sis? go ako sa night out or bonding activity na trip nyo. inform nyo lang ako.. kasi I'll be coming from Laguna pa.  

[iheartkulot]

@sis minikeyklush- nakow, tumpak...eto na nga ang matindihang quarterlife crisis. lalo na pag bigla ka naging single at naka-set na sa utak mo na ikakasal ka na tas biglang kaboom! wala ka na palang groom. tas ayun nga, parang sawa na ako lumabas...waaah. ikaw sis, ano ginawa mo?

@sis gurlzat03- sis, san ka laguna? taga san pablo ako pero sa manila na kami ngayon. sa may ortigas ako work. tas staying ako now sa may libertad, mandaluyong. if may mga sisses na game for bonding, tara _ let's help one another cure our brokenhearts.

[minikeyklush]

@sis minikeyklush- nakow, tumpak...eto na nga ang matindihang quarterlife crisis. lalo na pag bigla ka naging single at naka-set na sa utak mo na ikakasal ka na tas biglang kaboom! wala ka na palang groom. tas ayun nga, parang sawa na ako lumabas...waaah. ikaw sis, ano ginawa mo?

@sis iheartkulot

until now sis im going through with that stage pa din, siguro for almost 2 years ng ganyan ang feeling.=) Di man consistent na ganun kamiserable ang pakiramdam pero andun pa din from time to time. Di ko na lang masyadong dinadama kasi it will make me feel more sad. what i usually do when this strange mood hit me is to pray, pray and pray to God for clarity and enlightenment. I know na it'll pass and He has a good reason kung baket nangyare lahat ng failures na pinagdaan ko. Pray ka lang sis and communicate with Him thoroughly para maintindihan mo talaga kung ano yung gusto Nyang gawin for you.

[gurlzat03]

@sis gurlzat03- sis, san ka laguna? taga san pablo ako pero sa manila na kami ngayon. sa may ortigas ako work. tas staying ako now sa may libertad, mandaluyong. if may mga sisses na game for bonding, tara _ let's help one another cure our brokenhearts.
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^ small world sis. I'm from alaminos laguna, pero dito ko stay sa sta. rosa every weekdays kasi dito ang work ko.. game din ako sa bonding activity na yan, just let me know when!

[iheartkulot]

small world nga sis gurlzat03!

sa iba pang sisses, na may gusto jan kalimutan, or anuman...gustong mag-enjoy, tara, date naman tayo

maiba naman...let's deal with our pain and have fun for a change

[iam_miel]

@sis gurlzat03- sis, san ka laguna? taga san pablo ako pero sa manila na kami ngayon. sa may ortigas ako work. tas staying ako now sa may libertad, mandaluyong. if may mga sisses na game for bonding, tara _ let's help one another cure our brokenhearts.


^ small world sis. I'm from alaminos laguna, pero dito ko stay sa sta. rosa every weekdays kasi dito ang work ko.. game din ako sa bonding activity na yan, just let me know when!

Funny, may nabuntis si ex (ex nya before I became his gf) na from San Pablo pero hindi mo siguro kilala..Anyways, my ex & I broke up nung July 29 lang kaya siguro Im still nursing a broken heart..but the thing is, Ive already tried everything: went out on weekends to meet other people, kept myself preoccupied, I prayed constantly, got drunk every chance I get para mailabas ko emotions ko, cried my heart out everyday before going to bed, I also have a diary & I write everything, I would listen to songs that would make me realize what a LOSER my ex is, tried to hate him, tried to get rid of the things that would remind me of him but I cant seem to get him off my system..Trying to get rid of the things he gave me would be useless because every corner of my room has a memory of my ex (my door's lock, drawer, storage boxes, computer chair, the HUGE teddy bear he gave me for my bday last year, my mobile phone & the thingy hanging from it)..I even put everything away last week after crying so hard, stored them in 1 of the storage boxes he gave me, only to re-arrange everything back after Ive calmed down..I need to forget him already coz Im going out of my mind!

[gurlzat03]

pray a lot sis.. 'wag mong madaliin na maging okay ka.. from my experience, we broke up September last year.. Siguro sometime April this year ko lang na-realize na some things are really not meant to be.. iiyak mo lang ng iiyak yan sis, feel the pain..I know kung gaano kahirap mag-move on, lalo na kung expected mo na sya na 'yung forever mong makakasama.. Just what I've always said, "time heals all wounds".. darating at darating talaga ang point na malulungkot ka, magagalit pero darating din ang time na matatanggap mo na ang lahat. Honestly, until now, naiisip ko pa din sya. Pero hindi ko hinahayaan na maging clouded na naman ako ng emotions ko.. life is too short to live a miserable life. help yourself sis, magpa-ganda ka, prove to him na it is really his lost, and not yours.. good luck!

[iheartkulot]

Funny, may nabuntis si ex (ex nya before I became his gf) na from San Pablo pero hindi mo siguro kilala..Anyways, my ex & I broke up nung July 29 lang kaya siguro Im still nursing a broken heart..but the thing is, Ive already tried everything: went out on weekends to meet other people, kept myself preoccupied, I prayed constantly, got drunk every chance I get para mailabas ko emotions ko, cried my heart out everyday before going to bed, I also have a diary & I write everything, I would listen to songs that would make me realize what a LOSER my ex is, tried to hate him, tried to get rid of the things that would remind me of him but I cant seem to get him off my system..Trying to get rid of the things he gave me would be useless because every corner of my room has a memory of my ex (my door's lock, drawer, storage boxes, computer chair, the HUGE teddy bear he gave me for my bday last year, my mobile phone & the thingy hanging from it)..I even put everything away last week after crying so hard, stored them in 1 of the storage boxes he gave me, only to re-arrange everything back after Ive calmed down..I need to forget him already coz Im going out of my mind!

inom tayo one time sis...tagal ko na di lumalabas.

[iheartkulot]

so how do u really deal with pain?

i've tried everything...or perhaps i haven't tried enough for me to surpass the hell I'm experiencing now.

[gurlzat03]

^ pray a lot sis.. think positive, and stay happy always!